Guest guest Posted April 7, 2003 Report Share Posted April 7, 2003 Corrine, are you my twin? I have also been accused of being blunt, direct, opinionated, and some times a little rude. I was a customer service rep and believed in being as honest as company policy would allow. It is truly amazing how some people just don't want to hear it. I would finally have to ask if they would prefer that I lied about it or told them the truth. Most finally agreed they would prefer the truth and would then decide to listen. It has taken some time to learn diplomacy. I usually can do it much better in writing then over the phone or in person but I'm working on it. Fay, just don't let it get you down. Your right about needing to keep the job. Maybe you could email somebody when you are trying to be yourself. I found that I got in less trouble that way. Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Mon, 07 Apr 2003 19:29:01 -0000 " Corrine Grantwit " writes: > FAY, DAN, ET AL: I, too, am misunderstood and misquoted and at times > > feel misaligned with the world. Those who would wear the shoe...as > in Fay's case, are insulted and upset because they (she) felt a > attacked, when in fact Fay ws offering her some help. I am described > > as blunt, direct, and opinionated. Well, I am. When I have tried > to be more circuituous, I have been misunderstood, and told 'well, > why didn't you just say so?' So I 'say so', and am shut out by those > > who don't want to hear, or may not choose to hear. whatever. Yes, > > I have opinions. When what I percieve as injustice, callous > disregard, bigotry, racism, undue profanity ...you get the > picture... are bandied about...and I am not a prude, I feel morally > > obligated to speak up, or give the appearance of being in agrement > with it. That I cannot abide. SO, my inner compass leads me to > estrangement at times, but I am straight with myself and my higher > power...I am a true and loyal friend, and will rise to the occasion > > as many times as needed. I HAVE learned to choose my battles, > question whether I am seeing the forest or the trees, and bide my > time. Many years ago in a support group, the leader often spoke > of 'say what you mean and mean what you say.' I still believe her > to be right about that. Being described as 'eccentric' happens... > that's ok. Better than dull and boring. My best wishes and > compassion to you both. Love, Corrine > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2003 Report Share Posted April 7, 2003 Corrine, are you my twin? I have also been accused of being blunt, direct, opinionated, and some times a little rude. I was a customer service rep and believed in being as honest as company policy would allow. It is truly amazing how some people just don't want to hear it. I would finally have to ask if they would prefer that I lied about it or told them the truth. Most finally agreed they would prefer the truth and would then decide to listen. It has taken some time to learn diplomacy. I usually can do it much better in writing then over the phone or in person but I'm working on it. Fay, just don't let it get you down. Your right about needing to keep the job. Maybe you could email somebody when you are trying to be yourself. I found that I got in less trouble that way. Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Mon, 07 Apr 2003 19:29:01 -0000 " Corrine Grantwit " writes: > FAY, DAN, ET AL: I, too, am misunderstood and misquoted and at times > > feel misaligned with the world. Those who would wear the shoe...as > in Fay's case, are insulted and upset because they (she) felt a > attacked, when in fact Fay ws offering her some help. I am described > > as blunt, direct, and opinionated. Well, I am. When I have tried > to be more circuituous, I have been misunderstood, and told 'well, > why didn't you just say so?' So I 'say so', and am shut out by those > > who don't want to hear, or may not choose to hear. whatever. Yes, > > I have opinions. When what I percieve as injustice, callous > disregard, bigotry, racism, undue profanity ...you get the > picture... are bandied about...and I am not a prude, I feel morally > > obligated to speak up, or give the appearance of being in agrement > with it. That I cannot abide. SO, my inner compass leads me to > estrangement at times, but I am straight with myself and my higher > power...I am a true and loyal friend, and will rise to the occasion > > as many times as needed. I HAVE learned to choose my battles, > question whether I am seeing the forest or the trees, and bide my > time. Many years ago in a support group, the leader often spoke > of 'say what you mean and mean what you say.' I still believe her > to be right about that. Being described as 'eccentric' happens... > that's ok. Better than dull and boring. My best wishes and > compassion to you both. Love, Corrine > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2003 Report Share Posted April 7, 2003 In a message dated 4/7/2003 2:30:37 PM Central Daylight Time, GRANTWIT@... writes: > Being described as 'eccentric' happens... > that's ok. Better than dull and boring. ---------------------------------------- Oh, there are LOTS of us like that on here...........we all get to take the lumps from time to time. Dull and boring, it's not. But sometimes it hurts pretty badly. Carol A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2003 Report Share Posted April 7, 2003 In a message dated 4/7/2003 2:30:37 PM Central Daylight Time, GRANTWIT@... writes: > Being described as 'eccentric' happens... > that's ok. Better than dull and boring. ---------------------------------------- Oh, there are LOTS of us like that on here...........we all get to take the lumps from time to time. Dull and boring, it's not. But sometimes it hurts pretty badly. Carol A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2003 Report Share Posted April 7, 2003 I've been known to have people misunderstand me. Admittedly, I have an extremely warped sense of humor and will find something funny in almost all situations. For me it has always been a survival thing I guess. Also have noticed that since the wls and renewed self esteem, etc. pretty much what's on the lung is on the tongue with me. Find I speak my mind more often than I did prior to the surgery. Sometimes it's a good thing, other times, well...... Also wanted to share with you. Had a paper due on self esteem