Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 In a message dated 4/9/2003 4:22:36 PM Pacific Daylight Time, rudnicki@... writes: > I say this only because on another list [which will remain nameless] a > similar topic came up. I expressed that I struggle with the same 7# > constantly - I am such a yo yo with those same pounds and it is very > frustrating for me. well did I ever get the hate mail! how dare I > complain > about just 7 # when others were fighting battles of 20, 40, 80# gains Aw come on Sue - tell me what the list is! I am so tired of being a good girl I wanna go flame somebody!!! Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 In a message dated 4/9/2003 4:22:36 PM Pacific Daylight Time, rudnicki@... writes: > I say this only because on another list [which will remain nameless] a > similar topic came up. I expressed that I struggle with the same 7# > constantly - I am such a yo yo with those same pounds and it is very > frustrating for me. well did I ever get the hate mail! how dare I > complain > about just 7 # when others were fighting battles of 20, 40, 80# gains Aw come on Sue - tell me what the list is! I am so tired of being a good girl I wanna go flame somebody!!! Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 > .....I now know why thin people used to tell me that they feel fat. > I can definitely relate to this. I am now starting to feel fat after having gained 2 lbs. > **I see this thread is still going so I have to assume that our grad list is a safe place for such discussions. I can't tell you how happy that makes me, that we can support each other here. I hope none of the ladies who posted about their 2, 4 or 7lb gains were flamed privately, publicly or had to endure hate mail. I say this only because on another list [which will remain nameless] a similar topic came up. I expressed that I struggle with the same 7# constantly - I am such a yo yo with those same pounds and it is very frustrating for me. well did I ever get the hate mail! how dare I complain about just 7 # when others were fighting battles of 20, 40, 80# gains. I will only tell you that the flaming went on and on and that list is not a safe place in my opinion. some of the same people are here - I know that - so I hope those that spoke the words and continued the thread will not flamed. sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 > .....I now know why thin people used to tell me that they feel fat. > I can definitely relate to this. I am now starting to feel fat after having gained 2 lbs. > **I see this thread is still going so I have to assume that our grad list is a safe place for such discussions. I can't tell you how happy that makes me, that we can support each other here. I hope none of the ladies who posted about their 2, 4 or 7lb gains were flamed privately, publicly or had to endure hate mail. I say this only because on another list [which will remain nameless] a similar topic came up. I expressed that I struggle with the same 7# constantly - I am such a yo yo with those same pounds and it is very frustrating for me. well did I ever get the hate mail! how dare I complain about just 7 # when others were fighting battles of 20, 40, 80# gains. I will only tell you that the flaming went on and on and that list is not a safe place in my opinion. some of the same people are here - I know that - so I hope those that spoke the words and continued the thread will not flamed. sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 Although I haven't been flamed, I am also reluctant to complain about struggling to keep in a 4-lb range. I got quite skinny, sometimes I think too skinny, but I have issues to deal with, just like anyone else. Sometimes I have trouble keeping the weight on, but I still have body image issues, I'm still afraid I'll wake up fat one morning, or that if I don't weigh myself every day, that I could creep up 20 or 30 lbs before I would catch it. I'm sure part of the reason for my reluctance to talk about this is that I was one of those people, who when my thin friends complained about gaining 5 or 6 lbs and feeling fat and ugly (meanwhile I weighed 300 lbs), I would get so mad at them, that at one point I totally lost a friend over it. I think this is payback time for me. I think my going around is coming around. I'm seriously considering calling one of my " lost friends " and apoligizing for how I acted. It's been over 15 years and I still remember. She probably does too. BarbaraJean distal from 300 to 128 Re: RE:feeling fat > .....I now know why thin people used to tell me that they feel fat. > I can definitely relate to this. I am now starting to feel fat after having gained 2 lbs. > **I see this thread is still going so I have to assume that our grad list is a safe place for such discussions. I can't tell you how happy that makes me, that we can support each other here. I hope none of the ladies who posted about their 2, 4 or 7lb gains were flamed privately, publicly or had to endure hate mail. I say this