Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 In a message dated 8/24/2001 2:51:10 PM Pacific Daylight Time, bristolgeo@... writes: > He said " you took the easy way > out " . Why is this surgery seen as the easy way out? I would reply...well you can think its the easy way out...but I saw it as the permanent way out..... It seems like other overweight people have a hard time with it when someone really starts to lose... ~*~ AJ ~*~ Age 37 5'8'' Post op 7/24/01 Open BPD/DS self pay - Dr Baltasar -Alcoy Spain 07/24/01 BMI 64 415.1 08/06/01 BMI 59 390.2 -24.9 lbs! 08/16/01 BMI 58 387.0 -27.9 lbs! 08/24/01 BMI 58 386.5 -28.6 lbs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 In a message dated 08/24/2001 4:53:15 PM Central Daylight Time, bristolgeo@... writes: > I ran into a friend the other today. Ive lost 49# in the last month > since my surgery. He said man you look better what kind of diet are > you on? And I made the mistake of telling him about the surgery. What > a mistake hes overweight and diets all the time losing and gaining > the same 50# and gaining 55# more. He said " you took the easy way > out " . Why is this surgery seen as the easy way out? For gods sake I > almost died postop after my kidneys failed, and being on a ventilator > was no picnic either. Not to mention this surgery is mentally the > toughest thing Ive ever done. I have decided not to tell anyone > anymore about my surgery. IMHO they can all kiss my azz. Thanks for > letting me vent. > > DS 7/24/01 > -49# > , I understand that this was not easy for you. I had a very smooth recovery. The first month was really nasty. Also it was a very emotional time making the decision and having surgery. However, now that I am a year out. I can tell you that at this point it is easier than any diet I ever was on. Diets were always pure torture (mentally and physically) for me. I guess what I am saying here is even if it was (and it isn't) the easy way out. Doesn't that make us smart. Hasn't anyone ever heard of working smarter, not harder!! Just my thoughts! Dawn Dr. Hess, Bowling Green, OH BPD/DS 4/27/00 www.duodenalswitch.com 267 to 165 size 22 to size 10 have made size goal no more high blood pressure, sore feet, or dieting! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 In a message dated 8/24/01 5:53:00 PM Eastern Daylight Time, bristolgeo@... writes: << I have decided not to tell anyone anymore about my surgery. IMHO they can all kiss my azz. Thanks for letting me vent. >> Yeah, that guy probably wishes he had the nerve to go through with surgery. Even if it were the easy way out, why would anybody intentionally take the hard way? I quit smoking in 1989 as I lay unconscious in ICU from the result of a very serious illness. Years later my sister told me that I had quit smoking the easy way. HUH? Years after that she denied ever saying that (when she came to her senses!). I think if anyone I'm not close to asks me, I'm just going to say " I'm eating much less. " Not a lie! Congrats on your 49! Wow! Sheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 Good for you ! surgery was not the easy way out... that's an addict's mentality, or at least someone stuck in the problem (my opinion)...for many of us WLS was the SMART way out and in many cases only part of the picture...I have lost about 82 pounds since Apr 2, and the biggest changes may have been with my mental health...people say my personality has changed...I feel like I have blossomed, I could never have envisioned the opportunities I feel that are open to me now, because of physical and attitude changes...I go the gym 4 times a week with a trainer now! Last week was my first week, I got up at 6am to meet him for 7am two of those days, I work at night, I have turned my days around. I feel like I have a life....I am living my life. I also have put into place a practice regarding food that I could not, did not and was unable to do pre-surgery, no matter how many structured diet plans and unstructed diets I participated in. LIVING LIFE with all of its opportunities and trials and putting myself on the front line of experiences with people and interests and new activities is not the easy way out. The easy way out FOR ME was to sit in front of the TV, eat two bags of various chips with various dips, eat an abundance of ice cream and sugar and then feel very sedated; I found most of my friends living in sit com worlds and now I am meeting new people and even dating....TRUST ME, it's not easy, IT'S BETTER, but it's not easier. AND finally, I wouldn't have it any other way for me!! have a great one LennyB 45 and feel like 25 __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 Oh , I'm so sorry for you. No offense, but some friend! Did he know about your post op complications? As