OA's opinion of Obesity Surgery/ATTN: Joe Frost

[Guest guest]

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I'm sorry the responses of the OA group made you feel

bad. Please don't let it get to you. You need to do

what is best for you, after you've researched all the

options. There is a Yahoo group (though I couldn't

find it listed on our group lists in the files) for

people who had WLS, or maybe specifically DS, who are

also working an OA program. I put Joe Frost's name in

the subject line to get his attention, as I believe he

is the owner of this list.

Take care and keep your chin up -

Kris G

--- " B. Standard " wrote:

> I posted an email to and online OA group that I am a

> member of. I attend a

> OA group locally and I have been afraid to raise the

> subject for fear of the

> reaction I would receive. So I tried it out on an

> on-line OA list I am a

> member of. I asked for honest feedback because I

> wanted to get a feel for

> the reaction I might get in a face to face meeting

> locally. Well, I tell

> ya, I didn't like the reception I got. My feelings

> were terribly hurt. I

> asked for honesty and BLAM did I get it.

>

> Several people responded by saying that I should not

> discuss this sort of

> thing on an OA list. One lady said I was breaking

> the " traditions " of OA by

> doing so. One said that I was trying to take the

> easy way out and that the

> way to thinness is through the OA program. A couple

> of people admitted that

> they have considered/are considering surgery. Then

> the moderator posted a

> post saying among other things:

>

> " We are not a group on obesity, except as it may

> relate to our feelings. As a group,we do not

> focus on cures for obesity. We have experience

> that if the compulsion is taken away, the

> obesity

> will no longer be a problem. "

>

> Then I was asked to drop the discussion. Obviously

> I will drop it. In

> fact, I may unsubscribe. So, now I need to vent and

> get feedback here as I

> obviously cannot continue the conversation there.

>

> I know I asked for honesty, but I wasn't prepared to

> basically be told to be

> quiet and stop talking non-sense. Or be told that

> " obesity will no longer be

> a problem if I get rid of the compulsions " through

> OA. If I could have done

> that I would have done that by now!!! I have been

> overweight and steadily

> gaining for YEARS now. I've gained 45 pounds in the

> past 2 years and that's

> while attending both OA and EDA. Maybe I do eat

> some things that I

> shouldn't, but does that mean that I am not " doing

> things right " ?! Many

> skinny people eat more than I do! I've seen it.

> There are people who can

> eat all day long and not gain a pound.

>

> I have been near tears over this. The first few

> negative remarks this

> morning got me a bit upset, but this post from the

> moderator I just got

> really threw me over the edge. I should have known

> better than to ask for

> feedback about WLS from an OA list.

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