Guest guest Posted February 1, 2006 Report Share Posted February 1, 2006 , congrats on everything. Donna is correct. You have to take care of yourself and stop feeling guilty because it seems there is not enough of for everybody. Go Bren Bren, its all about you honey!!! Donna, I know that things might not be as easy as you would want them to be but I also believe that things that we experience make us stronger. I mean we may not realize it at the time because we just feel so very bad. You are so full of love and you care about everyone (even we...the strangers and I say that because we have not met one another). You truly will be blessed for your giving and doing and you will not be counted out or less than because truly you are a treasure. Be encouraged through this time that you are going through. You know just like I do that only God knows the outcome and no matter what you have to endure, know that you are not alone and the quickest way to get a prayer answer is to tell Him all about it because He does hear us. Big hug to you Donna. You never have to post or tell about anything that is going on in your life or that concerns you unless you want to and no one is going to be upset about that. I truly believe that the ultimate goal here for this group is our welfare. I pray for peace for you and your family. Pam Marsh --- Donna Jordon wrote: > my dear > I say the psychologist today and he told me that I > need to stop trying to fix my husband and it's time > for me to think about myself and what life has to > offer me. So some times it's hard not to be giving > when life is so full of other life. So while your > busy with college, work, family and all that goes > along with that take care of yourself, do what you > need to do for and we all understand, then > when you have a minute or two come on and just let > us know how you're doing. You don't have to answer > any post until you have some time, there's always > someone here to answer, it might be any one of us, > the group is large. I have alot going on right now, > a whole lot and I talked it all over with the > psychologist today. I'm not up to talking about > every thing because I cry, but he says I'm strong > and life does go on and it will be better for me, I > need to take care of me. So dear take care of you, > we'll still be here when things slow down for you. > I went and saw Kerre last night > and took her some motivation clothes also, and we > had a good talk, it was nice. I will talk about > things later when I'm feeling stronger. I know you > care, and the same goes your way. LOVE you. Do > good in college, and stay on track those size 11's > await you. Love Donna > > Diane Duenas > wrote: > OMG the new semester started on January 17th. Im > taking Statistics > and Oral Communication this semester. I have class > every morning > except Friday from 8-10, then work 10-6, then > homework, family, > sleep etc. I have one more semester and then I can > transfer to Cal > State East Bay! Im working on my Bachelor's and then > possibly my > teaching credential, and maybe my Master's. > > SOOOOOOOOOOO...that means I havent posted very > regularly. I feel > like Im not supporting everyone enough. Im reading > all the posts and > am so proud of all your accomplishments. > > Ron...you will make it through this...we will help > you. > > Robynn...lets get together soon. You are an amazing > person and have > so much sound advice. > > Donna: what can I say, I love you my friend, thanks > for caring so > much. And thanks for the jeans!! > > Pam: this journey sometimes throws us a curve ball > from time to > time. I know you are a strong woman and will come > out on top. > > Francisco: I love you. Thank you for bringing such > beauty and > spirituality to my life. Im better for having known > you and calling > you friend. > > Lilka, Barbara, Sandi, Ramona, OMG everyone...I dont > want to leave > anyone out. You are all like family to me and it > feels weird when I > dont hear from you all. > > Huggles and have a great day everyone > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2006 Report Share Posted February 1, 2006 , congrats on everything. Donna is correct. You have to take care of yourself and stop feeling guilty because it seems there is not enough of for everybody. Go Bren Bren, its all about you honey!!! Donna, I know that things might not be as easy as you would want them to be but I also believe that things that we experience make us stronger. I mean we may not realize it at the time because we just feel so very bad. You are so full of love and you care about everyone (even we...the strangers and I say that because we have not met one another). You truly will be blessed for your giving and doing and you will not be counted out or less than because truly you are a treasure. Be encouraged through this time that you are going through. You know just like I do that only God knows the outcome and no matter what you have to endure, know that you are not alone and the quickest way to get a prayer answer is to tell Him all about it because He does hear us. Big hug to you Donna. You never have to post or tell about anything that is going on in your life or that concerns you unless you want to and no one is going to be upset about that. I truly believe that the ultimate goal here for this group is our