Re: Update on me & message for ....

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Hey guys, Some of you may relate to this issue and I thought I may comment on it to let you know why I haven't been around much. I don't remember if I have mentioned it to you all (you know the memory thing), but since March, I have been seeing a marriage counselor with my husband. He almost walked out on the family. After 5 years, deep down, subconciously, he still tries to deny the fact that I am sick and no longer the person with "full capacity" (working full time, holding down the household and the kids) that I used to be. As we move along in therapy it's coming out that he really holds a grudge against me because of it but hasn't realized and/or doesn't want to admit it out loud . He has been thrown into the driver's seat with a lot of the responsibilities that he didn't have to deal with before. Of course this leads me to feeling guilty

and reinforces the fact of how much I miss my old identity - which of course then results in the degrees of depression and anxiety that I have always had (which I know the "oldies" in the group have heard me talk about). We have been sleeping apart since and things are status quo right now....but another reason that I have been preoccupied . , most importantly, you are such a strong and important leader of this group, (I am sure that all of the everyone agrees) we must realize that you get burnt out physically and mentally and need time off too. You should be laying back from the group right now with everything you are going through. I realize that I am not a very loud voice compared to you and the other moderators (Rose & Darlene) and don't tackle the issues as compentently as you have, but will try harder in

the future to help give you some relief. Please (and I am sure that everyone also agrees) take as much time as you need to recooperate. That whole paragraph should have been the most important part of this post!! I don't know how I got onto this tangent! I am sorry to go on about me! But take care and get well, , we all love you and want you to take it easy, Love, Debbie T. Co-Moderator

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