Re: heart and hunger cravings

[Guest guest]

Hi Francisco....

Hang in the buddy...it will get better. This small bump in your

journey will pass. I remember last year when you posted about

squashing a donut the same way and I put that information in my tool

bag. Thanx for reminding me!

My wife wants to cook popcorn in the microwave to help her from

eating pretzels of all things (go figure). Well I don't

particularily want to smell popped corn right now as this is one of

my trigger foods. soooo...I bought a small microwave for $40 bucks

today and installed it on the washer in the garage. If she wants to

cook popcorn I'm going to ask her to do it outside for awhile. I'll

see what happens !!

Regards,

Gordy

>

> I'm really struggling today.

>

> I'm at the office, and there are chocolate cookies and fudge in the

> break room. I've really had to tell myself over and over that I

> don't need to eat them.

>

> And I'm so tempted. So I've been doing one of my " eccentric "

> techniques that has been helping. So here's my confession about

what

> it is: I go in the break room. I look at the food I don't need,

and

> I repeat, " I don't need this right now. "

>

> Then I take the portion that I would normally eat (I've done this

> several times today because there is tons of stuff in there, and in

> the past, I would have eaten a huge portion of food like that), and

I

> wrap it in a paper towel, and crush it in my hands. Then I throw

it

> out in the trash thinking, " It's going to eventually end up in the

> landfill or the sewer. It does not have to go through me. "

>

> OK, I feel a little better. Those little victories bolster my

> confidence.

>

> I'm not sure where this craving came from. Maybe it has to do with

> all the introspection I've been doing. Maybe it's my heart being

> tussled around. Philippe is over, but I've already been on two

dates

> with a new guy, Dan. And Dan seems like a really nice guy… very

> sweet. The dynamic between Philippe and me was all moon beams and

> romance (not necessarily bad), but with Dan, there is a calmness.

> Philippe was like a gale force wind, whereas Dan feels like a warm

> tropical breeze. I'm enjoying the more relaxed feeling I'm getting

> from Dan. Melting in his arms last night made me feel safe and

> secure. We held each other and rocked back and forth as he ran his

> fingers through my hair. I get relaxed and sleepy just thinking

> about it.

>

> So… I'm still thinking about my response about how to fill the

void,

> Lilka. Hopefully, I'll have a coherent response to that one soon.

>

> But, for now, I've beaten the craving monster, and I'm feeling

better.

>

> Thanks for listening. I think my cravings will always be tied to

my

> emotions. At least now I have some coping skills that help me

though

> the rough times.

>

> Francisco

>

[Guest guest]

Gordy:

You are so right! The smell of popcorn still calls to me, but it's

call is not so loud when I'm in a good place emotionally. Yeah, I'm

a heap of emotions... that's just me.

I'm glad to hear that you've come up with a great way to cope with

the temptation. I really hope your wife will help out. It's so

important for our loved ones to at least attempt to be part of the

winning (losing) team. That's half the battle here. Figuring out

how to make it work. We all need our bag of tricks to help us

through the challenges because whether we like it or not, the world

will still exist with all its temptations.

We just need to realize that we are not powerless in the face of

challenges (I'm talking to myself here too...).

I'm so happy that you're doing well post-op! OMG You're finally post-

op! YAY!

Francisco

>

> Hi Francisco....

>

> Hang in the buddy...it will get better. This small bump in your

> journey will pass. I remember last year when you posted about

> squashing a donut the same way and I put that information in my

tool

> bag. Thanx for reminding me!

>

> My wife wants to cook popcorn in the microwave to help her from

> eating pretzels of all things (go figure). Well I don't

> particularily want to smell popped corn right now as this is one of

> my trigger foods. soooo...I bought a small microwave for $40 bucks

> today and installed it on the washer in the garage. If she wants

to

> cook popcorn I'm going to ask her to do it outside for awhile.

I'll

> see what happens !!

>

> Regards,

> Gordy

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Francisco

Of course us being twins and all, Ive been going thru the same things

as you have lately. Introspect and bad cravings!! Yesterday I ate

junk all day..not one thing nutritious and then of course beat my

self up all day. Im not sure what its about either, I cant seem to

stop. I thought it was the full moon phase or that my TOM is coming

soon, but if you are having it too...LOL I know its not that!!

