Guest guest Posted February 20, 2008 Report Share Posted February 20, 2008 Once again we end up sharing about the challenges of living with autoimmune disease and how it can effect our relationships. Sometimes, we end up in hard places, and it's easy to expend a tremendous amount of energy on trying to help others figure out what they need to do. When a spouse or partner is name-calling, finger pointing, abusing physically, emotionally or with drugs or alcohol-- it's hard for all of us not to jump in and try to rescue those involved. We all know that in an abusive relationship-- you have to make choices. Hard choices. You can get counselling for yourself, or you can get counselling with your spouse-- or both. If the pattern of abuse is what you lived with previously, and you are now in a relationship that is showing signs of the same type of problem--- then it is time to figure out why you keep repeating this kind of relationship. That has to be done with the assistance of trained counselors. We all know that this behaviour causes great emotional pain and stress to not only those involved, but also to those in the community that want to rescue that person. In most every town and city there are places to go if you are being abused. You may have to search them out by calling your local law enforcement agency. They will tell you that you have to file a formal complaint in order to find out where they are at-- as anyone could just call and ask for the address-- and if that person was the abuser-- then they put the whole place at risk. So there is protocol to follow. It is okay to set limits as to what you can do. I doubt any of us can shovel a driveway, or dig out cars. So set some limits. If he doesn't get it-- let him throw his temper tantrum-- he'll get over it-- or not.. If not, then he can choose to move on. Please seek the help of a counselor-- so that you can resolve these issues, and know that is what every person on the site is telling you-- get help. We aren't able to do it for you- Sincerely, Tracie NS Co-owner/moderatorDelicious ideas to please the pickiest eaters. Watch the video on AOL Living. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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