Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 OK, so maybe I'm just a hard@$$ who is not up on the latest child psychology but when Everett bites I take the hair right behind his ear and pull in comparrison to how hard he's biting as I tell him NO BITING. If he chomps harder, I pull harder, steady pressure, if he lets go, I let go. This is just an occasional playful stunt he pulls though and a reminder stops it for a long time. s. Re: OT-biting Kathleen, I was a preschool teacher for many years and a Preschool Director as well. The advice you have been given thus far is accurate. However, I have a few more suggestions. It is not uncommon for young children to bite. The causes can be teething as well as lack of communication skills. It is important to tell your son " No " and then redirect him. Don't spend too much time emphasizing or that will become an attention getter. Make sure to give the attention to the Bitee. If your son bites your husband, tell him " No " , move him, give him something to do and over exaggerate your attention to your husband's bite, kiss it, put ice on it, etc... Also, work on telling him to use his words, if he doesn't like what someone has done to him encourage him to say " No " and walk away. With school, you need to know the policy on biting, while they may have a rule stating that you have to pick your child up after a certain number of bites in one day, it may not be stated that your son can be " Kicked out " for it. It will pass! If you still have concerns about school, ask the Director to have your son monitored or shadowed. That can determine in what situations he may be inclined to bite and then they can attempt to prevent it by watching closely and interfering when he puts his mouth near others. Do the same at home. It is sometimes cyclical and can come and go. Don't worry, it is not just your child and will likely happen to him in his prechool career. Take Care, Stacie leenernd wrote: Hello there- This is way off topic but I figured you all may have some advice. My beautiful son had his first biting incident at daycare yesterday. He was playing nicely with his " girlfriend " and at one point his teacher looked over and saw that had his girlfriend's arm in his mouth and he chomped down hard on it. He is teething-poor kid can't cut one tooth at a time(last round brought in 4 uppers)-I can feel his molars coming in. Any ideas on what we can do to deter this behavior? He is only 1-not yet 13months old. You know you get the advice of biting back so that they know it hurts-which i cant nor would ever do. We did test him last night-my husband put his hand in front of david and sure enough-david leaned forward and took a nip at dadda's hand. My husband then did a " decisive NO! " and sure enough it scared/upset enough for him to know he did something bad. Any ideas would be most appreciative! We are just worried that if this becomes repetitive-david can be " kicked out " of daycare-ugh! Thanks, Kathleen Mom to (count dracula) 8/28/04 bcf FAB 14/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Hello there- This is way off topic but I figured you all may have some advice. My beautiful son had his first biting incident at daycare yesterday. He was playing nicely with his " girlfriend " and at one point his teacher looked over and saw that had his girlfriend's arm in his mouth and he chomped down hard on it. He is teething-poor kid can't cut one tooth at a time(last round brought in 4 uppers)-I can feel his molars coming in. Any ideas on what we can do to deter this behavior? He is only 1-not yet 13months old. You know you get the advice of biting back so that they know it hurts-which i cant nor would ever do. We did test him last night-my husband put his hand in front of david and sure enough-david leaned forward and took a nip at dadda's hand. My husband then did a " decisive NO! " and sure enough it scared/upset enough for him to know he did something bad. Any ideas would be most appreciative! We are just worried that if this becomes repetitive-david can be " kicked out " of daycare-ugh! Thanks, Kathleen Mom to (count dracula) 8/28/04 bcf FAB 14/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Hello there- This is way off topic but I figured you all may have some advice. My beautiful son had his first biting incident at daycare yesterday. He was playing nicely with his " girlfriend " and at one point his teacher looked over and saw that had his girlfriend's arm in his mouth and he chomped down hard on it. He is teething-poor kid can't cut one tooth at a time(last round brought in 4 uppers)-I can feel his molars coming in. Any ideas on what we can do to deter this behavior? He is only 1-not yet 13months old. You know you get the advice of biting back so that they know it hurts-which i cant nor would ever do. We did test him last night-my husband put his hand in front of david and sure enough-david leaned forward and took a nip at dadda's hand. My husband then did a " decisive NO! " and sure enough it scared/upset enough for him to know he did something bad. Any ideas would be most