I guess we just need to vent about it here. Im gonna try your

technique tomorrow. Today isnt as bad as yesterday. Saturday I was

given 3 boxes of chocolate from my catechism students. I gave one

away, I dont like one, and the other OMG I love it and ate more than

I should have this weekend...so Im going to probably bring them into

work tomorrow and put them out for staff.

Grab my hand my friend, we can make it through this!

Huggles

>

> I'm really struggling today.

>

> I'm at the office, and there are chocolate cookies and fudge in the

> break room. I've really had to tell myself over and over that I

> don't need to eat them.

>

> And I'm so tempted. So I've been doing one of my " eccentric "

> techniques that has been helping. So here's my confession about

what

> it is: I go in the break room. I look at the food I don't need,

and

> I repeat, " I don't need this right now. "

>

> Then I take the portion that I would normally eat (I've done this

> several times today because there is tons of stuff in there, and in

> the past, I would have eaten a huge portion of food like that), and

I

> wrap it in a paper towel, and crush it in my hands. Then I throw

it

> out in the trash thinking, " It's going to eventually end up in the

> landfill or the sewer. It does not have to go through me. "

>

> OK, I feel a little better. Those little victories bolster my

> confidence.

>

> I'm not sure where this craving came from. Maybe it has to do with

> all the introspection I've been doing. Maybe it's my heart being

> tussled around. Philippe is over, but I've already been on two

dates

> with a new guy, Dan. And Dan seems like a really nice guy… very

> sweet. The dynamic between Philippe and me was all moon beams and

> romance (not necessarily bad), but with Dan, there is a calmness.

> Philippe was like a gale force wind, whereas Dan feels like a warm

> tropical breeze. I'm enjoying the more relaxed feeling I'm getting

> from Dan. Melting in his arms last night made me feel safe and

> secure. We held each other and rocked back and forth as he ran his

> fingers through my hair. I get relaxed and sleepy just thinking

> about it.

>

> So… I'm still thinking about my response about how to fill the

void,

> Lilka. Hopefully, I'll have a coherent response to that one soon.

>

> But, for now, I've beaten the craving monster, and I'm feeling

better.

>

> Thanks for listening. I think my cravings will always be tied to

my

> emotions. At least now I have some coping skills that help me

though

> the rough times.

>

> Francisco

>

[Guest guest]

Francisco I believe a lot of people's food craving come from emotions and stress. You beating your craving by smashing it up in a napkin was a great way to deal with it. I love it. Thinking before putting into the mouth what a wonder thing to do, that's what we all need to do. Also being prepared when we know things will tempt us. My friend Joni, and me went to the movies, I bring SF hard candy to suck on and a diet snapple (yes I snick it in), but then it doesn't bother me to pass the snack bar right up. Then we went to lunch had a salad with chicken stripes, ate the chicken and a few bites of salad. So then when we went to another friends little Xmas get together and there was a lot of food, lots of good food and some that would taste good, but not good for us, we didn't need to eat we were already full. I brought my own drinks just in case there wasn't what I needed or wanted other than water that is. We

had a great day and even didn't get no Starbucks, not when she's with me (LOL ). So yes you did good Francisco handling the situation you were in with the food. Think about any event that is coming and try to be prepared. I hope you hang in there, and with time things will work for you, being patient is so important. Take care. Donnamanisodream wrote: I'm really struggling today.I'm at the office, and there are chocolate cookies and fudge in the break room. I've really had to tell myself over and over that I don't need to eat them.And I'm so tempted. So I've been doing one of my "eccentric" techniques that has been helping. So here's my confession about what it is: I go in the break room. I look at the food I don't

need, and I repeat, "I don't need this right now."Then I take the portion that I would normally eat (I've done this several times today because there is tons of stuff in there, and in the past, I would have eaten a huge portion of food like that), and I wrap it in a paper towel, and crush it in my hands. Then I throw it out in the trash thinking, "It's going to eventually end up in the landfill or the sewer. It does not have to go through me."OK, I feel a little better. Those little victories bolster my confidence.I'm not sure where this craving came from. Maybe it has to do with all the introspection I've been doing. Maybe it's my heart being tussled around. Philippe is over, but I've already been on two dates with a new guy, Dan. And Dan seems like a really nice guy… very sweet. The dynamic between Philippe and me was all moon beams and romance (not necessarily

