Guest guest Posted March 18, 2003 Report Share Posted March 18, 2003 I hate to bring this up, but has anyone considered bringing up a more relevent topic instead of complaining about the topics being discussed. I took a rather bold step last night and talked about being gratiful for what I had. It seems only one person was willing to respond to that. Don't figure. Do we truly want to talk about relevent topics today? Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Tue, 18 Mar 2003 17:27:29 -0800 (PST) Deb D writes: > I agree 110% Sharon. I have spent so much time wading > through peeps, mustard, mayonaise, miracle whip, > what-I-loved-to-eat-when-I-was-growing-up and serial > killers posts that I haven't had any time at all to > post replies to those seeking answers or suggestions > for their WLS journey. I hope that they get their > answers somewhere. > > I am on this list (5 years post op) to offer support > to those who come after me and to seek wisdom from > those who went before me. > > My in box is so inundated with off topic posts that by > the time I wade through and empty my email I have no > time left to contribute. > > I, like many others, belong to more than one group. > I also moderate a WLS group of about 700 folks...so I > know both sides of the coin. > > I am not trying to say my life is any more or less > busy than everyone else but I do get the feeling that > those who have email access all day whether they are > not working or have access at work etc don't really > get the full picture on how many totally irrelevant > posts are made. > > I also get frustrated when someone says " just delete " > well that isn't an option in this type of forum > because the subject line may remain " Peeps " for a > week......yet the post has something that I would like > to read. > > In order for this suggestion to work then everyone > would have to change subject lines. This just won't > happen....it has been suggested for as long as I have > been around these types of groups. > > I also feel bad that when someone posts a request to > the list to try and change subject lines or keep on > topic they are told to " wait it out " . > > Why doesnt anyone ever suggest that those who want to > talk about mustard or serial killers for days on end > just keep it private? or start yet another spin off > group? > > I hear you Sharon I am frustrated too. I know today is > just a bad day for me because I have so much going on > and everything is effecting my WLS journey....my job, > my fiance getting laid off, my car needing repair, etc > etc....always something. Those " somethings " always > make me make bad food choices, 'forget' to take my > vitamins etc. > > It would be nice to hear others talk about THOSE > things.....instead all I see is mustard. > > ~Hugs > Melty~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2003 Report Share Posted March 18, 2003 I hate to bring this up, but has anyone considered bringing up a more relevent topic instead of complaining about the topics being discussed. I took a rather bold step last night and talked about being gratiful for what I had. It seems only one person was willing to respond to that. Don't figure. Do we truly want to talk about relevent topics today? Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Tue, 18 Mar 2003 17:27:29 -0800 (PST) Deb D writes: > I agree 110% Sharon. I have spent so much time wading > through peeps, mustard, mayonaise, miracle whip, > what-I-loved-to-eat-when-I-was-growing-up and serial > killers posts that I haven't had any time at all to > post replies to those seeking answers or suggestions > for their WLS journey. I hope that they get their > answers somewhere. > > I am on this list (5 years post op) to offer support > to those who come after me and to seek wisdom from > those who went before me. > > My in box is so inundated with off topic posts that by > the time I wade through and empty my email I have no > time left to contribute. > > I, like many others, belong to more than one group. > I also moderate a WLS group of about 700 folks...so I > know both sides of the coin. > > I am not trying to say my life is any more or less > busy than everyone else but I do get the feeling that > those who have email access all day whether they are > not working or have access at work etc don't really > get the full picture on how many totally irrelevant > posts are made. > > I also get frustrated when someone says " just delete " > well that isn't an option in this type of forum > because the subject line may remain " Peeps " for a > week......yet the post has something that I would like > to read. > > In order for this suggestion to work then everyone > would have to change subject lines. This just won't > happen....it has been suggested for as long as I have > been around these types of groups. > > I also feel bad that when someone posts a request to > the list to try and change subject lines or keep on > topic they are told to " wait it out " . > > Why doesnt anyone ever suggest that those who want to > talk about mustard or serial killers for days on end > just keep it private? or start yet another spin off > group? > > I hear you Sharon I am frustrated too. I know today is > just a bad day for me because I have so much going on > and everything is effecting my WLS journey....my job, > my fiance getting laid off, my car needing repair, etc > etc....always something. Those " somethings " always > make me make bad food choices, 'forget' to take my > vitamins etc. > > It would be nice to hear others talk about THOSE > things.....instead all I see is mustard. > > ~Hugs > Melty~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2003 Report Share Posted March 18, 2003 I usually don't wade into the fray of board issues, but I would have to agree ... Yesterday I found myself at wit's end and posted a sincere call for help ( " Need help: Any angels out there? " ) and a few angels donned their wings and flew to my aid (thank you). I posted to this particular board because I felt like I would get a wide range of input and perspective, but it seems like mustard and mayo were the topic of choice. The weight is gone, but issues remain ... where else does one go ... I'll have to think twice before I post again. Regards, jmc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2003 Report Share Posted March 18, 2003 I usually don't wade into the fray of board issues, but I would have to agree ... Yesterday I found myself at wit's end and posted a sincere call for help ( " Need help: Any angels out there? " ) and a few angels donned their wings and flew to my aid (thank you). I posted to this particular board because I felt like I would get a wide range of input and perspective, but it seems like mustard and mayo were the topic of choice. The weight is gone, but issues remain ... where else does one go ... I'll have to think twice before I post again. Regards, jmc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2003 Report Share Posted March 18, 2003 Just my opinion. Which on a good day isn't worth much. But I think life is pretty stressful for everyone right now. I don't think it has much to do with our surgery, but it has much to do with our society. Between the lousy economy (which is affecting most of us BIG time....everyone here unemployed?? Raise your hand?)