Re: Chickening out

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

It is perfectly normal to have doubts and fears. You are young at very low

risk for anything happening to you. The fact that your friend is in great pain

does not mean that you will experience anything like her. There is a risk at

anything you do. There is a risk to every medical procedure. But the risk is

very small and the benefits of this surgery far out weight the risk. The

surgery has saved my life. I was a bigger risk for this surgery because of my

age

and medical condition. I am 59 years old and weighed almost 400 lb., I am in a

wheelchair, I have heart problems, an aortic aneurysm, arthritis,

fibromyalgia, chronic bronical asthma, very bad spinal stenosis and spinal

deterioration,

and I WAS a diabetic, and I HAD High blood pressure that was going to cause

the aneurysm to rupture. I know longer have diabetes or high blood pressure. I

am even able to get around in the house now without my wheelchair. I was

doomed without the surgery and now I have hope for a better life and more time

with

my family. I made the choice to take the chance and I went through it all

with no problems. I have not been sick at all. Even though I weighed almost 400#

I was still able to have a LAP. I was only in the hospital 2 days and as of

this day I have lost 128 pounds. A week and a half after I had surgery I could

not even tell that I had surgery. Remember why you started this journey in

the first place to be healthy and around for your family. The hospital I was in

let my husband stay with me for just $10.00 a day. It was a real bed and not

just a cot. Hang in there girl and good luck.

A. B.

LAP RNY 3/22/03

Dr. Steve Weinstein, MD.

Mobile, Alabama

BMI 65/43

386/258-128LBS.

59 years old

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

It is perfectly normal to have doubts and fears. You are young at very low

risk for anything happening to you. The fact that your friend is in great pain

does not mean that you will experience anything like her. There is a risk at

anything you do. There is a risk to every medical procedure. But the risk is

very small and the benefits of this surgery far out weight the risk. The

surgery has saved my life. I was a bigger risk for this surgery because of my

age

and medical condition. I am 59 years old and weighed almost 400 lb., I am in a

wheelchair, I have heart problems, an aortic aneurysm, arthritis,

fibromyalgia, chronic bronical asthma, very bad spinal stenosis and spinal

deterioration,

and I WAS a diabetic, and I HAD High blood pressure that was going to cause

the aneurysm to rupture. I know longer have diabetes or high blood pressure. I

am even able to get around in the house now without my wheelchair. I was

doomed without the surgery and now I have hope for a better life and more time

with

my family. I made the choice to take the chance and I went through it all

with no problems. I have not been sick at all. Even though I weighed almost 400#

I was still able to have a LAP. I was only in the hospital 2 days and as of

this day I have lost 128 pounds. A week and a half after I had surgery I could

not even tell that I had surgery. Remember why you started this journey in

the first place to be healthy and around for your family. The hospital I was in

let my husband stay with me for just $10.00 a day. It was a real bed and not

just a cot. Hang in there girl and good luck.

A. B.

LAP RNY 3/22/03

Dr. Steve Weinstein, MD.

Mobile, Alabama

BMI 65/43

386/258-128LBS.

59 years old

[Guest guest]

I don't regret mine at all either. I feel like its the best decision I could

ever make for myself. I am healthier and happier.

Pam

305/246.5/175

[Guest guest]

I don't regret mine at all either. I feel like its the best decision I could

ever make for myself. I am healthier and happier.

Pam

305/246.5/175

[Guest guest]

The outcome outweighs the pain just like child birth...the pain will be a

distant factor when you see the scale move...I don't regret mine at all!

Carol Matar

Post op 10/31/03

Dr. Adam Naaman

Lap RNY

405/315/135

90 pounds gone forever!

