Guest guest Posted January 3, 2004 Report Share Posted January 3, 2004 Joan, I think we have more people in the general area then any of us knew!! And I have to meet since my birthday, and her rebirth day are the same day. I am a control freak also, which I think is part of my depression too. So many things about the surgery and the new way of life are still unknown to me that sometimes it drives me nuts. All I can do is research and learn from everyone here to feel better about the whole thing. It does get better bit by bit though. I feel like this is the only place where I can totally concentrate on it and know that I am not appearing to obsess to anyone. My family is very supportive, but I still want it to be an accepted fact when it gets here and not something they tell me I need to mellow out about. I really enjoyed hearing about your little one's visit. My daughter and 18 month old grandson just left today, after a 3 week visit, so I could really relate what you were going through with her. They are such a joy, but so exhausting!! pre-op 2-5-04 -- RE: Meet , WOW, it would be so fun to meet. Robin and I live very close here in our little podunk town.....but a town we love, beautiful trees and wonderful people in these mountains. on this site, who had surgery on 12/9/03 lives in Merced, also close. , if you see this, I haven't heard from you for awhile. I assume you're probably back teaching, but if you have the time, let us know how you're doing. , it is hard to not get depressed waiting for this surgery. I had to start taking an additional anti-depressant. As soon as I had the date, I realized what had caused it.....the long wait, and uncertainty. The doctor said to stop it then. I think I must really be a control freak at times, and this was so out of my control I didn't know how to deal with it. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/239/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2004 Report Share Posted January 3, 2004 Joan, I think we have more people in the general area then any of us knew!! And I have to meet since my birthday, and her rebirth day are the same day. I am a control freak also, which I think is part of my depression too. So many things about the surgery and the new way of life are still unknown to me that sometimes it drives me nuts. All I can do is research and learn from everyone here to feel better about the whole thing. It does get better bit by bit though. I feel like this is the only place where I can totally concentrate on it and know that I am not appearing to obsess to anyone. My family is very supportive, but I still want it to be an accepted fact when it gets here and not something they tell me I need to mellow out about. I really enjoyed hearing about your little one's visit. My daughter and 18 month old grandson just left today, after a 3 week visit, so I could really relate what you were going through with her. They are such a joy, but so exhausting!! pre-op 2-5-04 -- RE: Meet , WOW, it would be so fun to meet. Robin and I live very close here in our little podunk town.....but a town we love, beautiful trees and wonderful people in these mountains. on this site, who had surgery on 12/9/03 lives in Merced, also close. , if you see this, I haven't heard from you for awhile. I assume you're probably back teaching, but if you have the time, let us know how you're doing. , it is hard to not get depressed waiting for this surgery. I had to start taking an additional anti-depressant. As soon as I had the date, I realized what had caused it.....the long wait, and uncertainty. The doctor said to stop it then. I think I must really be a control freak at times, and this was so out of my control I didn't know how to deal with it. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/239/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2004 Report Share Posted January 3, 2004 , WOW, it would be so fun to meet. Robin and I live very close here in our little podunk town.....but a town we love, beautiful trees and wonderful people in these mountains. on this site, who had surgery on 12/9/03 lives in Merced, also close. , if you see this, I haven't heard from you for awhile. I assume you're probably back teaching, but if you have the time, let us know how you're doing. , it is hard to not get depressed waiting for this surgery. I had to start taking an additional anti-depressant. As soon as I had the date, I realized what had caused it.....the long wait, and uncertainty. The doctor said to stop it then. I think I must really be a control freak at times, and this was so out of my control I didn't know how to deal with it. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/239/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2004 Report Share Posted January 3, 2004 , WOW, it would be so fun to meet. Robin and I live very close here in our little podunk town.....but a town we love, beautiful trees and wonderful people in these mountains. on this site, who had surgery on 12/9/03 lives in Merced, also close. , if you see this, I haven't heard from you for awhile. I assume you're probably back teaching, but if you have the time, let us know how you're doing. , it is hard to not get depressed waiting for this surgery. I had to start taking an additional anti-depressant. As soon as I had the date, I realized what had caused it.....the long wait, and uncertainty. The doctor said to stop it then. I think I must really be a control freak at times, and this was so out of my control I didn't know how to deal with it. