Re:New Here/Long/Amber Update

[Guest guest]

hey guys! I want to take a minute to thank all of you who responded

to me!!! Sharon, WELL SAID! However, easier said than done!

Today is my 2 year anniversary, so i went and weighed this morning.

184! I'm so FREAKING MAD! i have gone from 178-183 for months, and

now 184!! WHY ME? Granted my period should arrive within the next 3

days or so, but that doesn't make me feel any better. I know i

should be looking at how far i've come and i should be VERY proud of

my accomplishments so far, but today i'm mad! I'm disappointed in

myself and very discouraged...and mentally, i'm not OK! i'm on

depression meds...but i don't think they are helping at all.

Although i should feel so proud and be holding my head so high...i

feel like i've failed.

For months i was intaking 120g of protein a day and no more than 30-

40 carbs...but then, body builders use protein to aid in building

muscle mass, so i thought maybe that was part of the reason i wasn't

losing. so i decreased to 60g. although my Dr. said 40g is fine.

I'm trying to workout 20-30 minutes at least a day when i'm not in

class, but of course that is hard. I've got a LOT on my plate. But i

thought i was doing everything right. of course everyone does

something wrong every once in a while...and i have too, but not to

often. I just feel like i've failed myself...not making my goal that

i've been working so hard to reach. I've set a new goal of 155 by

May 8th (my 22nd b-day)...i'm crossing my fingers and saying my

prayers!

Thank you again guys!

love amber

[Guest guest]

hey guys! I want to take a minute to thank all of you who responded

to me!!! Sharon, WELL SAID! However, easier said than done!

Today is my 2 year anniversary, so i went and weighed this morning.

184! I'm so FREAKING MAD! i have gone from 178-183 for months, and

now 184!! WHY ME? Granted my period should arrive within the next 3

days or so, but that doesn't make me feel any better. I know i

should be looking at how far i've come and i should be VERY proud of

my accomplishments so far, but today i'm mad! I'm disappointed in

myself and very discouraged...and mentally, i'm not OK! i'm on

depression meds...but i don't think they are helping at all.

Although i should feel so proud and be holding my head so high...i

feel like i've failed.

For months i was intaking 120g of protein a day and no more than 30-

40 carbs...but then, body builders use protein to aid in building

muscle mass, so i thought maybe that was part of the reason i wasn't

losing. so i decreased to 60g. although my Dr. said 40g is fine.

I'm trying to workout 20-30 minutes at least a day when i'm not in

class, but of course that is hard. I've got a LOT on my plate. But i

thought i was doing everything right. of course everyone does

something wrong every once in a while...and i have too, but not to

often. I just feel like i've failed myself...not making my goal that

i've been working so hard to reach. I've set a new goal of 155 by

May 8th (my 22nd b-day)...i'm crossing my fingers and saying my

prayers!

Thank you again guys!

love amber

[Guest guest]

IMO your frustration is coming from having unrealistic expectations.

The first clue is that you expect to lose 30 pounds in the next ten

weeks. That seems like an unreasonable goal which will be

unsustainable at a comfortable and healthy way of living. Weight

loss slows down as we near our goals. I personally would be thrilled

with 1-2 pounds a week at this point (probably even less as you near

your goal). To achieve 3 pounds a week, I would have to work out at

least 2 hours a day and eat 1000 calories or less. That it just too

hard and I would give up after a week or so and then not only fail in

achieving my goal, but reinforce my negative self-esteem.

Your head is making an enemy with your body. You need to step back

and take a deep breath and look at your eating and exercise habits.

The goal is to find a level which you can comfortably sustain for the

rest of your life. You need to be realistic about the degree of

effort you can maintain over the long haul. Once you have

established a way of living your head finds acceptable, which you

know in your heart is a good and healthy and MODERATE way to live,

the head noise will lessen. Your body will find its' comfort level

and even if it's not your " ideal " , it is your body's ideal and you

need to accept it. Not with a sense of failure, but with pride in

knowing you live each day well.

I got down to my " goal " weight of 150 lbs.about 15 years ago and I

was absolutely miserable. I was obsessed with food, the scale...the

sheer effort of maintaing that weight consumed every waking moment of

the day. Now I would be thrilled if my body levels out at anything

below 200 lbs. at a place where I can put some effort into it, but

still have a life.

So my advice would be to take an honest look at your current habits,

really take time to assess how much effort you are honestly willing

to make every day for the rest of your life, and then follow that

plan, relax and make friends with your body again.

You may disagree, but that's what we're here for!!

Good luck and don't forget to enjoy the journey!

Vicki A.