Carol Matar

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Chickening out

Hi everyone........ I just got an email update on my friend who had

surgery yesterday. They said that she was in A LOT of pain and that they were

trying to adjust her meds. Now for a year we have been saying that we were

gonna have this surgery and now that she has had it, I'm thinking do I really

still want to??? I wonder sometimes if I just buckle down and diet, if I will

be okay. I don't know. I really want to have it (my date is April 2nd) but,

then again, maybe I don't. And who will take care of my kids, my husband, my

dogs?? We can't afford for him to stay at a hotel while I'm in the hospital

so, he will probably come back home and I will be there all by myself. (not

good for a co-dependant person such as myself). I'm really getting scared. Is

there some way of me overcoming it?? I mean I have come so far, I don't want

to back out now but, I just get this icky feeling in the pit of my stomach

when I think about the surgery. I also have this horrible fear of going to

sleep

and never waking up. HELP!!!

in MI

325 pre-op

Mom to iel-5 and

Maylynn-2

[Guest guest]

The outcome outweighs the pain just like child birth...the pain will be a

distant factor when you see the scale move...I don't regret mine at all!

Carol Matar

Post op 10/31/03

Dr. Adam Naaman

Lap RNY

405/315/135

90 pounds gone forever!

Carol Matar

--------------------------

Sent from my wireless handheld

Chickening out

Hi everyone........ I just got an email update on my friend who had

surgery yesterday. They said that she was in A LOT of pain and that they were

trying to adjust her meds. Now for a year we have been saying that we were

gonna have this surgery and now that she has had it, I'm thinking do I really

still want to??? I wonder sometimes if I just buckle down and diet, if I will

be okay. I don't know. I really want to have it (my date is April 2nd) but,

then again, maybe I don't. And who will take care of my kids, my husband, my

dogs?? We can't afford for him to stay at a hotel while I'm in the hospital

so, he will probably come back home and I will be there all by myself. (not

good for a co-dependant person such as myself). I'm really getting scared. Is

there some way of me overcoming it?? I mean I have come so far, I don't want

to back out now but, I just get this icky feeling in the pit of my stomach

when I think about the surgery. I also have this horrible fear of going to

sleep

and never waking up. HELP!!!

in MI

325 pre-op

Mom to iel-5 and

Maylynn-2

[Guest guest]

,

When I made it, I asked myself -- What do I fear most and what do I

have the greatest risk of dying from? Is it dying on the table or

as a result of the surgery? Or, is it painfully and slowly dying

from complications of carrying the excess weight. I am diabetic,

have high blood pressure and osteo-arthritis. Complications from

diabetes can include kidney failure (you slowly choke to death from

fluid in your lungs), stroke (which can leave you in a nursing home

even at a young age), and heart disease. For me, it was less risk

to have the surgery (I had mine 1/22/04) and to look past the short

term issues of pain and discomfort toward a new life as a healthy

person. Yes I still have some issues I'm dealing with as I adjust

to this new life, but who doesn't have some issues. Just my

personal thoughts. Cathy

> Hi everyone........ I just got an email update on my friend

who had

> surgery yesterday. They said that she was in A LOT of pain and

that they were

> trying to adjust her meds. Now for a year we have been saying

that we were

> gonna have this surgery and now that she has had it, I'm thinking

do I really

> still want to???

[Guest guest]

,

When I made it, I asked myself -- What do I fear most and what do I

have the greatest risk of dying from? Is it dying on the table or

as a result of the surgery? Or, is it painfully and slowly dying

from complications of carrying the excess weight. I am diabetic,

have high blood pressure and osteo-arthritis. Complications from

diabetes can include kidney failure (you slowly choke to death from

fluid in your lungs), stroke (which can leave you in a nursing home

even at a young age), and heart disease. For me, it was less risk

to have the surgery (I had mine 1/22/04) and to look past the short

term issues of pain and discomfort toward a new life as a healthy

person. Yes I still have some issues I'm dealing with as I adjust

to this new life, but who doesn't have some issues. Just my

personal thoughts. Cathy

> Hi everyone........ I just got an email update on my friend

who had

> surgery yesterday. They said that she was in A LOT of pain and

that they were

> trying to adjust her meds. Now for a year we have been saying

that we were

> gonna have this surgery and now that she has had it, I'm thinking

do I really

> still want to???