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/239/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2004 Report Share Posted January 3, 2004 , thank goodness someone else admits to being a control freak. I'm not generally with other people, but I have to be in control of myself. I remember when I was in my late teens and tried marijuana, that was the end of that. It gave me the feeling of not being in control. Alcohol has the same feeling for me also, and as I've been on so much mediation, I'm glad I don't drink. As you said, " I feel like this is the only place where I can totally concentrate on it and know that I am not appearing to obsess to anyone " . It is absolutely true!!!! So much in common....and grandbabies the same age. Jayci is really pretty good, but without her mom here to stop things, I seem like I'm always running. I think I worry more with her than I did with my own kids. We went out on the driveway during a break in the rain and blew bubbles. She must have chased bubbles for 1/2 hour. But after that she got interested in puddles. I told her no, so she very carefully stepped around a puddle. I was taping it, so as she accidentally put one foot too far in and looked up quickly to see what I though, I was trying so hard to not laugh and keep taping. She took that as proof that it was okay and sat down in the puddle. Usually not a problem, but as she only had one dry pair of pants, and one diaper left, I called her mom and told her to not be too long and bring diapers. Well, as any typical grandma, I could talk about her forever. Been on here entirely too much today. Off to watch some t.v. and crash. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/239/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2004 Report Share Posted January 3, 2004 , thank goodness someone else admits to being a control freak. I'm not generally with other people, but I have to be in control of myself. I remember when I was in my late teens and tried marijuana, that was the end of that. It gave me the feeling of not being in control. Alcohol has the same feeling for me also, and as I've been on so much mediation, I'm glad I don't drink. As you said, " I feel like this is the only place where I can totally concentrate on it and know that I am not appearing to obsess to anyone " . It is absolutely true!!!! So much in common....and grandbabies the same age. Jayci is really pretty good, but without her mom here to stop things, I seem like I'm always running. I think I worry more with her than I did with my own kids. We went out on the driveway during a break in the rain and blew bubbles. She must have chased bubbles for 1/2 hour. But after that she got interested in puddles. I told her no, so she very carefully stepped around a puddle. I was taping it, so as she accidentally put one foot too far in and looked up quickly to see what I though, I was trying so hard to not laugh and keep taping. She took that as proof that it was okay and sat down in the puddle. Usually not a problem, but as she only had one dry pair of pants, and one diaper left, I called her mom and told her to not be too long and bring diapers. Well, as any typical grandma, I could talk about her forever. Been on here entirely too much today. Off to watch some t.v. and crash. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/239/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2004 Report Share Posted January 10, 2004 Just let us know when you're here, and we'll find a place and a time. is in Merced which will be close to you too. And Robin lives a hop, skip and a jump from me. Looking forward to it. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/236/140 Re: chili dEAR jOAN, YES, I WOULD LOVE TO MEET YOU, AND ANYONE ELSE AROUND THAT AREA ALSO. i KNOW LOTS OF PEOPLE WHO HAD THE SURGERY ON nOV 18,iM GREATFUL I DONT HAVE TO MANY PROBS, RIGHT AT FIRST I DID, BUT NOW I JUST GET SOME UPSET TUMMY AND THATS ABOUT IT. i CAN EAT A 1/2 CUP EASY, BUT IM ONLY DOING TWO MEALS, SO FAR. a PROTEIN SHAKE IN THE MORNING AS IM DRIVING TO WORK. i;D LOVE TO HEAR FROM ANY OTHER nOV 18TH PEOPLE TOO. i NEED TO POST MORE IN HERE. (((HUGS TO EVERYONE AND CHIN UP TO THE NEWBIES, IT DOES GET BETTER I PROMISE. iM 8 WEEKS OUT I THINK...AND IM DOING OK. aMANDA IN KS(SOON TO BE cA) 346/281/180? dR. lEWIS pORTER nOV 18TH, 2003 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2004 Report Share Posted January 10, 2004 Just let us know when you're here, and we'll find a place and a time. is in Merced which will be close to you too. And Robin lives a hop, skip and a jump from me. Looking forward to it. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/236/140 Re: chili dEAR jOAN, YES, I WOULD LOVE TO MEET YOU, AND ANYONE ELSE AROUND THAT AREA ALSO. i KNOW LOTS OF PEOPLE WHO HAD THE SURGERY ON nOV 18,iM GREATFUL I DONT HAVE TO MANY PROBS, RIGHT AT FIRST I DID, BUT NOW I JUST GET SOME UPSET TUMMY AND THATS ABOUT IT. i CAN EAT A 1/2 CUP EASY, BUT IM ONLY DOING TWO MEALS, SO FAR. a PROTEIN SHAKE IN THE MORNING AS IM DRIVING TO WORK. i;D LOVE TO HEAR FROM ANY OTHER nOV 18TH PEOPLE TOO. i NEED TO POST MORE IN HERE. (((HUGS TO EVERYONE AND CHIN UP TO THE NEWBIES, IT DOES GET BETTER I PROMISE. iM 8 WEEKS OUT I THINK...AND IM DOING OK. aMANDA IN KS(SOON TO BE cA) 346/281/180? dR. lEWIS pORTER nOV 18TH, 2003 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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