Guest guest Posted January 27, 2006 Report Share Posted January 27, 2006 Ron You just broke a plateau and I think this is great. I know it has taken a lot because of how much you are required to lose, but it's so your okay during the surgery. So don't be jealous or discouraged especially since now you are starting to lose again. I really believe that the exercise and water really keeps the weight lose going. I believe since you started walking to work made a difference, and if you keep this up you will get the rest off that is required and you will have surgery. So don't be down, I know you can do this and will be so happy when it is your day. Take care. Walk, walk, walk, and drink water, water, water and stay on track and watch that scale move lower back. DonnaBBQ Man wrote: Hello all! First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. Now for the "other" news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my "face to face" support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay. So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...). Help me please... Ron Donna JordonDSJordon@... Bring words and photos together (easily) with PhotoMail - it's free and works with Yahoo! Mail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2006 Report Share Posted January 27, 2006 Donna, you are such a good cheerleader. I know someone else said that of you recently too, but it's so true. Breaking that plateau really helped me to get back on track. Of course, all the wonderful comments here hasn't hurt either. Thanks for your help, and I'll be keeping everyone informed of my progress. Ron Re: A couple things... Ron You just broke a plateau and I think this is great. I know it has taken a lot because of how much you are required to lose, but it's so your okay during the surgery. So don't be jealous or discouraged especially since now you are starting to lose again. I really believe that the exercise and water really keeps the weight lose going. I believe since you started walking to work made a difference, and if you keep this up you will get the rest off that is required and you will have surgery. So don't be down, I know you can do this and will be so happy when it is your day. Take care. Walk, walk, walk, and drink water, water, water and stay on track and watch that scale move lower back. DonnaBBQ Man wrote: Hello all! First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. Now for the "other" news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my "face to face" support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay. So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...). Help me please... Ron Donna JordonDSJordon@... Bring words and photos together (easily) withPhotoMail - it's free and works with Yahoo! Mail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2006 Report Share Posted January 27, 2006 Donna, you are such a good cheerleader. I know someone else said that of you recently too, but it's so true. Breaking that plateau really helped me to get back on track. Of course, all the wonderful comments here hasn't hurt either. Thanks for your help, and I'll be keeping everyone informed of my progress. Ron Re: A couple things... Ron You just broke a plateau and I think this is great. I know it has taken a lot because of how much you are required to lose, but it's so your okay during the surgery. So don't be jealous or discouraged especially since now you are starting to lose again. I really believe that the exercise and water really keeps the weight lose going. I believe since you started walking to work made a difference, and if you keep this up you will get the rest off that is required and you will have surgery. So don't be down, I know you can do this and will be so happy when it is your day. Take care. Walk, walk, walk, and drink water, water, water and stay on track and watch that scale move lower back. DonnaBBQ Man wrote: Hello all! First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. Now for the "other" news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my "face to face" support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay. So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...). Help me please... Ron Donna JordonDSJordon@... Bring words and photos together (easily) withPhotoMail - it's free and works with Yahoo! Mail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2006 Report Share Posted January 27, 2006 I've met others in my F-T-F groups that have also been required to loose 100 pounds. I see their frustration too and I understand your frustration. However, the bonus is that the more you loose before surgery, the lower weight you will be able to get to post-op. Plus, of course, the more you loose pre-op, the easier it will be to get throught acutal surgery and recover. I had my surgery when I was at 285 and I've been able to loose around 100 pounds since surgery, but now it's not as easy to loose. It's taking much willpower and diligence. I pray that you can make it. --Sandi H. > > Hello all! > > First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. > > Now for the " other " news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my " face to face " support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay. > > So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...). > > Help me please... > > Ron > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2006 Report Share Posted January 27, 2006 I've met others in my F-T-F groups that have also been required to loose 100 pounds. I see their frustration too and I understand your frustration. However, the bonus is that the more you loose before surgery, the lower weight you will be able to get to post-op. Plus, of course, the more you loose pre-op, the easier it will be to get throught acutal surgery and recover. I had my surgery when I was at 285 and I've been able to loose around 100 pounds since surgery, but now it's not as easy to loose. It's taking much willpower and diligence. I pray that you can make it. --Sandi H. > > Hello all! > > First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. > > Now for the " other " news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my " face to face " support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay. > > So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...). > > Help me please... > > Ron > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2006 Report Share Posted January 27, 2006 Thanks Sandi. All prayers are welcomed. And btw, what is F-T-F? Ron Re: A couple things... I've met others in my F-T-F groups that have also been required to loose 100 pounds. I see their frustration too and I understand your frustration.However, the bonus is that the more you loose before surgery, the lower weight you will be able to get to post-op. Plus, of course, the more you loose pre-op, the easier it will be to get throught acutal surgery and recover.I had my surgery when I was at 285 and I've been able to loose around 100 pounds since surgery, but now it's not as easy to loose. It's taking much willpower and diligence.I pray that you can make it.