Re: first ST w/ private SLP after EI

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In a message dated 1/15/2008 5:56:21 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

kault@... writes:

She also said

she may make me sit in the observation room if I hinder her therapy.

Hmmmm My first comment to this woman would be a " EXCUSE ME??? " LOL

Seriously though-- I would give her a look of questioning if she ever said

something like that to me.

We had an OT that did NOT mesh with Asa--- and that is pretty hard to do

since this kid gets along with ANYbody and EVERYbody-- but this woman was

interested in only herself and what SHE wanted to do that day. Had no concept

of

working with children, in my opinion.

what did we do?? I immediately requested a change to another therapist--

and we got one! the new one was AMAZING and simply the best! It was the best

thing we could ever have done for him, too!!

She was the one that threatened that " Mom will leave if you don't do this "

comment and I shot her a look that told her EXACTLY what I felt about that

comment, and later told her that it wasn't something you EVER threaten a child

with. Who threatens a child with the parent's leaving ?? that's just wrong!

But the woman you're dealing with is threatening YOU with the same thing

basically, and It is *NOT* appropriate in any way, shape or form.

You can look at it this way, you are the client since YOU are paying the

bills, and she is providing a service FOR you, which means you call the shots

basically, and not the other way around.

I know it's hard to think that way when it comes to therapists for our

children because it's HARD finding good ones that mix with kids, etc-- but just

keep remembering that what he will accomplish with her will be HALF of what he

would accomplish with someone whom he LIKES and enjoys working with!!!

Becky

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In a message dated 1/15/2008 7:49:46 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

jscott@... writes:

While I tend to be a sap with regards to not hurting anyone's feelings,

therapy is a different matter for the chemistry must fit. If it does not then

it

is really a waste of time and money.

This is EXACTLY how I feel as well!! I sometimes will be so mambsy pansy

about things where I'm concerned and I say nothing, but when it comes to Asa

and his therapy or Dr needs-- I am just right there on top of it, ready to say

something.

I really should update all of you on our appt with the Neurologist last

week-- it was a doozy. @@

bek

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If it were me, that would have been the first and last visit with

her. You have to find the right fit or it ain't gonna work. I'm

still looking, myself...had a really great one through the local

University, but they use students that rotate clients each semester,

so we lost her. The next one was not good at all, so we left.

>

> Garret had his first visit w/ private SLP and he didn't really

like

> her She's very different than his EI SLP (she's more go w/ the

> flow), this one took a sit at the table and listen to me approach,

not

> something that really works with a brand new 3 yr. old. She also

said

> she may make me sit in the observation room if I hinder her

therapy.

> We'll see how it goes. She doesn't think that Garret has apraxia,

> possibly just severe artic. I asked for things to do with him at

home,

> as I've always done w/ the EI SLP. She said nothing other than

> speaking slowly and clearly and reinforcing good sounds (things we

do

> on a daily basis anyway). Have you ever worked with a SLP that

you

> just don't care for? I know I shouldn't say that after only one

mtg.

> Garret kept asking during his session w/ her to go to his " peet

cool " .

> I have another mtg w/ our school to see if they'll pay for private

ST

> b/c of their lack of SLP. We were told again at EI ST that the

> district has arranged w/ the EI SLP to con't ST w/ Garret, but

that's

> only bi-weekly. I'd really like every week. Thanks for listening

to

> the vent.

> Bonnie

>

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Bonnie

eeew! I don't like her either!

You know.... if it's private and you are the one paying..... feel free to find

someone that you are comfortable with.

While I tend to be a sap with regards to not hurting anyone's feelings, therapy

is a different matter for the chemistry must fit. If it does not then it is

really a waste of time and money.

In the telephone interview, I would ensure in advance that any SLP understood my

requirement of distinct exercises that work oral-motor, sounds, sylables or....

where every you happen to be at. If the SLP hmmed and hawed over that, I would

be reluctant to hire her.

Now, that's just me but from what you are saying, that is your point of view as

well. Get the therapy you want and get the right person for your child. It

really makes a difference. I have found this with both therapy and as well for

private tutoring (not Mark, my beaus' son who is in French immersion and we have

a tutor for him).... one tutor works great with the family and he learns well

and the other tutor is a pain in the rear end and he learns nothing. So....

time is money, yes. But for our 'special' children, time also runs out rather

quickly....