welfare. I pray for peace for you and your family. Pam Marsh --- Donna Jordon wrote: > my dear > I say the psychologist today and he told me that I > need to stop trying to fix my husband and it's time > for me to think about myself and what life has to > offer me. So some times it's hard not to be giving > when life is so full of other life. So while your > busy with college, work, family and all that goes > along with that take care of yourself, do what you > need to do for and we all understand, then > when you have a minute or two come on and just let > us know how you're doing. You don't have to answer > any post until you have some time, there's always > someone here to answer, it might be any one of us, > the group is large. I have alot going on right now, > a whole lot and I talked it all over with the > psychologist today. I'm not up to talking about > every thing because I cry, but he says I'm strong > and life does go on and it will be better for me, I > need to take care of me. So dear take care of you, > we'll still be here when things slow down for you. > I went and saw Kerre last night > and took her some motivation clothes also, and we > had a good talk, it was nice. I will talk about > things later when I'm feeling stronger. I know you > care, and the same goes your way. LOVE you. Do > good in college, and stay on track those size 11's > await you. Love Donna > > Diane Duenas > wrote: > OMG the new semester started on January 17th. Im > taking Statistics > and Oral Communication this semester. I have class > every morning > except Friday from 8-10, then work 10-6, then > homework, family, > sleep etc. I have one more semester and then I can > transfer to Cal > State East Bay! Im working on my Bachelor's and then > possibly my > teaching credential, and maybe my Master's. > > SOOOOOOOOOOO...that means I havent posted very > regularly. I feel > like Im not supporting everyone enough. Im reading > all the posts and > am so proud of all your accomplishments. > > Ron...you will make it through this...we will help > you. > > Robynn...lets get together soon. You are an amazing > person and have > so much sound advice. > > Donna: what can I say, I love you my friend, thanks > for caring so > much. And thanks for the jeans!! > > Pam: this journey sometimes throws us a curve ball > from time to > time. I know you are a strong woman and will come > out on top. > > Francisco: I love you. Thank you for bringing such > beauty and > spirituality to my life. Im better for having known > you and calling > you friend. > > Lilka, Barbara, Sandi, Ramona, OMG everyone...I dont > want to leave > anyone out. You are all like family to me and it > feels weird when I > dont hear from you all. > > Huggles and have a great day everyone > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2006 Report Share Posted February 1, 2006 Pam Marsh Thanks for your kind words, you are a dear person. I know what you mean about enduring and we become stronger, I have endured so much in this life and am a very strong person, but sometimes we wonder when will it be just a little bit easier. The Psychologist said when I start taking care of Donna first. He's right and I know this divorce will be hard, because my husband and me are not fighting over the divorce. It's hard because of his mental illness and this just makes life even harder for him, but like the doctor said to me I can't fix him. He has to many problems and they can't fix him, only do the best to make his life somewhat better. This makes me cry because we always want hope that things can get better. The doctor said my marriage is like a person with cancer who is dieing, we want that person to get better but are relieved when they pass, but must mourn the passing and go on. So I am in mourning of the passing of my 24 year marriage. It will be best for all. My husband will be better without and family responsibility and where he wants to be with less people and more nature. I will continue on and take care of ME and my family. Me first now that my boys are young men. God did let my husband have enough piece of mind at least to make it until the boys where young men, so God did answer that prayer for me and I thank him every day. Now I will go on and I will take care of ME, it is scary starting over at 50, but I am strong and will be okay. My boys are great and they give me a lot of support. Just to say my husband is really a wonderful person when all his emotions and mind is working well, but this just isn't all the time and less each year, it's sad. Thanks for caring and hearing my cry. DonnaPamela A Marsh wrote: , congrats on everything. Donna is correct. You have to take care of yourself and stop feelingguilty because it seems there is not enough of for everybody. Go Bren Bren, its all about youhoney!!!Donna, I know that things might not be as easy as youwould want them to be but I also believe that thingsthat we experience make us stronger. I mean we maynot realize it at the time because we just feel sovery bad. You are so full of love and you care abouteveryone (even we...the strangers and I say thatbecause we have not met one another). You truly willbe blessed for your giving and doing and you will notbe counted out or less than because truly you are atreasure. Be encouraged through this time that youare going through. You