appreciative! We are just worried that if this becomes repetitive-david can be " kicked out " of daycare-ugh! Thanks, Kathleen Mom to (count dracula) 8/28/04 bcf FAB 14/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Kathleen. Don't get too worked up over it. This is a phase 95% of kids go through. I remember the first time daycare called me to tell me my son bit another child, I was devastated! Not my perfect child! I think you are handling it correctly. Say 'no' sternly each time and eventually he will understand not to do it. I used to explain to my son too why he shouldn't bite people (in short-term toddler talk). As you know, long explainations go way over their head, nor do they care. If you are consistent, the phase will go by very quickly. Also, it is up to daycare to pay close attention and prevent the incidence if possible and really be on top of it. It is nearly impossible for them because there are so many kids in their eye at one time. But at the same time, this is happening on their watch and you have little-to- no control of what goes on while they are under someone elses care. You can be the absolute best parent, raise the perfect child with excellent manners, etc. Once they are at daycare, anything goes. They learn from other kids. Once they are back in your watchful eye, it is up to you (us) to constantly educate right from wrong with our children. That is one reason why I think parenting is the hardest job on the planet. Once they leave your sight, they can do whatever they wish. It's frightening, isn't it? I'm to the point now where I grin and bear it. Kids will be kids. HTH. Shook Retail Operations Manager/Baking Instructor Vie de France Yamazaki, Inc. 2070 Chain Bridge Rd. Suite 500 Vienna, VA 22182 x374 x374 fax Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Kathleen. Don't get too worked up over it. This is a phase 95% of kids go through. I remember the first time daycare called me to tell me my son bit another child, I was devastated! Not my perfect child! I think you are handling it correctly. Say 'no' sternly each time and eventually he will understand not to do it. I used to explain to my son too why he shouldn't bite people (in short-term toddler talk). As you know, long explainations go way over their head, nor do they care. If you are consistent, the phase will go by very quickly. Also, it is up to daycare to pay close attention and prevent the incidence if possible and really be on top of it. It is nearly impossible for them because there are so many kids in their eye at one time. But at the same time, this is happening on their watch and you have little-to- no control of what goes on while they are under someone elses care. You can be the absolute best parent, raise the perfect child with excellent manners, etc. Once they are at daycare, anything goes. They learn from other kids. Once they are back in your watchful eye, it is up to you (us) to constantly educate right from wrong with our children. That is one reason why I think parenting is the hardest job on the planet. Once they leave your sight, they can do whatever they wish. It's frightening, isn't it? I'm to the point now where I grin and bear it. Kids will be kids. HTH. Shook Retail Operations Manager/Baking Instructor Vie de France Yamazaki, Inc. 2070 Chain Bridge Rd. Suite 500 Vienna, VA 22182 x374 x374 fax Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Kathleen, Sammy started doing this too about a month ago, he is almost 1 now. We are pretty sure that it was due to teething also. We started giving him chewy or icy toys whenever he would try to bite someone but he didn't have any interest in those. Then we tried giving him a pacifier (which he has never really used) - this seemed to do the trick. I was leery of giving him one and starting that attachment when he is already almost one, but he has not become attached to it, it is just his " anti-vampire " tool. It also seemed to help to use baby Anebesol - he hates Orajel but loves Anebesol, go figure. HTH. > Hello there- > This is way off topic but I figured you all may have some advice. My > beautiful son had his first biting incident at daycare > yesterday. He was playing nicely with his " girlfriend " and at one > point his teacher looked over and saw that had his girlfriend's > arm in his mouth and he chomped down hard on it. He is teething-poor > kid can't cut one tooth at a time(last round brought in 4 uppers)-I > can feel his molars coming in. Any ideas on what we can do to deter > this behavior? He is only 1-not yet 13months old. You know you get the > advice of biting back so that they know it hurts-which i cant nor > would ever do. We did test him last night-my husband put his hand in > front of david and sure enough-david leaned forward and took a nip at > dadda's hand. My husband then did a " decisive NO! " and sure enough it > scared/upset enough for him to know he did something bad. Any > ideas would be most appreciative! We are just worried that if this > becomes repetitive-david can be " kicked out " of daycare-ugh! > Thanks, > Kathleen > Mom to (count