for my communications class and it had to be from your own personal experience. Professor told me that if she could have given me anything higer than an A+ she would have. She was so impressed with the paper that she asked my permission to photocopy it and hand it out to the other students in the class. I go to school during the day with the 19 and 20 year old kids and she felt my paper would give them a better perspective of what life is like away from " mommy and daddy's " protective environment. I was extremely flattered and gave her my permission. I was very excited and just wanted to share it with all of you. Thanks. Regina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2003 Report Share Posted April 7, 2003 I've been known to have people misunderstand me. Admittedly, I have an extremely warped sense of humor and will find something funny in almost all situations. For me it has always been a survival thing I guess. Also have noticed that since the wls and renewed self esteem, etc. pretty much what's on the lung is on the tongue with me. Find I speak my mind more often than I did prior to the surgery. Sometimes it's a good thing, other times, well...... Also wanted to share with you. Had a paper due on self esteem for my communications class and it had to be from your own personal experience. Professor told me that if she could have given me anything higer than an A+ she would have. She was so impressed with the paper that she asked my permission to photocopy it and hand it out to the other students in the class. I go to school during the day with the 19 and 20 year old kids and she felt my paper would give them a better perspective of what life is like away from " mommy and daddy's " protective environment. I was extremely flattered and gave her my permission. I was very excited and just wanted to share it with all of you. Thanks. Regina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2003 Report Share Posted April 7, 2003 Regina, Congrats on the recognition you received for your paper. One of the best parts of going to school with young uns for me, was that when I sat in the lunchroom, the young studlies wanted to talk to me. They liked what I had to say. Where were they when I was their age? Fay Bayuk **300/173 10/23/01 Dr. Open RNY 150 cm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2003 Report Share Posted April 7, 2003 Regina, Congrats on the recognition you received for your paper. One of the best parts of going to school with young uns for me, was that when I sat in the lunchroom, the young studlies wanted to talk to me. They liked what I had to say. Where were they when I was their age? Fay Bayuk **300/173 10/23/01 Dr. Open RNY 150 cm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2003 Report Share Posted April 8, 2003 Regina, That is so neat to have your work appreciated. It's funny, when I decided to return to school I was 33. I felt so old. The program I was in had the class move together through the last half of the program. With the exception of 3 students in their early 20's, I was the youngest in the class. The oldest being about 55. It was really rewarding because we became each others support. Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Mon, 07 Apr 2003 23:23:58 -0400 Regina Block writes: > I've been known to have people misunderstand me. Admittedly, I have > an > extremely warped sense of humor and will find something funny in > almost > all situations. For me it has always been a survival thing I guess. > Also > have noticed that since the wls and renewed self esteem, etc. > pretty > much what's on the lung is on the tongue with me. Find I speak my > mind > more often than I did prior to the surgery. Sometimes it's a good > thing, > other times, well...... > > Also wanted to share with you. Had a paper due on self esteem for > my > communications class and it had to be from your own personal > experience. > Professor told me that if she could have given me anything higer > than an > A+ she would have. She was so impressed with the paper that she > asked my > permission to photocopy it and hand it out to the other students in > the > class. I go to school during the day with the 19 and 20 year old > kids > and she felt my paper would give them a better perspective of what > life > is like away from " mommy and daddy's " protective environment. I was > extremely flattered and gave her my permission. I was very excited > and > just wanted to share it with all of you. > > Thanks. > Regina > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2003 Report Share Posted April 8, 2003 Regina, That is so neat to have your work appreciated. It's funny, when I decided to return to school I was 33. I felt so old. The program I was in had the class move together through the last half of the program. With the exception of 3 students in their early 20's, I was the youngest in the class. The oldest being about 55. It was really rewarding because we became each others support. Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Mon, 07 Apr 2003 23:23:58 -0400 Regina Block writes: > I've been known to have people misunderstand me. Admittedly, I have > an > extremely warped sense of humor and will find something funny in > almost > all situations. For me it has always been a survival thing I guess. > Also > have noticed that since the wls and renewed self esteem, etc. > pretty > much what's on the lung is on the tongue with me. Find I speak my > mind > more often than I did prior to the surgery. Sometimes it's a good > thing, > other times, well...... > > Also wanted to share with you. Had a paper due on self esteem for > my > communications class and it had to be from your own personal > experience. > Professor told me that if she could have given me anything higer > than an > A+ she would have. She was so impressed with the paper that she > asked my > permission to photocopy it and hand it out to the other students in > the > class. I go to school during the day with the 19 and 20 year old > kids > and she felt my paper would give them a better perspective of what > life > is like away from " mommy and daddy's " protective environment. I was > extremely flattered and gave her my permission. I was very excited > and > just wanted to share it with all of you. > > Thanks. > Regina > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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