Re: Getting Really Nervous! No worries!

[Guest guest]

Mel, Relax...you'll be fine

I had upper and genio (upper 8mm) and yrs ago an accident that had my

lower broken in 2 places and I was wired for 7 wks then...this time

was 3 wks tightly banded closed.

My face-did it change, yes-this time, not back then-until the scare

tissue formed and my teeth returned back to their pre-braces

positioning-I was poorly set by a dr with an attitude who has since

retired. But now, my profile is wonderful...nothing to make me

remotely uncomfortable like I was prior bec my lips weren't matching

up nicely and had no chin too...I am NOT gummy anymore when I smile

up top either. Mind you, I look diff in the chin and nose and cheeks

a little, but all good. I am STILL me...no question, most people just

have to stare at me a while and talk to me to match it all up again,

but it's not extreme makeover gone wild.

For me, as a already young looking 30-something, I hear I look

younger, a lot -which whatever, gravy I suppose since I have current

ID...and hay-as I slowly get grays...I will ride that " you look

younger train " ! Sure thing!

But more imptly, I did this for my teeth...my bite not my chin

definitation......I had poor gums and was told by many I wouldn't

have my own teeth my whole life if I didn't go for it...and I was in

pain EVERY day before I started...no one knew it was technically so

bad when they looked at me, but OUCH! so got approved by ins and

jumped into braces=then surg...and since getting the braces, as I

have said before I am MORE healthy, haven;t needed an antiniotic

since I started, except for surg of course!

Now that I am settling into my slightly new but very much improved

me, I plan a hair cut and have done some things slightly diff with

make up, like lip liner since I still have some redness outside of

the lip line...and some cover for that...but little diff on the

shadow...why not! As to the hair, it's SOO long, should have cut

prior to surg but I wanted to go in and come out as the same me I

knew...settle in and trim...I know I am going to have some hair loss

soon too from surg so better keep it healthy...going next week. (PS-

this is normal and it happens to us all --for me it hits about 2-4

mths or so after surg, most more like 6 mths...nothing to fear, all

comes back a-ok)

So relax and remember you will prob get freaky 2 wks prior-once

testing starts it seems so weird, and that's normal by what I can see

here...we all did it...and secondly you will be fine...just take it

easy and read about things to have like a loved on and a good

blender...

Good luck, jO

> Well I thought I'd give this a try and see if I could get any

advice

> or assistance from anyone who has been down the road I'm about to

> travel. On October 28, I'm having orthognathic surgery involving

> upper/lower jaw on left and right, along with genioplasty

> (repositioning of chin) and a palate expansion. I have been

reading

> online to get as much information I could before surgery but who

> better to ask than those of you that have been through it. Has

> anyone been dissatisfied with their results? Or has the overall

> appearance of your face become a dramatic, acceptable change? Any

> input or advice from anyone would be great. I don't like being so

> nervous.

> Thanks!

>

[Guest guest]

Mel, Relax...you'll be fine

I had upper and genio (upper 8mm) and yrs ago an accident that had my

lower broken in 2 places and I was wired for 7 wks then...this time

was 3 wks tightly banded closed.

My face-did it change, yes-this time, not back then-until the scare

tissue formed and my teeth returned back to their pre-braces

positioning-I was poorly set by a dr with an attitude who has since

retired. But now, my profile is wonderful...nothing to make me

remotely uncomfortable like I was prior bec my lips weren't matching

up nicely and had no chin too...I am NOT gummy anymore when I smile

up top either. Mind you, I look diff in the chin and nose and cheeks

a little, but all good. I am STILL me...no question, most people just

have to stare at me a while and talk to me to match it all up again,

but it's not extreme makeover gone wild.

For me, as a already young looking 30-something, I hear I look

younger, a lot -which whatever, gravy I suppose since I have current

ID...and hay-as I slowly get grays...I will ride that " you look

younger train " ! Sure thing!

But more imptly, I did this for my teeth...my bite not my chin

definitation......I had poor gums and was told by many I wouldn't

have my own teeth my whole life if I didn't go for it...and I was in

pain EVERY day before I started...no one knew it was technically so

bad when they looked at me, but OUCH! so got approved by ins and

jumped into braces=then surg...and since getting the braces, as I

have said before I am MORE healthy, haven;t needed an antiniotic

since I started, except for surg of course!