dracula) 8/28/04 bcf FAB 14/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Kathleen, Sammy started doing this too about a month ago, he is almost 1 now. We are pretty sure that it was due to teething also. We started giving him chewy or icy toys whenever he would try to bite someone but he didn't have any interest in those. Then we tried giving him a pacifier (which he has never really used) - this seemed to do the trick. I was leery of giving him one and starting that attachment when he is already almost one, but he has not become attached to it, it is just his " anti-vampire " tool. It also seemed to help to use baby Anebesol - he hates Orajel but loves Anebesol, go figure. HTH. > Hello there- > This is way off topic but I figured you all may have some advice. My > beautiful son had his first biting incident at daycare > yesterday. He was playing nicely with his " girlfriend " and at one > point his teacher looked over and saw that had his girlfriend's > arm in his mouth and he chomped down hard on it. He is teething-poor > kid can't cut one tooth at a time(last round brought in 4 uppers)-I > can feel his molars coming in. Any ideas on what we can do to deter > this behavior? He is only 1-not yet 13months old. You know you get the > advice of biting back so that they know it hurts-which i cant nor > would ever do. We did test him last night-my husband put his hand in > front of david and sure enough-david leaned forward and took a nip at > dadda's hand. My husband then did a " decisive NO! " and sure enough it > scared/upset enough for him to know he did something bad. Any > ideas would be most appreciative! We are just worried that if this > becomes repetitive-david can be " kicked out " of daycare-ugh! > Thanks, > Kathleen > Mom to (count dracula) 8/28/04 bcf FAB 14/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Kathleen, I was a preschool teacher for many years and a Preschool Director as well. The advice you have been given thus far is accurate. However, I have a few more suggestions. It is not uncommon for young children to bite. The causes can be teething as well as lack of communication skills. It is important to tell your son " No " and then redirect him. Don't spend too much time emphasizing or that will become an attention getter. Make sure to give the attention to the Bitee. If your son bites your husband, tell him " No " , move him, give him something to do and over exaggerate your attention to your husband's bite, kiss it, put ice on it, etc... Also, work on telling him to use his words, if he doesn't like what someone has done to him encourage him to say " No " and walk away. With school, you need to know the policy on biting, while they may have a rule stating that you have to pick your child up after a certain number of bites in one day, it may not be stated that your son can be " Kicked out " for it. It will pass! If you still have concerns about school, ask the Director to have your son monitored or shadowed. That can determine in what situations he may be inclined to bite and then they can attempt to prevent it by watching closely and interfering when he puts his mouth near others. Do the same at home. It is sometimes cyclical and can come and go. Don't worry, it is not just your child and will likely happen to him in his prechool career. Take Care, Stacie leenernd wrote: Hello there- This is way off topic but I figured you all may have some advice. My beautiful son had his first biting incident at daycare yesterday. He was playing nicely with his " girlfriend " and at one point his teacher looked over and saw that had his girlfriend's arm in his mouth and he chomped down hard on it. He is teething-poor kid can't cut one tooth at a time(last round brought in 4 uppers)-I can feel his molars coming in. Any ideas on what we can do to deter this behavior? He is only 1-not yet 13months old. You know you get the advice of biting back so that they know it hurts-which i cant nor would ever do. We did test him last night-my husband put his hand in front of david and sure enough-david leaned forward and took a nip at dadda's hand. My husband then did a " decisive NO! " and sure enough it scared/upset enough for him to know he did something bad. Any ideas would be most appreciative! We are just worried that if this becomes repetitive-david can be " kicked out " of daycare-ugh! Thanks, Kathleen Mom to (count dracula) 8/28/04 bcf FAB 14/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Kathleen, I was a preschool teacher for many years and a Preschool Director as well. The advice you have been given thus far is accurate. However, I have a few more suggestions. It is not uncommon for young children to bite. The causes can be teething as well as lack of communication skills. It is important to tell your son " No " and then redirect him. Don't spend too much time emphasizing or that will become an attention getter. Make sure to give the attention to the Bitee. If your son bites your husband, tell him " No " , move him, give him something to do and over exaggerate your attention to your husband's bite, kiss