comments on Lori/Mandy deal (it's really not about the jell-o, folks)

[Guest guest]

Hello, all,

I just thought I would post a note from a long-time lurker about the

whole Mandy/Lori flap of the last few days.

This wasn't about gelatin anymore. It was about someone basically

being asked to not continue a thread on the board that had already

been recently discussed and that person's responses with what was

perceived to be personal attacks. I have been around here awhile,

and I know that there have been occurrences in the past where things

got out of control in certain discussions. It is the moderator's

job to try to keep these situations in check and keep the entire

group focused on support for the members. Sometimes decisions have

to be made, and just like in any family (read the group name,

people), not everyone will be happy with the decision.

I have NEVER known Lori to do anything hurtful, spiteful, or just

plain mean to anyone in this group. I have never seen her censor a

person or topic without cause. She has largely done a wonderful,

patient, usually thankless job of moderating and managing everyone's

needs to vent, get help, post info, etc. She has never made a

decision rashly or without thought to the goals of the group as laid

down by the founders. I do know she sought out the opinion of at

least one other long-time poster before making her decision (and

probably others as well). We may not know the whole story,and we

probably never will. With that being said, I support the decision

Lori and the other moderators have made.

Remember, this is just one of many support groups around. While it

is basically open to anyone to join, it is still owned and

controlled by a group of individuals who have the right to run the

group the way they see fit. If you disagree, you are just as

welcome to leave as you are to stay. If you choose to leave, good

luck to you. But if you choose to stay, welcome. I have gotten a

huge wealth of info from this site and would personally hate to miss

out on future posts just because my feelings got hurt over a family

spat.

Lori, keep your chin up and keep up the good work. What you do is

incredibly helpful to a lot of people out there, even this ol' fat

Daddy in Arkansas!

Steve G.

open RNY 5/6/02 Dr. Mark Gibbs

605/319/299 or below

P.S.--If anyone takes exception to my comments feel free to e-mail

me privately and flame away!

[Guest guest]

Hello, all,

I just thought I would post a note from a long-time lurker about the

whole Mandy/Lori flap of the last few days.

This wasn't about gelatin anymore. It was about someone basically

being asked to not continue a thread on the board that had already

been recently discussed and that person's responses with what was

perceived to be personal attacks. I have been around here awhile,

and I know that there have been occurrences in the past where things

got out of control in certain discussions. It is the moderator's

job to try to keep these situations in check and keep the entire

group focused on support for the members. Sometimes decisions have

to be made, and just like in any family (read the group name,

people), not everyone will be happy with the decision.

I have NEVER known Lori to do anything hurtful, spiteful, or just

plain mean to anyone in this group. I have never seen her censor a

person or topic without cause. She has largely done a wonderful,

patient, usually thankless job of moderating and managing everyone's

needs to vent, get help, post info, etc. She has never made a

decision rashly or without thought to the goals of the group as laid

down by the founders. I do know she sought out the opinion of at

least one other long-time poster before making her decision (and

probably others as well). We may not know the whole story,and we

probably never will. With that being said, I support the decision

Lori and the other moderators have made.

Remember, this is just one of many support groups around. While it

is basically open to anyone to join, it is still owned and

controlled by a group of individuals who have the right to run the

group the way they see fit. If you disagree, you are just as

welcome to leave as you are to stay. If you choose to leave, good

luck to you. But if you choose to stay, welcome. I have gotten a

huge wealth of info from this site and would personally hate to miss

out on future posts just because my feelings got hurt over a family

spat.

Lori, keep your chin up and keep up the good work. What you do is

incredibly helpful to a lot of people out there, even this ol' fat

Daddy in Arkansas!

Steve G.

open RNY 5/6/02 Dr. Mark Gibbs

605/319/299 or below

P.S.--If anyone takes exception to my comments feel free to e-mail

me privately and flame away!