[Guest guest]

Hi there, I just wanted to tell you that I had very little pain from my

surgery and I had Open-Rny. I was on morphine at the hospital but used it more

to

sleep than for the pain. My back gave me more problems from the hospital bed

than anything from the surgery.I was given a prescription for pain killers to

take when i got home and i never had to take anything, not even a tylenol. I

know how scared you are. I wanted to run and hide right up until the morning of

my surgery and I was even shaking the night before, i mean literally, I was

terrified, but I knew I could not live like I was anymroe either, that was not

living, it was just exsisting. I still ahve not made it to goal but I lost 140

pounds and I feel soooo much better. I am currently 4 1/2 months pregnant so i

will have to fight to get the rest off after I ahve this baby but i swear i

would do the surgery all over again if I had to. I would be scared again, but I

would do it. I know how it is to elave the kids and hubby too. I had twin boys

who at the time were 6 and my daughter was almost 3 years, and I was scared

of them never seeing me again, but I knew if I did not do anything about my

weight I would not see them for long anyways, my heart would of probably gave up

like my mothers had. This is your personal choice though that neither I nor

your friend can choose for you. I just wanted to tell you i was there and it's

okay to be scared and nervous, that is totally normal. good Luck on your

decision.

God Bless,

Robin, NorthEastern, NY

EDD- July 27th, 2004

Mommy to:

&

(twin boys 7 1/2),

Madison, daughter, 5 years and

Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

Gastric Bypass Surgery-

October 18th 2002

Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

goal 170 after baby

[Guest guest]

Hi there, I just wanted to tell you that I had very little pain from my

surgery and I had Open-Rny. I was on morphine at the hospital but used it more

to

sleep than for the pain. My back gave me more problems from the hospital bed

than anything from the surgery.I was given a prescription for pain killers to

take when i got home and i never had to take anything, not even a tylenol. I

know how scared you are. I wanted to run and hide right up until the morning of

my surgery and I was even shaking the night before, i mean literally, I was

terrified, but I knew I could not live like I was anymroe either, that was not

living, it was just exsisting. I still ahve not made it to goal but I lost 140

pounds and I feel soooo much better. I am currently 4 1/2 months pregnant so i

will have to fight to get the rest off after I ahve this baby but i swear i

would do the surgery all over again if I had to. I would be scared again, but I

would do it. I know how it is to elave the kids and hubby too. I had twin boys

who at the time were 6 and my daughter was almost 3 years, and I was scared

of them never seeing me again, but I knew if I did not do anything about my

weight I would not see them for long anyways, my heart would of probably gave up

like my mothers had. This is your personal choice though that neither I nor

your friend can choose for you. I just wanted to tell you i was there and it's

okay to be scared and nervous, that is totally normal. good Luck on your

decision.

God Bless,

Robin, NorthEastern, NY

EDD- July 27th, 2004

Mommy to:

&

(twin boys 7 1/2),

Madison, daughter, 5 years and

Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

Gastric Bypass Surgery-

October 18th 2002

Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

goal 170 after baby

[Guest guest]

I was scared.... Crying the day before the surgery... My son in law

came over the house and said I was crazy... I gave him a letter I

had written to my daughter and told him to hold it if in case

something would happen. NOW.... my operation took only 2 hrs. and

he fixed and umbelical hernia while he was in there. Also did a

biopsy of liver. AND NOW... if I was asked to do this operation

again, I would do it in a heart bit. I was diabetic NOT NOW, was

hypertensive...NOT NOW. I have so much energy I work two jobs. I

just got home since 8 am today! I was drugged (paqrtial) the first

day of the operation but, second day Did have so much pain. My

doctor had the monthly support meeting and sent a wheel chair to

take me to the meeting and showed me and another lady to the group.

Believe me when I say... I'm so glad I had this operation. Without

it I would have gotten sicker.... and now I FEEL GREAT!!!!

GOD BLESS YOU.....

