Why I said I'd never discuss my surgery.....

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Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my God,

you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not

healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could. By

this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to health,

happiness and hopefully a long long life!

[Guest guest]

Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my God,

you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not

healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could. By

this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to health,

happiness and hopefully a long long life!

[Guest guest]

Oh, those poor uneducated fools... You GO Sue!

Ron

Why I said I'd never discuss my surgery.....

Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my God, you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could. By this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to health, happiness and hopefully a long long life!

[Guest guest]

Oh, those poor uneducated fools... You GO Sue!

Ron

Why I said I'd never discuss my surgery.....

Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my God, you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could. By this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to health, happiness and hopefully a long long life!

[Guest guest]

Hi Sue-

In case i dont get a chance to wish you well next week, i would like to do that now. Its weird how some people react to this surgery but just remember in this case IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU !

You are doing what you feel is best for you and thats enough. I have one woman at work who keeps saying you look thinner Colleen you are disapearing before our eyes..................she

keeps asking me how much more weight i am going to lose, i just say i am so many pounds from goal.....................right now i am 16 pounds from my goal................................and i just tell her that.........................most people i think you will find our positive for you and on your side............some people think it is the easy way out and they are SO WRONG................... This is a total life altering change, and i think you are very brave and admire your willpower to change your life......................best thoughts are with you .

Keep your sunnyside up !

Colleensue mendez wrote:

Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my God, you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could. By this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to health, happiness and hopefully a long long life!

Colleen

[Guest guest]

Hi Sue-

In case i dont get a chance to wish you well next week, i would like to do that now. Its weird how some people react to this surgery but just remember in this case IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU !

You are doing what you feel is best for you and thats enough. I have one woman at work who keeps saying you look thinner Colleen you are disapearing before our eyes..................she

keeps asking me how much more weight i am going to lose, i just say i am so many pounds from goal.....................right now i am 16 pounds from my goal................................and i just tell her that.........................most people i think you will find our positive for you and on your side............some people think it is the easy way out and they are SO WRONG................... This is a total life altering change, and i think you are very brave and admire your willpower to change your life......................best thoughts are with you .

Keep your sunnyside up !

Colleensue mendez wrote:

Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my God, you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could. By this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to health, happiness and hopefully a long long life!

Colleen

[Guest guest]

You know Sue, I requested leave so I could have the surgery too and so I had to tell my supervisor. And so he told other people and so on and so on... Well, people had their 2 cents to offer which isn't anything to me. One woman even told me that I was doing the weak way. Which I responded, that I was quite strong to endure a major surgery. I have lost 62 lbs since my surgery. I went from a 26 to an 18/20. I was at a PTA meeting and that same woman came over to sit with me. Several PTA members were complimenting me on my weight loss and she announced that I had "The Surgery". I said, "Yes, I did and I am so happy that I made the right choice." I did a twirl and asked, "Don't ya'll think I look great?" at which time, several members agreed with smiles. I sat down and that lady was going to sit down and I gritted my teeth and said, "Don't

sit there. Sit somewhere else or I will go off on you publically." She quietly stood up and played it off. She sat somewhere else. My friend told me that I was being mean. I told her that I didn't wish to have my space and my happiness compromised. I can do that. When I was bigger, I felt that I had to be the nice woman and my confidence was low. I wouldn't have stood up for myself 62 pounds ago. Today, I will stand up. I don't wish for people to step all over me. I am a very personable person and I don't like confrontation but I just hate to hear people give me their weightloss advice. Especially when they are not overweight. I cut my hair and I am wearing new clothes (bought a few), even bought me some jewelry in Belgium. I bought a van too. I feel so good about me and I dont know why I waited 2 years to make the decision. I

guess I was afraid of the change but I am not anymore. I am only 39 and I began to look 50. That is a shame. Sue, don't allow anyone to make you feel bad about you. Be strong and have faith that all will be great for you. I will have to post pictures soon. I am almost at a point where I can run again. Life is grand. Take care. Junior