respects weight loss, I don't think there IS an " easy way out " . Dieting certainly isn't easy and surgery is really hard to have the courage to do. Heck, for alot of people being thin isn't easy. Perhaps he was a tad bit jealous of you...? Take care, dee --- bristolgeo@... wrote: > I ran into a friend the other today. Ive lost 49# in > the last month > since my surgery. He said man you look better what > kind of diet are > you on? And I made the mistake of telling him about > the surgery. What > a mistake hes overweight and diets all the time > losing and gaining > the same 50# and gaining 55# more. He said " you > took the easy way > out " . Why is this surgery seen as the easy way out? > For gods sake I > almost died postop after my kidneys failed, and > being on a ventilator > was no picnic either. Not to mention this surgery is > mentally the > toughest thing Ive ever done. I have decided not to > tell anyone > anymore about my surgery. IMHO they can all kiss my > azz. Thanks for > letting me vent. > > DS 7/24/01 > -49# > > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 > the same 50# and gaining 55# more. He said " you took the easy way > out " . Why is this surgery seen as the easy way out? For gods sake I I'm really sorry that happened to you. Some people just don't get it...and maybe never will. I guess we, as a society, should be grateful for the state of medicine to have advanced so far that people think it is easy to have major surgery! Sheesh! I *know* I'm gonna hear that same remark from some people if I ever do decide to tell them. Of course, the people in question are usually of normal weight and have never had to lose anything more than the 5lb holiday weight. I've also heard stories that other obese people react negatively to fellow obese people losing weight. I know I got that when I lost a lot of weight quickly a few years ago. One woman at work who has been in Weight Watchers for years was kind of stand-offish to me, not mean, but...she all of a sudden didn't want to talk to me, even in the most civil, non-work-related way. Jealousy have been part of it, but that's really not the right word. Now that I've gained all the weight back, she's much more friendly to me. Go figure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 Way to go Lenny! I won " t recognize you when you get back south again. Betsy J Re: The easy way??? > Good for you ! surgery was not the easy way > out... that's an addict's mentality, or at least > someone stuck in the problem (my opinion)...for > many of us WLS was the SMART way out and in many > cases only part of the picture...I have lost > about 82 pounds since Apr 2, and the biggest > changes may have been with my mental > health...people say my personality has > changed...I feel like I have blossomed, I could > never have envisioned the opportunities I feel > that are open to me now, because of physical and > attitude changes...I go the gym 4 times a week > with a trainer now! Last week was my first week, > I got up at 6am to meet him for 7am two of those > days, I work at night, I have turned my days > around. I feel like I have a life....I am living > my life. > I also have put into place a practice regarding > food that I could not, did not and was unable to > do pre-surgery, no matter how many structured > diet plans and unstructed diets I participated > in. > LIVING LIFE with all of its opportunities and > trials and putting myself on the front line of > experiences with people and interests and new > activities is not the easy way out. The easy way > out FOR ME was to sit in front of the TV, eat two > bags of various chips with various dips, eat an > abundance of ice cream and sugar and then feel > very sedated; I found most of my friends living > in sit com worlds and now I am meeting new people > and even dating....TRUST ME, it's not easy, IT'S > BETTER, but it's not easier. > AND finally, I wouldn't have it any other way for > me!! > have a great one > LennyB > 45 and feel like 25 > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 > hes overweight and diets all the time losing and gaining > the same 50# and gaining 55# more. He said " you took the easy way > out " . . . > Hi - The difference between the two of you is the fact that your 49# are gone forever and that is only the beginning. When he sees what happens with you, his attitude may change. Look at it as an effort to educate that may not bear fruit for some time. If we are afraid to let people know about this surgery, they will never have the chance to benefit from it themselves. I haven't had the surgery yet but I let every MO person I see know about it. If they think something is inappropriate, let them see how my weight plummets and stays plummetted. As far as his reaction