Guest guest Posted December 7, 2005 Report Share Posted December 7, 2005 Lilka Being at my heaviest of 270 pounds, I was still as sexual as I am today and even with all my health problems, sex was definitely not a problem in any position possible. I do believe it is how you feel about yourself and again that's a self esteem issue with heavy people. I do admit being 139 now gives a lot more energy and my husband isn't sure how to handle the new body and energy at times, but we both love it. Learning boundaries, self esteem, anger management,co-dependency (so you don't depend on others to do every thing for you) makes a world of difference even if you're heavy or small. There are many great books out there to help our self. You take care. DonnaLilka wrote: Wow, Francisco, this was a wonderful, overwhelming, profound answer. I am deeply moved and appreciative of your honesty. I have never seen another reference on this list about sex, except Robynn's that I fell in love with her over. I thank you for your honesty. Personally, I wonder about fat and sex. Many people claim that we get fat because we don't want sex. I have found that not to be true. Fat people are sensual and usually love to be touched. I am more of the opinion that because of our fat, we believe we do not deserve sex. The rest of the world concurs with our low assessment of ourselves. There is also the problem of not being able to manage many positions and if both persons are fat, it's harder. When we lose weight, we suddenly become beautiful and we can manage sex better. But I think it can be very hard on our relationships when we were so safe and so handicapped and suddenly we are not that any longer. Thanks so much for your story and for your sharing here. I am so appreciative. Lilka Donna JordonDSJordon@... Yahoo! Personals Single? There's someone we'd like you to meet. Lots of someones, actually. Try Yahoo! Personals Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2005 Report Share Posted December 7, 2005 Lilka Being at my heaviest of 270 pounds, I was still as sexual as I am today and even with all my health problems, sex was definitely not a problem in any position possible. I do believe it is how you feel about yourself and again that's a self esteem issue with heavy people. I do admit being 139 now gives a lot more energy and my husband isn't sure how to handle the new body and energy at times, but we both love it. Learning boundaries, self esteem, anger management,co-dependency (so you don't depend on others to do every thing for you) makes a world of difference even if you're heavy or small. There are many great books out there to help our self. You take care. DonnaLilka wrote: Wow, Francisco, this was a wonderful, overwhelming, profound answer. I am deeply moved and appreciative of your honesty. I have never seen another reference on this list about sex, except Robynn's that I fell in love with her over. I thank you for your honesty. Personally, I wonder about fat and sex. Many people claim that we get fat because we don't want sex. I have found that not to be true. Fat people are sensual and usually love to be touched. I am more of the opinion that because of our fat, we believe we do not deserve sex. The rest of the world concurs with our low assessment of ourselves. There is also the problem of not being able to manage many positions and if both persons are fat, it's harder. When we lose weight, we suddenly become beautiful and we can manage sex better. But I think it can be very hard on our relationships when we were so safe and so handicapped and suddenly we are not that any longer. Thanks so much for your story and for your sharing here. I am so appreciative. Lilka Donna JordonDSJordon@... Yahoo! Personals Single? There's someone we'd like you to meet. Lots of someones, actually. Try Yahoo! Personals Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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