only because on another list [which will remain nameless] a similar topic came up. I expressed that I struggle with the same 7# constantly - I am such a yo yo with those same pounds and it is very frustrating for me. well did I ever get the hate mail! how dare I complain about just 7 # when others were fighting battles of 20, 40, 80# gains. I will only tell you that the flaming went on and on and that list is not a safe place in my opinion. some of the same people are here - I know that - so I hope those that spoke the words and continued the thread will not flamed. sue Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 Although I haven't been flamed, I am also reluctant to complain about struggling to keep in a 4-lb range. I got quite skinny, sometimes I think too skinny, but I have issues to deal with, just like anyone else. Sometimes I have trouble keeping the weight on, but I still have body image issues, I'm still afraid I'll wake up fat one morning, or that if I don't weigh myself every day, that I could creep up 20 or 30 lbs before I would catch it. I'm sure part of the reason for my reluctance to talk about this is that I was one of those people, who when my thin friends complained about gaining 5 or 6 lbs and feeling fat and ugly (meanwhile I weighed 300 lbs), I would get so mad at them, that at one point I totally lost a friend over it. I think this is payback time for me. I think my going around is coming around. I'm seriously considering calling one of my " lost friends " and apoligizing for how I acted. It's been over 15 years and I still remember. She probably does too. BarbaraJean distal from 300 to 128 Re: RE:feeling fat > .....I now know why thin people used to tell me that they feel fat. > I can definitely relate to this. I am now starting to feel fat after having gained 2 lbs. > **I see this thread is still going so I have to assume that our grad list is a safe place for such discussions. I can't tell you how happy that makes me, that we can support each other here. I hope none of the ladies who posted about their 2, 4 or 7lb gains were flamed privately, publicly or had to endure hate mail. I say this only because on another list [which will remain nameless] a similar topic came up. I expressed that I struggle with the same 7# constantly - I am such a yo yo with those same pounds and it is very frustrating for me. well did I ever get the hate mail! how dare I complain about just 7 # when others were fighting battles of 20, 40, 80# gains. I will only tell you that the flaming went on and on and that list is not a safe place in my opinion. some of the same people are here - I know that - so I hope those that spoke the words and continued the thread will not flamed. sue Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 Yeah, come on Sue, I wanna know too. Re: RE:feeling fat In a message dated 4/9/2003 4:22:36 PM Pacific Daylight Time, rudnicki@... writes: > I say this only because on another list [which will remain nameless] a > similar topic came up. I expressed that I struggle with the same 7# > constantly - I am such a yo yo with those same pounds and it is very > frustrating for me. well did I ever get the hate mail! how dare I > complain > about just 7 # when others were fighting battles of 20, 40, 80# gains Aw come on Sue - tell me what the list is! I am so tired of being a good girl I wanna go flame somebody!!! Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 Yeah, come on Sue, I wanna know too. Re: RE:feeling fat In a message dated 4/9/2003 4:22:36 PM Pacific Daylight Time, rudnicki@... writes: > I say this only because on another list [which will remain nameless] a > similar topic came up. I expressed that I struggle with the same 7# > constantly - I am such a yo yo with those same pounds and it is very > frustrating for me. well did I ever get the hate mail! how dare I > complain > about just 7 # when others were fighting battles of 20, 40, 80# gains Aw come on Sue - tell me what the list is! I am so tired of being a good girl I wanna go flame somebody!!! Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 > **I see this thread is still going so I have to assume that our grad list is > a safe place for such discussions. I can't tell you how happy that makes me, > that we can support each other here. I hope none of the ladies who posted > about their 2, 4 or 7lb gains were flamed privately, publicly or had to > endure hate mail. I am new to this list and contributed to this thread. I have not received anything negative so far. I am grateful for this forum to be able to express our struggles even though they may seem small compared to others. I will say that it is difficult for me to take a chance and contribute so any negativity would definitely deter me from posting. I am glad your still posting Sue..... Keep it up! Bev M. > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 > **I see this thread is still going so I have to assume that our grad list is > a safe place for such discussions. I can't tell you how happy