it, put ice on it, etc... Also, work on telling him to use his words, if he doesn't like what someone has done to him encourage him to say " No " and walk away. With school, you need to know the policy on biting, while they may have a rule stating that you have to pick your child up after a certain number of bites in one day, it may not be stated that your son can be " Kicked out " for it. It will pass! If you still have concerns about school, ask the Director to have your son monitored or shadowed. That can determine in what situations he may be inclined to bite and then they can attempt to prevent it by watching closely and interfering when he puts his mouth near others. Do the same at home. It is sometimes cyclical and can come and go. Don't worry, it is not just your child and will likely happen to him in his prechool career. Take Care, Stacie leenernd wrote: Hello there- This is way off topic but I figured you all may have some advice. My beautiful son had his first biting incident at daycare yesterday. He was playing nicely with his " girlfriend " and at one point his teacher looked over and saw that had his girlfriend's arm in his mouth and he chomped down hard on it. He is teething-poor kid can't cut one tooth at a time(last round brought in 4 uppers)-I can feel his molars coming in. Any ideas on what we can do to deter this behavior? He is only 1-not yet 13months old. You know you get the advice of biting back so that they know it hurts-which i cant nor would ever do. We did test him last night-my husband put his hand in front of david and sure enough-david leaned forward and took a nip at dadda's hand. My husband then did a " decisive NO! " and sure enough it scared/upset enough for him to know he did something bad. Any ideas would be most appreciative! We are just worried that if this becomes repetitive-david can be " kicked out " of daycare-ugh! Thanks, Kathleen Mom to (count dracula) 8/28/04 bcf FAB 14/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Thank you Stacie, , and ! Its reassuring to know that you are not alone! I tell you though my heart dropped when his teacher told me that he had bit someone. I felt horrible for his classmate. I will definitely take your advice and hopefully this will not become a recurring incident! His teacher felt so bad that she had to tell me about it! They absolutely love him(as do I). Thanks again, Kathleen > Hello there- > This is way off topic but I figured you all may have some advice. My > beautiful son had his first biting incident at daycare > yesterday. He was playing nicely with his " girlfriend " and at one > point his teacher looked over and saw that had his girlfriend's > arm in his mouth and he chomped down hard on it. He is teething- poor > kid can't cut one tooth at a time(last round brought in 4 uppers)- I > can feel his molars coming in. Any ideas on what we can do to deter > this behavior? He is only 1-not yet 13months old. You know you get the > advice of biting back so that they know it hurts-which i cant nor > would ever do. We did test him last night-my husband put his hand in > front of david and sure enough-david leaned forward and took a nip at > dadda's hand. My husband then did a " decisive NO! " and sure enough it > scared/upset enough for him to know he did something bad. Any > ideas would be most appreciative! We are just worried that if this > becomes repetitive-david can be " kicked out " of daycare-ugh! > Thanks, > Kathleen > Mom to (count dracula) 8/28/04 bcf FAB 14/7 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Thank you Stacie, , and ! Its reassuring to know that you are not alone! I tell you though my heart dropped when his teacher told me that he had bit someone. I felt horrible for his classmate. I will definitely take your advice and hopefully this will not become a recurring incident! His teacher felt so bad that she had to tell me about it! They absolutely love him(as do I). Thanks again, Kathleen > Hello there- > This is way off topic but I figured you all may have some advice. My > beautiful son had his first biting incident at daycare > yesterday. He was playing nicely with his " girlfriend " and at one > point his teacher looked over and saw that had his girlfriend's > arm in his mouth and he chomped down hard on it. He is teething- poor > kid can't cut one tooth at a time(last round brought in 4 uppers)- I > can feel his molars coming in. Any ideas on what we can do to deter > this behavior? He is only 1-not yet 13months old. You know you get the > advice of biting back so that they know it hurts-which i cant nor > would ever do. We did test him last night-my husband put his hand in > front of david and sure enough-david leaned forward and took a nip at > dadda's hand. My husband then did a " decisive NO! " and sure enough it > scared/upset enough for him to know he did something bad. Any > ideas would be most appreciative! We are just worried that if this > becomes repetitive-david can be " kicked out " of daycare-ugh! > Thanks, > Kathleen > Mom to (count dracula) 8/28/04 bcf FAB 14/7 