Re: Kind of mad

[Guest guest]

in the last 6 or so months now that i have lost all my

weight she is sweet as pie to me

Oh boy Tara can I relate to this one. When I had my wls I didn't tell my

in-laws what I was having done. Told them I was having a ventral hernia

repair. Had my surgery in Oct. and saw the in-laws for Thanksgiving and

by then I was down about 50 lbs. Father in-law starts fishing around

asking me what kind of surgery I had done and I stuck to my story about

the ventral hernia repair. He sees me again for x-mas and now I'm down

over 70 lbs and he thinks I'm sick. He starts being all kinds of nice to

me and even started calling me during the week just to " chat and see how

I was feeling " . Had to have a revision when I was seven months out and

my husband insisted that we tell his family what was going on. I didn't

want to becasue I felt it was none of their business, but also was

enjoying the fact that they were making such asses out of themselves. So

we told them and things went back to normal. Back to being inconsiderate

and rude to me and a host of other things that aren't fit for printing.

The six months that my in-laws thought I was sick and dying were the

best in terms of our relationship that we ever had.(Tim and I will be

married 15 years in August) Pretty sad for me to have to have one foot

on a banana peel for them to be civil to me, but just how it is. Tim and

I still laugh about it. If I wasn't able to laugh, I'd be upset all the

time. They're not worth it.

Just don't take anything your mother in-law says to heart. If she is

being nice to you, accept it, but also know where it is coming from.

You're not going to change her. Chalk it up to ignorance and get on with

your life. I have spent way too many years being hurt and angry at my

in-laws. They're not worth it. Just feel bad that they're the only

grandparents I have to offer to my children. Oh well.

Regina

[Guest guest]

in the last 6 or so months now that i have lost all my

weight she is sweet as pie to me

Oh boy Tara can I relate to this one. When I had my wls I didn't tell my

in-laws what I was having done. Told them I was having a ventral hernia

repair. Had my surgery in Oct. and saw the in-laws for Thanksgiving and

by then I was down about 50 lbs. Father in-law starts fishing around

asking me what kind of surgery I had done and I stuck to my story about

the ventral hernia repair. He sees me again for x-mas and now I'm down

over 70 lbs and he thinks I'm sick. He starts being all kinds of nice to

me and even started calling me during the week just to " chat and see how

I was feeling " . Had to have a revision when I was seven months out and

my husband insisted that we tell his family what was going on. I didn't

want to becasue I felt it was none of their business, but also was

enjoying the fact that they were making such asses out of themselves. So

we told them and things went back to normal. Back to being inconsiderate

and rude to me and a host of other things that aren't fit for printing.

The six months that my in-laws thought I was sick and dying were the

best in terms of our relationship that we ever had.(Tim and I will be

married 15 years in August) Pretty sad for me to have to have one foot

on a banana peel for them to be civil to me, but just how it is. Tim and

I still laugh about it. If I wasn't able to laugh, I'd be upset all the

time. They're not worth it.

Just don't take anything your mother in-law says to heart. If she is

being nice to you, accept it, but also know where it is coming from.

You're not going to change her. Chalk it up to ignorance and get on with

your life. I have spent way too many years being hurt and angry at my

in-laws. They're not worth it. Just feel bad that they're the only

grandparents I have to offer to my children. Oh well.

Regina