that makes me, > that we can support each other here. I hope none of the ladies who posted > about their 2, 4 or 7lb gains were flamed privately, publicly or had to > endure hate mail. I am new to this list and contributed to this thread. I have not received anything negative so far. I am grateful for this forum to be able to express our struggles even though they may seem small compared to others. I will say that it is difficult for me to take a chance and contribute so any negativity would definitely deter me from posting. I am glad your still posting Sue..... Keep it up! Bev M. > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 I haven't responded to this thread. I got to thinking though that it doesn't really matter whether we are struggling with a 2 lb, 20 lb, or 200 lb weight gain, the feelings are still the same. For me, it almost always brings self-doubt, self-defeating thinking, and a certain amount of failure. It is nice to be able to discuss things on this list without being flamed and with minimal disagreements. Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Wed, 9 Apr 2003 17:09:48 -0700 " Bambam " writes: > > **I see this thread is still going so I have to assume that our > grad list > is > > a safe place for such discussions. I can't tell you how happy that > makes > me, > > that we can support each other here. I hope none of the ladies who > posted > > about their 2, 4 or 7lb gains were flamed privately, publicly or > had to > > endure hate mail. > > I am new to this list and contributed to this thread. I have not > received > anything negative so far. > I am grateful for this forum to be able to express our struggles > even though > they may seem small compared to others. > I will say that it is difficult for me to take a chance and > contribute so > any negativity would definitely deter me from posting. > I am glad your still posting Sue..... > Keep it up! > Bev M. > > > > > > > > > > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 I haven't responded to this thread. I got to thinking though that it doesn't really matter whether we are struggling with a 2 lb, 20 lb, or 200 lb weight gain, the feelings are still the same. For me, it almost always brings self-doubt, self-defeating thinking, and a certain amount of failure. It is nice to be able to discuss things on this list without being flamed and with minimal disagreements. Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Wed, 9 Apr 2003 17:09:48 -0700 " Bambam " writes: > > **I see this thread is still going so I have to assume that our > grad list > is > > a safe place for such discussions. I can't tell you how happy that > makes > me, > > that we can support each other here. I hope none of the ladies who > posted > > about their 2, 4 or 7lb gains were flamed privately, publicly or > had to > > endure hate mail. > > I am new to this list and contributed to this thread. I have not > received > anything negative so far. > I am grateful for this forum to be able to express our struggles > even though > they may seem small compared to others. > I will say that it is difficult for me to take a chance and > contribute so > any negativity would definitely deter me from posting. > I am glad your still posting Sue..... > Keep it up! > Bev M. > > > > > > > > > > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 In a message dated 4/9/2003 8:34:00 PM Eastern Standard Time, bjeangrove@... writes: > I'm seriously considering calling one of my " lost friends " and apoligizing > for how I acted. It's been over 15 years and I still remember. She > probably does too. > There is a reason that part of the twelve steps to recovery is making amends. It is not for them it is for us. Sounds like a good present to give yourself. Fay Bayuk **300/173 10/23/01 Dr. Open RNY 150 cm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 In a message dated 4/9/2003 8:34:00 PM Eastern Standard Time, bjeangrove@... writes: > I'm seriously considering calling one of my " lost friends " and apoligizing > for how I acted. It's been over 15 years and I still remember. She > probably does too. > There is a reason that part of the twelve steps to recovery is making amends. It is not for them it is for us. Sounds like a good present to give yourself. Fay Bayuk **300/173 10/23/01 Dr. Open RNY 150 cm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 In a message dated 4/9/2003 8:12:15 PM Eastern Standard Time, bambam@... writes: > I will say that it is difficult for me to take a chance and contribute so > any negativity would definitely deter me from posting. > I can't wait to see the day when the negativity gets your juices going enough to get on here and elsewhere, and give it back to them with positive comments. Love and hugs to you Bev. (I can't seem to shut up this AM) LOL Fay Bayuk **300/173 10/23/01 Dr. Open RNY 150 cm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 In a message dated 4/9/2003 8:12:15 PM Eastern Standard Time, bambam@... writes: > I will say that it is difficult for me