is concerned, Freud had a term for it. I think it was called some kind of envy. LOL Best- Nick in Sage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2001 Report Share Posted August 25, 2001 In a message dated 8/25/01 8:31:00 AM Pacific Daylight Time, alyssaj@... writes: > First, your friend is jealous. He's going to get more jealous as you lose > more weight and keep it off! > > Second, it's seen as the " easy way out " because this society feels like fat > people should suffer for being fat. Fat is a character flaw, you see. > > People need to go back to 1st grade to learn that " if you can't say > something nice, say nothing at all! " > > Very true....you said that well. ~~* AJ *~~ Age 37 5'8'' Post op 7/24/01 Open BPD/DS self pay - Dr Baltasar -Alcoy Spain 07/24/01 BMI 64 415.1 08/06/01 BMI 59 390.2 -24.9 lbs! -10.75 inches 08/16/01 BMI 58 387.0 -27.9 lbs! -11.25 inches 08/24/01 BMI 58 386.5 -28.7 lbs! -15.5 inches My personal website: www.WLS4AJ@... Check out the Bellingham Support Group at WWW.WLSBellingham.homestead.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2001 Report Share Posted August 25, 2001 Well, I'm not the only one! I had a friend tell me, well I'm losing weight without any surgery so stop feeling sorry for myself! I had called her to tell her that I was feeling bad after my surgery that I just had August 13. This surgery is the most difficult thing I have ever done in my life. Physically and emotionally it has been a strain on me and it's hard for others to understand. " The easy way out? " Hardly. Just hang in there and don't listen to the ignorance of others. But I agree with you, I think I'll keep my mouth shut about the surgery with certain people, too- who needs the stress? Sandi > I ran into a friend the other today. Ive lost 49# in the last month > since my surgery. He said man you look better what kind of diet are > you on? And I made the mistake of telling him about the surgery. What > a mistake hes overweight and diets all the time losing and gaining > the same 50# and gaining 55# more. He said " you took the easy way > out " . Why is this surgery seen as the easy way out? For gods sake I > almost died postop after my kidneys failed, and being on a ventilator > was no picnic either. Not to mention this surgery is mentally the > toughest thing Ive ever done. I have decided not to tell anyone > anymore about my surgery. IMHO they can all kiss my azz. Thanks for > letting me vent. > > DS 7/24/01 > -49# Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2001 Report Share Posted August 25, 2001 The easy way??? > I ran into a friend the other today. Ive lost 49# in the last month > since my surgery. He said man you look better what kind of diet are > you on? And I made the mistake of telling him about the surgery. What > a mistake hes overweight and diets all the time losing and gaining > the same 50# and gaining 55# more. He said " you took the easy way > out " . Why is this surgery seen as the easy way out? First, your friend is jealous. He's going to get more jealous as you lose more weight and keep it off! Second, it's seen as the " easy way out " because this society feels like fat people should suffer for being fat. Fat is a character flaw, you see. People need to go back to 1st grade to learn that " if you can't say something nice, say nothing at all! " alyssa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2001 Report Share Posted August 25, 2001 > People need to go back to 1st grade to learn that " if you can't say > something nice, say nothing at all! " ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The same can be said for people who don't know what they're talking about! Best - Nick in Sage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2001 Report Share Posted August 25, 2001 > People need to go back to 1st grade to learn that " if you can't say > something nice, say nothing at all! " ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The same can be said for people who don't know what they're talking about! Best - Nick in Sage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 26, 2001 Report Share Posted August 26, 2001 I only tell people that I know are suppotive and care. The others can just be amazed that i am looking good and try to figure it out. People can be so ignorant. You did the best thing for you and congrats. Ellen(Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 26, 2001 Report Share Posted August 26, 2001 I only tell people that I know are suppotive and care. The others can just be amazed that i am looking good and try to figure it out. People can be so ignorant. You did the best thing for you and congrats. Ellen(Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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