Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Hi all Most of you know the story of my brother, dying of morbid obesity...yesterday would have been his 39th birthday. It is harder this year for some reason. My son and grandson share the birthday and that helped shift the focus some what but it was really hard this year. Even my son, got teary and said he missed celebrating his birthday with his uncle. I just wanted to share this with everyone, I know its not technically WLS info but for some reason, has effected me more profoundly this year. Huggles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Hi all Most of you know the story of my brother, dying of morbid obesity...yesterday would have been his 39th birthday. It is harder this year for some reason. My son and grandson share the birthday and that helped shift the focus some what but it was really hard this year. Even my son, got teary and said he missed celebrating his birthday with his uncle. I just wanted to share this with everyone, I know its not technically WLS info but for some reason, has effected me more profoundly this year. Huggles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 , It may not *seem* WLS-related, but since losing your brother was a driving force in your making it to your surgery, I think it's entirely related - and I understand about missing him. Like Colleen, I've been thinking a lot about a parent I lost too early - my father, in my case, who died at 63 in 1991. In his case, it may not have been directly weight-related but there are still a lot of tie-ins: he was diabetic, but not diagnosed as such till his early 50's, and his blood sugars averaged about 160 (which his doctors thought was acceptable back then). He battled a weight problem for years, although I don't think his BMI ever went much above 40. He had heart disease, with his first heart attack at age 44. And although he was never diagnosed, I *know* he had sleep apnea - he snored for years, and had lots of interruptions to his breathing. But you know, I feel as if he's still looking out for me in a way even all these years after his death, because it's largely due to him that I've tried to keep on top of my health problems. Because of his diabetes, I had myself checked regularly from the time I was 35 - and so my diabetes was caught when I was only 42, and my blood sugars average much lower than Dad's ever did. Because I know he had heart disease, I'm much more aware of the risks women face in this area, and I don't mess around if I think I might be having a problem. I know you miss your brother, , but I'm sure he would be just as proud of you for what you've accomplished as we all are. And I also think that he would be happy to know that you've made such positive changes in your life because of his examples. Cathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 , It may not *seem* WLS-related, but since losing your brother was a driving force in your making it to your surgery, I think it's entirely related - and I understand about missing him. Like Colleen, I've been thinking a lot about a parent I lost too early - my father, in my case, who died at 63 in 1991. In his case, it may not have been directly weight-related but there are still a lot of tie-ins: he was diabetic, but not diagnosed as such till his early 50's, and his blood sugars averaged about 160 (which his doctors thought was acceptable back then). He battled a weight problem for years, although I don't think his BMI ever went much above 40. He had heart disease, with his first heart attack at age 44. And although he was never diagnosed, I *know* he had sleep apnea - he snored for years, and had lots of interruptions to his breathing. But you know, I feel as if he's still looking out for me in a way even all these years after his death, because it's largely due to him that I've tried to keep on top of my health problems. Because of his diabetes, I had myself checked regularly from the time I was 35 - and so my diabetes was caught when I was only 42, and my blood sugars average much lower than Dad's ever did. Because I know he had heart disease, I'm much more aware of the risks women face in this area, and I don't mess around if I think I might be having a problem. I know you miss your brother, , but I'm sure he would be just as proud of you for what you've accomplished as we all are. And I also think that he would be happy to know that you've made such positive changes in your life because of his examples. Cathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Thanks Cathy Thats one of the reasons I try not to take this gift Ive been given for granted...knowing he died trying to get approval for it. Huggles > > , > It may not *seem* WLS-related, but since losing your brother was a > driving force in your making it to your surgery, I think it's entirely > related - and I understand about missing him. > > Like Colleen, I've been thinking a lot about a parent I lost too early - > my father, in my case, who died at 63 in 1991. In his case, it may not > have been directly weight-related but there are still a lot of tie- ins: > he was diabetic, but not diagnosed as such till his early 50's, and his > blood sugars averaged about 160 (which his doctors thought was > acceptable back then). He battled a weight problem for years, although > I don't think his BMI ever went much above 40. He had heart disease, > with his first heart attack at age 44. And although he was never > diagnosed, I *know* he had sleep apnea - he snored for years, and had > lots of interruptions to his breathing. > > But you know, I feel as if he's still looking out for me in a way even > all these years after his death, because it's largely due to him that > I've tried to keep on top of my health problems. Because of his > diabetes, I had myself checked regularly from the time I was 35 - and > so my diabetes was caught when I was only 42, and my blood sugars > average much lower than Dad's ever did. Because I know he had heart > disease, I'm much more aware of the risks women face in this area, and > I don't mess around if I think I might be having a problem. > > I know you miss your brother, , but I'm sure he would be just as > proud of you for what you've accomplished as we all are. And I also > think that he would be happy to know that you've made such positive > changes in your life because of his examples. > > Cathy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Thanks Cathy Thats one of the reasons I try not to take this gift Ive been given for granted...knowing he died trying to get approval for it. Huggles > > , > It may not *seem* WLS-related, but since losing your brother was a > driving force in your making it to your surgery, I think it's entirely > related - and I understand about missing him. > > Like Colleen, I've been thinking a lot about a parent I lost too early - > my father, in my case, who died at 63 in 1991. In his case, it may not > have been directly weight-related but there are still a lot of tie- ins: > he was diabetic, but not diagnosed as such till his early 50's, and his > blood sugars averaged about 160 (which his doctors thought was > acceptable back then). He battled a weight problem for years, although > I don't think his BMI ever went much above 40. He had heart disease, > with his first heart attack at age 44. And although he was never > diagnosed, I *know* he had sleep apnea - he snored for years, and had > lots of interruptions to his breathing. > > But you know, I feel as if he's still looking out for me in a way even > all these years after his death, because it's largely due to him that > I've tried to keep on top of my health problems. Because of his > diabetes, I had myself checked regularly from the time I was 35 - and > so my diabetes was caught when I was only 42, and my blood sugars > average much lower than Dad's ever did. Because I know he had heart > disease, I'm much more aware of the risks women face in this area, and > I don't mess around if I think I might be having a problem. > > I know you miss your brother, , but I'm sure he would be just as > proud of you for what you've accomplished as we all are. And I also > think that he would be happy to know that you've made such positive > changes in your life because of his examples. > > Cathy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Anything that sets off emotions is a weight lose thing. It can make or break us. We need support during these times so we don't turn to food as comfort. So it's okay to say hey guys I'm sad, and we will say we understand and love you. Stay strong and on track, life isn't always easy but you need to know you are worth it, so stay on track and cry if you need too, there's nothing wrong with it, but think of yourself also. I have a bony shoulder to cry on if you need it. LOL Donna Diane Duenas wrote: Hi allMost of you know the story of my brother, dying of morbid obesity...yesterday would have been his 39th birthday. It is harder this year for some reason. My son and grandson share the birthday and that helped shift the focus some what but it was really hard this year. Even my son, got teary and said he missed celebrating his birthday with his uncle.I just wanted to share this with everyone, I know its not technically WLS info but for some reason, has effected me more profoundly this year.HugglesDonna JordonDSJordon@... Yahoo! Mail Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Anything that sets off emotions is a weight lose thing. It can make or break us. We need support during these times so we don't turn to food as comfort. So it's okay to say hey guys I'm sad, and we will say we understand and love you. Stay strong and on track, life isn't always easy but you need to know you are worth it, so stay on track and cry if you need too, there's nothing wrong with it, but think of yourself also. I have a bony shoulder to cry on if you need it. LOL Donna Diane Duenas wrote: Hi allMost of you know the story of my brother, dying of morbid obesity...yesterday would have been his 39th birthday. It is harder this year for some reason. My son and grandson share the birthday and that helped shift the focus some what but it was really hard this year. Even my son, got teary and said he missed celebrating his birthday with his uncle.I just wanted to share this with everyone, I know its not technically WLS info but for some reason, has effected me more profoundly this year.HugglesDonna JordonDSJordon@... Yahoo! Mail Use Photomail to share photos without annoying attachments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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