Husbands/ was Re: just a thought

[Guest guest]

Maybe I am selfish... but...

When it came to my WLS.. it was MY decision.. MY body and MY quality of Life.

Yes.. my husband wasn't thrilled... he was afraid.

But I never gave him the option of saying yes or no.

I told him I was going to do it.

I made all the appts....

I went ALONE to all the appts.. taking the baby with me.

When he saw how determined I was.. he was very supportive.. and still is...

He is doing all the laundry.. and helping with the baby all he can.

If he didn't come around.. then that was his loss.

I have my quality of life to consider and my son.

K - Ft Lauderdale, Fl

Post Op - Open RNY 12/2/03

257/230/115 ( I am short.. 5' )

27 lbs gone forever!!!!

I've been a lurker for quite sometime. I have been researching WLS

and I keep returning to this site. I haven't decided yet to have

the surgery. My biggest draw back is my husband. So your post

really rang a bell for me. Don't get me wrong, he is a wonderful

man. He just doesn't understand the struggles of being MO or the

ups and downs of dieting. It is an endless cycle of defeat. His

biggest fear is for me. We have been married for almost 25 years

and 20+ of those years I have been over weight. He has never made

my weight an issue in our marriage. In about ten minutes we are

suppose to sit down and discuss WLS and the alternatives. He says

he has numerous " ideas " of what I can do besides surgery and

dieting. So we will see. I just don't think he gets it and I hope

I will be able to get him to see the benefits of WLS. Wish me luck

and good luck on being on the losing side in six more days.

Myra

[Guest guest]

Maybe I am selfish... but...

When it came to my WLS.. it was MY decision.. MY body and MY quality of Life.

Yes.. my husband wasn't thrilled... he was afraid.

But I never gave him the option of saying yes or no.

I told him I was going to do it.

I made all the appts....

I went ALONE to all the appts.. taking the baby with me.

When he saw how determined I was.. he was very supportive.. and still is...

He is doing all the laundry.. and helping with the baby all he can.

If he didn't come around.. then that was his loss.

I have my quality of life to consider and my son.

K - Ft Lauderdale, Fl

Post Op - Open RNY 12/2/03

257/230/115 ( I am short.. 5' )

27 lbs gone forever!!!!

I've been a lurker for quite sometime. I have been researching WLS

and I keep returning to this site. I haven't decided yet to have

the surgery. My biggest draw back is my husband. So your post

really rang a bell for me. Don't get me wrong, he is a wonderful

man. He just doesn't understand the struggles of being MO or the

ups and downs of dieting. It is an endless cycle of defeat. His

biggest fear is for me. We have been married for almost 25 years

and 20+ of those years I have been over weight. He has never made

my weight an issue in our marriage. In about ten minutes we are

suppose to sit down and discuss WLS and the alternatives. He says

he has numerous " ideas " of what I can do besides surgery and

dieting. So we will see. I just don't think he gets it and I hope

I will be able to get him to see the benefits of WLS. Wish me luck

and good luck on being on the losing side in six more days.

Myra