Re: Re: OA's opinion of Obesity Surgery

July 31, 2001

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Do you participate in a OA group? Are pre oe post op?....K.C.

Re: OA's opinion of Obesity Surgery

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> Fortunately, GOD is not as judgemental as some of his children. And

> If I remember correctly most of the 12 steps were about God and your

> relationship with him and others in your life.

>

> I plan to get the surgey and work the 12 steps if I am not accepted I

> will be glad that the surgery will prevent the emotional eating binge

> that rejection would have caused. That's not the easy way out it's

> the smart way out. My future is now under my control and not the

> control of the Judgement twins. Do what is best for you, the only

> acceptance that is required is the acceptance of God and your family.

>

> karon

>

> > I posted an email to and online OA group that I am a member of. I

> attend a

> > OA group locally and I have been afraid to raise the subject for

> fear of the

> > reaction I would receive. So I tried it out on an on-line OA list

> I am a

> > member of. I asked for honest feedback because I wanted to get a

> feel for

> > the reaction I might get in a face to face meeting locally. Well,

> I tell

> > ya, I didn't like the reception I got. My feelings were terribly

> hurt. I

> > asked for honesty and BLAM did I get it.

> >

> > Several people responded by saying that I should not discuss this

> sort of

> > thing on an OA list. One lady said I was breaking the " traditions "

> of OA by

> > doing so. One said that I was trying to take the easy way out and

> that the

> > way to thinness is through the OA program. A couple of people

> admitted that

> > they have considered/are considering surgery. Then the moderator

> posted a

> > post saying among other things:

> >

> > " We are not a group on obesity, except as it may

> > relate to our feelings. As a group,we do not

> > focus on cures for obesity. We have experience

> > that if the compulsion is taken away, the obesity

> > will no longer be a problem. "

> >

> > Then I was asked to drop the discussion. Obviously I will drop

> it. In

> > fact, I may unsubscribe. So, now I need to vent and get feedback

> here as I

> > obviously cannot continue the conversation there.

> >

> > I know I asked for honesty, but I wasn't prepared to basically be

> told to be

> > quiet and stop talking non-sense. Or be told that " obesity will no

> longer be

> > a problem if I get rid of the compulsions " through OA. If I could

> have done

> > that I would have done that by now!!! I have been overweight and

> steadily

> > gaining for YEARS now. I've gained 45 pounds in the past 2 years

> and that's

> > while attending both OA and EDA. Maybe I do eat some things that I

> > shouldn't, but does that mean that I am not " doing things right " ?!

> Many

> > skinny people eat more than I do! I've seen it. There are people

> who can

> > eat all day long and not gain a pound.

> >

> > I have been near tears over this. The first few negative remarks

> this

> > morning got me a bit upset, but this post from the moderator I just

> got

> > really threw me over the edge. I should have known better than to

> ask for

> > feedback about WLS from an OA list.

> >

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July 31, 2001

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