bad), but with Dan, there is a calmness. Philippe was like a gale force wind, whereas Dan feels like a warm tropical breeze. I'm enjoying the more relaxed feeling I'm getting from Dan. Melting in his arms last night made me feel safe and secure. We held each other and rocked back and forth as he ran his fingers through my hair. I get relaxed and sleepy just thinking about it.So… I'm still thinking about my response about how to fill the void, Lilka. Hopefully, I'll have a coherent response to that one soon.But, for now, I've beaten the craving monster, and I'm feeling better.Thanks for listening. I think my cravings will always be tied to my emotions. At least now I have some coping skills that help me though the rough times.Francisco Donna JordonDSJordon@...__________________________________________________

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Gordy I'm proud of you, your sticking up for yourself but not saying she can't have popcorn. What a compromise, this is boundaries that we all need to work on with our other. You did good, now let's see if she respects your boundaries by cooking the popcorn in the garage. I have wonderful information about boundaries, self esteem, anger, and co-dependency and I bringing copies for the support group. We go through a lot of things after WLS and we now say our piece where before I think some of us just didn't, feeling bad because we were over weight. Now our other and us really need to work through things together, and you did good. DonnaGordy wrote: Hi Francisco....Hang in the buddy...it will get better. This small bump in your journey will pass. I

remember last year when you posted about squashing a donut the same way and I put that information in my tool bag. Thanx for reminding me!My wife wants to cook popcorn in the microwave to help her from eating pretzels of all things (go figure). Well I don't particularily want to smell popped corn right now as this is one of my trigger foods. soooo...I bought a small microwave for $40 bucks today and installed it on the washer in the garage. If she wants to cook popcorn I'm going to ask her to do it outside for awhile. I'll see what happens !!Regards,Gordy>> I'm really struggling today.> > I'm at the office, and there are chocolate cookies and fudge in the > break room. I've really had to tell myself over and over that I > don't need to eat

them.> > And I'm so tempted. So I've been doing one of my "eccentric" > techniques that has been helping. So here's my confession about what > it is: I go in the break room. I look at the food I don't need, and > I repeat, "I don't need this right now."> > Then I take the portion that I would normally eat (I've done this > several times today because there is tons of stuff in there, and in > the past, I would have eaten a huge portion of food like that), and I > wrap it in a paper towel, and crush it in my hands. Then I throw it > out in the trash thinking, "It's going to eventually end up in the > landfill or the sewer. It does not have to go through me."> > OK, I feel a little better. Those little victories bolster my > confidence.> > I'm not sure where this craving came from. Maybe it has to do with

> all the introspection I've been doing. Maybe it's my heart being > tussled around. Philippe is over, but I've already been on two dates > with a new guy, Dan. And Dan seems like a really nice guy… very > sweet. The dynamic between Philippe and me was all moon beams and > romance (not necessarily bad), but with Dan, there is a calmness. > Philippe was like a gale force wind, whereas Dan feels like a warm > tropical breeze. I'm enjoying the more relaxed feeling I'm getting > from Dan. Melting in his arms last night made me feel safe and > secure. We held each other and rocked back and forth as he ran his > fingers through my hair. I get relaxed and sleepy just thinking > about it.> > So… I'm still thinking about my response about how to fill the void, > Lilka. Hopefully, I'll have a coherent response to that one

soon.> > But, for now, I've beaten the craving monster, and I'm feeling better.> > Thanks for listening. I think my cravings will always be tied to my > emotions. At least now I have some coping skills that help me though > the rough times.> > Francisco> Donna JordonDSJordon@...__________________________________________________

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Saturday you were so good with us. You should of gave away the best box of candy first, then the second best and you wouldn't of wanted the one you don't like. I baked one whole day until 2 in the morning for daycare parents, senior citizens, my parents and neighbors. I had my SF candy to suck on while cooking and my SF popsicles and I didn't touch any thing, my boys where eating a little of every thing and was amazed I didn't. I knew if I took one bite it would lead to another, so I had my own stuff on hand. Being prepared. I went to bed and as soon as I got up I delivered all the goodies every where until none was left. My boys said mom you didn't save us any, no I said you had enough while I was baking. They agreed and I know they would of eat to much. All holidays are stressful, we're to busy and food seems to ease this so we think, a good friend can do the same as food. So don't go there, I've

