Re: Newby

[Guest guest]

WELL GUYS I CAN ONLY SPEAK FOR ME. I TOO HAVE 3 LITTLE ONE AND A GREAT

HUSBAND. THE DAY I HAD THE SURGERY I THOUGHT WOULD BE MY LAST. WELL IT WAS MY

BIRTHDAY!!! I WAS BORN ON OCT 1 2003 IN NEW YORKS NORTH SHORE UNIVERSITY

HOSPITAL. I WEIGHED IN AT 300 LBS. TODAY IAM 4 MONTHS OLD AND NOW WEIGHT 235

AND

LOVING EVERY DAM MINUTE OF IT. I WOULD DO THIS SURGERY AGAIN TOMORROW. I LOVE

LIFE I LOVE THE WAY I FEEL I PLAY WITH MY KIDS AND NOW MY HUSBAND IT CALLING ME

SKINNY! CAN YOU BELEIVE THAT! WELL LET ME TELL YOU THE OHER SIDE. YOU WILL

FEEL PAIN AT TIMES IF YOU EAT TOO FAST AND THAT HURTS . YOU WILL PUNCH THE WALLS

WHEN THE FOOD FEELS LIKE ITS CAUGHT IN YOUR CHEST CAVITY! AND YOU WILL CRY

BECAUSE MAYBE YOU WANT TO EAT AND YOU CAN'T! I CAN GO ON AND ON. OR MAYBE

NOTHING LIKE THIS WILL HAPPEN TO YOU. WHATEVER HAS HAPPENED, WILL PASS AND IT

HAS!

MY LIFE HAS MADE A COMPLETE CHANGE AND NOW I LOVE LIFE. THIS IS A VERY BIG

DECISION AND HAS TO BE MADE BY YOU. NOT YOUR HUSBAND OR YOUR FAMILY. DONT' DO

IT FOR ANYONE ELSE BUT YOU! MY HUSBAND TOLD ME PRIOR TO SURGERY THAT HE

SUPPORTS ANY DECISION I MAKE BUT HE DOES NOT WANT ME TO DO THIS FOR ANY REASONS

OTHER THAN HOW I FEEL. GOD BLESS YOU ....MARIA

LAP RNY

10/1/03

300/235/150????

[Guest guest]

WELL GUYS I CAN ONLY SPEAK FOR ME. I TOO HAVE 3 LITTLE ONE AND A GREAT

HUSBAND. THE DAY I HAD THE SURGERY I THOUGHT WOULD BE MY LAST. WELL IT WAS MY

BIRTHDAY!!! I WAS BORN ON OCT 1 2003 IN NEW YORKS NORTH SHORE UNIVERSITY

HOSPITAL. I WEIGHED IN AT 300 LBS. TODAY IAM 4 MONTHS OLD AND NOW WEIGHT 235

AND

LOVING EVERY DAM MINUTE OF IT. I WOULD DO THIS SURGERY AGAIN TOMORROW. I LOVE

LIFE I LOVE THE WAY I FEEL I PLAY WITH MY KIDS AND NOW MY HUSBAND IT CALLING ME

SKINNY! CAN YOU BELEIVE THAT! WELL LET ME TELL YOU THE OHER SIDE. YOU WILL

FEEL PAIN AT TIMES IF YOU EAT TOO FAST AND THAT HURTS . YOU WILL PUNCH THE WALLS

WHEN THE FOOD FEELS LIKE ITS CAUGHT IN YOUR CHEST CAVITY! AND YOU WILL CRY

BECAUSE MAYBE YOU WANT TO EAT AND YOU CAN'T! I CAN GO ON AND ON. OR MAYBE

NOTHING LIKE THIS WILL HAPPEN TO YOU. WHATEVER HAS HAPPENED, WILL PASS AND IT

HAS!

MY LIFE HAS MADE A COMPLETE CHANGE AND NOW I LOVE LIFE. THIS IS A VERY BIG

DECISION AND HAS TO BE MADE BY YOU. NOT YOUR HUSBAND OR YOUR FAMILY. DONT' DO

IT FOR ANYONE ELSE BUT YOU! MY HUSBAND TOLD ME PRIOR TO SURGERY THAT HE

SUPPORTS ANY DECISION I MAKE BUT HE DOES NOT WANT ME TO DO THIS FOR ANY REASONS

OTHER THAN HOW I FEEL. GOD BLESS YOU ....MARIA

LAP RNY

10/1/03

300/235/150????

[Guest guest]

,

Thanks for your inspiring post just now. & amp;nbsp; Your encouragement is like a

shot in the arm for me tonight. & amp;nbsp; & amp;nbsp; Surgery is 12 days away for

me and

I needed to hear your story.