> Hi there, I just wanted to tell you that I had very little pain

from my

> surgery and I had Open-Rny. I was on morphine at the hospital but

used it more to

> sleep than for the pain. My back gave me more problems from the

hospital bed

> than anything from the surgery.I was given a prescription for pain

killers to

> take when i got home and i never had to take anything, not even a

tylenol. I

> know how scared you are. I wanted to run and hide right up until

the morning of

> my surgery and I was even shaking the night before, i mean

literally, I was

> terrified, but I knew I could not live like I was anymroe either,

that was not

> living, it was just exsisting. I still ahve not made it to goal

but I lost 140

> pounds and I feel soooo much better. I am currently 4 1/2 months

pregnant so i

> will have to fight to get the rest off after I ahve this baby but

i swear i

> would do the surgery all over again if I had to. I would be scared

again, but I

> would do it. I know how it is to elave the kids and hubby too. I

had twin boys

> who at the time were 6 and my daughter was almost 3 years, and I

was scared

> of them never seeing me again, but I knew if I did not do anything

about my

> weight I would not see them for long anyways, my heart would of

probably gave up

> like my mothers had. This is your personal choice though that

neither I nor

> your friend can choose for you. I just wanted to tell you i was

there and it's

> okay to be scared and nervous, that is totally normal. good Luck

on your

> decision.

>

>

> God Bless,

> Robin, NorthEastern, NY

> EDD- July 27th, 2004

> Mommy to:

> &

> (twin boys 7 1/2),

> Madison, daughter, 5 years and

> Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

> Gastric Bypass Surgery-

> October 18th 2002

> Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

> goal 170 after baby

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I was scared.... Crying the day before the surgery... My son in law

came over the house and said I was crazy... I gave him a letter I

had written to my daughter and told him to hold it if in case

something would happen. NOW.... my operation took only 2 hrs. and

he fixed and umbelical hernia while he was in there. Also did a

biopsy of liver. AND NOW... if I was asked to do this operation

again, I would do it in a heart bit. I was diabetic NOT NOW, was

hypertensive...NOT NOW. I have so much energy I work two jobs. I

just got home since 8 am today! I was drugged (paqrtial) the first

day of the operation but, second day Did have so much pain. My

doctor had the monthly support meeting and sent a wheel chair to

take me to the meeting and showed me and another lady to the group.

Believe me when I say... I'm so glad I had this operation. Without

it I would have gotten sicker.... and now I FEEL GREAT!!!!

GOD BLESS YOU.....

> Hi there, I just wanted to tell you that I had very little pain

from my

> surgery and I had Open-Rny. I was on morphine at the hospital but

used it more to

> sleep than for the pain. My back gave me more problems from the

hospital bed

> than anything from the surgery.I was given a prescription for pain

killers to

> take when i got home and i never had to take anything, not even a

tylenol. I

> know how scared you are. I wanted to run and hide right up until

the morning of

> my surgery and I was even shaking the night before, i mean

literally, I was

> terrified, but I knew I could not live like I was anymroe either,

that was not

> living, it was just exsisting. I still ahve not made it to goal

but I lost 140

> pounds and I feel soooo much better. I am currently 4 1/2 months

pregnant so i

> will have to fight to get the rest off after I ahve this baby but

i swear i

> would do the surgery all over again if I had to. I would be scared

again, but I

> would do it. I know how it is to elave the kids and hubby too. I

had twin boys

> who at the time were 6 and my daughter was almost 3 years, and I

was scared

> of them never seeing me again, but I knew if I did not do anything

about my

> weight I would not see them for long anyways, my heart would of

probably gave up

> like my mothers had. This is your personal choice though that

neither I nor

> your friend can choose for you. I just wanted to tell you i was

there and it's

> okay to be scared and nervous, that is totally normal. good Luck

on your

> decision.

>

>

> God Bless,

> Robin, NorthEastern, NY

> EDD- July 27th, 2004

> Mommy to:

> &

> (twin boys 7 1/2),

> Madison, daughter, 5 years and

> Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

> Gastric Bypass Surgery-

> October 18th 2002

> Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

> goal 170 after baby

>

>

>