--Sandi H.>> Hello all!> > First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. > > Now for the "other" news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my "face to face" support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay.> > So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...).> > Help me please...> > Ron> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2006 Report Share Posted January 27, 2006 Thanks Sandi. All prayers are welcomed. And btw, what is F-T-F? Ron Re: A couple things... I've met others in my F-T-F groups that have also been required to loose 100 pounds. I see their frustration too and I understand your frustration.However, the bonus is that the more you loose before surgery, the lower weight you will be able to get to post-op. Plus, of course, the more you loose pre-op, the easier it will be to get throught acutal surgery and recover.I had my surgery when I was at 285 and I've been able to loose around 100 pounds since surgery, but now it's not as easy to loose. It's taking much willpower and diligence.I pray that you can make it.--Sandi H.>> Hello all!> > First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. > > Now for the "other" news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my "face to face" support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay.> > So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...).> > Help me please...> > Ron> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2006 Report Share Posted January 27, 2006 Ron- you can't give up now you have worked so hard and come a long way already. I know how frustration it can be but keep doing what you're doing and the weight will come off.......you'll see. Hang in there. Peggy > > Hello all! > > First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. > > Now for the " other " news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my " face to face " support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay. > > So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...). > > Help me please... > > Ron > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2006 Report Share Posted January 27, 2006 Ron- you can't give up now you have worked so hard and come a long way already. I know how frustration it can be but keep doing what you're doing and the weight will come off.......you'll see. Hang in there. Peggy > > Hello all! > > First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. > > Now for the " other " news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my " face to face " support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay. > > So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...). > > Help me please... > > Ron > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2006 Report Share Posted January 27, 2006 Thanks Peggy... I'm hangin' in... Ron Re: A couple things... Ron- you can't give up now you have worked so hard and come a long way already. I know how frustration it can be but keep doing what you're doing and the weight will come off.......you'll see. Hang in there. Peggy>> Hello all!> > First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. > > Now for the "other" news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my "face to face" support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay.> > So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...).> > Help me please...> > Ron> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2006 Report Share Posted January 27, 2006 Thanks Peggy... I'm hangin' in... Ron Re: A couple things... Ron- you can't give up now you have worked so hard and come a long way already. I know how frustration it can be but keep doing what you're doing and the weight will come off.......you'll see. Hang in there. Peggy>> Hello all!> > First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. > > Now for the "other" news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my "face to face" support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay.> > So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...).> > Help me please...> > Ron> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2006 Report Share Posted January 28, 2006 (((((((((Ron)))))))))))) I'm tempted to say I know how you feel, but only you are walking your journey. I had close to a two year wait to get my surgery, while others on this list just blew through the process. I was frustrated and jealous also. All the advice of " your time will come " were minimally helpful. I guess you just have to stay focused, which is also a huge chore. It's easy to get discouraged and off track. All I can say is that we are all pulling for you. We are behind you, and will continue to be, till surgery and beyond. Even post op, the farther out you are, the more you struggle. You will be working this for life. I guess now you are in training. Boot camp so to speak. The good news is the first few months, the weight just flies off. So maybe if you think of what you are doing now as a life plan, instead of a means to a goal, there will be less stress and frustration for you. If you are interested, you can contact the DMHC and get them to " fight " with Kaiser to waive their requirement for the pre op loss. Even though you MAY be more fit and healthy to face surgery if you lost the full amount, you have come a long way, and will be able to get healthier FASTER as a postie...the sooner you have the surgery. I hope that makes sense. Anyway, it is an option for you to ponder. Especially if your loss comes to a halt despite your best attempt. Hang in there, and keep us posted! Laurie __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2006 