Re: Lurking Husband..Lots of ? s

[Guest guest]

There is a risk at anything you do. There is a risk to every medical

procedure. But the risk is very small and the benefits of this surgery far out

weight

the risk. The surgery has saved my life. I was a bigger risk for this surgery

because of my age and medical condition. I am 59 years old and weighed almost

400 lb., In a wheelchair, I have heart problems, an aortic aneurysm,

arthritis, fibromyalgia, chronic bronical asthma, very bad spinal stenosis and

spinal

deterioration, and I WAS a diabetic, and I HAD High blood pressure that was

going to cause the aneurysm to rupture. I know longer have diabetes or high

blood

pressure. I am even able to get around the house now without my wheelchair. I

was doomed without the surgery and now I have hope for a better life and more

time with my family. I made the choice to take the chance and I went through

it all with no problems. I have not been sick at all. Even though I weighed

almost 400# I was still able to have a LAP. I was only in the hospital 2 days

and as of this day I have lost 131 pounds. It will be one year on the 22nd of

this month and I would do it over again in a NY second. I am going to be 60

years old on Wednesday but my new birthday will be the 22nd because that was the

beginning of my new life. Life is so good. Don't worry your wife will be

fine. Will the hospital let you stay in the room with her while she is in the

hospital? My husband stayed with me and it was wonderful to have him with me.

If they don't you might want to ask. They only charged us 10 dollars a night

and he had a real bed, not just a cot.

A. B.

LAP RNY 3/22/03

Dr. Steve Weinstein, MD.

Mobile, Alabama

BMI 65/48

386/255- 131LBS.

59 years old

[Guest guest]

There is a risk at anything you do. There is a risk to every medical

procedure. But the risk is very small and the benefits of this surgery far out

weight

the risk. The surgery has saved my life. I was a bigger risk for this surgery

because of my age and medical condition. I am 59 years old and weighed almost

400 lb., In a wheelchair, I have heart problems, an aortic aneurysm,

arthritis, fibromyalgia, chronic bronical asthma, very bad spinal stenosis and

spinal

deterioration, and I WAS a diabetic, and I HAD High blood pressure that was

going to cause the aneurysm to rupture. I know longer have diabetes or high

blood

pressure. I am even able to get around the house now without my wheelchair. I

was doomed without the surgery and now I have hope for a better life and more

time with my family. I made the choice to take the chance and I went through

it all with no problems. I have not been sick at all. Even though I weighed

almost 400# I was still able to have a LAP. I was only in the hospital 2 days

and as of this day I have lost 131 pounds. It will be one year on the 22nd of

this month and I would do it over again in a NY second. I am going to be 60

years old on Wednesday but my new birthday will be the 22nd because that was the

beginning of my new life. Life is so good. Don't worry your wife will be

fine. Will the hospital let you stay in the room with her while she is in the

hospital? My husband stayed with me and it was wonderful to have him with me.

If they don't you might want to ask. They only charged us 10 dollars a night

and he had a real bed, not just a cot.

A. B.

LAP RNY 3/22/03

Dr. Steve Weinstein, MD.

Mobile, Alabama

BMI 65/48

386/255- 131LBS.

59 years old

[Guest guest]

I know that I felt scared and was even trembling throughout the morning of

surgery, whats not to be afraid of, it's surgery and yes, i hate to say this but

at first she may feel like crap,. I did the first few weeks and then WHAMMO,

I started feeling like I won the lottery, i was losing weight, I was feeling

lighter, i could breath easier, get around better, my back was feeling better,

WHOOHOOO, it is great. But at first I cried that I had done it because I was

trying to reccuperate and had 3 small kids at home that needed me too and

cooking for them and doing laundry was not that easy right away. i do think your

wife is going to be much happier after her surgery and recovery and you will

love the new look of life in her eyes and you will feel happy for her cause she

is going to feel sooo much better. I haven't even made it to goal weight yet

but i feel awesome and am currently pregnant and I am the smallest I have ever

been pregnant and it feels good. good luck to you both and God bless you both.