Now that I am settling into my slightly new but very much improved

me, I plan a hair cut and have done some things slightly diff with

make up, like lip liner since I still have some redness outside of

the lip line...and some cover for that...but little diff on the

shadow...why not! As to the hair, it's SOO long, should have cut

prior to surg but I wanted to go in and come out as the same me I

knew...settle in and trim...I know I am going to have some hair loss

soon too from surg so better keep it healthy...going next week. (PS-

this is normal and it happens to us all --for me it hits about 2-4

mths or so after surg, most more like 6 mths...nothing to fear, all

comes back a-ok)

So relax and remember you will prob get freaky 2 wks prior-once

testing starts it seems so weird, and that's normal by what I can see

here...we all did it...and secondly you will be fine...just take it

easy and read about things to have like a loved on and a good

blender...

Good luck, jO

> Well I thought I'd give this a try and see if I could get any

advice

> or assistance from anyone who has been down the road I'm about to

> travel. On October 28, I'm having orthognathic surgery involving

> upper/lower jaw on left and right, along with genioplasty

> (repositioning of chin) and a palate expansion. I have been

reading

> online to get as much information I could before surgery but who

> better to ask than those of you that have been through it. Has

> anyone been dissatisfied with their results? Or has the overall

> appearance of your face become a dramatic, acceptable change? Any

> input or advice from anyone would be great. I don't like being so

> nervous.

> Thanks!

>

[Guest guest]

Jo:

Thank you so much for them great words! I have been sitting here

reading what dwilzen has been putting in here, and frankly has been

taking my once confident decision about surgery down to a question

of do I really wanna do this? I don't have much of an overjet, but

have been informed by surgeon that my jaw is not in proper alignment

(lower jaw shift to the left) and also my palate is very narrow,

very high. Also, the joints in both upper/lower jaws are

deteriorating somewhat, which obviously creates some pain. Surgeon

said surgery would also help minimize this deterioration. I also

opted to have this surgery for cosmetic reasons as well. I wouldn't

consider myself unattractive (per my Yahoo prof pic) but wanted to

improve. My biggest fear however is I will come out with not so

pleasant results, instead of being excited with the " new " me,

devastated at what I did to myself. But thank you to all who have

replied to my worries!

> > Well I thought I'd give this a try and see if I could get any

> advice

> > or assistance from anyone who has been down the road I'm about

to

> > travel. On October 28, I'm having orthognathic surgery

involving

> > upper/lower jaw on left and right, along with genioplasty

> > (repositioning of chin) and a palate expansion. I have been

> reading

> > online to get as much information I could before surgery but who

> > better to ask than those of you that have been through it. Has

> > anyone been dissatisfied with their results? Or has the overall

> > appearance of your face become a dramatic, acceptable change?

Any

> > input or advice from anyone would be great. I don't like being

so

> > nervous.

> > Thanks!

> >

[Guest guest]

Jo:

Thank you so much for them great words! I have been sitting here

reading what dwilzen has been putting in here, and frankly has been

taking my once confident decision about surgery down to a question

of do I really wanna do this? I don't have much of an overjet, but

have been informed by surgeon that my jaw is not in proper alignment

(lower jaw shift to the left) and also my palate is very narrow,

very high. Also, the joints in both upper/lower jaws are

deteriorating somewhat, which obviously creates some pain. Surgeon

said surgery would also help minimize this deterioration. I also

opted to have this surgery for cosmetic reasons as well. I wouldn't

consider myself unattractive (per my Yahoo prof pic) but wanted to

improve. My biggest fear however is I will come out with not so

pleasant results, instead of being excited with the " new " me,

devastated at what I did to myself. But thank you to all who have

replied to my worries!

> > Well I thought I'd give this a try and see if I could get any

> advice

> > or assistance from anyone who has been down the road I'm about

to

> > travel. On October 28, I'm having orthognathic surgery

involving

> > upper/lower jaw on left and right, along with genioplasty

> > (repositioning of chin) and a palate expansion. I have been

> reading

> > online to get as much information I could before surgery but who

> > better to ask than those of you that have been through it. Has

> > anyone been dissatisfied with their results? Or has the overall

> > appearance of your face become a dramatic, acceptable change?

Any

> > input or advice from anyone would be great. I don't like being

so

> > nervous.

> > Thanks!

> >

[Guest guest]

Do evaluate carefully before heading for the OR, of course. This is

indeed major surgery, and must be taken seriously.