know just like I do that onlyGod knows the outcome and no matter what you have toendure, know that you are not alone and the quickestway to get a prayer answer is to tell Him all about itbecause He does hear us. Big hug to you Donna. Younever have to post or tell about anything that isgoing on in your life or that concerns you unless youwant to and no one is going to be upset about that. Itruly believe that the ultimate goal here for thisgroup is our welfare. I pray for peace for you andyour family.Pam Marsh--- Donna Jordon wrote:> my dear> I say the psychologist today and he told me that I> need to stop trying to fix my husband and it's time> for me to think about myself and what life has to> offer me. So some times it's hard not to be giving> when life is so full of other life. So while your> busy with college, work, family and all that goes> along with that take care of yourself, do what you> need to do for and we all understand, then> when you have a minute or two come on and just let> us know how you're doing. You don't have to answer> any post until you have some time, there's always> someone here to answer, it might be any one of us,> the group is large. I have alot going on right now,> a whole lot and I talked it all over with the> psychologist today. I'm not up to talking about> every thing because I cry, but he says I'm strong> and life does go on and it will be better for me, I> need to take care of me. So dear take care of you,> we'll still be here when things slow down for you. > I went and saw Kerre last night> and took her some motivation clothes also, and we> had a good talk, it was nice. I will talk about> things later when I'm feeling stronger. I know you> care, and the same goes your way. LOVE you. Do> good in college, and stay on track those size 11's> await you. Love Donna> > Diane Duenas > wrote:> OMG the new semester started on January 17th. Im> taking Statistics > and Oral Communication this semester. I have class> every morning > except Friday from 8-10, then work 10-6, then> homework, family, > sleep etc. I have one more semester and then I can> transfer to Cal > State East Bay! Im working on my Bachelor's and then> possibly my > teaching credential, and maybe my Master's.> > SOOOOOOOOOOO...that means I havent posted very> regularly. I feel > like Im not supporting everyone enough. Im reading> all the posts and > am so proud of all your accomplishments.> > Ron...you will make it through this...we will help> you.> > Robynn...lets get together soon. You are an amazing> person and have > so much sound advice.> > Donna: what can I say, I love you my friend, thanks> for caring so > much. And thanks for the jeans!!> > Pam: this journey sometimes throws us a curve ball> from time to > time. I know you are a strong woman and will come> out on top.> > Francisco: I love you. Thank you for bringing such> beauty and > spirituality to my life. Im better for having known> you and calling > you friend.> > Lilka, Barbara, Sandi, Ramona, OMG everyone...I dont> want to leave > anyone out. You are all like family to me and it> feels weird when I > dont hear from you all.> > Huggles and have a great day everyone> > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2006 Report Share Posted February 1, 2006 Pam Marsh Thanks for your kind words, you are a dear person. I know what you mean about enduring and we become stronger, I have endured so much in this life and am a very strong person, but sometimes we wonder when will it be just a little bit easier. The Psychologist said when I start taking care of Donna first. He's right and I know this divorce will be hard, because my husband and me are not fighting over the divorce. It's hard because of his mental illness and this just makes life even harder for him, but like the doctor said to me I can't fix him. He has to many problems and they can't fix him, only do the best to make his life somewhat better. This makes me cry because we always want hope that things can get better. The doctor said my marriage is like a person with cancer who is dieing, we want that person to get better but are relieved when they pass, but must mourn the passing and go on. So I am in mourning of the passing of my 24 year marriage. It will be best for all. My husband will be better without and family responsibility and where he wants to be with less people and more nature. I will continue on and take care of ME and my family. Me first now that my boys are young men. God did let my husband have enough piece of mind at least to make it until the boys where young men, so God did answer that prayer for me and I thank him every day. Now I will go on and I will take care of ME, it is scary starting over at 50, but I am strong and will be okay. My boys are great and they give me a lot of support. Just to say my husband is really a wonderful person when all his emotions and mind is working well, but this just isn't all the time and less each year, it's sad. Thanks for caring and hearing my cry. DonnaPamela A Marsh wrote: , congrats on everything. Donna is correct. You have to take care of yourself and stop feelingguilty because it seems there is not enough of for everybody. Go Bren Bren, its all about youhoney!!!Donna, I know that things might not be as easy as youwould want them to be but I also believe that thingsthat we experience