to take a chance and contribute so > any negativity would definitely deter me from posting. > I can't wait to see the day when the negativity gets your juices going enough to get on here and elsewhere, and give it back to them with positive comments. Love and hugs to you Bev. (I can't seem to shut up this AM) LOL Fay Bayuk **300/173 10/23/01 Dr. Open RNY 150 cm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2003 Report Share Posted April 10, 2003 Its true! Yesterday, I was walking towards a full-length glass door at work, and feeling especially bloated (that time of the month) and I saw myself as getting puffier than ever. I have gained about 10 lbs since my lowest weight of 190, and while I am still not able to eat nearly as much as I could pre-op, I am not eating the best choices in foods, and I sometimes graze constantly. The old self-doubt, self-hatred, and fear comes creeping back. I fear that the 10 will turn to 20, 30, 40, and so on, until I am back to the M.O. person that I used to be. It's the feeling that nothing good will ever last with me, and its purely psychological and at the root of all self-defeating behaviours. I will try to love myself enough to live one day at a time and not see the future with an eventual negative outcome, but it is HARD to shake!! Thanks for letting me vent! Deanna Re: RE:feeling fat I haven't responded to this thread. I got to thinking though that it doesn't really matter whether we are struggling with a 2 lb, 20 lb, or 200 lb weight gain, the feelings are still the same. For me, it almost always brings self-doubt, self-defeating thinking, and a certain amount of failure. It is nice to be able to discuss things on this list without being flamed and with minimal disagreements. Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Wed, 9 Apr 2003 17:09:48 -0700 " Bambam " writes: > > **I see this thread is still going so I have to assume that our > grad list > is > > a safe place for such discussions. I can't tell you how happy that > makes > me, > > that we can support each other here. I hope none of the ladies who > posted > > about their 2, 4 or 7lb gains were flamed privately, publicly or > had to > > endure hate mail. > > I am new to this list and contributed to this thread. I have not > received > anything negative so far. > I am grateful for this forum to be able to express our struggles > even though > they may seem small compared to others. > I will say that it is difficult for me to take a chance and > contribute so > any negativity would definitely deter me from posting. > I am glad your still posting Sue..... > Keep it up! > Bev M. > > > > > > > > > > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2003 Report Share Posted April 10, 2003 Its true! Yesterday, I was walking towards a full-length glass door at work, and feeling especially bloated (that time of the month) and I saw myself as getting puffier than ever. I have gained about 10 lbs since my lowest weight of 190, and while I am still not able to eat nearly as much as I could pre-op, I am not eating the best choices in foods, and I sometimes graze constantly. The old self-doubt, self-hatred, and fear comes creeping back. I fear that the 10 will turn to 20, 30, 40, and so on, until I am back to the M.O. person that I used to be. It's the feeling that nothing good will ever last with me, and its purely psychological and at the root of all self-defeating behaviours. I will try to love myself enough to live one day at a time and not see the future with an eventual negative outcome, but it is HARD to shake!! Thanks for letting me vent! Deanna Re: RE:feeling fat I haven't responded to this thread. I got to thinking though that it doesn't really matter whether we are struggling with a 2 lb, 20 lb, or 200 lb weight gain, the feelings are still the same. For me, it almost always brings self-doubt, self-defeating thinking, and a certain amount of failure. It is nice to be able to discuss things on this list without being flamed and with minimal disagreements. Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Wed, 9 Apr 2003 17:09:48 -0700 " Bambam " writes: > > **I see this thread is still going so I have to assume that our > grad list > is > > a safe place for such discussions. I can't tell you how happy that > makes > me, > > that we can support each other here. I hope none of the ladies who > posted > > about their 2, 4 or 7lb gains were flamed privately, publicly or > had to > > endure hate mail. > > I am new to this list and contributed to this thread. I have not > received > anything negative so far. > I am grateful for this forum to be able to express our struggles > even though > they may seem small compared to others. > I will say that it is difficult for me to take a chance and > contribute so > any negativity would definitely deter me from posting. > I am glad your still posting Sue..... > Keep it up! > Bev M. > > > > > > > > > > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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