been hearing to many people on other sites say I'm 3 years out and have put on over half the weight I've lost on and on. Think we didn't do this WLS to go back where we were. I'm here when you need me. Donna Diane Duenas wrote: Hi FranciscoOf course us being twins and all, Ive been going thru the same things as you have lately. Introspect and bad cravings!! Yesterday I ate junk all day..not one thing nutritious and then of course beat my self up all day. Im not sure what its about either, I cant seem to stop. I thought it was the full moon phase or that my TOM is coming soon, but if you are having it too...LOL I know its not that!!I guess we just need to vent about it here. Im gonna try your technique tomorrow. Today isnt as bad as

yesterday. Saturday I was given 3 boxes of chocolate from my catechism students. I gave one away, I dont like one, and the other OMG I love it and ate more than I should have this weekend...so Im going to probably bring them into work tomorrow and put them out for staff.Grab my hand my friend, we can make it through this!Huggles>> I'm really struggling today.> > I'm at the office, and there are chocolate cookies and fudge in the > break room. I've really had to tell myself over and over that I > don't need to eat them.> > And I'm so tempted. So I've been doing one of my "eccentric" > techniques that has been helping. So here's my confession about what > it is: I go in the break room. I look at the food I don't need, and

> I repeat, "I don't need this right now."> > Then I take the portion that I would normally eat (I've done this > several times today because there is tons of stuff in there, and in > the past, I would have eaten a huge portion of food like that), and I > wrap it in a paper towel, and crush it in my hands. Then I throw it > out in the trash thinking, "It's going to eventually end up in the > landfill or the sewer. It does not have to go through me."> > OK, I feel a little better. Those little victories bolster my > confidence.> > I'm not sure where this craving came from. Maybe it has to do with > all the introspection I've been doing. Maybe it's my heart being > tussled around. Philippe is over, but I've already been on two dates > with a new guy, Dan. And Dan seems like a really nice guy… very > sweet.

The dynamic between Philippe and me was all moon beams and > romance (not necessarily bad), but with Dan, there is a calmness. > Philippe was like a gale force wind, whereas Dan feels like a warm > tropical breeze. I'm enjoying the more relaxed feeling I'm getting > from Dan. Melting in his arms last night made me feel safe and > secure. We held each other and rocked back and forth as he ran his > fingers through my hair. I get relaxed and sleepy just thinking > about it.> > So… I'm still thinking about my response about how to fill the void, > Lilka. Hopefully, I'll have a coherent response to that one soon.> > But, for now, I've beaten the craving monster, and I'm feeling better.> > Thanks for listening. I think my cravings will always be tied to my > emotions. At least now I have some coping skills that help me

though > the rough times.> > Francisco> Donna JordonDSJordon@...__________________________________________________

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Saturday you were so good with us. You should of gave away the best box of candy first, then the second best and you wouldn't of wanted the one you don't like. I baked one whole day until 2 in the morning for daycare parents, senior citizens, my parents and neighbors. I had my SF candy to suck on while cooking and my SF popsicles and I didn't touch any thing, my boys where eating a little of every thing and was amazed I didn't. I knew if I took one bite it would lead to another, so I had my own stuff on hand. Being prepared. I went to bed and as soon as I got up I delivered all the goodies every where until none was left. My boys said mom you didn't save us any, no I said you had enough while I was baking. They agreed and I know they would of eat to much. All holidays are stressful, we're to busy and food seems to ease this so we think, a good friend can do the same as food. So don't go there, I've

been hearing to many people on other sites say I'm 3 years out and have put on over half the weight I've lost on and on. Think we didn't do this WLS to go back where we were. I'm here when you need me. Donna Diane Duenas wrote: Hi FranciscoOf course us being twins and all, Ive been going thru the same things as you have lately. Introspect and bad cravings!! Yesterday I ate junk all day..not one thing nutritious and then of course beat my self up all day. Im not sure what its about either, I cant seem to stop. I thought it was the full moon phase or that my TOM is coming soon, but if you are having it too...LOL I know its not that!!I guess we just need to vent about it here. Im gonna try your technique tomorrow. Today isnt as bad as

yesterday. Saturday I was given 3 boxes of chocolate from my catechism students. I gave one away, I dont like one, and the other OMG I love it and ate more than I should have this weekend...so Im going to probably bring them into work tomorrow and put them out for staff.Grab my hand my friend, we can make it through this!Huggles>> I'm really struggling today.> > I'm at the office, and there are chocolate cookies and fudge in the > break room. I've really had to tell myself over and over that I > don't need to eat them.> > And I'm so tempted. So I've been doing one of my "eccentric" > techniques that has been helping. So here's my confession about what > it is: I go in the break room. I look at the food I don't need, and