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You know Sue, I requested leave so I could have the surgery too and so I had to tell my supervisor. And so he told other people and so on and so on... Well, people had their 2 cents to offer which isn't anything to me. One woman even told me that I was doing the weak way. Which I responded, that I was quite strong to endure a major surgery. I have lost 62 lbs since my surgery. I went from a 26 to an 18/20. I was at a PTA meeting and that same woman came over to sit with me. Several PTA members were complimenting me on my weight loss and she announced that I had "The Surgery". I said, "Yes, I did and I am so happy that I made the right choice." I did a twirl and asked, "Don't ya'll think I look great?" at which time, several members agreed with smiles. I sat down and that lady was going to sit down and I gritted my teeth and said, "Don't

sit there. Sit somewhere else or I will go off on you publically." She quietly stood up and played it off. She sat somewhere else. My friend told me that I was being mean. I told her that I didn't wish to have my space and my happiness compromised. I can do that. When I was bigger, I felt that I had to be the nice woman and my confidence was low. I wouldn't have stood up for myself 62 pounds ago. Today, I will stand up. I don't wish for people to step all over me. I am a very personable person and I don't like confrontation but I just hate to hear people give me their weightloss advice. Especially when they are not overweight. I cut my hair and I am wearing new clothes (bought a few), even bought me some jewelry in Belgium. I bought a van too. I feel so good about me and I dont know why I waited 2 years to make the decision. I

guess I was afraid of the change but I am not anymore. I am only 39 and I began to look 50. That is a shame. Sue, don't allow anyone to make you feel bad about you. Be strong and have faith that all will be great for you. I will have to post pictures soon. I am almost at a point where I can run again. Life is grand. Take care. Junior

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I fully understand where you are coming from. I wasn't even going to

tell my mother and my sister because I knew what they were going

tosay. But I finally did and I just told them I had my mind made up

and no one was going to change it. There is one person I did not tell

and that was my best girl friend. I still don't plan on telling her

until it's done.

>

> Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my

God,

> you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not

> healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could.

By

> this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to

health,

> happiness and hopefully a long long life!

>

[Guest guest]

I fully understand where you are coming from. I wasn't even going to

tell my mother and my sister because I knew what they were going

tosay. But I finally did and I just told them I had my mind made up

and no one was going to change it. There is one person I did not tell

and that was my best girl friend. I still don't plan on telling her

until it's done.

>

> Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my

God,

> you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not

> healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could.

By

> this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to

health,

> happiness and hopefully a long long life!

>

[Guest guest]

Congrats Sue on your choice to have this surgery. You

have to make decisions that work for your life and not

for anyone else and I am proud of you. A lot of

people's responses regarding this surgery are two part

and in some cases three part. First, ignorance and

fear drives people so don't expect much from people

that have not educated themselves about the surgery.

Second, if they are over weight, they might feel like

they will lose the relationship with you and third,

jealousy.

I wish you well and I can't wait to read the post that

says that you are on the other side. Again, congrats

and I wish you well!

Pam Marsh

--- sue mendez wrote:

> Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her

> response? Oh my God,

> you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try

> harder? It's not

> healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as

> soon as I could. By

> this time next week, I'll be on the other side and

> on my way to health,

> happiness and hopefully a long long life!

>

>

>

>

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Congrats Sue on your choice to have this surgery. You

have to make decisions that work for your life and not

for anyone else and I am proud of you. A lot of

people's responses regarding this surgery are two part

and in some cases three part. First, ignorance and

fear drives people so don't expect much from people

that have not educated themselves about the surgery.

Second, if they are over weight, they might feel like

they will lose the relationship with you and third,

jealousy.

I wish you well and I can't wait to read the post that

says that you are on the other side. Again, congrats

and I wish you well!

Pam Marsh

--- sue mendez wrote:

> Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her

> response? Oh my God,

> you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try

> harder? It's not

> healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as

> soon as I could. By

> this time next week, I'll be on the other side and

> on my way to health,

> happiness and hopefully a long long life!

>

>

>

>

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Sue Yes you will be healthier, happier and live longer, and you might get a lot more of these responses as it gets closer. People get scared for you or jealous and react sometimes in strange ways, and don't even really realize how they make you feel. You take care. Donnasue mendez wrote: Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my God, you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could. By this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to health, happiness and hopefully a long long life! Donna JordonDSJordon@...

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Sue Yes you will be healthier, happier and live longer, and you might get a lot more of these responses as it gets closer. People get scared for you or jealous and react sometimes in strange ways, and don't even really realize how they make you feel. You take care. Donnasue mendez wrote: Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my God, you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could. By this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to health, happiness and hopefully a long long life! Donna JordonDSJordon@...

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I'm slooowly telling some people close to me about the surgery - my

sister and one brother, a couple of close friends, etc. My husband,

of course. There are some other folks that I'll tell when I'm past

orientation and really moving along in the process.

