wls patient funeral

[Guest guest]

Man, even though we all now it can happen......it is just horrible

when it does. A friend of my husband and I's lost his sister to WLS

yesterday. Apparently the surgeon " nicked " an artery. She spent a

few days in a coma, came out of it.....then died. I don't know this

womans exact weight and health issues....but I do know that she was

very heavy...if I had to guess I would say in the 500lb range. When

I first met her several years ago she was already not very mobile and

I would say that she was only in her late 30's then. My problem is,

and I could really use some words of wisdom with is......I am scared

to death to go to the wake........isn't that selfish?? She was young

and from a rather well known family here in town....there are going

to be an incredible amount of people there. I am so afraid that the

whole scene is going to be nothing but " bashing " the surgery......are

people who know I had the surgery going to be argumentative towards

me....am I going to be introduced to everybody as a " WLS

person " ......I am just so afraid that I am going to be singled out or

called on the carpet all night to have to defend this. Now don't get

me wrong....I defend this surgery to the hilt.....and am called to do

so often.......but I just don't think that this womans funeral is the

place. Am I being silly or childish or selfish.......I gotta tell

ya....I just don't know if I can go... P.

[Guest guest]

Man, even though we all now it can happen......it is just horrible

when it does. A friend of my husband and I's lost his sister to WLS

yesterday. Apparently the surgeon " nicked " an artery. She spent a

few days in a coma, came out of it.....then died. I don't know this

womans exact weight and health issues....but I do know that she was

very heavy...if I had to guess I would say in the 500lb range. When

I first met her several years ago she was already not very mobile and

I would say that she was only in her late 30's then. My problem is,

and I could really use some words of wisdom with is......I am scared

to death to go to the wake........isn't that selfish?? She was young

and from a rather well known family here in town....there are going

to be an incredible amount of people there. I am so afraid that the

whole scene is going to be nothing but " bashing " the surgery......are

people who know I had the surgery going to be argumentative towards

me....am I going to be introduced to everybody as a " WLS

person " ......I am just so afraid that I am going to be singled out or

called on the carpet all night to have to defend this. Now don't get

me wrong....I defend this surgery to the hilt.....and am called to do

so often.......but I just don't think that this womans funeral is the

place. Am I being silly or childish or selfish.......I gotta tell

ya....I just don't know if I can go... P.