The thing about the joints is, once they deteriorate and/or become

arthritic, it can be very, very difficult to get a good fix for them.

If you decide to get a better balance between your jaws, surgically

or even with braces alone, you may give them -- and yourself -- a

better chance to avoid many miseries.

That said, my surgeon told me that there were no promises about TMJ.

My periodontist thinks the surgery helped with it. I do not have the

pain that I had before. But the surgeon flat out said, " Nobody can

predict the future. The surgery may help, or it could make things

worse. We do know that changing the jaws puts different stresses on

the joints. That may make TMJD better or worse. "

Cammie

> Jo:

> Thank you so much for them great words! I have been sitting here

> reading what dwilzen has been putting in here, and frankly has been

> taking my once confident decision about surgery down to a question

> of do I really wanna do this? I don't have much of an overjet, but

> have been informed by surgeon that my jaw is not in proper

alignment

> (lower jaw shift to the left) and also my palate is very narrow,

> very high. Also, the joints in both upper/lower jaws are

> deteriorating somewhat, which obviously creates some pain. Surgeon

> said surgery would also help minimize this deterioration. I also

> opted to have this surgery for cosmetic reasons as well. I

wouldn't

> consider myself unattractive (per my Yahoo prof pic) but wanted to

> improve. My biggest fear however is I will come out with not so

> pleasant results, instead of being excited with the " new " me,

> devastated at what I did to myself. But thank you to all who have

> replied to my worries!

>

>

[Guest guest]

Do evaluate carefully before heading for the OR, of course. This is

indeed major surgery, and must be taken seriously.

The thing about the joints is, once they deteriorate and/or become

arthritic, it can be very, very difficult to get a good fix for them.

If you decide to get a better balance between your jaws, surgically

or even with braces alone, you may give them -- and yourself -- a

better chance to avoid many miseries.

That said, my surgeon told me that there were no promises about TMJ.

My periodontist thinks the surgery helped with it. I do not have the

pain that I had before. But the surgeon flat out said, " Nobody can

predict the future. The surgery may help, or it could make things

worse. We do know that changing the jaws puts different stresses on

the joints. That may make TMJD better or worse. "

Cammie

> Jo:

> Thank you so much for them great words! I have been sitting here

> reading what dwilzen has been putting in here, and frankly has been

> taking my once confident decision about surgery down to a question

> of do I really wanna do this? I don't have much of an overjet, but

> have been informed by surgeon that my jaw is not in proper

alignment

> (lower jaw shift to the left) and also my palate is very narrow,

> very high. Also, the joints in both upper/lower jaws are

> deteriorating somewhat, which obviously creates some pain. Surgeon

> said surgery would also help minimize this deterioration. I also

> opted to have this surgery for cosmetic reasons as well. I

wouldn't

> consider myself unattractive (per my Yahoo prof pic) but wanted to

> improve. My biggest fear however is I will come out with not so

> pleasant results, instead of being excited with the " new " me,

> devastated at what I did to myself. But thank you to all who have

> replied to my worries!

>

>

[Guest guest]

HI Mel,

Boy what a stir about your possible-surgery huh?

Just shows that we're all passionate people and caring about the

effect our words have on others lives...and that's good.

My opinion after reading more of the recent posts, is that maybe you

are not ready to make a decision now about this Mel.

and that's OK.

You can decide, not to decide right now...and wait until you feel

certain that it is for you or is not.

This is a serious surgery, it has life altering effects and is also

something challenging to get thru (recovery) and with out conviction

that THIS IS RIGHT FOR YOU, and Right for you right now too...it may

make your recovery more difficult-mentally at least.

In my profession, one thing became apparently clear years

ago...LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. See, if the brains says X and the devils

advicate says Y and your friends say W...but the gut says Q.....Q

will always win...whether you go with the brain, bec it " makes sense "

or with a professional bec they are educated or what have you...that

little feeling inside KNOWS ALL...and will always win out... so step

back from all this, and put it aside for a while may it be a day or a

week or what not...and see how you feel when it's not so intense in

your face pushing a decision...and your gut should shine through.