Thank you!

Becky from AZ

In a message dated 2/5/2004 10:59:31 PM US Mountain Standard Time,

curkids3@... writes:

> WELL GUYS I CAN ONLY SPEAK FOR ME. & amp;nbsp; I TOO HAVE 3 LITTLE ONE AND A

> GREAT

> HUSBAND. & amp;nbsp; THE DAY I HAD THE SURGERY I THOUGHT WOULD BE MY

LAST. & amp;nbsp;

> WELL IT WAS MY

> BIRTHDAY!!! I WAS BORN ON OCT 1 2003 IN NEW YORKS NORTH SHORE UNIVERSITY

> HOSPITAL. & amp;nbsp; I WEIGHED IN AT 300 LBS. & amp;nbsp; TODAY IAM 4 MONTHS OLD

AND

> NOW WEIGHT 235 AND

> LOVING EVERY DAM MINUTE OF IT. & amp;nbsp; I WOULD DO THIS SURGERY AGAIN

TOMORROW. & amp;

> nbsp; I LOVE

> LIFE I LOVE THE WAY I FEEL I PLAY WITH MY KIDS AND NOW MY HUSBAND IT CALLING

> ME

> SKINNY! CAN YOU BELEIVE THAT! WELL LET ME TELL YOU THE OHER SIDE. YOU WILL

> FEEL PAIN AT TIMES IF YOU EAT TOO FAST AND THAT HURTS . YOU WILL PUNCH THE

> WALLS

> WHEN THE FOOD FEELS LIKE ITS CAUGHT IN YOUR CHEST CAVITY! AND YOU WILL CRY

> BECAUSE MAYBE YOU WANT TO EAT AND YOU CAN'T! I CAN GO ON AND ON. OR MAYBE

> NOTHING LIKE THIS WILL HAPPEN TO YOU. & amp;nbsp; WHATEVER HAS HAPPENED, WILL

PASS

> AND IT HAS!

> MY LIFE HAS MADE A COMPLETE CHANGE AND NOW I LOVE LIFE. & amp;nbsp; THIS IS A

VERY

> BIG

> DECISION AND HAS TO BE MADE BY YOU. NOT YOUR HUSBAND OR YOUR FAMILY. & amp;nbsp;

> DONT' DO

> IT FOR ANYONE ELSE BUT YOU! & amp;nbsp; MY HUSBAND TOLD ME PRIOR TO SURGERY THAT

> HE

> SUPPORTS ANY DECISION I MAKE BUT HE DOES NOT WANT ME TO DO THIS FOR ANY

> REASONS

> OTHER THAN HOW I FEEL. & amp;nbsp; GOD BLESS YOU ....MARIA

> LAP RNY

> 10/1/03

> 300/235/150????

>

[Guest guest]

,

Thanks for your inspiring post just now. & amp;nbsp; Your encouragement is like a

shot in the arm for me tonight. & amp;nbsp; & amp;nbsp; Surgery is 12 days away for

me and

I needed to hear your story.

Thank you!

Becky from AZ

In a message dated 2/5/2004 10:59:31 PM US Mountain Standard Time,

curkids3@... writes:

> WELL GUYS I CAN ONLY SPEAK FOR ME. & amp;nbsp; I TOO HAVE 3 LITTLE ONE AND A

> GREAT

> HUSBAND. & amp;nbsp; THE DAY I HAD THE SURGERY I THOUGHT WOULD BE MY

LAST. & amp;nbsp;

> WELL IT WAS MY

> BIRTHDAY!!! I WAS BORN ON OCT 1 2003 IN NEW YORKS NORTH SHORE UNIVERSITY

> HOSPITAL. & amp;nbsp; I WEIGHED IN AT 300 LBS. & amp;nbsp; TODAY IAM 4 MONTHS OLD

AND

> NOW WEIGHT 235 AND

> LOVING EVERY DAM MINUTE OF IT. & amp;nbsp; I WOULD DO THIS SURGERY AGAIN

TOMORROW. & amp;

> nbsp; I LOVE

> LIFE I LOVE THE WAY I FEEL I PLAY WITH MY KIDS AND NOW MY HUSBAND IT CALLING

> ME

> SKINNY! CAN YOU BELEIVE THAT! WELL LET ME TELL YOU THE OHER SIDE. YOU WILL

> FEEL PAIN AT TIMES IF YOU EAT TOO FAST AND THAT HURTS . YOU WILL PUNCH THE

> WALLS

> WHEN THE FOOD FEELS LIKE ITS CAUGHT IN YOUR CHEST CAVITY! AND YOU WILL CRY

> BECAUSE MAYBE YOU WANT TO EAT AND YOU CAN'T! I CAN GO ON AND ON. OR MAYBE

> NOTHING LIKE THIS WILL HAPPEN TO YOU. & amp;nbsp; WHATEVER HAS HAPPENED, WILL

PASS

> AND IT HAS!