Report Share Posted January 28, 2006 (((((((((Ron)))))))))))) I'm tempted to say I know how you feel, but only you are walking your journey. I had close to a two year wait to get my surgery, while others on this list just blew through the process. I was frustrated and jealous also. All the advice of " your time will come " were minimally helpful. I guess you just have to stay focused, which is also a huge chore. It's easy to get discouraged and off track. All I can say is that we are all pulling for you. We are behind you, and will continue to be, till surgery and beyond. Even post op, the farther out you are, the more you struggle. You will be working this for life. I guess now you are in training. Boot camp so to speak. The good news is the first few months, the weight just flies off. So maybe if you think of what you are doing now as a life plan, instead of a means to a goal, there will be less stress and frustration for you. If you are interested, you can contact the DMHC and get them to " fight " with Kaiser to waive their requirement for the pre op loss. Even though you MAY be more fit and healthy to face surgery if you lost the full amount, you have come a long way, and will be able to get healthier FASTER as a postie...the sooner you have the surgery. I hope that makes sense. Anyway, it is an option for you to ponder. Especially if your loss comes to a halt despite your best attempt. Hang in there, and keep us posted! Laurie __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2006 Report Share Posted January 28, 2006 Ron.... I know it gets hard to focus on the goal when it seems unsurmountable so try to focus on the positives of your journey so far. You have quit smoking, lost 75# and are now exercising those are all admirable feats and I applaud your efforts.....congratulations !! I can tell by the way you talk about your situation that you are determined to make it through to get the surgery so hang in there, it will come. May be you should make another appointment with Doctor Baggs to talk about your goal weight. Perhaps he was saying that you need to lose 100# to have LAP instead of open. Thats what happened to me. On the first visit he told me that because I carried most of my weight in my abdomen that I wasn't a good candidate to have LAP unless I lost a bunch of weight in that area. It all worked out for me to have LAP in the end so check it out !! Ron...I know you can make it. You are reaching out for help here and thats a good step. We are all very proud of your efforts and like I said I feel that you are going to make it through this funk and come out on the other side !! Remember...we are always here for you during the good and bad times. Regards, Gordy > Hello all! > > First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. > > Now for the " other " news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my " face to face " support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay. > > So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...). > > Help me please... > > Ron > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2006 Report Share Posted January 28, 2006 Ron.... I know it gets hard to focus on the goal when it seems unsurmountable so try to focus on the positives of your journey so far. You have quit smoking, lost 75# and are now exercising those are all admirable feats and I applaud your efforts.....congratulations !! I can tell by the way you talk about your situation that you are determined to make it through to get the surgery so hang in there, it will come. May be you should make another appointment with Doctor Baggs to talk about your goal weight. Perhaps he was saying that you need to lose 100# to have LAP instead of open. Thats what happened to me. On the first visit he told me that because I carried most of my weight in my abdomen that I wasn't a good candidate to have LAP unless I lost a bunch of weight in that area. It all worked out for me to have LAP in the end so check it out !! Ron...I know you can make it. You are reaching out for help here and thats a good step. We are all very proud of your efforts and like I said I feel that you are going to make it through this funk and come out on the other side !! Remember...we are always here for you during the good and bad times. Regards, Gordy > Hello all! > > First off, let me share a happy moment with you... I was finally able to break through the plateau I've been on (what seems like) forever. I just couldn't get below 462 and this morning, I weighed in at 458.8! I was both shocked and amazed... but HAPPY. > > Now for the " other " news. I really need some advice on a sensitive issue I'm having. I am finding myself getting more and more frustrated and even jealous because it seems that everyone around is getting their dates and surgery and I'm being left in the proverbial dust. Now, I know this sounds a little petty, and I want everyone to know up front that I'm very happy and supportive of everyone getting their date and surgery. It's just that for me, I've had so much weight to lose because I seem to be one of the most heavy people both here and in my " face to face " support group. Hence, alot of people that started their journey long after me, have had their surgery and I'm still working on losing the pre-surgery weight. For those of you who don't know, I was told in July of '04 I'd have to lose 100 pounds. That news put me off and I sort of went off the deep end and over the next year had a net gain of 24 pounds. So, when I finally got me head on straight about this, I had 124 pouds to lose. With todays weight loss, I have lost 75 pounds so far and still have 54 pounds to go before I get a date. I've lost the 75 since 7-24-05 and now it's getting somewhat more difficult. However, I've been getting a lot more exercise (mostly walking) and even tried getting in even more water, so with any luck I'll continue to lose. But, I do get a little discouraged sometimes. I thought a while about whether I should even bring up this subject here, but decided it would be okay. > > So what kind of suggestions do you all have to help me get over this frustration of being the only pre-op in the bunch (so to speak... I know I'm not in THIS group, but I am in the other one...). > > Help me please... > > Ron > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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