God Bless,

Robin, NorthEastern, NY

EDD- July 27th, 2004

IT'S A BOY!!!!!!

Mommy to:

&

(twin boys 7 1/2),

Madison, daughter, 5 years and

Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

Gastric Bypass Surgery-

October 18th 2002

Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

goal 170 after baby

[Guest guest]

I know that I felt scared and was even trembling throughout the morning of

surgery, whats not to be afraid of, it's surgery and yes, i hate to say this but

at first she may feel like crap,. I did the first few weeks and then WHAMMO,

I started feeling like I won the lottery, i was losing weight, I was feeling

lighter, i could breath easier, get around better, my back was feeling better,

WHOOHOOO, it is great. But at first I cried that I had done it because I was

trying to reccuperate and had 3 small kids at home that needed me too and

cooking for them and doing laundry was not that easy right away. i do think your

wife is going to be much happier after her surgery and recovery and you will

love the new look of life in her eyes and you will feel happy for her cause she

is going to feel sooo much better. I haven't even made it to goal weight yet

but i feel awesome and am currently pregnant and I am the smallest I have ever

been pregnant and it feels good. good luck to you both and God bless you both.

God Bless,

Robin, NorthEastern, NY

EDD- July 27th, 2004

IT'S A BOY!!!!!!

Mommy to:

&

(twin boys 7 1/2),

Madison, daughter, 5 years and

Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

Gastric Bypass Surgery-

October 18th 2002

Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

goal 170 after baby

[Guest guest]

welcome mike. it's fantastic to hear significant others'

opinions;we've had parents, grown children, spouses, & roommates (etc)

on here asking for support-----welcome.

i'm approaching my 2nd anniversary, my best advice for her is to

research & soul search. post-op life is not w/out its struggles &

sacrifice. she has to be vigilant regarding supplements and follow-up

appts, etc etc. & believe me, life is never ever the same.

keep posting.

lori h.

[Guest guest]

welcome mike. it's fantastic to hear significant others'

opinions;we've had parents, grown children, spouses, & roommates (etc)

on here asking for support-----welcome.

i'm approaching my 2nd anniversary, my best advice for her is to

research & soul search. post-op life is not w/out its struggles &

sacrifice. she has to be vigilant regarding supplements and follow-up

appts, etc etc. & believe me, life is never ever the same.

keep posting.

lori h.

[Guest guest]

For me personally, I would want a Dr that had more expirience. Mine's

done opver 1800 laps.

Just my thoughts, though.

mikethacker01 wrote on 3/8/2004, 1:59 PM:

The Doctor she

> will have has done over 100 laps's & over 300 bypasses in all.

[Guest guest]

For me personally, I would want a Dr that had more expirience. Mine's

done opver 1800 laps.

Just my thoughts, though.

mikethacker01 wrote on 3/8/2004, 1:59 PM:

The Doctor she

> will have has done over 100 laps's & over 300 bypasses in all.

[Guest guest]

> welcome mike. it's fantastic to hear significant others'

> opinions;we've had parents, grown children, spouses, & roommates

(etc)

> on here asking for support-----welcome.

> i'm approaching my 2nd anniversary, my best advice for her is to

> research & soul search. post-op life is not w/out its struggles &

> sacrifice. she has to be vigilant regarding supplements and follow-

up

> appts, etc etc. & believe me, life is never ever the same.

> keep posting.

> lori h.

Thanks for the reply, We had been at a family reunion and met a

cousin who had Lap Rny..She has lost over 130 lbs and looks and feels

great..Mike

[Guest guest]

> welcome mike. it's fantastic to hear significant others'

> opinions;we've had parents, grown children, spouses, & roommates

(etc)

> on here asking for support-----welcome.

