Guest guest Posted October 31, 2001 Report Share Posted October 31, 2001 Hi : Cath here. So sorry to hear of your daughter's latest court problems. Just keep having her give it to God to take care of and arm herself with as much info as possible. Does she have the capabilities of knowing what he owns? Can she get his license # or bank accounts. Can attorney supeona his bank records. Alot of times they change things into other people's name etc to hide money. Does he own jet skis, boat etc. Also try to get license for those if he does. There are paper trials they leave with this and it can be used against them in court. Check and see if he got his tax refund. It really should go directly to her. See if her attorney can find out. Find out how much his rent is and how he is paying it if he is so hurt and has no money. Even workman's comp gets some money and they should at least decrease his payment. I have a friend who just went through this and the guy works under the table and she got him by doing all these things through her attorney. State childcare program should help if times are too tough, but know that is often degrading, but my friend ended up with $100,000 payment and he signed away his rights. (She was thrilled) I know your daughter's ex probably won't do that, but at least get him on the run and let him know he's being watched. I know how hard it is and will pray God brings things to justice as he does sooner or later. I just got hit by school calling HRS on Caitlin's dad since her behavior has changed so much since I couldn't afford to send her to the private school anymore and she is at the school at the same place he works. They don't think he is actually touching her, but the emotional issues are terrible. I am working so hard to keep her in line and he just undoes all of it. It isn't intentional for the most part, just self on his part, but non the less very hard on her. HRS states they can't do anything until he actually does something and actually apologized to me in my family room 2 weeks ago for not being able to help more because they can tell he treats her more emotionally like a girlfriend than a daughter. I could just cry at times so I know somewhat of the frustration she is going through. Ask her to have God send her an Angel to watch over her and help guide her in wisdom to find the information she needs to support her case. God provided me with Caitlin's teacher and a PHD school guidance counselor who are 100% on my side and fighting as hard as they can for me. Maybe also see if she can find it in her heart to ask God to let her husband see that this will only hurt the children and disrupt their lives. God is always watching and feels our pain and will do everything he can to help. Meanwhile, we just have to continue to believe God loves us and our children and will get us through this. It really is hard, but as we all know, it may not be on my time schedule, but he has met every difficult challenge in my life with a blessing that is far greater than I could have ever imagined. Hope this helps a little and know I'm sending lots of prayers and Angels your way to help gather the strength and knowledge to keep fighting and let God fight her battle. Love ya, Cath hcf wrote: > Oh Sweetie, how I hurt for you. Wish there was something I could do. > > Remember you and yours are in mom's prayers. There is NO justice in > court > so much of the time. I think Cathy C. is a good example that God will > bring > justice, tho. Love you much. Mom > Update on 's exciting life. > > > >Hi all. I must apologize for not answering all of the mail... > Haven't been > >on line much lately. Stanford has set me up with a zillion appts. > That is > a > >good thing. but most of them start the friday before Thanksgiving > and got > >til the following Tuesday.Then it's 4 hours on Thanksgiving to Rich's > > parents > >house. ( did I say I had to bring the dinner LOL ) > > > >Had to chuck the hormone patch.... tried it again and was so > nauseated i > >couldn't get out of bed.. so.... now back to taking just my usual > dose of > >estrogen and will see the gyn next Tues. Still having the wonderful > hot > >flashes. LOl > > > > went to the dr today, and they are going to do a laproscopy > on > her.. > >They THINK that she has endometriosis that has spread to her > intestines and > >bladder. Wont know til they get in there. They are going through > the > usual > >places but will also go through both of her sides so they can see the > > bladder > >and intestines.. She is so scared and still in pain.. Please say a > little > >prayer for her.. Don't know when it will be done. > > > > went to court today. He ex took her back and claimed > hardship... > He > >hasn't worked since March and is filing a fraudulant workmans comp. > So > .... > >the DA dropped all orders of child support... They are going to help > him on > >his resume and interviewing skills....UGHHH!! She has never been on > any > >assistance and went today to see if she qualified... They told her > they had > >to have an order for child support to pay her anything... She is > going to > go > >back next week and