( is raising his ;-{) and now the threat of war that we will be inundated with 24/7 because of the media thinking we need to see every little tiny detail about what is going on...well...the stress is relieved with humor. Stress is causeing many (me included) to choose less then wisely when it comes to food. The humor just makes me feel better. And I promise I will TRY and remember to change the subject line....I did add that I am a medial by-pass in my signature....so see I am trying to be compliant. AND you have NO idea how hard THAT is for me. <grin> You are all so important to this group, but I think we all need hugs right now. (Personally I am sending a particular 5 1/2 month old puppy into time out...he is so naughty) Have I rambled enough? CEEP...help!!!!!!!!! Debbie in Gig Harbor (170cm medial) ladybostons@... http://www.cafeshops.com/copsstore Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2003 Report Share Posted March 18, 2003 Just my opinion. Which on a good day isn't worth much. But I think life is pretty stressful for everyone right now. I don't think it has much to do with our surgery, but it has much to do with our society. Between the lousy economy (which is affecting most of us BIG time....everyone here unemployed?? Raise your hand?)( is raising his ;-{) and now the threat of war that we will be inundated with 24/7 because of the media thinking we need to see every little tiny detail about what is going on...well...the stress is relieved with humor. Stress is causeing many (me included) to choose less then wisely when it comes to food. The humor just makes me feel better. And I promise I will TRY and remember to change the subject line....I did add that I am a medial by-pass in my signature....so see I am trying to be compliant. AND you have NO idea how hard THAT is for me. <grin> You are all so important to this group, but I think we all need hugs right now. (Personally I am sending a particular 5 1/2 month old puppy into time out...he is so naughty) Have I rambled enough? CEEP...help!!!!!!!!! Debbie in Gig Harbor (170cm medial) ladybostons@... http://www.cafeshops.com/copsstore Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2003 Report Share Posted March 19, 2003 I totally agree! This group is not at all like the other OSSG groups. We are the long-termers. I joined this group about 4 years ago, not yet a Grad, and I remember the OT posts being cats. The humor and sometimes mindless banter is our way of touching each other as family and old friends. The other OSSG groups that cater more to pre-ops and newbies generally change memberships every year or 2, as people outgrow their usefulness and move on. Most of us are here for the duration, for long-term support and information, and dear friendships are created. Humor is very necessary. That said, I do agree about the subject lines. There is a huge mail volume, and the subject line should reflect the topic, and also say if it's OT. I promise, I will try to make an effort to do this. in NJ ********************** > The witty and funny back and forth emails, while time consuming to keep up with, are what keep us close knit. You can't have this many people who have been corresponding for so many years and know some of the most intimate details of each others' lives without some of the give and take of humor. The humor is, if not the backbone, then certainly the lifeblood of this group. I agree about changing the subject line, and I am a bad offender who promises to do better. But the warm and sincere humor among us is sometimes the one thing that keeps me on track and gets me through the day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2003 Report Share Posted March 19, 2003 I totally agree! This group is not at all like the other OSSG groups. We are the long-termers. I joined this group about 4 years ago, not yet a Grad, and I remember the OT posts being cats. The humor and sometimes mindless banter is our way of touching each other as family and old friends. The other OSSG groups that cater more to pre-ops and newbies generally change memberships every year or 2, as people outgrow their usefulness and move on. Most of us are here for the duration, for long-term support and information, and dear friendships are created. Humor is very necessary. That said, I do agree about the subject lines. There is a huge mail volume, and the subject line should reflect the topic, and also say if it's OT. I promise, I will try to make an effort to do this. in NJ ********************** > The witty and funny back and forth emails, while time consuming to keep up with, are what keep us close knit. You can't have this many people who have been corresponding for so many years and know some of the most intimate details of each others' lives without some of the give and take of humor. The humor is, if not the backbone, then certainly the lifeblood of this group. I agree about changing the subject line, and I am a bad offender who promises to do better. But the warm and sincere humor among us is sometimes the one thing that keeps me on track and gets me through the day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2003 Report Share Posted March 19, 2003 I just hafta stick my nickle's worth in here. I joined this group while I was still pre-op- around the time of " the kitty wars " and I gotta tell ya', it was wonderful for me to know that there *was* life after surgery. These were real people, living real lives, with humor without being able to " eat normally " - or so I thought at the time. It was important for me to know that even with the life altering surgery that I was going to pursue, these people still lived day to day, loved one another, and didn't mind showing it to anyone who cared to peek in. So the off topic stuff does serve a purpose for people that we sometimes don't know and won't hear from for a year or more. Alice The Loon RNY 12/28/00 .....I wanted to say I understand both sides of this, only too well. I think the fun is necessary to camaraderie. Might be eccentric of me, but I'm not sure I care to share my innermost guts with people without personalities or any " depth " . The OT give " depth " to personalities. I understand the frustration of the newbies who come here hoping for a steady font of wisdom and answers to all problems.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2003 Report Share Posted March 19, 2003 I just hafta stick my nickle's worth in here. I joined this group while I was still pre-op- around the time of " the kitty wars " and I gotta tell ya', it was wonderful for me to know that there *was* life after surgery. These were real people, living real lives, with humor without being able to " eat normally " - or so I thought at the time. It was important for me to know that even with the life altering surgery that I was going to pursue, these people still lived day to day, loved one another, and didn't mind showing it to anyone who cared to peek in. So the off topic stuff does serve a purpose for people that we sometimes don't know and won't hear from for a year or more. Alice The Loon RNY 12/28/00 .....I wanted to say I understand both sides of this, only too well. I think the fun is necessary to camaraderie. Might be eccentric of me, but I'm not sure I care to share my innermost guts with people without personalities or any " depth " . The OT give " depth " to personalities. I understand the frustration of the newbies who come here hoping for a steady font of wisdom and answers to all problems.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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