Re: Goals and other great lies I have told me (Dan being long again)

[Guest guest]

Dan, as usual, your posts are insightful and beautiful. Regarding

goals, your surgeon is a wise man. I cringe when I see people's

surgeons have given them a goal number. How dare they? Who are they

to say where my body must go in order for me to feel like I've

succeeded. They do their patients a huge disservice at often the

most desparate time of their lives...we, who have all too often felt

like failures that we must resort to being cut open to rid ourselves

of the monster. Sure, I'd love to be in the 140's, and I may yet get

there...unlikely, but I never say never. I've always believed, when

I've done my best, to let the chips fall where they may. That's why,

when I sign my weight with my sig, it reads...

in NJ

306/155/whatever

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> I have never reached my " personal " goal and my surgeon never gave

me one and would not. He just gave me the old " each person has a set

> point " speech. That was not really what I wanted to hear at the

time but it was what I got. In retrospect I suspect that I wanted

him to say " I am gonna make you 157 lbs. " You see, that was my

weight when I joined the Navy at 17 and for some reason, it is my

emotional setpoint.

[Guest guest]

Dan, as usual, your posts are insightful and beautiful. Regarding

goals, your surgeon is a wise man. I cringe when I see people's

surgeons have given them a goal number. How dare they? Who are they

to say where my body must go in order for me to feel like I've

succeeded. They do their patients a huge disservice at often the

most desparate time of their lives...we, who have all too often felt

like failures that we must resort to being cut open to rid ourselves

of the monster. Sure, I'd love to be in the 140's, and I may yet get

there...unlikely, but I never say never. I've always believed, when

I've done my best, to let the chips fall where they may. That's why,

when I sign my weight with my sig, it reads...

in NJ

306/155/whatever

**********************

>>

> I have never reached my " personal " goal and my surgeon never gave

me one and would not. He just gave me the old " each person has a set

> point " speech. That was not really what I wanted to hear at the

time but it was what I got. In retrospect I suspect that I wanted

him to say " I am gonna make you 157 lbs. " You see, that was my

weight when I joined the Navy at 17 and for some reason, it is my

emotional setpoint.

[Guest guest]

Dan,

Excellent post! Thanks for sharing.

Dawn

[Guest guest]

Dan,

Excellent post! Thanks for sharing.

Dawn