> i'm approaching my 2nd anniversary, my best advice for her is to

> research & soul search. post-op life is not w/out its struggles &

> sacrifice. she has to be vigilant regarding supplements and follow-

up

> appts, etc etc. & believe me, life is never ever the same.

> keep posting.

> lori h.

Thanks for the reply, We had been at a family reunion and met a

cousin who had Lap Rny..She has lost over 130 lbs and looks and feels

great..Mike

[Guest guest]

>

>

>

> There is a risk at anything you do. There is a risk to every

medical

> procedure. But the risk is very small and the benefits of this

surgery far out weight

> the risk. The surgery has saved my life. I was a bigger risk for

this surgery

> because of my age and medical condition. I am 59 years old and

weighed almost

> 400 lb., In a wheelchair, I have heart problems, an aortic

aneurysm,

> arthritis, fibromyalgia, chronic bronical asthma, very bad spinal

stenosis and spinal

> deterioration, and I WAS a diabetic, and I HAD High blood pressure

that was

> going to cause the aneurysm to rupture. I know longer have

diabetes or high blood

> pressure. I am even able to get around the house now without my

wheelchair. I

> was doomed without the surgery and now I have hope for a better

life and more

> time with my family. I made the choice to take the chance and I

went through

> it all with no problems. I have not been sick at all. Even though

I weighed

> almost 400# I was still able to have a LAP. I was only in the

hospital 2 days

> and as of this day I have lost 131 pounds. It will be one year on

the 22nd of

> this month and I would do it over again in a NY second. I am

going to be 60

> years old on Wednesday but my new birthday will be the 22nd

because that was the

> beginning of my new life. Life is so good. Don't worry your wife

will be

> fine. Will the hospital let you stay in the room with her while

she is in the

> hospital? My husband stayed with me and it was wonderful to have

him with me.

> If they don't you might want to ask. They only charged us 10

dollars a night

> and he had a real bed, not just a cot.

>

> A. B.

> LAP RNY 3/22/03

> Dr. Steve Weinstein, MD.

> Mobile, Alabama

> BMI 65/48

> 386/255- 131LBS.

> 59 years old

>

>

> No they will not let me stay over night..We asked. I just want her

to be happy with herself and her health. After waiting so long

everything seems to be going at a break neck speed. I am confident

everything will go well. She does not have any health issues that

shoud complicate anything..Mike

>

[Guest guest]

>

>

>

> There is a risk at anything you do. There is a risk to every

medical

> procedure. But the risk is very small and the benefits of this

surgery far out weight

> the risk. The surgery has saved my life. I was a bigger risk for

this surgery

> because of my age and medical condition. I am 59 years old and

weighed almost

> 400 lb., In a wheelchair, I have heart problems, an aortic

aneurysm,

> arthritis, fibromyalgia, chronic bronical asthma, very bad spinal

stenosis and spinal

> deterioration, and I WAS a diabetic, and I HAD High blood pressure

that was

> going to cause the aneurysm to rupture. I know longer have

diabetes or high blood

> pressure. I am even able to get around the house now without my

wheelchair. I

> was doomed without the surgery and now I have hope for a better

life and more

> time with my family. I made the choice to take the chance and I

went through

> it all with no problems. I have not been sick at all. Even though

I weighed

> almost 400# I was still able to have a LAP. I was only in the

hospital 2 days

> and as of this day I have lost 131 pounds. It will be one year on

the 22nd of

> this month and I would do it over again in a NY second. I am

going to be 60

> years old on Wednesday but my new birthday will be the 22nd

because that was the

> beginning of my new life. Life is so good. Don't worry your wife

will be

> fine. Will the hospital let you stay in the room with her while

she is in the

> hospital? My husband stayed with me and it was wonderful to have

him with me.

> If they don't you might want to ask. They only charged us 10

dollars a night

> and he had a real bed, not just a cot.

>

> A. B.

> LAP RNY 3/22/03

> Dr. Steve Weinstein, MD.

> Mobile, Alabama

> BMI 65/48

> 386/255- 131LBS.