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Gabe still bites when he gets very excited... He is nearly 17 months now... He only seems to want to bite me, usually on my shoulder when I pick him up. We followed all the no-biting advise, and still he forgets sometimes, but it has gotten much better since he started it at about 6 months. He's had a really hard time with teething too, but it seems it's as much excitement as it is teething... Hopefully when he gets to daycare he won't chomp the other kids. This is what I get for laughing at my friend at work when she was called because her 13 months old daughter was literally chasing the other kids and biting them. Karma sucks. Stacie Rich wrote:Kathleen, I was a preschool teacher for many years and a Preschool Director as well. The advice you have been given thus far is accurate. However, I have a few more suggestions. It is not uncommon for young children to bite. The causes can be teething as well as lack of communication skills. It is important to tell your son " No " and then redirect him. Don't spend too much time emphasizing or that will become an attention getter. Make sure to give the attention to the Bitee. If your son bites your husband, tell him " No " , move him, give him something to do and over exaggerate your attention to your husband's bite, kiss it, put ice on it, etc... Also, work on telling him to use his words, if he doesn't like what someone has done to him encourage him to say " No " and walk away. With school, you need to know the policy on biting, while they may have a rule stating that you have to pick your child up after a certain number of bites in one day, it may not be stated that your son can be " Kicked out " for it. It will pass! If you still have concerns about school, ask the Director to have your son monitored or shadowed. That can determine in what situations he may be inclined to bite and then they can attempt to prevent it by watching closely and interfering when he puts his mouth near others. Do the same at home. It is sometimes cyclical and can come and go. Don't worry, it is not just your child and will likely happen to him in his prechool career. Take Care, Stacie leenernd wrote: Hello there- This is way off topic but I figured you all may have some advice. My beautiful son had his first biting incident at daycare yesterday. He was playing nicely with his " girlfriend " and at one point his teacher looked over and saw that had his girlfriend's arm in his mouth and he chomped down hard on it. He is teething-poor kid can't cut one tooth at a time(last round brought in 4 uppers)-I can feel his molars coming in. Any ideas on what we can do to deter this behavior? He is only 1-not yet 13months old. You know you get the advice of biting back so that they know it hurts-which i cant nor would ever do. We did test him last night-my husband put his hand in front of david and sure enough-david leaned forward and took a nip at dadda's hand. My husband then did a " decisive NO! " and sure enough it scared/upset enough for him to know he did something bad. Any ideas would be most appreciative! We are just worried that if this becomes repetitive-david can be " kicked out " of daycare-ugh! Thanks, Kathleen Mom to (count dracula) 8/28/04 bcf FAB 14/7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Also, it sounds like his biting is related to teething so give him something he *can* bite, such as a teether. That should help too. Marcia Re: OT-biting Kathleen. Don't get too worked up over it. This is a phase 95% of kids go through. I remember the first time daycare called me to tell me my son bit another child, I was devastated! Not my perfect child! I think you are handling it correctly. Say 'no' sternly each time and eventually he will understand not to do it. I used to explain to my son too why he shouldn't bite people (in short-term toddler talk). As you know, long explainations go way over their head, nor do they care. If you are consistent, the phase will go by very quickly. Also, it is up to daycare to pay close attention and prevent the incidence if possible and really be on top of it. It is nearly impossible for them because there are so many kids in their eye at one time. But at the same time, this is happening on their watch and you have little-to- no control of what goes on while they are under someone elses care. You can be the absolute best parent, raise the perfect child with excellent manners, etc. Once they are at daycare, anything goes. They learn from other kids. Once they are back in your watchful eye, it is up to you (us) to constantly educate right from wrong with our children. That is one reason why I think parenting is the hardest job on the planet. Once they leave your sight, they can do whatever they wish. It's frightening, isn't it? I'm to the point now where I grin and bear it. Kids will be kids. HTH. Shook Retail Operations Manager/Baking Instructor Vie de France Yamazaki, Inc. 2070 Chain Bridge Rd. Suite 500 Vienna, VA 22182 x374 x374 fax Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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