But I haven't told my mother yet, and I may not till I get much

further along in the process - not because she'd be negative about it

but because she'll get TOO concerned, and TOO involved - if I'm

delayed in losing my 10% she'll keep bringing it up, etc. I know it's

ridiculous - I'm nearly fifty, fer cryin' out loud! - but what I'm

afraid of happening if I tell her is that she'll start treating me

like a kid again, worrying over me and trying to second-guess my

decisions with " Have you thought about. . . ? " and " What if. . . ? "

and " Why don't you. . .? " And I just don't need that. I love her, I

know she's worried about my health and my weight, and she's actually

passed me articles about WLS - but somehow her concern and care for

me in this area is just too much to handle emotionally. It's like

this is MY issue, MY problem, and MY solution that I have to face.

Does that make sense?

I can't NOT tell her, especially since I want to tell my siblings (I

still have two brothers to tell who don't know yet). It's not fair

to them or to her. But I'm dreading it. . .

Cathy C.

> >

> > Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh

my

> God,

> > you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not

> > healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I

could.

> By

> > this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to

> health,

> > happiness and hopefully a long long life!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I'm slooowly telling some people close to me about the surgery - my

sister and one brother, a couple of close friends, etc. My husband,

of course. There are some other folks that I'll tell when I'm past

orientation and really moving along in the process.

But I haven't told my mother yet, and I may not till I get much

further along in the process - not because she'd be negative about it

but because she'll get TOO concerned, and TOO involved - if I'm

delayed in losing my 10% she'll keep bringing it up, etc. I know it's

ridiculous - I'm nearly fifty, fer cryin' out loud! - but what I'm

afraid of happening if I tell her is that she'll start treating me

like a kid again, worrying over me and trying to second-guess my

decisions with " Have you thought about. . . ? " and " What if. . . ? "

and " Why don't you. . .? " And I just don't need that. I love her, I

know she's worried about my health and my weight, and she's actually

passed me articles about WLS - but somehow her concern and care for

me in this area is just too much to handle emotionally. It's like

this is MY issue, MY problem, and MY solution that I have to face.

Does that make sense?

I can't NOT tell her, especially since I want to tell my siblings (I

still have two brothers to tell who don't know yet). It's not fair

to them or to her. But I'm dreading it. . .

Cathy C.

> >

> > Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh

my

> God,

> > you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not

> > healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I

could.

> By

> > this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to

> health,

> > happiness and hopefully a long long life!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

>

> Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my

God,

> you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not

> healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could.

By

> this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to

health,

> happiness and hopefully a long long life!

>

that makes me mad!!!! People are so rude....good luck, dama

[Guest guest]

>

> Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my

God,

> you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not

> healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could.

By

> this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to

health,

> happiness and hopefully a long long life!

>

that makes me mad!!!! People are so rude....good luck, dama

[Guest guest]

And that is why I am not telling anyone at work. I feel this is my

choice and the closer I get the more exceited I get and it's not easy

to not tell the word. They will all know soome enough. Best of luch

next week. I'll be praying for you.

Peggy

> >

> > Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my

> God,

> > you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not

> > healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could.

> By

> > this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to

> health,

> > happiness and hopefully a long long life!

> >

> that makes me mad!!!! People are so rude....good luck, dama

>

[Guest guest]

And that is why I am not telling anyone at work. I feel this is my

choice and the closer I get the more exceited I get and it's not easy

to not tell the word. They will all know soome enough. Best of luch

next week. I'll be praying for you.

Peggy

> >

> > Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my

> God,

> > you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not

> > healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could.

> By

> > this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to

> health,

> > happiness and hopefully a long long life!

> >

> that makes me mad!!!! People are so rude....good luck, dama

>

[Guest guest]

Junior I think a lot of people let themselves get stomped on, then when they begin to feel better about themselves and don't have to put up with this any more. It is good to not let people stomp your boundaries. I've gone to a couples communication class with my husband, also he was sent to Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) which is for mentally ill people, my husband gets severe depression at times and then he would say mean things and was pushing us apart. In the IOP he learned about boundaries, not only having people not stomp his boundaries, and not to stomp others. It made him realize he was stomping mine so bad through the years of me being over weight and I let him. Then I started sticking up for myself after WLS and we were getting further apart. After these classes he has came out of his depression and treats me with so much respect it is wonderful. So it's good for you to respect yourself and hopefully,

people will do the same for you, if not you need to speak up. You've done really good. Take care. Donna Junior wrote: You know Sue, I requested leave so I could have the surgery too and so I had to tell my supervisor. And so he told other people and so on and so on... Well, people had their 2 cents to offer which isn't anything to me. One woman even told me that I was doing the weak way. Which I responded, that I was quite strong to endure a major surgery. I have lost 62 lbs since my surgery. I went from a 26 to an 18/20. I was at a PTA meeting and that same woman came over to sit with me. Several PTA members were complimenting me on my weight loss and she announced that I had "The Surgery".