Anytime in my 10+ yrs of human resources, anytime someone takes a job

bec it's more money or a logical step yadda...but they had

hesitations or concerns under it all...they eventually quit or hate

the job or what not...so let your innerself be your guide and let the

talkers here, incld me, be information. And heck, if it comes down to

a tough fight for you to widdle down your feelings into black and

white, CHEESY as it sounds, do a pro/con lists-one about getting the

surg-all the good, all the fears/concerns and money-all of it, then

do the same with NOT getting the surg--do this as an aside, not

focusing on it...keep a pad handy and write down whatever comes to

mind on either side...then walk away and look at it like a

stranger...may help you to hear your gut louder.

Just remember it's YOUR call, YOUR face, YOUR life...YOUR

DECISION...take your time and be as sure as you can.

Hang in there! JO

[Guest guest]

HI Mel,

Boy what a stir about your possible-surgery huh?

Just shows that we're all passionate people and caring about the

effect our words have on others lives...and that's good.

My opinion after reading more of the recent posts, is that maybe you

are not ready to make a decision now about this Mel.

and that's OK.

You can decide, not to decide right now...and wait until you feel

certain that it is for you or is not.

This is a serious surgery, it has life altering effects and is also

something challenging to get thru (recovery) and with out conviction

that THIS IS RIGHT FOR YOU, and Right for you right now too...it may

make your recovery more difficult-mentally at least.

In my profession, one thing became apparently clear years

ago...LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. See, if the brains says X and the devils

advicate says Y and your friends say W...but the gut says Q.....Q

will always win...whether you go with the brain, bec it " makes sense "

or with a professional bec they are educated or what have you...that

little feeling inside KNOWS ALL...and will always win out... so step

back from all this, and put it aside for a while may it be a day or a

week or what not...and see how you feel when it's not so intense in

your face pushing a decision...and your gut should shine through.

Anytime in my 10+ yrs of human resources, anytime someone takes a job

bec it's more money or a logical step yadda...but they had

hesitations or concerns under it all...they eventually quit or hate

the job or what not...so let your innerself be your guide and let the

talkers here, incld me, be information. And heck, if it comes down to

a tough fight for you to widdle down your feelings into black and

white, CHEESY as it sounds, do a pro/con lists-one about getting the

surg-all the good, all the fears/concerns and money-all of it, then

do the same with NOT getting the surg--do this as an aside, not

focusing on it...keep a pad handy and write down whatever comes to

mind on either side...then walk away and look at it like a

stranger...may help you to hear your gut louder.

Just remember it's YOUR call, YOUR face, YOUR life...YOUR

DECISION...take your time and be as sure as you can.

Hang in there! JO

[Guest guest]

man, i'm almost starting to doubt my surgery too.

>

>Reply-To: orthognathicsurgerysupport

>To: orthognathicsurgerysupport

>Subject: [Orthognathic Surgery Support ] Re: Getting Really Nervous! No

>worries!

>Date: Wed, 29 Sep 2004 18:48:15 -0000

>

>HI Mel,

>

>Boy what a stir about your possible-surgery huh?

>

>Just shows that we're all passionate people and caring about the

>effect our words have on others lives...and that's good.

>

>My opinion after reading more of the recent posts, is that maybe you

>are not ready to make a decision now about this Mel.

>and that's OK.

>You can decide, not to decide right now...and wait until you feel

>certain that it is for you or is not.

>

>This is a serious surgery, it has life altering effects and is also

>something challenging to get thru (recovery) and with out conviction

>that THIS IS RIGHT FOR YOU, and Right for you right now too...it may

>make your recovery more difficult-mentally at least.

>

>In my profession, one thing became apparently clear years

>ago...LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. See, if the brains says X and the devils

>advicate says Y and your friends say W...but the gut says Q.....Q

>will always win...whether you go with the brain, bec it " makes sense "

>or with a professional bec they are educated or what have you...that

>little feeling inside KNOWS ALL...and will always win out... so step

>back from all this, and put it aside for a while may it be a day or a

>week or what not...and see how you feel when it's not so intense in

>your face pushing a decision...and your gut should shine through.

>

>Anytime in my 10+ yrs of human resources, anytime someone takes a job

>bec it's more money or a logical step yadda...but they had

>hesitations or concerns under it all...they eventually quit or hate

>the job or what not...so let your innerself be your guide and let the

>talkers here, incld me, be information. And heck, if it comes down to

>a tough fight for you to widdle down your feelings into black and

>white, CHEESY as it sounds, do a pro/con lists-one about getting the

>surg-all the good, all the fears/concerns and money-all of it, then

>do the same with NOT getting the surg--do this as an aside, not

>focusing on it...keep a pad handy and write down whatever comes to

>mind on either side...then walk away and look at it like a

>stranger...may help you to hear your gut louder.

