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Thanks for your kind words Francisco.

I always enjoy reading your posts. You are really an inspiration to

me. I want to do a marathon at some point! I will get there now that

responded to my post about how to start jogging.

I have a question for you too though if you don't mind.

Since you are at goal weight, do you feel compelled to tell people

you had the surgery? Sometimes I want to shout it from the rooftops

and other times I still want to pretend that I was never overweight.

It is easier for me to remember what I did look like before I gained

all the weight and I have a gathering of friends that also remember

me that way so it is easy for me to pretend. I understand the

pitfalls of this though and always thank the powers that be for this

surgery and giving me my life back.

I find when I am shopping and ask for something in a size smaller

than what I try on I often get looks from the sales people so I feel

I have to explain myself and say I had surgery and will continue to

lose more weight. Just a strange situation I guess that I will get

used to. Just wondering what eliquent advise you might have.....

Thanks,

Kay

> > > Hi Everyone!

> > > I have been reading all the posts as usual and haven't had much

> > time

> > > till now to write anything in response.

> > > Congrats to all the new surgery dates and those just post op!

How

> > is

> > > Sue doing? I haven't had a chance to scroll yet. I hope well!

> > >

> > > Anyway, I have a HUGE milestone to share, well three

techincally.

> > > This last weekend I was up in St Helena for a visit, though the

> > > flooding was awful scary. Aside from that, when everyone was

> dried

> > > out and safe, Monday I went shopping downtown. If you haven't

> been,

> > > there are all these cute little boutique stores that I used to

> > avoid

> > > like crazy knowing full well there would not be anything in

size

> > > 28/30 there for me.

> > > Here come the milestones!

> > > First we went into a store that sold all kinds of clothing,

> mostly

> > > skirts and pants. I was feeling bold so I thought I would try

on

> a

> > > pair of pants. I have just recently worked my way into size 12

> > jeans.

> > > These were 12's and I tried them on and they were big. I went

> back

> > to

> > > get the 10's and stared at them thinking there is no way these

> will

> > > fit. ( I think I have body dismorphia the opposite way, I see

> > > something smallish and think there is no way it will fit.

Anyone

> > else

> > > have this problem? ) I went back into the dressing room and

> thought

> > > about all the previous times I tried on pants that ended up

being

> > too

> > > small. The way you miraculiously " wish " they will fit when you

> get

> > > them up to your knees. Once I could get them up around my rear,

I

> > > thought there might be a glimmer of hope that I can pull them

all

> > the

> > > way on. A little battle of the wills at the waist and they

> buttoned

> > > and I was able to zip them up easy as well! Ta da! size 10. Now

I

> > > couldn't have bent over to save my life in them, but they were

> > zipped

> > > up and I hadn't stopped breathing, so I bought them knowing in

> > about

> > > 2-3 weeks they will fit more comfortably. So my question is,

does

> > it

> > > still count that I was in a size 10?? They are at home now in

the

> > > closet in any case! I keep looking at them in wonder! I am

> wearing

> > > them to Vegas in Feb for sure!

> > >

> > > Second milestone...

> > > I did get a pair of Levi's in 10s and they fit now so I was

> feeling

> > > really optimistic and also got them in size 8. eeek!!!!

> > > single digit pants? In my closet? Not since high school has

that

> > > happened! I didn't even dare try them on. They are exactly the

> same

> > > style as the 12's I have now and the 10's I just bought. I love

> the

> > > style since they aren't those low rise jeans. HATE those. All

my

> > skin

> > > just hangs over the top. These are all mid-rise, totally

doable.

> > > Whew!

> > >

> > > Okay, on to number three milestone. ***Disclaimer*** If you are

a

> > > PETA believer/member, skip this part please!

> > >

> > > Further down the street there was this original designer fur

> store

> > > that has all kinds of lovely coats and jackets in it. I have

> always

> > > wanted a fur jacket but well, of course the size was an issue.

> > > I was eyeing one jacket from the window in the display and my

> > > husband said to just try it on. Well it looked small so I

didn't

> > want

> > > to go in and bother the sales person. He talked me into going

in

> > > finally and when I tried the sheepskin jacket on with fox

trimmed

> > > hood I couldn't believe it fit! The sales lady said it was a

size

> > 8.

> > > Well it was a tight 8 but it still fit. They must run large! It

> > > zipped up and the pockets weren't buldging! It was completely

> > > reversable and the part that was not the stenciled side where

the

> > > sheepskin was fit better, so I will wear it that way for

awhile.

> > Two

> > > coats for the price of one, and not to mention the fact that I

> just

> > > purchased something in the store window??? I have NEVER in my

> life

> > > been able to walk by a store and see what I liked in the window

> and

> > > have it fit.

> > >

> > > My husband said it was my reward for all the hard work I have

> done

> > > and I have only 40ish more to lose till I am at goal, so even

at

> > goal

> > > weight it will still look great! He is so proud of me and I am

> > super

> > > proud of myself so he said this will always be the reminder. He

> is

> > so

> > > sweet!

> > >

> > > To think that just a year ago I would have NEVER in a million

> years

> > > wanted to go shopping in boutiques to now looking forward to my

> > next

> > > trip? I know this is the completely materialistic side of the

> plus

> > of

> > > having the surgery, but thanks for reading it anyway.

> > > I have been so blessed to have a healthy life now post surgery

I

> am

> > > truly thankful everyday that I wake up that I had a pretty

> > > uncomplicated time of recovery.

> > >

> > > Of course those here on this board were a HUGE help to me as

well!

> > > Thanks Shell for making this a great and safe place to come to!

> > >

> > > Take care,

> > > Kay

> > > 336/290/180/? (weight hasn't moved in two weeks :-( but went

down

> > > another pant size so I must be doing something right still!)

> > > 6/28/05- Dr Baggs surgery- First day of the rest of my life!

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

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> Since you are at goal weight, do you feel compelled to tell people

> you had the surgery? Sometimes I want to shout it from the rooftops

> and other times I still want to pretend that I was never

overweight.

> It is easier for me to remember what I did look like before I

gained

> all the weight and I have a gathering of friends that also remember

> me that way so it is easy for me to pretend. I understand the

> pitfalls of this though and always thank the powers that be for

this

> surgery and giving me my life back.

Just chiming in on this - at the support meeting in Santa Clara last

week, I remember several folks talking about research showing that

those who talk to others about the fact that they've had WLS tend to

have better (greater) weight loss results than people who try to hide

their surgeries. I know you're not talking about hiding it, exactly,

so it's not quite the same, but I still thought it was an interesting

bit of information.

Cathy

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> Since you are at goal weight, do you feel compelled to tell people

> you had the surgery? Sometimes I want to shout it from the rooftops

> and other times I still want to pretend that I was never

overweight.

> It is easier for me to remember what I did look like before I

gained

> all the weight and I have a gathering of friends that also remember

> me that way so it is easy for me to pretend. I understand the

> pitfalls of this though and always thank the powers that be for

this

> surgery and giving me my life back.

Just chiming in on this - at the support meeting in Santa Clara last

week, I remember several folks talking about research showing that

those who talk to others about the fact that they've had WLS tend to

have better (greater) weight loss results than people who try to hide

their surgeries. I know you're not talking about hiding it, exactly,

so it's not quite the same, but I still thought it was an interesting

bit of information.

Cathy

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