outside help

[Guest guest]

There were a couple of letters this morning about a reluctance to get some

outside help. I put it off for a while, but now have help. It is truly a

lifesaver, and actually Sam enjoys the conversations and family updates

from the two women we have. I couldn't leave him at all, and now I have

time, and of course there was some guilt involved, but I have gotten over

that. One woman we had wasn't too nice to him, so we had to let her go,

but I know it takes a while to get good people. I asked everyone I knew,

including the people at the checkouts in the supermarket. And one we have

now told me that she felt that I didn't trust her and watched her all the

time, and maybe I did micromanage, so once we got that straightened out,

everything is fine. I also know that I had a problem thinking that I

always knew best, but it certainly wasn't so.

One aide brought her 7 year-old boy one day, a delightful well-behaved

youngster, and Sam enjoyed him also, and was trying very hard to recall one

of his tricks to show the boy, but couldn't remember.

In addition, the agency which supplies one of the women, has been very

helpful in coming out to show us how to do transfers etc more efficiently

and to call in a medicare nurse if necessary.

I was very interested to hear that we could call 911 if Sam falls and we

can't get him up--however, Sam is extremely cautious, and he can't get up

or out of bed by himself anyway, so that isn't really much of a problem

anymore. But that service could be a marvelous thing if necessary.

Thanks group for the information and reading my comments on some

assistance. Lou Reynolds

[Guest guest]

There were a couple of letters this morning about a reluctance to get some

outside help. I put it off for a while, but now have help. It is truly a

lifesaver, and actually Sam enjoys the conversations and family updates

from the two women we have. I couldn't leave him at all, and now I have

time, and of course there was some guilt involved, but I have gotten over

that. One woman we had wasn't too nice to him, so we had to let her go,

but I know it takes a while to get good people. I asked everyone I knew,

including the people at the checkouts in the supermarket. And one we have

now told me that she felt that I didn't trust her and watched her all the

time, and maybe I did micromanage, so once we got that straightened out,

everything is fine. I also know that I had a problem thinking that I

always knew best, but it certainly wasn't so.

One aide brought her 7 year-old boy one day, a delightful well-behaved

youngster, and Sam enjoyed him also, and was trying very hard to recall one

of his tricks to show the boy, but couldn't remember.

In addition, the agency which supplies one of the women, has been very

helpful in coming out to show us how to do transfers etc more efficiently

and to call in a medicare nurse if necessary.

I was very interested to hear that we could call 911 if Sam falls and we

can't get him up--however, Sam is extremely cautious, and he can't get up

or out of bed by himself anyway, so that isn't really much of a problem

anymore. But that service could be a marvelous thing if necessary.

Thanks group for the information and reading my comments on some

assistance. Lou Reynolds