Very emotional... surgery soon

[Guest guest]

Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with me.

I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I am

so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way before

surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't stay

@ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful after

the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of " what if's... " Also...

I have done so much research on this procedure and everything sounds

great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a

friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating

room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some of

you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the yoyoing

for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I am

going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!

Thanks so much!

Patti

[Guest guest]

Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with me.

I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I am

so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way before

surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't stay

@ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful after

the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of " what if's... " Also...

I have done so much research on this procedure and everything sounds

great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a

friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating

room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some of

you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the yoyoing

for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I am

going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!

Thanks so much!

Patti

[Guest guest]

Relax, it's normal! Look, you're about to go

through a major life-changing event. If you've

ever gotten married, or moved away from your

family home to go to college, or something like

that, it's kinda similar. You know it's the right

thing for you, you're really excited about it,

WHAT THE HECK AM I DOING?!? For the last couple

of weeks before my own surgery, I ended up on

anti-anxiety meds just so I could sleep at night.

My recommendation? Do whatever fits with your

personal model of spirituality. This means pray,

or meditate, or lie on your back and look at the

stars (assuming it isn't raining or cloudy) or go

outside and listen to the birds cuss each other

out, or look at a flower just blossoming. Trust

in your higher power, whatever you consider that to be.

If you feel inspired to write " in the event of my

death " letters to family and friends, fine. If

you don't, that's fine too. You're on the brink

of a new exciting life. Take a deep breath and enjoy the ride!

At 17:00 02/17/2006, you wrote:

>Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with me.

>I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I am

>so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way before

>surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't stay

>@ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful after

>the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of " what if's... " Also...

>I have done so much research on this procedure and everything sounds

>great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a

>friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating

>room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some of

>you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the yoyoing

>for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I am

>going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!

Eleanor Oster

eleanor@... (personal address)

www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

San , CA

Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

~5'9 " tall

05/09/2003 319 Orientation

07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

Current 157±2 Goal until plastics?

[Guest guest]

Relax, it's normal! Look, you're about to go

through a major life-changing event. If you've

ever gotten married, or moved away from your

family home to go to college, or something like

that, it's kinda similar. You know it's the right

thing for you, you're really excited about it,

WHAT THE HECK AM I DOING?!? For the last couple

of weeks before my own surgery, I ended up on

anti-anxiety meds just so I could sleep at night.

My recommendation? Do whatever fits with your

personal model of spirituality. This means pray,

or meditate, or lie on your back and look at the

stars (assuming it isn't raining or cloudy) or go

outside and listen to the birds cuss each other

out, or look at a flower just blossoming. Trust

in your higher power, whatever you consider that to be.

If you feel inspired to write " in the event of my

death " letters to family and friends, fine. If

you don't, that's fine too. You're on the brink

of a new exciting life. Take a deep breath and enjoy the ride!

At 17:00 02/17/2006, you wrote:

>Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with me.

>I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I am

>so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way before

>surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't stay

>@ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful after

>the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of " what if's... " Also...

>I have done so much research on this procedure and everything sounds

>great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a

>friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating

>room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some of

>you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the yoyoing

>for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I am

>going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!

Eleanor Oster

eleanor@... (personal address)

www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

San , CA

Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

~5'9 " tall

05/09/2003 319 Orientation

07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

Current 157±2 Goal until plastics?

[Guest guest]

Patti - take a deep breath. I think most of us wonder just before if

we are doing the right thing, if only for an instant. I couldn't

get in that OR fast enough. I haven't regreted a thing yet (of

course I am only 3 weeks out) But I KNOW that I made the right

choice for me. You will do great. You know you won't be alone, we

are all here for you.

PEGGY

>

> Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with

me.

> I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I

am

> so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way

before

> surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't

stay

> @ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful

after

> the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of " what if's... "

Also...

> I have done so much research on this procedure and everything

sounds

> great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a

> friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating

> room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some

of

> you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the

yoyoing

> for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I

am

> going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!