fight it out with them... She will either have to > move > to > >a one bedroom apt or move back home... Wish I could put her ex and > some drs > >in the same room and...... well you know. LOL > > > >Sorry for venting, just had to get some stress of my chest (nothing > else > >there to get off, maybe I should just leave it there LOL ) > > > >I will try to get back on line soon... Haven't seen a post from > Lu... Is > she > >okay??? > > > >I'm praying for Coralie, Carol, Ann, Lucy, , Sandy... oh the > list > could > >go on forever... just know that you are all in my prayers... Good > thing I > >don't sleep at night, I have time to include all of you... > > > >Hope you all have a nice weekend... I'm thinking of you all. > > > >hugs > > > > > > > >DISCLAIMER!! > >WE ARE NOT MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS, THEREFORE ANY INFORMATION THAT IS > RECEIVED HERE IS FROM EXPERIENCE ONLY. PLEASE CONSULT WITH YOUR DOCTOR > > BEFORE TRYING ANYTHING THAT IS SUGGESTED. WE ARE NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR > YOUR > PHYSICIAN AND ARE NOT TRYING TO BE. REMEMBER EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT AND > > TREATMENT MAYBE DIFFERENT FOR MANY OF US. THANK YOU > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 31, 2001 Report Share Posted October 31, 2001 Hi : Cath here. So sorry to hear of your daughter's latest court problems. Just keep having her give it to God to take care of and arm herself with as much info as possible. Does she have the capabilities of knowing what he owns? Can she get his license # or bank accounts. Can attorney supeona his bank records. Alot of times they change things into other people's name etc to hide money. Does he own jet skis, boat etc. Also try to get license for those if he does. There are paper trials they leave with this and it can be used against them in court. Check and see if he got his tax refund. It really should go directly to her. See if her attorney can find out. Find out how much his rent is and how he is paying it if he is so hurt and has no money. Even workman's comp gets some money and they should at least decrease his payment. I have a friend who just went through this and the guy works under the table and she got him by doing all these things through her attorney. State childcare program should help if times are too tough, but know that is often degrading, but my friend ended up with $100,000 payment and he signed away his rights. (She was thrilled) I know your daughter's ex probably won't do that, but at least get him on the run and let him know he's being watched. I know how hard it is and will pray God brings things to justice as he does sooner or later. I just got hit by school calling HRS on Caitlin's dad since her behavior has changed so much since I couldn't afford to send her to the private school anymore and she is at the school at the same place he works. They don't think he is actually touching her, but the emotional issues are terrible. I am working so hard to keep her in line and he just undoes all of it. It isn't intentional for the most part, just self on his part, but non the less very hard on her. HRS states they can't do anything until he actually does something and actually apologized to me in my family room 2 weeks ago for not being able to help more because they can tell he treats her more emotionally like a girlfriend than a daughter. I could just cry at times so I know somewhat of the frustration she is going through. Ask her to have God send her an Angel to watch over her and help guide her in wisdom to find the information she needs to support her case. God provided me with Caitlin's teacher and a PHD school guidance counselor who are 100% on my side and fighting as hard as they can for me. Maybe also see if she can find it in her heart to ask God to let her husband see that this will only hurt the children and disrupt their lives. God is always watching and feels our pain and will do everything he can to help. Meanwhile, we just have to continue to believe God loves us and our children and will get us through this. It really is hard, but as we all know, it may not be on my time schedule, but he has met every difficult challenge in my life with a blessing that is far greater than I could have ever imagined. Hope this helps a little and know I'm sending lots of prayers and Angels your way to help gather the strength and knowledge to keep fighting and let God fight her battle. Love ya, Cath hcf wrote: > Oh Sweetie, how I hurt for you. Wish there was something I could do. > > Remember you and yours are in mom's prayers. There is NO justice in > court > so much of the time. I think Cathy C. is a good example that God will > bring > justice, tho. Love you much. Mom > Update on 's exciting life. > > > >Hi all. I must apologize for not answering all of the mail... > Haven't been > >on line much lately. Stanford has set me up with a zillion appts. > That is > a > >good thing. but most of them start the friday before Thanksgiving > and got > >til the following Tuesday.Then it's 4 hours on Thanksgiving to Rich's > > parents > >house. ( did I say I had