> hey guys! I want to take a minute to thank all of you who responded

> to me!!! Sharon, WELL SAID! However, easier said than done!

>

> Today is my 2 year anniversary, so i went and weighed this

morning.

> 184! I'm so FREAKING MAD! i have gone from 178-183 for months, and

> now 184!! WHY ME? Granted my period should arrive within the next 3

> days or so, but that doesn't make me feel any better. I know i

> should be looking at how far i've come and i should be VERY proud

of

> my accomplishments so far, but today i'm mad! I'm disappointed in

> myself and very discouraged...and mentally, i'm not OK! i'm on

> depression meds...but i don't think they are helping at all.

> Although i should feel so proud and be holding my head so high...i

> feel like i've failed.

> For months i was intaking 120g of protein a day and no more than 30-

> 40 carbs...but then, body builders use protein to aid in building

> muscle mass, so i thought maybe that was part of the reason i

wasn't

> losing. so i decreased to 60g. although my Dr. said 40g is fine.

> I'm trying to workout 20-30 minutes at least a day when i'm not in

> class, but of course that is hard. I've got a LOT on my plate. But

i

> thought i was doing everything right. of course everyone does

> something wrong every once in a while...and i have too, but not to

> often. I just feel like i've failed myself...not making my goal

that

> i've been working so hard to reach. I've set a new goal of 155 by

> May 8th (my 22nd b-day)...i'm crossing my fingers and saying my

> prayers!

> Thank you again guys!

> love amber

[Guest guest]

IMO your frustration is coming from having unrealistic expectations.

The first clue is that you expect to lose 30 pounds in the next ten

weeks. That seems like an unreasonable goal which will be

unsustainable at a comfortable and healthy way of living. Weight

loss slows down as we near our goals. I personally would be thrilled

with 1-2 pounds a week at this point (probably even less as you near

your goal). To achieve 3 pounds a week, I would have to work out at

least 2 hours a day and eat 1000 calories or less. That it just too

hard and I would give up after a week or so and then not only fail in

achieving my goal, but reinforce my negative self-esteem.

Your head is making an enemy with your body. You need to step back

and take a deep breath and look at your eating and exercise habits.

The goal is to find a level which you can comfortably sustain for the

rest of your life. You need to be realistic about the degree of

effort you can maintain over the long haul. Once you have

established a way of living your head finds acceptable, which you

know in your heart is a good and healthy and MODERATE way to live,

the head noise will lessen. Your body will find its' comfort level

and even if it's not your " ideal " , it is your body's ideal and you

need to accept it. Not with a sense of failure, but with pride in

knowing you live each day well.

I got down to my " goal " weight of 150 lbs.about 15 years ago and I

was absolutely miserable. I was obsessed with food, the scale...the

sheer effort of maintaing that weight consumed every waking moment of

the day. Now I would be thrilled if my body levels out at anything

below 200 lbs. at a place where I can put some effort into it, but

still have a life.

So my advice would be to take an honest look at your current habits,

really take time to assess how much effort you are honestly willing

to make every day for the rest of your life, and then follow that

plan, relax and make friends with your body again.

You may disagree, but that's what we're here for!!

Good luck and don't forget to enjoy the journey!

Vicki A.

> hey guys! I want to take a minute to thank all of you who responded

> to me!!! Sharon, WELL SAID! However, easier said than done!

>

> Today is my 2 year anniversary, so i went and weighed this

morning.

> 184! I'm so FREAKING MAD! i have gone from 178-183 for months, and

> now 184!! WHY ME? Granted my period should arrive within the next 3

> days or so, but that doesn't make me feel any better. I know i

> should be looking at how far i've come and i should be VERY proud

of

> my accomplishments so far, but today i'm mad! I'm disappointed in

> myself and very discouraged...and mentally, i'm not OK! i'm on

> depression meds...but i don't think they are helping at all.

> Although i should feel so proud and be holding my head so high...i

> feel like i've failed.

> For months i was intaking 120g of protein a day and no more than 30-

> 40 carbs...but then, body builders use protein to aid in building

> muscle mass, so i thought maybe that was part of the reason i

wasn't

> losing. so i decreased to 60g. although my Dr. said 40g is fine.

> I'm trying to workout 20-30 minutes at least a day when i'm not in

> class, but of course that is hard. I've got a LOT on my plate. But

i

> thought i was doing everything right. of course everyone does

> something wrong every once in a while...and i have too, but not to

> often. I just feel like i've failed myself...not making my goal

that

> i've been working so hard to reach. I've set a new goal of 155 by

> May 8th (my 22nd b-day)...i'm crossing my fingers and saying my

> prayers!

> Thank you again guys!

> love amber