> I repeat, "I don't need this right now."> > Then I take the portion that I would normally eat (I've done this > several times today because there is tons of stuff in there, and in > the past, I would have eaten a huge portion of food like that), and I > wrap it in a paper towel, and crush it in my hands. Then I throw it > out in the trash thinking, "It's going to eventually end up in the > landfill or the sewer. It does not have to go through me."> > OK, I feel a little better. Those little victories bolster my > confidence.> > I'm not sure where this craving came from. Maybe it has to do with > all the introspection I've been doing. Maybe it's my heart being > tussled around. Philippe is over, but I've already been on two dates > with a new guy, Dan. And Dan seems like a really nice guy… very > sweet.

The dynamic between Philippe and me was all moon beams and > romance (not necessarily bad), but with Dan, there is a calmness. > Philippe was like a gale force wind, whereas Dan feels like a warm > tropical breeze. I'm enjoying the more relaxed feeling I'm getting > from Dan. Melting in his arms last night made me feel safe and > secure. We held each other and rocked back and forth as he ran his > fingers through my hair. I get relaxed and sleepy just thinking > about it.> > So… I'm still thinking about my response about how to fill the void, > Lilka. Hopefully, I'll have a coherent response to that one soon.> > But, for now, I've beaten the craving monster, and I'm feeling better.> > Thanks for listening. I think my cravings will always be tied to my > emotions. At least now I have some coping skills that help me

though > the rough times.> > Francisco> Donna JordonDSJordon@...__________________________________________________

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Donna:

You are a wise woman. Thank you for your support!

Francisco

>

> Francisco

> I believe a lot of people's food craving come from emotions and

stress. You beating your craving by smashing it up in a napkin was a

great way to deal with it. I love it. Thinking before putting into

the mouth what a wonder thing to do, that's what we all need to do.

Also being prepared when we know things will tempt us. My friend

Joni, and me went to the movies, I bring SF hard candy to suck

on and a diet snapple (yes I snick it in), but then it doesn't bother

me to pass the snack bar right up. Then we went to lunch had a salad

with chicken stripes, ate the chicken and a few bites of salad. So

then when we went to another friends little Xmas get together and

there was a lot of food, lots of good food and some that would taste

good, but not good for us, we didn't need to eat we were already

full. I brought my own drinks just in case there wasn't what I

needed or wanted other than water that is. We had a great day and

even didn't get no Starbucks, not when

> she's with me (LOL ). So yes you did good Francisco

handling the situation you were in with the food. Think about any

event that is coming and try to be prepared. I hope you hang in

there, and with time things will work for you, being patient is so

important. Take care. Donna

>

[Guest guest]

Donna:

You are a wise woman. Thank you for your support!

Francisco

>

> Francisco

> I believe a lot of people's food craving come from emotions and

stress. You beating your craving by smashing it up in a napkin was a

great way to deal with it. I love it. Thinking before putting into

the mouth what a wonder thing to do, that's what we all need to do.

Also being prepared when we know things will tempt us. My friend

Joni, and me went to the movies, I bring SF hard candy to suck

on and a diet snapple (yes I snick it in), but then it doesn't bother

me to pass the snack bar right up. Then we went to lunch had a salad

with chicken stripes, ate the chicken and a few bites of salad. So

then when we went to another friends little Xmas get together and

there was a lot of food, lots of good food and some that would taste

good, but not good for us, we didn't need to eat we were already

full. I brought my own drinks just in case there wasn't what I

needed or wanted other than water that is. We had a great day and

even didn't get no Starbucks, not when

> she's with me (LOL ). So yes you did good Francisco

handling the situation you were in with the food. Think about any

event that is coming and try to be prepared. I hope you hang in

there, and with time things will work for you, being patient is so

important. Take care. Donna

>