>

> Thanks so much!

> Patti

>

[Guest guest]

Patti - take a deep breath. I think most of us wonder just before if

we are doing the right thing, if only for an instant. I couldn't

get in that OR fast enough. I haven't regreted a thing yet (of

course I am only 3 weeks out) But I KNOW that I made the right

choice for me. You will do great. You know you won't be alone, we

are all here for you.

PEGGY

>

> Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with

me.

> I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I

am

> so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way

before

> surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't

stay

> @ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful

after

> the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of " what if's... "

Also...

> I have done so much research on this procedure and everything

sounds

> great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a

> friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating

> room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some

of

> you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the

yoyoing

> for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I

am

> going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!

>

> Thanks so much!

> Patti

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Patti. Lilka here. Perhaps you have been reading my posts and you

know that I was very skeptical about the surgery. I had to do it to

save myself but I was not one of those enthusiastic types. I felt as

if I were marching to a cliff and I was about to fall off. And march

I did. I am now almost 4 weeks out on the other side. Everyone has a

different experience and mine has been OK. I have lost about 20

pounds since then. I always wondered about the many people who

encouraged me and said the other side was so " wonderful " It is only

wonderful if we make it so. Somedays I am ecstatic and some days I

am low. But i am healing and I keep reading Francisco's messages and

I believe I might be able to make it with the help of my tiny pouch

and my now love of the water. We are who we are and I see myself

projecting and worrying some of the time and believing part of the

time. That is my character but I know that only positive thinking,

staying in the moment, and believing in myself can retrieve me from

my negative side. I was resigned and I am now resigned while I wait

to heal so that I can garden and ride a bike and climb a mountain,

and ride in a kayac. These activities will let me know it was all

worth it. Of course we are worried but let's cross those bridges

when we come to them. March on, my friend. I am sure you will not

die nor will you regret this action for your very life. Love, Lilka

>

> Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with

me.

> I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I

am

> so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way

before

> surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't

stay

> @ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful

after

> the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of " what if's... "

Also...

> I have done so much research on this procedure and everything

sounds

> great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a

> friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating

> room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some

of

> you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the

yoyoing

> for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I

am

> going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!

>

> Thanks so much!

> Patti

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Patti. Lilka here. Perhaps you have been reading my posts and you

know that I was very skeptical about the surgery. I had to do it to

save myself but I was not one of those enthusiastic types. I felt as

if I were marching to a cliff and I was about to fall off. And march

I did. I am now almost 4 weeks out on the other side. Everyone has a

different experience and mine has been OK. I have lost about 20

pounds since then. I always wondered about the many people who

encouraged me and said the other side was so " wonderful " It is only

wonderful if we make it so. Somedays I am ecstatic and some days I

am low. But i am healing and I keep reading Francisco's messages and

I believe I might be able to make it with the help of my tiny pouch

and my now love of the water. We are who we are and I see myself

projecting and worrying some of the time and believing part of the

time. That is my character but I know that only positive thinking,

staying in the moment, and believing in myself can retrieve me from

my negative side. I was resigned and I am now resigned while I wait

to heal so that I can garden and ride a bike and climb a mountain,

and ride in a kayac. These activities will let me know it was all

worth it. Of course we are worried but let's cross those bridges

when we come to them. March on, my friend. I am sure you will not

die nor will you regret this action for your very life. Love, Lilka

>

> Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with

me.

> I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I

am

> so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way

before

> surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't

stay

> @ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful

after

> the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of " what if's... "

Also...

> I have done so much research on this procedure and everything

sounds

> great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a

> friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating

> room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some

of

> you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the

yoyoing

> for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I

am

> going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!

>

> Thanks so much!

> Patti

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Patti, I had the surgery on October 12, 2005 at 8:30 in the morning

and I was scared to death. I was a nervous wreck for about a week

before the surgery, I also had alot of " what if's " it's all normal.