I said, "Yes, I did and I am so happy that I made the right choice." I did a twirl and asked, "Don't ya'll think I look great?" at which time, several members agreed with smiles. I sat down and that lady was going to sit down and I gritted my teeth and said, "Don't sit there. Sit somewhere else or I will go off on you publically." She quietly stood up and played it off. She sat somewhere else. My friend told me that I was being mean. I told her that I didn't wish to have my space and my happiness compromised. I can do that. When I was bigger, I felt that I had to be the nice woman and my confidence was low. I wouldn't have stood up for myself 62 pounds ago. Today, I will stand up. I don't wish for people to step all over me. I am a very personable person and I don't like confrontation but I just hate to hear people give me their weightloss

advice. Especially when they are not overweight. I cut my hair and I am wearing new clothes (bought a few), even bought me some jewelry in Belgium. I bought a van too. I feel so good about me and I dont know why I waited 2 years to make the decision. I guess I was afraid of the change but I am not anymore. I am only 39 and I began to look 50. That is a shame. Sue, don't allow anyone to make you feel bad about you. Be strong and have faith that all will be great for you. I will have to post pictures soon. I am almost at a point where I can run again. Life is grand. Take care. Junior Yahoo! Music Unlimited - Access over 1 million songs. Try it free.

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Cathy This totally makes sense. I was 49 when I had my WLS, but I waited until I was a month away from surgery before I told my mother and am so thankful I did. She didn't mean any thing wrong she was just worried and every time I saw her all she could say with tears in her eyes are you sure you need to do this. It made it so hard to go see her. I told many people that I knew who I could talk to have support by, and many not until surgery date was set. There's nothing wrong with this, follow your heart so you feel good going through this process. Take care. DonnaCathy wrote: I'm slooowly telling some people close to me about the surgery - my sister and one brother, a couple of close friends, etc. My husband, of course. There are some other folks

that I'll tell when I'm past orientation and really moving along in the process.But I haven't told my mother yet, and I may not till I get much further along in the process - not because she'd be negative about it but because she'll get TOO concerned, and TOO involved - if I'm delayed in losing my 10% she'll keep bringing it up, etc. I know it's ridiculous - I'm nearly fifty, fer cryin' out loud! - but what I'm afraid of happening if I tell her is that she'll start treating me like a kid again, worrying over me and trying to second-guess my decisions with "Have you thought about. . . ?" and "What if. . . ?" and "Why don't you. . .?" And I just don't need that. I love her, I know she's worried about my health and my weight, and she's actually passed me articles about WLS - but somehow her concern and care for me in this area is just too much to handle emotionally. It's like this is MY issue, MY problem, and MY solution

that I have to face. Does that make sense? I can't NOT tell her, especially since I want to tell my siblings (I still have two brothers to tell who don't know yet). It's not fair to them or to her. But I'm dreading it. . . Cathy C.> >> > Jeez, Today I told a friend about my surgery...her response? Oh my > God, > > you're gonna get skinny! Why don't you just try harder? It's not > > healthy....blah, blah, blah..... well I hung up as soon as I could. > By > > this time next week, I'll be on the other side and on my way to > health, > > happiness and hopefully a long long life!> >> Donna JordonDSJordon@...

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[Guest guest]

That's *exactly* what I mean - I'm 49 now, so my mom's probably in the

same age bracket as yours, and I do plan to tell her but not now. I

have other people who can give me the support I need right now, and

I'll let her know closer to the surgery itself.

Cathy

>

> Cathy

> This totally makes sense. I was 49 when I had my WLS, but I

waited until I was a month away from surgery before I told my mother

and am so thankful I did. She didn't mean any thing wrong she was

just worried and every time I saw her all she could say with tears in

her eyes are you sure you need to do this. It made it so hard to go

see her. I told many people that I knew who I could talk to have

support by, and many not until surgery date was set. There's nothing

wrong with this, follow your heart so you feel good going through this

process. Take care. Donna