make us stronger. I mean we maynot realize it at the time because we just feel sovery bad. You are so full of love and you care abouteveryone (even we...the strangers and I say thatbecause we have not met one another). You truly willbe blessed for your giving and doing and you will notbe counted out or less than because truly you are atreasure. Be encouraged through this time that youare going through. You know just like I do that onlyGod knows the outcome and no matter what you have toendure, know that you are not alone and the quickestway to get a prayer answer is to tell Him all about itbecause He does hear us. Big hug to you Donna. Younever have to post or tell about anything that isgoing on in your life or that concerns you unless youwant to and no one is going to be upset about that. Itruly believe that the ultimate goal here for thisgroup is our welfare. I pray for peace for you andyour family.Pam Marsh--- Donna Jordon wrote:> my dear> I say the psychologist today and he told me that I> need to stop trying to fix my husband and it's time> for me to think about myself and what life has to> offer me. So some times it's hard not to be giving> when life is so full of other life. So while your> busy with college, work, family and all that goes> along with that take care of yourself, do what you> need to do for and we all understand, then> when you have a minute or two come on and just let> us know how you're doing. You don't have to answer> any post until you have some time, there's always> someone here to answer, it might be any one of us,> the group is large. I have alot going on right now,> a whole lot and I talked it all over with the> psychologist today. I'm not up to talking about> every thing because I cry, but he says I'm strong> and life does go on and it will be better for me, I> need to take care of me. So dear take care of you,> we'll still be here when things slow down for you. > I went and saw Kerre last night> and took her some motivation clothes also, and we> had a good talk, it was nice. I will talk about> things later when I'm feeling stronger. I know you> care, and the same goes your way. LOVE you. Do> good in college, and stay on track those size 11's> await you. Love Donna> > Diane Duenas > wrote:> OMG the new semester started on January 17th. Im> taking Statistics > and Oral Communication this semester. I have class> every morning > except Friday from 8-10, then work 10-6, then> homework, family, > sleep etc. I have one more semester and then I can> transfer to Cal > State East Bay! Im working on my Bachelor's and then> possibly my > teaching credential, and maybe my Master's.> > SOOOOOOOOOOO...that means I havent posted very> regularly. I feel > like Im not supporting everyone enough. Im reading> all the posts and > am so proud of all your accomplishments.> > Ron...you will make it through this...we will help> you.> > Robynn...lets get together soon. You are an amazing> person and have > so much sound advice.> > Donna: what can I say, I love you my friend, thanks> for caring so > much. And thanks for the jeans!!> > Pam: this journey sometimes throws us a curve ball> from time to > time. I know you are a strong woman and will come> out on top.> > Francisco: I love you. Thank you for bringing such> beauty and > spirituality to my life. Im better for having known> you and calling > you friend.> > Lilka, Barbara, Sandi, Ramona, OMG everyone...I dont> want to leave > anyone out. You are all like family to me and it> feels weird when I > dont hear from you all.> > Huggles and have a great day everyone> > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2006 Report Share Posted February 1, 2006 Donna, I'm so sorry you have to go through this all. The psychologist's comparison to someone dying of cancer is so apt; you're going through exactly the same grieving process for your marriage that you would if a person died, and I know it's hard. At least your boys have to know that you're not doing it because you hate one another, and that you've really tried to make it - but sometimes there are things that can't be changed and which make it impossible to continue, and this is one of them. You're so strong and compassionate, and your words have helped me so many times when I haven't had a chance to reply. I hope our love and caring for you comes through to help keep your spirits up during this difficult time. Cathy C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2006 Report Share Posted February 1, 2006 Donna, I'm so sorry you have to go through this all. The psychologist's comparison to someone dying of cancer is so apt; you're going through exactly the same grieving process for your marriage that you would if a person died, and I know it's hard. At least your boys have to know that you're not doing it because you hate one another, and that you've really tried to make it - but sometimes there are things that can't be changed and which make it impossible to continue, and this is one of them. You're so strong and compassionate, and your words have helped me so many times when I haven't had a chance to reply. I hope our love and caring for you comes through to help keep your spirits up during this difficult time. Cathy C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2006 Report Share Posted February 2, 2006 Cathy Thank you so