: Re: Vera....accepting help

[Guest guest]

Marilyn:

Do you know me or what? ) I really am bad about not wanting to ask for

help. I don't like to take them away from things that they have to do, but

you are right, it's to a point that I will need to have the help to get him

up or for someone to watch him when I have to go somewhere. I know I can't

leave him alone anymore, not even for a moment. His shown me that.

I thank you for your note, I know it's because you've been there and learned

from it and I also need to learn the lesson. It's hard, but it's something I

need to do. Thank you for taking care of me. I'll start accepting help from

other's.

Hugs Vera

Vera,

My note is because of your comments of " I hope that it won't come to that. "

One of the hardest things that I have ever done is to accept help from

outsiders. I was ok when it was one of our sons, but to ask for help from

other people was so hard. Some of our church memembers had offered and

offered and offered to help, but I kept saying I can do it, just give me

time.

When I finally gave in and said ok I accept your offers, first it was so

hard to give in, but then it was such a relief, because they were so much

help.

The same was true of the paramedics. I kept thinking as long as my sons

could come from work, that we would continue to manage the falls. When I

finally realized that I was calling them to come from work ( where they

desparately needed to be) when I could have gotten help with out them, it

was such a relief. When Speedy fell, he did not want others to see him, so

for a while he would beg me to get him up prior to the paramedics arriving.

I was to the point that I could not do it anymore. He weighed about 250 and

was getting more and more rigid. We had put handicapped bars all over this

house, but we still had those hard crazy falls.

We finally had to go to the power wheel chair full time about this time last

year, which made his life safer as far as the falls are concerned. He did

not want to give in to this.

I say this not to be critical, but to tell you that I am very sympathetic to

your needs. I feel a sisterly love with you. I hope that you will not wait

as long as I did to accept help from others.

We are all in this together.

Marilyn in TN

[Guest guest]

Marilyn:

Do you know me or what? ) I really am bad about not wanting to ask for

help. I don't like to take them away from things that they have to do, but

you are right, it's to a point that I will need to have the help to get him

up or for someone to watch him when I have to go somewhere. I know I can't

leave him alone anymore, not even for a moment. His shown me that.

I thank you for your note, I know it's because you've been there and learned

from it and I also need to learn the lesson. It's hard, but it's something I

need to do. Thank you for taking care of me. I'll start accepting help from

other's.

Hugs Vera

Vera,

My note is because of your comments of " I hope that it won't come to that. "

One of the hardest things that I have ever done is to accept help from

outsiders. I was ok when it was one of our sons, but to ask for help from

other people was so hard. Some of our church memembers had offered and

offered and offered to help, but I kept saying I can do it, just give me

time.

When I finally gave in and said ok I accept your offers, first it was so

hard to give in, but then it was such a relief, because they were so much

help.

The same was true of the paramedics. I kept thinking as long as my sons

could come from work, that we would continue to manage the falls. When I

finally realized that I was calling them to come from work ( where they

desparately needed to be) when I could have gotten help with out them, it

was such a relief. When Speedy fell, he did not want others to see him, so

for a while he would beg me to get him up prior to the paramedics arriving.

I was to the point that I could not do it anymore. He weighed about 250 and

was getting more and more rigid. We had put handicapped bars all over this

house, but we still had those hard crazy falls.

We finally had to go to the power wheel chair full time about this time last

year, which made his life safer as far as the falls are concerned. He did

not want to give in to this.

I say this not to be critical, but to tell you that I am very sympathetic to

your needs. I feel a sisterly love with you. I hope that you will not wait

as long as I did to accept help from others.

We are all in this together.

Marilyn in TN