>

>Just remember it's YOUR call, YOUR face, YOUR life...YOUR

>DECISION...take your time and be as sure as you can.

>

>Hang in there! JO

>

>

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man, i'm almost starting to doubt my surgery too.

>

>Reply-To: orthognathicsurgerysupport

>To: orthognathicsurgerysupport

>Subject: [Orthognathic Surgery Support ] Re: Getting Really Nervous! No

>worries!

>Date: Wed, 29 Sep 2004 18:48:15 -0000

>

>HI Mel,

>

>Boy what a stir about your possible-surgery huh?

>

>Just shows that we're all passionate people and caring about the

>effect our words have on others lives...and that's good.

>

>My opinion after reading more of the recent posts, is that maybe you

>are not ready to make a decision now about this Mel.

>and that's OK.

>You can decide, not to decide right now...and wait until you feel

>certain that it is for you or is not.

>

>This is a serious surgery, it has life altering effects and is also

>something challenging to get thru (recovery) and with out conviction

>that THIS IS RIGHT FOR YOU, and Right for you right now too...it may

>make your recovery more difficult-mentally at least.

>

>In my profession, one thing became apparently clear years

>ago...LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. See, if the brains says X and the devils

>advicate says Y and your friends say W...but the gut says Q.....Q

>will always win...whether you go with the brain, bec it " makes sense "

>or with a professional bec they are educated or what have you...that

>little feeling inside KNOWS ALL...and will always win out... so step

>back from all this, and put it aside for a while may it be a day or a

>week or what not...and see how you feel when it's not so intense in

>your face pushing a decision...and your gut should shine through.

>

>Anytime in my 10+ yrs of human resources, anytime someone takes a job

>bec it's more money or a logical step yadda...but they had

>hesitations or concerns under it all...they eventually quit or hate

>the job or what not...so let your innerself be your guide and let the

>talkers here, incld me, be information. And heck, if it comes down to

>a tough fight for you to widdle down your feelings into black and

>white, CHEESY as it sounds, do a pro/con lists-one about getting the

>surg-all the good, all the fears/concerns and money-all of it, then

>do the same with NOT getting the surg--do this as an aside, not

>focusing on it...keep a pad handy and write down whatever comes to

>mind on either side...then walk away and look at it like a

>stranger...may help you to hear your gut louder.

>

>Just remember it's YOUR call, YOUR face, YOUR life...YOUR

>DECISION...take your time and be as sure as you can.

>

>Hang in there! JO

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Why?

Mel is having her own questions for her personal situation and each

is different. Does her story match yours?

What I told her here is to be SURE...if you were getting a nose job-

for something like apnea, or even lipo just because, they are both

serious surgeries and you need to be condifent that this is best for

you when you get into it. it's as I see it a life-decision and all of

those need to be well thought out and leave you with conviction and

comfort once a decision has been made (and only by you since you're

the person involved.)

Good luck to you alex....

> man, i'm almost starting to doubt my surgery too.

>

> >From: " jfloweroflifet " <jfloweroflifet@y...>

> >Reply-To: orthognathicsurgerysupport

> >To: orthognathicsurgerysupport

> >Subject: [Orthognathic Surgery Support ] Re: Getting Really

Nervous! No

> >worries!

> >Date: Wed, 29 Sep 2004 18:48:15 -0000

> >

> >HI Mel,

> >

> >Boy what a stir about your possible-surgery huh?

> >

> >Just shows that we're all passionate people and caring about the

> >effect our words have on others lives...and that's good.

> >

> >My opinion after reading more of the recent posts, is that maybe

you

> >are not ready to make a decision now about this Mel.

> >and that's OK.

> >You can decide, not to decide right now...and wait until you feel

> >certain that it is for you or is not.

> >

> >This is a serious surgery, it has life altering effects and is also

> >something challenging to get thru (recovery) and with out

conviction

> >that THIS IS RIGHT FOR YOU, and Right for you right now too...it

may

> >make your recovery more difficult-mentally at least.