> MY LIFE HAS MADE A COMPLETE CHANGE AND NOW I LOVE LIFE. & amp;nbsp; THIS IS A

VERY

> BIG

> DECISION AND HAS TO BE MADE BY YOU. NOT YOUR HUSBAND OR YOUR FAMILY. & amp;nbsp;

> DONT' DO

> IT FOR ANYONE ELSE BUT YOU! & amp;nbsp; MY HUSBAND TOLD ME PRIOR TO SURGERY THAT

> HE

> SUPPORTS ANY DECISION I MAKE BUT HE DOES NOT WANT ME TO DO THIS FOR ANY

> REASONS

> OTHER THAN HOW I FEEL. & amp;nbsp; GOD BLESS YOU ....MARIA

> LAP RNY

> 10/1/03

> 300/235/150????

>

[Guest guest]

He ,

Which program are you going to? I am through Richmond and just had my appt with the surgeon. It's good that you are already well read. The scariest thing for me was the psych appt. But that went easily. She liked it that I was already going to support group meetings, so you might want to consider that. All the programs are different I've heard. But for me, I was approved in September, had my first meeting on October and if I have lost the 10% by my next weigh in on May 3rd I will get a surgery date. So, 6 months so far, but they seem to have gone by really fast.

Good luck in your journey,

Pam

Newby

Hi everyone out there, my name is and I've just begun the process. Any advice for a novice? I have appts for first psych eval and nutrition. I've read lots on the whole g/b surgery, but would like some idea of a time frame. I am really excited but patience is not my long suit. I know I am in for a long hall, but I just want to know all I can to be as prepared as I can be.

[Guest guest]

Hi Pam, I assme I will go to Richmond, but I think SF is a possibility. I was told I did not have a choice that Kaiser would make that call. Yes, I plan on attending a g/b support grp here in Modesto tonight I think. It is not a Kaiser grp but I don't think it matters. I am concerned with the time it will take to lose the 10%. I'm sure that is the hardest part. Let's face it that is the problem! DUH!!! Thanks for responding. Where are you located? Keep me posted on your progress. azurewinds@... wrote: He , Which program are you going to? I am through Richmond and just had my appt with the surgeon. It's good that you are already well

read. The scariest thing for me was the psych appt. But that went easily. She liked it that I was already going to support group meetings, so you might want to consider that. All the programs are different I've heard. But for me, I was approved in September, had my first meeting on October and if I have lost the 10% by my next weigh in on May 3rd I will get a surgery date. So, 6 months so far, but they seem to have gone by really fast. Good luck in your journey, Pam Newby Hi everyone out there, my name is and I've just begun the process. Any advice for a novice? I have appts for first psych eval and nutrition. I've read lots on the whole g/b surgery, but would like some idea of a time frame. I am really excited but patience is not my long suit. I know I am in for a long hall, but I just want to know all I can to be as prepared as I can

be.

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Hi Pam, Thanks for responding. I am so excitred I can hardley contain it. Why else would I be up at midnight?!!I am looking forward to being healthy and having enough energy to chase my wonderful, skinny husband around. I am praying for a quick turnaround. Patience is not what I am good at. I am concerned about the weight loss of 10%. If I can successfully lose nearly 30 lbs, and quickly, I will be okay. Why do they require that ? I am a pretty straight forward person, so I respect and require honesty from people even if it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for your encouragement. Pamela A Marsh wrote: Raedeniser, first and foremost, WELCOME. There is somuch to learn about this process and the journey willbe one that

you will one day look back on and have somuch to share about so hang on for the ride. The timeframe...well, all I can tell you is that it variesfrom facility. For me it was a 3.5 months time framefrom starting the process to the day of my surgery butothers have taken anywhere as far as six months to 1.5years. Please don't be discouraged because every onehas a different situation and amount to lose to reachthe 10% that is required. While going throug the 10%,try not to focus too much on that part but ratherfocus on the lifestyle changes that occur post surgeryand be aware of the way you are eating pre opt becauseits pretty much how you will be eating post surgery. Journal and share what makes you happy and what makesyou not so happy. We are all here to support andencourage one another before and after surgery andthen way done the line. Try, if you can not to takethings

too personal or serious here that might be inresponse to something that you asked or said. Ibelieve that we have a great group here and everyoneis respectful and do their best not to step onanyone's toes or try to hurt anyone's feelings butsometimes responses are straight forward and will notbe sugar coated. The intent is not to hurt you but tohelp you. So, if you can be open to advice andsuggestions then that is wonderful. I wish you wellas you begin this journey. Be encouraged!Pam Marsh--- raedeniser wrote:> Hi everyone out there, my name is and I've> just begun the > process. Any advice for a novice? I have appts for> first psych eval > and nutrition. I've read lots on the whole g/b> surgery, but would like > some idea of a time frame. I am really excited but> patience is not my

