just a thought

[Guest guest]

I had my surgery on 9/29/03 and of course as everyone has, lost a

considerable and noticable amount of weight...my problem(well not a

big problem) deals with people who are overweight(even slightly) that

make comments such as, " I wish I was losing weight like you " or " I am

so fat, I don't know how I am ever going to lose weight " ...the thing

is that although my surgery to this date has been very sucessful, I

don't feel like I should " preach " to anyone, as it was a very mindful

and personal decision. I have one particular person who does this to

me and throughout our lives we have both struggled with weight issues

as we have also tried and failed at many diets together. My best

response so far has been, " well, what do you want to do about your

weight? " She says I want not to be fat, which I am sure we can all

understand. I know that she is scared of the surgery, but is really

unwilling to do anything else. It's like part of me almost feels bad

because I am losing weight and she is not. I think that she is

envious of me and that makes me feel worse, because of course I did

this to live a healthy life and not to flaunt it to anyone, although

I am very proud of myself...(tooting of my own horn). Along with

being proud of myself is a sense of accomplishment, because I have

worked so hard at making this surgery work.

Has anyone else come across an issue such as this? If so, what words

of advice(or whatever) can I say?

Thanks

Hannah

open Rny

9/29/03

288/215/???

[Guest guest]

I had my surgery on 9/29/03 and of course as everyone has, lost a

considerable and noticable amount of weight...my problem(well not a

big problem) deals with people who are overweight(even slightly) that

make comments such as, " I wish I was losing weight like you " or " I am

so fat, I don't know how I am ever going to lose weight " ...the thing

is that although my surgery to this date has been very sucessful, I

don't feel like I should " preach " to anyone, as it was a very mindful

and personal decision. I have one particular person who does this to

me and throughout our lives we have both struggled with weight issues

as we have also tried and failed at many diets together. My best

response so far has been, " well, what do you want to do about your

weight? " She says I want not to be fat, which I am sure we can all

understand. I know that she is scared of the surgery, but is really

unwilling to do anything else. It's like part of me almost feels bad

because I am losing weight and she is not. I think that she is

envious of me and that makes me feel worse, because of course I did

this to live a healthy life and not to flaunt it to anyone, although

I am very proud of myself...(tooting of my own horn). Along with

being proud of myself is a sense of accomplishment, because I have

worked so hard at making this surgery work.

Has anyone else come across an issue such as this? If so, what words

of advice(or whatever) can I say?

Thanks

Hannah

open Rny

9/29/03

288/215/???