Janice

[sPAM][ ] first ST w/ private SLP after EI

Garret had his first visit w/ private SLP and he didn't really like

her She's very different than his EI SLP (she's more go w/ the

flow), this one took a sit at the table and listen to me approach, not

something that really works with a brand new 3 yr. old. She also said

she may make me sit in the observation room if I hinder her therapy.

We'll see how it goes. She doesn't think that Garret has apraxia,

possibly just severe artic. I asked for things to do with him at home,

as I've always done w/ the EI SLP. She said nothing other than

speaking slowly and clearly and reinforcing good sounds (things we do

on a daily basis anyway). Have you ever worked with a SLP that you

just don't care for? I know I shouldn't say that after only one mtg.

Garret kept asking during his session w/ her to go to his " peet cool " .

I have another mtg w/ our school to see if they'll pay for private ST

b/c of their lack of SLP. We were told again at EI ST that the

district has arranged w/ the EI SLP to con't ST w/ Garret, but that's

only bi-weekly. I'd really like every week. Thanks for listening to

the vent.

Bonnie

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The only therapists my son ever bit (the only PEOPLE - I should say)

were speech therapists. I will say that it is very difficult to find

a good speech therapist. More so than most other therapists. I don't

know why. My son is very laid back, loving, fun - hated two of the

speech therapists we had. The thing with speech therapy is that the

child has to feel safe, accepted, etc. in order to work. I will say I

feel this way esp. for apraxic kids.

We had to go private for 4 months once - it was painful to the purse.

We did twice weekly at almost $200 a pop (we were in between EI and

preschool IEPs). We were lucky to get the spot to begin with - but

when we called, we GRILLED the front office and then GRILLED the

therapist. She was a little uncomfortable with us when she first met

us but understood we had some serious concerns. She met our son and

fell in love and she started the ball rolling. She got work out of

him we had never seen before - not speech but the start of

communication.

Find one you are both comfortable with. Follow that mommy sixth sense.

>

> Bonnie

>

> eeew! I don't like her either!

>

> You know.... if it's private and you are the one paying..... feel

free to find someone that you are comfortable with.

>

> While I tend to be a sap with regards to not hurting anyone's

feelings, therapy is a different matter for the chemistry must fit.

If it does not then it is really a waste of time and money.

>

> In the telephone interview, I would ensure in advance that any SLP

understood my requirement of distinct exercises that work oral-motor,

sounds, sylables or.... where every you happen to be at. If the SLP

hmmed and hawed over that, I would be reluctant to hire her.

>

> Now, that's just me but from what you are saying, that is your

point of view as well. Get the therapy you want and get the right

person for your child. It really makes a difference. I have found

this with both therapy and as well for private tutoring (not Mark, my

beaus' son who is in French immersion and we have a tutor for

him).... one tutor works great with the family and he learns well and

the other tutor is a pain in the rear end and he learns nothing.

So.... time is money, yes. But for our 'special' children, time also

runs out rather quickly....

>

> Janice

>

>

> [sPAM][ ] first ST w/ private SLP

after EI

>

>

> Garret had his first visit w/ private SLP and he didn't really

like

> her She's very different than his EI SLP (she's more go w/ the

> flow), this one took a sit at the table and listen to me

approach, not

> something that really works with a brand new 3 yr. old. She also

said

> she may make me sit in the observation room if I hinder her

therapy.

> We'll see how it goes. She doesn't think that Garret has apraxia,

> possibly just severe artic. I asked for things to do with him at

home,

> as I've always done w/ the EI SLP. She said nothing other than

> speaking slowly and clearly and reinforcing good sounds (things

we do

> on a daily basis anyway). Have you ever worked with a SLP that

you

> just don't care for? I know I shouldn't say that after only one

mtg.

> Garret kept asking during his session w/ her to go to his " peet

cool " .

> I have another mtg w/ our school to see if they'll pay for

private ST

> b/c of their lack of SLP. We were told again at EI ST that the

> district has arranged w/ the EI SLP to con't ST w/ Garret, but

that's

> only bi-weekly. I'd really like every week. Thanks for listening

to

> the vent.

