Re: Another question. . .

[Guest guest]

I told my kids from the very beginning when I first researched it.

They were 4, 10,16,19,and 21 at the time. Of course with the 4 and

10 yr old it was different than with the older ones. They all have

weight issues and hopefully they can some day learn from me.

>

> We've had threads on this list about when/if to tell friends, co-

> workers, etc. However in the time I've been here I don't remember

> seeing anyone talk about kids, and I'm curious how people have

handled

> this - when did you talk to your kids about the surgery and the

changes

> it would mean? How did they handle it? What were their

worries/concerns?

>

> My kids aren't really little - a teenager and a middle-schooler -

but I

> haven't really talked to them about this yet, and I feel that I

should.

> My older daughter is very aware of health and lifestyle issues;

she

> exercises a lot and makes very good diet choices. My younger

daughter

> isn't as good in her choices and isn't as active, and I'd like to

be

> more of a role model for her as I lose weight.

>

> So - thoughts?

>

> Cathy C.

>

[Guest guest]

I know my son is much younger than Cathy's (6), but I chose not to tell him at all. He was with his Dad while I had surgery (luckily) and I did not tell either of them. Just a personal choice, especially since I think my son is too young to understand what is going on and telling him "Mommy is going to have surgery" would make him lose his poor little mind.

Barbara (LTLJSMOM)

Dr. Fisher

12/12/05

Orientation: 284.5

Surgery: 250

Today: 223..ish

Goal: 125-130

From: Diane Duenas Sent: Wednesday, January 11, 2006 6:34 PMTo: gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patients Subject: Re: Another question. . .

I told my kids from the very beginning when I first researched it. They were 4, 10,16,19,and 21 at the time. Of course with the 4 and 10 yr old it was different than with the older ones. They all have weight issues and hopefully they can some day learn from me.>> We've had threads on this list about when/if to tell friends, co-> workers, etc. However in the time I've been here I don't remember > seeing anyone talk about kids, and I'm curious how people have handled > this - when did you talk to your kids about the surgery and the changes > it would mean? How did they handle it? What were their worries/concerns?> > My kids aren't really little - a teenager and a middle-schooler - but I > haven't really talked to them about this yet, and I feel that I should. > My older daughter is very aware of health and lifestyle issues; she > exercises a lot and makes very good diet choices. My younger daughter > isn't as good in her choices and isn't as active, and I'd like to be > more of a role model for her as I lose weight.> > So - thoughts?> > Cathy C.>

[Guest guest]

Cathy My boys where 20 and 22 years old time of my surgery. I told them as soon as I had a date for orientation. I talked to them about what each appointment was, how I was doing with weight lose, exercise, every thing. They where worried because I did almost die with surgery before, so we talked about all the pros and cons, every thing and they where there at my surgery with there dad, and my best friend and daughter. I believe being honest helped them understand and they don't try to get me to eat things I'm not suppose to and they encourage me to exercise if I miss a day. They are older than your children, so I'm not sure if this helps you. My boys are still home and in College, so I wanted them to be apart of understanding what I must do. Take care. DonnaCathy wrote: We've had threads on this list about when/if to tell friends, co-workers, etc. However in the time I've been here I don't remember seeing anyone talk about kids, and I'm curious how people have handled this - when did you talk to your kids about the surgery and the changes it would mean? How did they handle it? What were their worries/concerns?My kids aren't really little - a teenager and a middle-schooler - but I haven't really talked to them about this yet, and I feel that I should. My older daughter is very aware of health and lifestyle issues; she exercises a lot and makes very good diet choices. My younger daughter isn't as good in her choices and isn't as active, and I'd like to be more of a role model for her as I lose weight.So - thoughts?Cathy C. Donna

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