Guest guest Posted April 9, 2008 Report Share Posted April 9, 2008 I decided I had to go back into the ARCHIVES and pull up some of the posts on Grief-- found this one from 2004. So very many times I open up the emails and read where one or several > of us > are going thru tough times with spouses, friends family that don't > understand > what is happening to us. > > They see small changes in us, and most would like to believe that our > physical weakness is brought about by deconditioning or weight gain or > depression. > In our frustration, we pull back, then they pull back, and then we find > ourselves feeling very much like we are out here alone-- with no one > to turn to. > > We go thru a period of guilt, anger, frustration, denial, bargaining > (looking > at the choices we might have to get better), and then we go back into > this > cycle and sometimes we even experience some acceptance of where we are > at. This > cycle is the FIVE STAGES OF GRIEVING. > > Sometimes when we're feeling especially alone, or feeling like no one > cares, > or that we're the only one in pain, or we feel panic because we want > an answer > and we want it now-- we forget that the person we're asking is > everybit as > sick as we are. > > We forget to ask each other what is going on. We get used to people > answering and filling our every need, and take for granted that this > is just how it > is. > > We also go around and tell ourselves that we're not gonna post because > my > " life " is better than everyone elses " life " , so I don't have a right > to bitch and > complain. > > I want to share this with you, because we are all on the same path. > We all > hurt, we all have been hurt, been scared that we won't get better, > we've all > lost friends and loved ones and jobs, and financial security, and > hobbies, and > had to change our lives to fit our " Sarcoidosis. " > > What if we were to open up and share our pains? What if we were to > open up > and share our joys and our sorrows? What if we were to open up and > share our > laughter and our tears? What would happen? > > Would we be told that we can't tell everyone that because if we do, > then > they'll think- shit- I wish my life was as good as xxx. In the 2 > years I've been > part of this group, no one has ever been told that their pain, > physical or > emotional isn't real. It has never happened and will never happen. > > What does happen is that someone will reach out and tell you they > understand > what you're going thru. They may have a book that helped them. They > may have > a story to share. They may even be able to " one-up " you on the > nightmare > that you're going thru--(we don't recommend this approach- lol). > Mostly, someone > will help you while you're struggling. > > We will celebrate you in your joys and hold you in your tears. > Support-- > > Compassionately, > Tracie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2008 Report Share Posted April 9, 2008 I decided I had to go back into the ARCHIVES and pull up some of the posts on Grief-- found this one from 2004. So very many times I open up the emails and read where one or several > of us > are going thru tough times with spouses, friends family that don't > understand > what is happening to us. > > They see small changes in us, and most would like to believe that our > physical weakness is brought about by deconditioning or weight gain or > depression. > In our frustration, we pull back, then they pull back, and then we find > ourselves feeling very much like we are out here alone-- with no one > to turn to. > > We go thru a period of guilt, anger, frustration, denial, bargaining > (looking > at the choices we might have to get better), and then we go back into > this > cycle and sometimes we even experience some acceptance of where we are > at. This > cycle is the FIVE STAGES OF GRIEVING. > > Sometimes when we're feeling especially alone, or feeling like no one > cares, > or that we're the only one in pain, or we feel panic because we want > an answer > and we want it now-- we forget that the person we're asking is > everybit as > sick as we are. > > We forget to ask each other what is going on. We get used to people > answering and filling our every need, and take for granted that this > is just how it > is. > > We also go around and tell ourselves that we're not gonna post because > my > " life " is better than everyone elses " life " , so I don't have a right > to bitch and > complain. > > I want to share this with you, because we are all on the same path. > We all > hurt, we all have been hurt, been scared that we won't get better, > we've all > lost friends and loved ones and jobs, and financial security, and > hobbies, and > had to change our lives to fit our " Sarcoidosis. " > > What if we were to open up and share our pains? What if we were to > open up > and share our joys and our sorrows? What if we were to open up and > share our > laughter and our tears? What would happen? > > Would we be told that we can't tell everyone that because if we do, > then > they'll think- shit- I wish my life was as good as xxx. In the 2 > years I've been > part of this group, no one has ever been told that their pain, > physical or > emotional isn't real. It has never happened and will never happen. > > What does happen is that someone will reach out and tell you they > understand > what you're going thru. They may have a book that helped them. They > may have > a story to share. They may even be able to " one-up " you on the > nightmare > that you're going thru--(we don't recommend this approach- lol). > Mostly, someone > will help you while you're struggling. > > We will celebrate you in your joys and hold you in your tears. > Support-- > > Compassionately, > Tracie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.