> Bonnie

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Bonnie,

Find another therapist. My motto is, if I dont like the therapist but

they do ok with my son I will give them a chance. If my son clearly

does not mesh with her, its not going to work and valuable time is

being wasted.

Ive had a couple therapists whom did not mesh and I let them continue

for too long. I was also a foster parent to my son then so I didnt

want to make any enemies by letting someone go and making them mad.

(you never know how some people will react!)

Therapists run the gammet of personalities and experience. I wouldnt

waste time on one you dont feel is going to be best for your son.

Mother to Zach and Callan, 3 yrs and 20 months

>

> Garret had his first visit w/ private SLP and he didn't really like

> her She's very different than his EI SLP (she's more go w/ the

> flow), this one took a sit at the table and listen to me approach,

not

> something that really works with a brand new 3 yr. old. She also

said

> she may make me sit in the observation room if I hinder her

therapy.

> We'll see how it goes. She doesn't think that Garret has apraxia,

> possibly just severe artic. I asked for things to do with him at

home,

> as I've always done w/ the EI SLP. She said nothing other than

> speaking slowly and clearly and reinforcing good sounds (things we

do

> on a daily basis anyway). Have you ever worked with a SLP that you

> just don't care for? I know I shouldn't say that after only one

mtg.

> Garret kept asking during his session w/ her to go to his " peet

cool " .

> I have another mtg w/ our school to see if they'll pay for private

ST

> b/c of their lack of SLP. We were told again at EI ST that the

> district has arranged w/ the EI SLP to con't ST w/ Garret, but

that's

> only bi-weekly. I'd really like every week. Thanks for listening

to

> the vent.

> Bonnie

>

[Guest guest]

Well besides wanting to buy everyone a Prada bag who really help you with

your child, your money is better spent on the boy. It is a natural reaction

to help when someone says " help. " Sound like you found some true blues! Your

graciousness and kindness is probably enough...but chocolate never hurts!

Re: [ ] first ST w/ private SLP after EI

It's funny.... I am sure that my Environemental Doctor must think that I am

a nutbar by now.

This man is so caring, so on-top-of-it and so knowledgeable that I practicly

burst into tears each time I see him. I am a total wack-job! I become quite

emotional. I think that it is because after all of these years of doctors

telling me to 'accept', that there is nothing physically wrong with my boy,

and to go home and shut up about it.... the relief at finding someone who

believes in my child, who has found the problem(s) and who is dedicated to

helping him be all that he can be.... reduces me to filling a waste-basket

of tissues!

We go next week to review his DMSA round one and to have a special

'diet/home environment' lesson. Can you imagine? He is taking the time to

review all of our home 'stuff' to ensure that we are not continuously

poisening Mark with lead and he is going to review and produce a more

tailored diet to ensure that he has the best healing possible during this

time.

I have never been treated so wonderfully by a doctor. Usually, I get the pat

on the back, suggestion of Ritalin or some other barbituate and I walk away

in desolation! These days, I have a great doctor & I'm in love with the

experience!

What can I do for the staff? I want to do something nice for all of them at

some point. They have been so nice to me and Mark. Just amazing.

Janice

[sPAM]Re: [ ] first ST w/ private SLP after EI

In a message dated 1/15/2008 7:49:46 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

jscottinterbaun (DOT) <mailto:jscott%40interbaun.com> com writes:

While I tend to be a sap with regards to not hurting anyone's feelings,

therapy is a different matter for the chemistry must fit. If it does not

then it

is really a waste of time and money.

This is EXACTLY how I feel as well!! I sometimes will be so mambsy pansy

about things where I'm concerned and I say nothing, but when it comes to Asa

and his therapy or Dr needs-- I am just right there on top of it, ready to

say

something.

I really should update all of you on our appt with the Neurologist last

week-- it was a doozy. @@

bek

**************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

http://body.

<http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489>

aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

[Guest guest]

It's funny.... I am sure that my Environemental Doctor must think that I am a

nutbar by now.