> long suit. I know I am in for a long hall, but I> just want to know all > I can to be as prepared as I can be.> > > > __________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I'm in Sacramento and I've been going to the Elk Grove support groups because they fit my work schedule better than the Sacramento ones.

It might help with the 10 percent if you remind yourself that you are only going to be dieting for a short time. For me in the past, I've done ok at first but knowing that I would have to keep the diet up for two years to lose all my weight was so discouraging that eventually gave up. I don't know if it will work for you but what I did was to follow the diet to a T and NOT weigh myself weekly. I only weighed when I went to Kaiser once a month. That way I didn't risk slacking off if I had a good week, which has also been my pattern in the past.

If it takes awhile, it's not a bad thing because you are learning the skills you need later. I have a co-worker who did not go through Kaiser. They did not put her on the pre-op diet and didn't give her near the information we are getting. She is struggling now with adapting to her pouch. Talking with her and sharing my binder with her has given me a new appreciation for Kaiser's program.

Pam In Sacramento

Newby

Hi everyone out there, my name is and I've just begun the process. Any advice for a novice? I have appts for first psych eval and nutrition. I've read lots on the whole g/b surgery, but would like some idea of a time frame. I am really excited but patience is not my long suit. I know I am in for a long hall, but I just want to know all I can to be as prepared as I can be.

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Hi , it's the other Pam

I felt the same way about the 10 percent and then I saw the picture of a liver before and after the 10 percent. Big difference in size. They have to move the liver away to get to your stomach. Also losing some fat makes more room for the instruments.

I am looking forward to running too. I do lots of Dog sports with my shelties but we haven't been able to do agility which they love because I can't run.

Pam

Re: Newby

Hi Pam, Thanks for responding. I am so excitred I can hardley contain it. Why else would I be up at midnight?!!I am looking forward to being healthy and having enough energy to chase my wonderful, skinny husband around. I am praying for a quick turnaround. Patience is not what I am good at. I am concerned about the weight loss of 10%. If I can successfully lose nearly 30 lbs, and quickly, I will be okay. Why do they require that ? I am a pretty straight forward person, so I respect and require honesty from people even if it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for your encouragement. Pamela A Marsh wrote: Raedeniser, first and foremost, WELCOME. There is somuch to learn about this process and the journey willbe one that you will one day look back on and have somuch to share about so hang on for the ride. The timeframe...well, all I can tell you is that it variesfrom facility. For me it was a 3.5 months time framefrom starting the process to the day of my surgery butothers have taken anywhere as far as six months to 1.5years. Please don't be discouraged because every onehas a different situation and amount to lose to reachthe 10% that is required. While going throug the 10%,try not to focus too much on that part but ratherfocus on the lifestyle changes that occur post surgeryand be aware of the way you are eating pre opt becauseits pretty much how you will be eating post surgery. Journal and share what makes you happy and what makesyou not so happy. We are all here to support andencourage one another before and after surgery andthen way done the line. Try, if you can not to takethings too personal or serious here that might be inresponse to something that you asked or said. Ibelieve that we have a great group here and everyoneis respectful and do their best not to step onanyone's toes or try to hurt anyone's feelings butsometimes responses are straight forward and will notbe sugar coated. The intent is not to hurt you but tohelp you. So, if you can be open to advice andsuggestions then that is wonderful. I wish you wellas you begin this journey. Be encouraged!Pam Marsh--- raedeniser wrote:> Hi everyone out there, my name is and I've> just begun the > process. Any advice for a novice? I have appts for> first psych eval > and nutrition. I've read lots on the whole g/b> surgery, but would like > some idea of a time frame. I am really excited but> patience is not my > long suit. I know I am in for a long hall, but I> just want to know all > I can to be as prepared as I can be.> > > > __________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

The 10% loss from my understanding (Veterans chime in

at any time) helps make the surgery easy for the

surgeons (makes it easy for them to manuever on the

inside because your organs are larger the heavier a

person is) and it makes recovery better for you.

Also, its about putting into practice a different way

of eating prior to surgery because it is a lot like

the way you will be eating post surgery.

