Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Hello everyone: I've got an issue that isn't sitting well with me. I'm at work, and as you know, there are 11 morbidly obese people here, several of whom have betrayed my confidence and told others in the office about my process. As a result, I've had to build up strong boundaries (I don't tell anyone anything) where I won't talk about my surgery at work, and I've simply told people that I don't feel comfortable discussing it. I've been very supportive of one woman, and in order to help and encourage her in her WLS process (she's pre-op) I've shared a lot with her. Today, after running 4 miles, and exercising like a dog, I decided to have a Reese's Peanut Butter Cup. I don't hide what I eat because it's my business and no one else's. I will not eat anything with shame. For is no longer " good " and " bad. " But I must make choices that are good for me and be accountable for ALL choices I make. I keep a running tally (via fitday.com) of all the calories I consume. So I don't get freaked out by having a Reece's Peanut Butter cup from time to time. And according to my marathon training, I must eat more calories in order to maintain my weight and recover from my hard workouts. Here's where the emotions come in. As Janet passed by me, she witnessed me eating a protein bar (a planned snack). She said, " Is that the way you eat Reese's Peanut Butter Cups? " I said forcefully, " Yes. " There was a judgmental tone in her voice, and it pisses me off. I feel like sending her an email saying, " Look. I have NEVER told you what to eat so please respect me by NOT commenting on what I eat. " This is a real pet peeve that I have. It really bothers me when people comment on what I eat because I AM ALWAYS truthful and accountable to myself. I don't need someone else, particularly someone in her position, telling me what I should and should not eat when I have NOT solicited that advice. It makes me want to withdraw my input from her regarding her process. Opinions please. I don't want to bite her head off, but I don't want her comments about what I'm eating either. Francisco Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Hello everyone: I've got an issue that isn't sitting well with me. I'm at work, and as you know, there are 11 morbidly obese people here, several of whom have betrayed my confidence and told others in the office about my process. As a result, I've had to build up strong boundaries (I don't tell anyone anything) where I won't talk about my surgery at work, and I've simply told people that I don't feel comfortable discussing it. I've been very supportive of one woman, and in order to help and encourage her in her WLS process (she's pre-op) I've shared a lot with her. Today, after running 4 miles, and exercising like a dog, I decided to have a Reese's Peanut Butter Cup. I don't hide what I eat because it's my business and no one else's. I will not eat anything with shame. For is no longer " good " and " bad. " But I must make choices that are good for me and be accountable for ALL choices I make. I keep a running tally (via fitday.com) of all the calories I consume. So I don't get freaked out by having a Reece's Peanut Butter cup from time to time. And according to my marathon training, I must eat more calories in order to maintain my weight and recover from my hard workouts. Here's where the emotions come in. As Janet passed by me, she witnessed me eating a protein bar (a planned snack). She said, " Is that the way you eat Reese's Peanut Butter Cups? " I said forcefully, " Yes. " There was a judgmental tone in her voice, and it pisses me off. I feel like sending her an email saying, " Look. I have NEVER told you what to eat so please respect me by NOT commenting on what I eat. " This is a real pet peeve that I have. It really bothers me when people comment on what I eat because I AM ALWAYS truthful and accountable to myself. I don't need someone else, particularly someone in her position, telling me what I should and should not eat when I have NOT solicited that advice. It makes me want to withdraw my input from her regarding her process. Opinions please. I don't want to bite her head off, but I don't want her comments about what I'm eating either. Francisco Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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