This man is so caring, so on-top-of-it and so knowledgeable that I practicly

burst into tears each time I see him. I am a total wack-job! I become quite

emotional. I think that it is because after all of these years of doctors

telling me to 'accept', that there is nothing physically wrong with my boy, and

to go home and shut up about it.... the relief at finding someone who believes

in my child, who has found the problem(s) and who is dedicated to helping him be

all that he can be.... reduces me to filling a waste-basket of tissues!

We go next week to review his DMSA round one and to have a special 'diet/home

environment' lesson. Can you imagine? He is taking the time to review all of

our home 'stuff' to ensure that we are not continuously poisening Mark with lead

and he is going to review and produce a more tailored diet to ensure that he has

the best healing possible during this time.

I have never been treated so wonderfully by a doctor. Usually, I get the pat on

the back, suggestion of Ritalin or some other barbituate and I walk away in

desolation! These days, I have a great doctor & I'm in love with the

experience!

What can I do for the staff? I want to do something nice for all of them at

some point. They have been so nice to me and Mark. Just amazing.

Janice

[sPAM]Re: [ ] first ST w/ private SLP after EI

In a message dated 1/15/2008 7:49:46 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

jscott@... writes:

While I tend to be a sap with regards to not hurting anyone's feelings,

therapy is a different matter for the chemistry must fit. If it does not then

it

is really a waste of time and money.

This is EXACTLY how I feel as well!! I sometimes will be so mambsy pansy

about things where I'm concerned and I say nothing, but when it comes to Asa

and his therapy or Dr needs-- I am just right there on top of it, ready to say

something.

I really should update all of you on our appt with the Neurologist last

week-- it was a doozy. @@

bek

**************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

[Guest guest]

Sounds like the doc you have been waiting for. I have shed many tears

when they finally listened. Dr. Verma at CHOP was the only one I did

not cry in front of. I think because by then I knew she would listen.

I love that woman.

>

> Well besides wanting to buy everyone a Prada bag who really help

you with

> your child, your money is better spent on the boy. It is a natural

reaction

> to help when someone says " help. " Sound like you found some true

blues! Your

> graciousness and kindness is probably enough...but chocolate never

hurts!

>

> Re: [ ] first ST w/ private SLP after EI

>

>

>

> It's funny.... I am sure that my Environemental Doctor must think

that I am

> a nutbar by now.

>

> This man is so caring, so on-top-of-it and so knowledgeable that I

practicly

> burst into tears each time I see him. I am a total wack-job! I

become quite

> emotional. I think that it is because after all of these years of

doctors

> telling me to 'accept', that there is nothing physically wrong with

my boy,

> and to go home and shut up about it.... the relief at finding

someone who

> believes in my child, who has found the problem(s) and who is

dedicated to

> helping him be all that he can be.... reduces me to filling a waste-

basket

> of tissues!

>

> We go next week to review his DMSA round one and to have a special

> 'diet/home environment' lesson. Can you imagine? He is taking the

time to

> review all of our home 'stuff' to ensure that we are not

continuously

> poisening Mark with lead and he is going to review and produce a

more

> tailored diet to ensure that he has the best healing possible

during this

> time.

>

> I have never been treated so wonderfully by a doctor. Usually, I

get the pat

> on the back, suggestion of Ritalin or some other barbituate and I

walk away

> in desolation! These days, I have a great doctor & I'm in love with

the

> experience!

>

> What can I do for the staff? I want to do something nice for all of

them at

> some point. They have been so nice to me and Mark. Just amazing.

>

> Janice

>

> [sPAM]Re: [ ] first ST w/ private SLP

after EI

>

> In a message dated 1/15/2008 7:49:46 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> jscottinterbaun (DOT) <mailto:jscott%40interbaun.com> com writes:

>

> While I tend to be a sap with regards to not hurting anyone's

feelings,

> therapy is a different matter for the chemistry must fit. If it

does not

> then it

> is really a waste of time and money.

>

> This is EXACTLY how I feel as well!! I sometimes will be so mambsy

pansy

> about things where I'm concerned and I say nothing, but when it

comes to Asa

>

> and his therapy or Dr needs-- I am just right there on top of it,

ready to

> say

> something.

>

> I really should update all of you on our appt with the Neurologist

last

> week-- it was a doozy. @@

>

> bek

>

> **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

> http://body.

> <http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?

NCID=aolcmp00300000002489>

> aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

>

>