This Message is being posted by Judy in PA's Husband Bob, to Tracie &

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Hi Tracie and !

Well I did my part and dutifully listened to what you had to say,

and didn't interrupt to give you a solution to your problem before

you finished.

So. Now it's my turn to do the appropriate male thing and give you

some suggestions of how to work together in developng your " healing

team " .

First move your computer up into the bedroom, so you can escape all

the testosterone and noise and do your computing in the bed room.

Next find books on the internet and read them while sitting at the

computer. I am assuming that you do not generate pain for your self

while at the computer, if so disregard the last. Try books on tape or

CD, using a set of head phones that also block out any noise (Bose

company has a set that does this,www.bose.com) In fact you can just

us the head phones to block out the noise while doing your computer

work.

In regards to waiking up and wanting to scream outloud. Go ahead and

scream. Scream Therapy is good for you, and IT lets those around you

know that you realy are in dire physical or mental pain.

Since the boys are leaving in a couple months perhaps you, ,

could work out with the boys before supper, since it is better to

take in carbs and proteen on a 3 carbs to 1 protein ratio for supper

(The carbs open the muscle structure " doors " to allow the proteins to

get into the muscle fiber to manufacture more muscle, therefore

gaining strength and size) during that 45 minute to 1 hour window

after a workout to protein load. Of course drinking a whey protein,

yogert, fruit smoothy pre-workout assisting in stamina during the

work out; and it is only for a couple months.

, I was disapointed that you asked " What you can do to help "

followed by " you are not going to change or ask the boys to change "

you are just wasting your time and veracity. If you are not willing

to make some changes you don't really mean you want to help.

Remember. For better or for worse dosen't mean you don't have to deal

with worse. I know care giving is a pain in the butt, but that's the

other side of the coin when you say " I do. " I know you are probibly

thinking " who do I think I am suggesting what you could do, but when

I get really tired of stopping what I am doing just to help her with

something she can't do from being to tired or in to much pain to do.

I remind my self that this dam disease may all to soon put me in the

position where I'd give anything to be able to get her that drink or

thing just one more time. bob in PA

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Thank you Bob for the letter. My hubby feels the same way and likes to tell my family. I think you have a good outlook . Keep the faith and understanding.

Jackie from WI

This Message is being posted by Judy in PA's Husband Bob, to Tracie &

Hi Tracie and !Well I did my part and dutifully listened to what you had to say, and didn't interrupt to give you a solution to your problem before you finished.So. Now it's my turn to do the appropriate male thing and give you some suggestions of how to work together in developng your "healing team".First move your computer up into the bedroom, so you can escape all the testosterone and noise and do your computing in the bed room. Next find books on the internet and read them while sitting at the computer. I am assuming that you do not generate pain for your self while at the computer, if so disregard the last. Try books on tape or CD, using a set of head phones that also block out any noise (Bose company has a set that does this,www.bose.com) In fact you can just us the head phones to block out the noise while doing your computer work.In regards to waiking up and wanting to scream outloud. Go ahead and scream. Scream Therapy is good for you, and IT lets those around you know that you realy are in dire physical or mental pain.Since the boys are leaving in a couple months perhaps you, , could work out with the boys before supper, since it is better to take in carbs and proteen on a 3 carbs to 1 protein ratio for supper (The carbs open the muscle structure "doors" to allow the proteins to get into the muscle fiber to manufacture more muscle, therefore gaining strength and size) during that 45 minute to 1 hour window after a workout to protein load. Of course drinking a whey protein, yogert, fruit smoothy pre-workout assisting in stamina during the work out; and it is only for a couple months. , I was disapointed that you asked "What you can do to help" followed by "you are not going to change or ask the boys to change" you are just wasting your time and veracity. If you are not willing to make some changes you don't really mean you want to help.Remember. For better or for worse dosen't mean you don't have to deal with worse. I know care giving is a pain in the butt, but that's the other side of the coin when you say "I do." I know you are probibly thinking "who do I think I am suggesting what you could do, but when I get really tired of stopping what I am doing just to help her with something she can't do from being to tired or in to much pain to do. I remind my self that this dam disease may all to soon put me in the position where I'd give anything to be able to get her that drink or thing just one more time. bob in PA