Just try to relax, and think about how great you will feel when it's all

over. This is the best thing I could of done for myself. I am down 100

lbs. and feel fantastic. Hang in there, it's only going to get better.

Marita

>

> Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with me.

> I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I am

> so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way before

> surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't stay

> @ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful after

> the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of " what if's... " Also...

> I have done so much research on this procedure and everything sounds

> great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a

> friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating

> room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some of

> you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the yoyoing

> for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I am

> going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!

>

> Thanks so much!

> Patti

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Patti, I had the surgery on October 12, 2005 at 8:30 in the morning

and I was scared to death. I was a nervous wreck for about a week

before the surgery, I also had alot of " what if's " it's all normal.

Just try to relax, and think about how great you will feel when it's all

over. This is the best thing I could of done for myself. I am down 100

lbs. and feel fantastic. Hang in there, it's only going to get better.

Marita

>

> Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with me.

> I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I am

> so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way before

> surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't stay

> @ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful after

> the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of " what if's... " Also...

> I have done so much research on this procedure and everything sounds

> great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a

> friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating

> room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some of

> you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the yoyoing

> for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I am

> going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!

>

> Thanks so much!

> Patti

>

[Guest guest]

I can definitely identify with the emotions, my surgery is just over a week away - 2/28/06, and i've been freaking out too. Not so much about the actual surgery, I have a great surgeon and I'm not worried about that. My main concern at the moment is whether or not I can make the lifestyle changes -- eat and drink in a whole different way for the rest of my life, etc. It's hard to wrap my mind around the fact that there'll be no more "big mac attacks"!! I'm sure this is totally normal, but post-surgery I'll have to live a whole different way and it's scary.

Diann in VA

Hi Patti, I had the surgery on October 12, 2005 at 8:30 in the morningand I was scared to death. I was a nervous wreck for about a weekbefore the surgery, I also had alot of "what if's" it's all normal. Just try to relax, and think about how great you will feel when it's allover. This is the best thing I could of done for myself. I am down 100lbs. and feel fantastic. Hang in there, it's only going to get better.Marita>> Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with me.> I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I am> so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way before> surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't stay> @ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful after> the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of "what if's..." Also...> I have done so much research on this procedure and everything sounds> great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a> friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating> room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some of> you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the yoyoing> for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I am> going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!>> Thanks so much!> Patti>

[Guest guest]

I can definitely identify with the emotions, my surgery is just over a week away - 2/28/06, and i've been freaking out too. Not so much about the actual surgery, I have a great surgeon and I'm not worried about that. My main concern at the moment is whether or not I can make the lifestyle changes -- eat and drink in a whole different way for the rest of my life, etc. It's hard to wrap my mind around the fact that there'll be no more "big mac attacks"!! I'm sure this is totally normal, but post-surgery I'll have to live a whole different way and it's scary.

Diann in VA

Hi Patti, I had the surgery on October 12, 2005 at 8:30 in the morningand I was scared to death. I was a nervous wreck for about a weekbefore the surgery, I also had alot of "what if's" it's all normal. Just try to relax, and think about how great you will feel when it's allover. This is the best thing I could of done for myself. I am down 100lbs. and feel fantastic. Hang in there, it's only going to get better.Marita>> Hi Everyone... this is my first time posting, so please bare with me.> I am scheduled for surgery on 3/13 and am totally freaking out. I am> so emotional and am wondering if anyone else became this way before> surgery as well? I'm thinking to myself... oh no, what if I can't stay> @ goal? what if I'm doing the wrong thing? What if it's so awful after> the surgery I regret it? What if I die? Lots of "what if's..." Also...> I have done so much research on this procedure and everything sounds> great, but there has to be some after emotional stuff?! I have a> friend who had surgery and she said all the way into the operating> room she kept wanting to change her mind. Was this normal for some of> you? I know this is my only option as I have been doing the yoyoing> for years. I'm just scared and feel so darn emotional and that I am> going out of my mind. Please, someone normalize this for me!!>> Thanks so much!> Patti>