to bring the dinner LOL ) > > > >Had to chuck the hormone patch.... tried it again and was so > nauseated i > >couldn't get out of bed.. so.... now back to taking just my usual > dose of > >estrogen and will see the gyn next Tues. Still having the wonderful > hot > >flashes. LOl > > > > went to the dr today, and they are going to do a laproscopy > on > her.. > >They THINK that she has endometriosis that has spread to her > intestines and > >bladder. Wont know til they get in there. They are going through > the > usual > >places but will also go through both of her sides so they can see the > > bladder > >and intestines.. She is so scared and still in pain.. Please say a > little > >prayer for her.. Don't know when it will be done. > > > > went to court today. He ex took her back and claimed > hardship... > He > >hasn't worked since March and is filing a fraudulant workmans comp. > So > .... > >the DA dropped all orders of child support... They are going to help > him on > >his resume and interviewing skills....UGHHH!! She has never been on > any > >assistance and went today to see if she qualified... They told her > they had > >to have an order for child support to pay her anything... She is > going to > go > >back next week and fight it out with them... She will either have to > move > to > >a one bedroom apt or move back home... Wish I could put her ex and > some drs > >in the same room and...... well you know. LOL > > > >Sorry for venting, just had to get some stress of my chest (nothing > else > >there to get off, maybe I should just leave it there LOL ) > > > >I will try to get back on line soon... Haven't seen a post from > Lu... Is > she > >okay??? > > > >I'm praying for Coralie, Carol, Ann, Lucy, , Sandy... oh the > list > could > >go on forever... just know that you are all in my prayers... Good > thing I > >don't sleep at night, I have time to include all of you... > > > >Hope you all have a nice weekend... I'm thinking of you all. > > > >hugs > > > > > > > >DISCLAIMER!! > >WE ARE NOT MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS, THEREFORE ANY INFORMATION THAT IS > RECEIVED HERE IS FROM EXPERIENCE ONLY. PLEASE CONSULT WITH YOUR DOCTOR > > BEFORE TRYING ANYTHING THAT IS SUGGESTED. WE ARE NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR > YOUR > PHYSICIAN AND ARE NOT TRYING TO BE. REMEMBER EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT AND > > TREATMENT MAYBE DIFFERENT FOR MANY OF US. THANK YOU > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 31, 2001 Report Share Posted October 31, 2001 In a message dated 10/31/01 3:09:07 AM Pacific Standard Time, CATH2000@... writes: << Hope this helps a little and know I'm sending lots of prayers and Angels your way to help gather the strength and knowledge to keep fighting and let God fight her battle. >> Cath, thanks for the post. I printed it off and gave it to ... She is very thankful to you and I am too. It is always great to know you have someone who understands. As far as her ex having anything, he doesn't. No car, license (DUI).. nothing... He lives with his parents and pays no rent.... He has no expenses.. Great guy huh? Doesn't even have a job and if he does it is under the table. We are playing private detective and trying to catch him at these things... nothing so far. He is VERY smart. He also abuses and Makeila emotionally. Always has.. She is in the same position as you... What she does... he un does. Thanks for the post.. She prays every night and asks God to let her ex see what he is doing and maybe bring some love into his heart..We will continue to trust Him and know that things will work out right. Thank you for your prayers and Angels... Know that we are keeping you and Caitlin in ours too. many hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 31, 2001 Report Share Posted October 31, 2001 In a message dated 10/31/01 3:09:07 AM Pacific Standard Time, CATH2000@... writes: << Hope this helps a little and know I'm sending lots of prayers and Angels your way to help gather the strength and knowledge to keep fighting and let God fight her battle. >> Cath, thanks for the post. I printed it off and gave it to ... She is very thankful to you and I am too. It is always great to know you have someone who understands. As far as her ex having anything, he doesn't. No car, license (DUI).. nothing... He lives with his parents and pays no rent.... He has no expenses.. Great guy huh? Doesn't even have a job and if he does it is under the table. We are playing private detective and trying to catch him at these things... nothing so far. He is VERY smart. He also abuses and Makeila emotionally. Always has.. She is in the same position as you... What she does... he un does. Thanks for the post.. She prays every night and asks God to let her ex see what he is doing and maybe bring some love into his heart..We will continue to trust Him and know that things will work out right. Thank you for your prayers and Angels... Know that we are keeping you and Caitlin in ours too. many hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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