much, the caring does come through and I really need it. My boys are great and my husband and I are working through it the best we can so no one is hurt. It's still tough times, but I will stay strong and in the end God will guide us through. Take care. DonnaCathy wrote: Donna,I'm so sorry you have to go through this all. The psychologist's comparison to someone dying of cancer is so apt; you're going through exactly the same grieving process for your marriage that you would if a person died, and I know it's hard. At least your boys have to know that you're not doing it because you hate one another, and that you've really tried to make it - but sometimes there are things that can't be changed and which make it impossible to continue, and this is one of them.You're so strong and compassionate, and your words have helped me so many times when I haven't had a chance to reply. I hope our love and caring for you comes through to help keep your spirits up during this difficult time.Cathy C.Donna JordonDSJordon@... Yahoo! Mail - Helps protect you from nasty viruses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2006 Report Share Posted February 2, 2006 Cathy Thank you so much, the caring does come through and I really need it. My boys are great and my husband and I are working through it the best we can so no one is hurt. It's still tough times, but I will stay strong and in the end God will guide us through. Take care. DonnaCathy wrote: Donna,I'm so sorry you have to go through this all. The psychologist's comparison to someone dying of cancer is so apt; you're going through exactly the same grieving process for your marriage that you would if a person died, and I know it's hard. At least your boys have to know that you're not doing it because you hate one another, and that you've really tried to make it - but sometimes there are things that can't be changed and which make it impossible to continue, and this is one of them.You're so strong and compassionate, and your words have helped me so many times when I haven't had a chance to reply. I hope our love and caring for you comes through to help keep your spirits up during this difficult time.Cathy C.Donna JordonDSJordon@... Yahoo! Mail - Helps protect you from nasty viruses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2006 Report Share Posted February 3, 2006 Donna, I am really sorry this is happening to you and will keep you in my prayers. I know that over time, the pain will become less and who knows, maybe it won't but one thing is for sure is that God is with you every step of the way. I know that starting over at 50 will not be easy for you as it is never easy when you have to start over. My mom described her divorce from my dad like a death. I can't even imagine because I have not gone through a divorce so I really and truly can not say I can relate. All I know is that you have to do what is best for you and like I said, know that prayers are being said for you and your family. Pam Marsh --- Donna Jordon wrote: > Pam Marsh > Thanks for your kind words, you are a dear person. > I know what you mean about enduring and we become > stronger, I have endured so much in this life and am > a very strong person, but sometimes we wonder when > will it be just a little bit easier. The > Psychologist said when I start taking care of Donna > first. He's right and I know this divorce will be > hard, because my husband and me are not fighting > over the divorce. It's hard because of his mental > illness and this just makes life even harder for > him, but like the doctor said to me I can't fix him. > He has to many problems and they can't fix him, > only do the best to make his life somewhat better. > This makes me cry because we always want hope that > things can get better. The doctor said my marriage > is like a person with cancer who is dieing, we want > that person to get better but are relieved when they > pass, but must mourn the passing and go on. So I am > in mourning of the passing of my 24 year marriage. > It will be best for all. My > husband will be better without and family > responsibility and where he wants to be with less > people and more nature. I will continue on and take > care of ME and my family. Me first now that my boys > are young men. God did let my husband have enough > piece of mind at least to make it until the boys > where young men, so God did answer that prayer for > me and I thank him every day. Now I will go on and > I will take care of ME, it is scary starting over at > 50, but I am strong and will be okay. My boys are > great and they give me a lot of support. Just to > say my husband is really a wonderful person when all > his emotions and mind is working well, but this just > isn't all the time and less each year, it's sad. > Thanks for caring and hearing my cry. Donna > > Pamela A Marsh wrote: > > , congrats on everything. Donna is correct. > You have to take care of yourself and stop feeling > guilty because it seems there is not enough of > > for everybody. Go Bren Bren, its all about you > honey!!! > > Donna, I know that things might not be as easy as > you > would want them to be but I also believe that things > that we experience make us stronger. I mean we may > not realize it at the time because we just feel so > very bad. You are so full of love and you care > about > everyone (even we...the strangers and I say that > because we have not met one another). You truly > will > be blessed for your giving and doing and you will > not > be counted out or less than because truly you are a > treasure. Be encouraged through this time that you > are going through. You know just like I do that > only > God knows the outcome and no matter what you have to > endure, know that you are not alone and the quickest > way to get a prayer answer is to tell Him all about > it > because He does hear us. Big hug to you Donna. You > never have to post or tell about anything that is > going on in your life or that concerns you unless > you > want to and no one is going to be upset about that. > I > truly believe that the ultimate goal here for this > group is our welfare. I pray for peace for you and > your family. > > Pam Marsh > --- Donna Jordon wrote: > > > my dear > > I say the psychologist today and he told me that > I > > need to stop trying to fix my husband and it's > time > > for me to think about myself and what life has to > > offer me. So some times it's hard not to be > giving > > when life is so full of other life. So while your > > busy with college, work, family and all that goes > > along with that take care of yourself, do what you > > need to do for and we all understand, then > > when you have a minute or two come on and just let > > us know how you're doing. You don't have to > answer > > any post until you have some time, there's always > > someone here to answer, it might be any one of us, > > the group is large. I have alot going on right > now, > > a whole lot and I talked it all over with the > > psychologist today. I'm not up to talking about > > every thing because I cry, but he says I'm strong > > and life does go on and it will be better for me, > I > > need to take care of me. So dear take care of > you, > > we'll still be here when things slow down for you. > > > I went and saw Kerre last night > > and took her some motivation clothes also, and we > > had a good talk, it was nice. I will talk about > > things later when I'm feeling stronger. I know > you > > care, and the same goes your way. LOVE you. Do > > good in college, and stay on track those size 11's > > await you. Love Donna > > > > Diane Duenas > > wrote: > > OMG the new semester started on January 17th. Im > > taking Statistics > > and Oral Communication this semester. I have class > > every morning > > except Friday from 8-10, then work 10-6, then > > homework, family, > > sleep etc. I have one more semester and then I can > > transfer to Cal > > State East Bay! Im working on my Bachelor's and > then > > possibly my > > teaching credential, and maybe my Master's. > > > > SOOOOOOOOOOO...that means I havent posted very > > regularly. I feel > > like Im not supporting everyone enough. Im reading > > all the posts and > > am so proud of all your accomplishments. > > > > Ron...you will make it through this...we will help > > you. > > > > Robynn...lets get together soon. You are an > amazing > > person and have > > so much sound advice. > > > > Donna: what can I say, I love you my friend, > thanks > > for caring so > > much. And thanks for the jeans!! > > > > Pam: this journey sometimes throws us a curve ball > > from time to > > time. I know you are a strong woman and will come > > out on top. > > > > Francisco: I love you. Thank you for bringing such > > beauty and > > spirituality to my life. Im better for having > known > > you and calling > > you friend. > > > > Lilka, Barbara, Sandi, Ramona, OMG everyone...I > dont > > want to leave > > anyone out. You are all like family to me and it > > feels weird when I > > dont hear from you all. > > > > Huggles and have a great day everyone > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2006 Report Share Posted February 3, 2006 Donna, I am really sorry this is happening to you and will keep you in my prayers. I know that over time, the pain will become less and who knows, maybe it won't but one thing is for sure is that God is with you every step of the way. I know that starting over at 50 will not be easy for you as it is never easy when you have to start over. My mom described her divorce from my dad like a death. I can't even imagine because I have not gone through a divorce so I really and truly can not say I can relate. All I know is that you have to do what is best for you and like I said, know that prayers are being said for you and your family. Pam Marsh --- Donna Jordon wrote: > Pam Marsh > Thanks for your kind words, you are a dear person. > I know what you mean about enduring and we become > stronger, I have endured so much in this life and am > a very strong person, but sometimes we wonder when > will it be just a little bit easier. The > Psychologist said when I start taking care of Donna > first. He's right and I know this divorce will be > hard, because my husband and me are not fighting > over the divorce. It's hard because of his mental > illness and this just makes life even harder for > him, but like the doctor said to me I can't fix him. > He has to many problems and they can't fix him, > only do the best to make his life somewhat better. > This makes me cry because we always want hope that > things can get better. The doctor said my marriage > is like a person with cancer who is dieing, we