Re: Just venting - and we're listening

[Guest guest]

Marsha, my goodness, you are one tough lady!

It sounds like you have a lot to handle at once and it's tough to

think of your health first when life is still going on and pulling on

your sleeve. But how exciting to hear about wher eyou are with your

life too!

.....you are going thru some big changes...great new smile and bite in

the works and you sure are trying there with therapy,...deciding that

you deserve more from the person you choose to give your love to-GOOD

FOR YOU, be proud,...and with work and school...I will only say that

things tend to happen for a reason, so good thoughts.

I too came back to workw ith some bad tudes here and was told that

the area of this biz that is my niche is being phased out...so I can

understand the frurstration there, you're doing good for you and yoru

health, and inturn your employer and being penalized for it...I hear

about it all the time as a recruiter, I almost laughed-ironically

after I heard it about me...but unfortunately it's too common, but

again hopefully for a good reason. I am taking this as an oppty to

MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. I am 5 almost 6 wks post-op, finally settling

into me-still pains, poufy esp from talking a lot, but woo-hoo to MY

future, no holding me back and you sound the same.

As to that man...why not ask him to move out? he's more able now-no?

but maybe you would prefer walls with out his memories...do it on

YOUR terms regardless.

and idea!!

....about the heat at PT, there are items that you can purchase for

home that will allow you to microwave them and do home heat therapy,

the head wrap that zip-squeeze sels can be heated too I think, but

you can also message you to help ease those moments some. I think I

have read about self message for Lymphnodes from Fiddle...

I hope your mom comes back soon and meanwhile, cry when you need to,

laugh if you want to and do it all on YOUR terms, you are the most

impt thing you can focus on. And you deserve it! Be strong and when

you're not, we're listening...and WE understand.

Hang in there! JO

> Well here I am 10 weeks post-op, I can barely chew, I'm getting

sick

> of fish and pasta. I am taking 4 to 5 pain pills a day and muscle

> relaxers to sleep. Of course this means I cannot drive and have to

be

> driven everywhere or not take the pills if I have to drive and then

> the pain won't let me focus on driving.

>

> Through exercise and doing everything I've been instructed by my

> doctores I have increased my opening from 12 to 22 MM and seem to

> have plateaud there. The physical therapy doesn't help much but it

is

> relaxing to have the heat and them someone massage my face, though

at

> $20 copay a visit I could have gone to a spa for a week by now with

> what I have paid!

>

> I still have swelling, I can't start back to the ortho. As you can

> tell I am very frustrated.

>

> To top it off I have a long-time live in boyfriend who is pretty

> unsupportive and indifferent ( I think I've mentioned this before),

I

> can be sitting and crying from pain for 10 minutes and he will

> casually look over and say " does it hurt? " . This whole situation

has

> probably been the boost I need to move out, but now that I want to

I

> don't think I am physically or emotionally able to deal with

finding

> an apartment and moving. Just thinking about it exhausts me.

>

> I also found out yesterday that I was passed over for a promotion

> that I really wanted, I'm sure this problem I am going through

> contributed to that decision. I've had to drop one of the 3 classes

I

> signed up for this semester so that means I will probably not get

my

> degree in May and start grad school as I planned.

>

> Oh! and my mother went to burg VA to visit my Aunt for a

> month so I can't even go cry to her.

>

> I see my Dr. again next week I'm not sure what the next step will

be

> we have discussed several.

>

> I don't want you all to think I am on the edge. I am glad I had the

> surgery. I will deal with this and get through it and move out and

> life will go on. I have been through other tough times, there is

not

> much that life can throw at me that will keep me down for long. But

I

> just need to get it all out and off of my chest and I know I have a

> sympathetic ear(s) here.

>

> Thanks for listening

>

> Marsha

[Guest guest]

Marsha, my goodness, you are one tough lady!

It sounds like you have a lot to handle at once and it's tough to

think of your health first when life is still going on and pulling on

your sleeve. But how exciting to hear about wher eyou are with your

life too!

.....you are going thru some big changes...great new smile and bite in

the works and you sure are trying there with therapy,...deciding that

you deserve more from the person you choose to give your love to-GOOD

FOR YOU, be proud,...and with work and school...I will only say that

things tend to happen for a reason, so good thoughts.

I too came back to workw ith some bad tudes here and was told that

the area of this biz that is my niche is being phased out...so I can

understand the frurstration there, you're doing good for you and yoru

health, and inturn your employer and being penalized for it...I hear

about it all the time as a recruiter, I almost laughed-ironically

after I heard it about me...but unfortunately it's too common, but

again hopefully for a good reason. I am taking this as an oppty to

MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. I am 5 almost 6 wks post-op, finally settling

into me-still pains, poufy esp from talking a lot, but woo-hoo to MY

future, no holding me back and you sound the same.

As to that man...why not ask him to move out? he's more able now-no?

but maybe you would prefer walls with out his memories...do it on

YOUR terms regardless.

and idea!!

....about the heat at PT, there are items that you can purchase for

home that will allow you to microwave them and do home heat therapy,

the head wrap that zip-squeeze sels can be heated too I think, but

you can also message you to help ease those moments some. I think I

have read about self message for Lymphnodes from Fiddle...

I hope your mom comes back soon and meanwhile, cry when you need to,

laugh if you want to and do it all on YOUR terms, you are the most

impt thing you can focus on. And you deserve it! Be strong and when

you're not, we're listening...and WE understand.

Hang in there! JO

> Well here I am 10 weeks post-op, I can barely chew, I'm getting

sick

> of fish and pasta. I am taking 4 to 5 pain pills a day and muscle

> relaxers to sleep. Of course this means I cannot drive and have to

be

> driven everywhere or not take the pills if I have to drive and then

> the pain won't let me focus on driving.

>

> Through exercise and doing everything I've been instructed by my

> doctores I have increased my opening from 12 to 22 MM and seem to

> have plateaud there. The physical therapy doesn't help much but it

is

> relaxing to have the heat and them someone massage my face, though

at

> $20 copay a visit I could have gone to a spa for a week by now with

> what I have paid!

>

> I still have swelling, I can't start back to the ortho. As you can

> tell I am very frustrated.

>

> To top it off I have a long-time live in boyfriend who is pretty

> unsupportive and indifferent ( I think I've mentioned this before),

I

> can be sitting and crying from pain for 10 minutes and he will

> casually look over and say " does it hurt? " . This whole situation

has

> probably been the boost I need to move out, but now that I want to

I

> don't think I am physically or emotionally able to deal with

finding

> an apartment and moving. Just thinking about it exhausts me.

>

> I also found out yesterday that I was passed over for a promotion

> that I really wanted, I'm sure this problem I am going through

> contributed to that decision. I've had to drop one of the 3 classes

I

> signed up for this semester so that means I will probably not get

my

> degree in May and start grad school as I planned.

>

> Oh! and my mother went to burg VA to visit my Aunt for a

> month so I can't even go cry to her.

>

> I see my Dr. again next week I'm not sure what the next step will

be

> we have discussed several.

>

> I don't want you all to think I am on the edge. I am glad I had the

> surgery. I will deal with this and get through it and move out and

> life will go on. I have been through other tough times, there is

not

> much that life can throw at me that will keep me down for long. But

I

> just need to get it all out and off of my chest and I know I have a

> sympathetic ear(s) here.

>

> Thanks for listening

>

> Marsha