I also like to think that it is also a way or a last

ditch effort to show them that you are dedicated but I

could be wrong about this.

I am happy for you and I really hope that everything

will go smooth for you. Stick around. There are a

lot of great people here.

Pam Marsh

--- Rhinehart wrote:

> Hi Pam, Thanks for responding. I am so excitred I

> can hardley contain it. Why else would I be up at

> midnight?!!I am looking forward to being healthy and

> having enough energy to chase my wonderful, skinny

> husband around. I am praying for a quick

> turnaround. Patience is not what I am good at. I

> am concerned about the weight loss of 10%. If I can

> successfully lose nearly 30 lbs, and quickly, I will

> be okay. Why do they require that ? I am a pretty

> straight forward person, so I respect and require

> honesty from people even if it isn't what I want to

> hear. Thank you for your encouragement.

>

> Pamela A Marsh wrote:

> Raedeniser, first and foremost, WELCOME. There is

> so

> much to learn about this process and the journey

> will

> be one that you will one day look back on and have

> so

> much to share about so hang on for the ride. The

> time

> frame...well, all I can tell you is that it varies

> from facility. For me it was a 3.5 months time

> frame

> from starting the process to the day of my surgery

> but

> others have taken anywhere as far as six months to

> 1.5

> years. Please don't be discouraged because every

> one

> has a different situation and amount to lose to

> reach

> the 10% that is required. While going throug the

> 10%,

> try not to focus too much on that part but rather

> focus on the lifestyle changes that occur post

> surgery

> and be aware of the way you are eating pre opt

> because

> its pretty much how you will be eating post surgery.

>

> Journal and share what makes you happy and what

> makes

> you not so happy. We are all here to support and

> encourage one another before and after surgery and

> then way done the line. Try, if you can not to take

> things too personal or serious here that might be in

> response to something that you asked or said. I

> believe that we have a great group here and everyone

> is respectful and do their best not to step on

> anyone's toes or try to hurt anyone's feelings but

> sometimes responses are straight forward and will

> not

> be sugar coated. The intent is not to hurt you but

> to

> help you. So, if you can be open to advice and

> suggestions then that is wonderful. I wish you well

> as you begin this journey. Be encouraged!

>

> Pam Marsh

>

> --- raedeniser wrote:

>

> > Hi everyone out there, my name is and I've

> > just begun the

> > process. Any advice for a novice? I have appts

> for

> > first psych eval

> > and nutrition. I've read lots on the whole g/b

> > surgery, but would like

> > some idea of a time frame. I am really excited but

> > patience is not my

> > long suit. I know I am in for a long hall, but I

> > just want to know all

> > I can to be as prepared as I can be.

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Hi, Pam, That's great advice on the 10%. I think I will do that. I'm waiting for my psych and nutrition appts. I am very impatient and like to know how long etc. But, I guess I will just have to settle down and let it all take it's course.Is it the Atkins or SouthBeach what they want you to follow pre-op? I am familiar with both of those. What did you do? How much did you have to lose pre-op and how long did it take you? When did you have surgery and how much have you lost? I'm just full of all kinds of questions. I'm a retired teacher and I love to learn about new things so I want to learn everything I can. I know it is for my best to do all I need to do to have a better success. It still doesn't help my impatience. I just have to keep telling myself to relax. And I pray a lot. Thanks for your advice.azurewinds@... wrote: Hi , I'm in Sacramento and I've been going to the Elk Grove support groups because they fit my work schedule better than the Sacramento ones. It might help with the 10 percent if you remind yourself that you are only going to be dieting for a short time. For me in the past, I've done ok at first but knowing that I would have to keep the diet up for two years to lose all my weight was so discouraging that eventually gave up. I don't know if it will work for you but what I did was to follow the diet to a T and NOT weigh myself weekly. I only weighed when I went to Kaiser once a month. That way I didn't risk slacking off if I had a good week, which has

also been my pattern in the past. If it takes awhile, it's not a bad thing because you are learning the skills you need later. I have a co-worker who did not go through Kaiser. They did not put her on the pre-op diet and didn't give her near the information we are getting. She is struggling now with adapting to her pouch. Talking with her and sharing my binder with her has given me a new appreciation for Kaiser's program. Pam In Sacramento Newby Hi everyone out there, my name is and I've just begun the process. Any advice for a novice? I have appts for first psych eval and nutrition. I've read lots on the whole g/b surgery, but would like some idea of a time frame. I am really excited but patience is not my long suit. I know I am in for a long hall, but I just want to know all I can to be as prepared as I can be. Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. PC-to-Phone calls for ridiculously low rates.

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