want > that person to get better but are relieved when they > pass, but must mourn the passing and go on. So I am > in mourning of the passing of my 24 year marriage. > It will be best for all. My > husband will be better without and family > responsibility and where he wants to be with less > people and more nature. I will continue on and take > care of ME and my family. Me first now that my boys > are young men. God did let my husband have enough > piece of mind at least to make it until the boys > where young men, so God did answer that prayer for > me and I thank him every day. Now I will go on and > I will take care of ME, it is scary starting over at > 50, but I am strong and will be okay. My boys are > great and they give me a lot of support. Just to > say my husband is really a wonderful person when all > his emotions and mind is working well, but this just > isn't all the time and less each year, it's sad. > Thanks for caring and hearing my cry. Donna > > Pamela A Marsh wrote: > > , congrats on everything. Donna is correct. > You have to take care of yourself and stop feeling > guilty because it seems there is not enough of > > for everybody. Go Bren Bren, its all about you > honey!!! > > Donna, I know that things might not be as easy as > you > would want them to be but I also believe that things > that we experience make us stronger. I mean we may > not realize it at the time because we just feel so > very bad. You are so full of love and you care > about > everyone (even we...the strangers and I say that > because we have not met one another). You truly > will > be blessed for your giving and doing and you will > not > be counted out or less than because truly you are a > treasure. Be encouraged through this time that you > are going through. You know just like I do that > only > God knows the outcome and no matter what you have to > endure, know that you are not alone and the quickest > way to get a prayer answer is to tell Him all about > it > because He does hear us. Big hug to you Donna. You > never have to post or tell about anything that is > going on in your life or that concerns you unless > you > want to and no one is going to be upset about that. > I > truly believe that the ultimate goal here for this > group is our welfare. I pray for peace for you and > your family. > > Pam Marsh > --- Donna Jordon wrote: > > > my dear > > I say the psychologist today and he told me that > I > > need to stop trying to fix my husband and it's > time > > for me to think about myself and what life has to > > offer me. So some times it's hard not to be > giving > > when life is so full of other life. So while your > > busy with college, work, family and all that goes > > along with that take care of yourself, do what you > > need to do for and we all understand, then > > when you have a minute or two come on and just let > > us know how you're doing. You don't have to > answer > > any post until you have some time, there's always > > someone here to answer, it might be any one of us, > > the group is large. I have alot going on right > now, > > a whole lot and I talked it all over with the > > psychologist today. I'm not up to talking about > > every thing because I cry, but he says I'm strong > > and life does go on and it will be better for me, > I > > need to take care of me. So dear take care of > you, > > we'll still be here when things slow down for you. > > > I went and saw Kerre last night > > and took her some motivation clothes also, and we > > had a good talk, it was nice. I will talk about > > things later when I'm feeling stronger. I know > you > > care, and the same goes your way. LOVE you. Do > > good in college, and stay on track those size 11's > > await you. Love Donna > > > > Diane Duenas > > wrote: > > OMG the new semester started on January 17th. Im > > taking Statistics > > and Oral Communication this semester. I have class > > every morning > > except Friday from 8-10, then work 10-6, then > > homework, family, > > sleep etc. I have one more semester and then I can > > transfer to Cal > > State East Bay! Im working on my Bachelor's and > then > > possibly my > > teaching credential, and maybe my Master's. > > > > SOOOOOOOOOOO...that means I havent posted very > > regularly. I feel > > like Im not supporting everyone enough. Im reading > > all the posts and > > am so proud of all your accomplishments. > > > > Ron...you will make it through this...we will help > > you. > > > > Robynn...lets get together soon. You are an > amazing > > person and have > > so much sound advice. > > > > Donna: what can I say, I love you my friend, > thanks > > for caring so > > much. And thanks for the jeans!! > > > > Pam: this journey sometimes throws us a curve ball > > from time to > > time. I know you are a strong woman and will come > > out on top. > > > > Francisco: I love you. Thank you for bringing such > > beauty and > > spirituality to my life. Im better for having > known > > you and calling > > you friend. > > > > Lilka, Barbara, Sandi, Ramona, OMG everyone...I > dont > > want to leave > > anyone out. You are all like family to me and it > > feels weird when I > > dont hear from you all. > > > > Huggles and have a great day everyone > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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