> 59 years old

>

>

> No they will not let me stay over night..We asked. I just want her

to be happy with herself and her health. After waiting so long

everything seems to be going at a break neck speed. I am confident

everything will go well. She does not have any health issues that

shoud complicate anything..Mike

>

[Guest guest]

My only regret has been not to have done it before. I was a

diabetic... I'm NOT now... High blood pressure.... NOT now...

couldn't walk far before I was out of breath... NOT now. In all I

will do it in a heart beat. I saw my dad deteriorate from being a

diabetic and finally passed on. I made that decision after I saw him

how bad. There are adjustments that she will have to make but, she

will feel great. At least I do. Your wife is the one who has to be

certain she wants to go through this operation. Research and find a

doc you all feel confortable with. Good Luck!!! One year post-op.

> Hi , My name is Mike & after nearly a year and lots of set

backs ,my

> wife Sue will get an RNY on March 18th in Philadelphia. My most

> worrysome thought is about long term (a couple of years) affect

this

> will have on my wife. I know a gastric by pass is not a new

operation

> but there are very little studies on Lap operations 10 years back.

My

> wife is a diabetic, suffers from high blood pressure.. She is not

> wayyyyyyy over weight . 5 ft about 235.. It is fine with me but

not

> her!.She sees her father taking 4 shots of insulin a day. As most

> people who want this procedure , she has tried all the

> diets ,weightwatchers , Craig ..ect. Is she going to regret

> this a year or so from now? She says her legs can't take steps ,

> other things ache.. I want her to feel better inside and outside.

We

> have seen 3 Doctors. They all say she is a good canidate for this

> proceedure. Even our primary doctor like the idea.. Most of our

> problems were with insurance. Or Doctors moving. Some hospitals

don't

> want to do gastric by pass..not enough money in it. The Doctor she

> will have has done over 100 laps's & over 300 bypasses in all.

Should

> I feel afraid , how can i support her better ? I think our kids

who

> are 21 thru 34 really don't want her to do this, but don't say so.

> She is getting nervous , so am i . We have read it all ..Thanks

Mike

[Guest guest]

My only regret has been not to have done it before. I was a

diabetic... I'm NOT now... High blood pressure.... NOT now...

couldn't walk far before I was out of breath... NOT now. In all I

will do it in a heart beat. I saw my dad deteriorate from being a

diabetic and finally passed on. I made that decision after I saw him

how bad. There are adjustments that she will have to make but, she

will feel great. At least I do. Your wife is the one who has to be

certain she wants to go through this operation. Research and find a

doc you all feel confortable with. Good Luck!!! One year post-op.

> Hi , My name is Mike & after nearly a year and lots of set

backs ,my

> wife Sue will get an RNY on March 18th in Philadelphia. My most

> worrysome thought is about long term (a couple of years) affect

this

> will have on my wife. I know a gastric by pass is not a new

operation

> but there are very little studies on Lap operations 10 years back.

My

> wife is a diabetic, suffers from high blood pressure.. She is not

> wayyyyyyy over weight . 5 ft about 235.. It is fine with me but

not

> her!.She sees her father taking 4 shots of insulin a day. As most

> people who want this procedure , she has tried all the

> diets ,weightwatchers , Craig ..ect. Is she going to regret

> this a year or so from now? She says her legs can't take steps ,

> other things ache.. I want her to feel better inside and outside.

We

> have seen 3 Doctors. They all say she is a good canidate for this

> proceedure. Even our primary doctor like the idea.. Most of our

> problems were with insurance. Or Doctors moving. Some hospitals

don't

> want to do gastric by pass..not enough money in it. The Doctor she

> will have has done over 100 laps's & over 300 bypasses in all.

Should

> I feel afraid , how can i support her better ? I think our kids

who

> are 21 thru 34 really don't want her to do this, but don't say so.

> She is getting nervous , so am i . We have read it all ..Thanks

Mike