> >

> >In my profession, one thing became apparently clear years

> >ago...LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. See, if the brains says X and the devils

> >advicate says Y and your friends say W...but the gut says Q.....Q

> >will always win...whether you go with the brain, bec it " makes

sense "

> >or with a professional bec they are educated or what have

you...that

> >little feeling inside KNOWS ALL...and will always win out... so

step

> >back from all this, and put it aside for a while may it be a day

or a

> >week or what not...and see how you feel when it's not so intense in

> >your face pushing a decision...and your gut should shine through.

> >

> >Anytime in my 10+ yrs of human resources, anytime someone takes a

job

> >bec it's more money or a logical step yadda...but they had

> >hesitations or concerns under it all...they eventually quit or hate

> >the job or what not...so let your innerself be your guide and let

the

> >talkers here, incld me, be information. And heck, if it comes down

to

> >a tough fight for you to widdle down your feelings into black and

> >white, CHEESY as it sounds, do a pro/con lists-one about getting

the

> >surg-all the good, all the fears/concerns and money-all of it, then

> >do the same with NOT getting the surg--do this as an aside, not

> >focusing on it...keep a pad handy and write down whatever comes to

> >mind on either side...then walk away and look at it like a

> >stranger...may help you to hear your gut louder.

> >

> >Just remember it's YOUR call, YOUR face, YOUR life...YOUR

> >DECISION...take your time and be as sure as you can.

> >

> >Hang in there! JO

> >

> >

>

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[Guest guest]

Why?

Mel is having her own questions for her personal situation and each

is different. Does her story match yours?

What I told her here is to be SURE...if you were getting a nose job-

for something like apnea, or even lipo just because, they are both

serious surgeries and you need to be condifent that this is best for

you when you get into it. it's as I see it a life-decision and all of

those need to be well thought out and leave you with conviction and

comfort once a decision has been made (and only by you since you're

the person involved.)

Good luck to you alex....

> man, i'm almost starting to doubt my surgery too.

>

> >From: " jfloweroflifet " <jfloweroflifet@y...>

> >Reply-To: orthognathicsurgerysupport

> >To: orthognathicsurgerysupport

> >Subject: [Orthognathic Surgery Support ] Re: Getting Really

Nervous! No

> >worries!

> >Date: Wed, 29 Sep 2004 18:48:15 -0000

> >

> >HI Mel,

> >

> >Boy what a stir about your possible-surgery huh?

> >

> >Just shows that we're all passionate people and caring about the

> >effect our words have on others lives...and that's good.

> >

> >My opinion after reading more of the recent posts, is that maybe

you

> >are not ready to make a decision now about this Mel.

> >and that's OK.

> >You can decide, not to decide right now...and wait until you feel

> >certain that it is for you or is not.

> >

> >This is a serious surgery, it has life altering effects and is also

> >something challenging to get thru (recovery) and with out

conviction

> >that THIS IS RIGHT FOR YOU, and Right for you right now too...it

may

> >make your recovery more difficult-mentally at least.

> >

> >In my profession, one thing became apparently clear years

> >ago...LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. See, if the brains says X and the devils

> >advicate says Y and your friends say W...but the gut says Q.....Q

> >will always win...whether you go with the brain, bec it " makes

sense "

> >or with a professional bec they are educated or what have

you...that

> >little feeling inside KNOWS ALL...and will always win out... so

step

> >back from all this, and put it aside for a while may it be a day

or a

> >week or what not...and see how you feel when it's not so intense in

> >your face pushing a decision...and your gut should shine through.

> >

> >Anytime in my 10+ yrs of human resources, anytime someone takes a

job

> >bec it's more money or a logical step yadda...but they had

> >hesitations or concerns under it all...they eventually quit or hate

> >the job or what not...so let your innerself be your guide and let

the

> >talkers here, incld me, be information. And heck, if it comes down

to

> >a tough fight for you to widdle down your feelings into black and

> >white, CHEESY as it sounds, do a pro/con lists-one about getting

the

> >surg-all the good, all the fears/concerns and money-all of it, then

> >do the same with NOT getting the surg--do this as an aside, not

> >focusing on it...keep a pad handy and write down whatever comes to

> >mind on either side...then walk away and look at it like a

> >stranger...may help you to hear your gut louder.

> >

> >Just remember it's YOUR call, YOUR face, YOUR life...YOUR

> >DECISION...take your time and be as sure as you can.

> >

> >Hang in there! JO

> >

> >

>

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