Re: Re: [gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patient To Pam Marsh

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I will make sure I send your hellos to . Thanks

for the encouragement Colleen. I am going to need it.

Pam Marsh

--- Colleen Garner wrote:

> Hi Pam

> I do remember all of that, we have to remember the

> old with the new......................glad that you

> got to talk to , if you do again please tell her

> hello for me. I totally agree with you about people

> and how they come into our lives for a reason.

> good luck again with your upcoming surgeries !

> Colleen

>

> Pamela A Marsh wrote:

> Oh my gosh Eleanor, I read that same article on

> another group.

>

> Colleen, you remember that. I got a littly teary

> eyed

> reading this because it was a time when I felt I had

> lost my best friend () and I was so very happy

> to

> see her because I did not quite understand the

> transformation she was going through. I took it way

> too personal and I think it had a lot to do with my

> hormones as well as being such a codependent.

> and I grew so close in such a short period of time

> and

> then she went her separate way. She had to explore

> and enjoy so many things she had not been able to

> and

> I did not understand it but now I do. I am please

> to

> let you know that and I have reconnected yet

> once

> again and have been emailing. She is doing great

> and

> still crazy as ever and I miss her really I do. The

> one thing that I have learned on this journey is

> that

> people come into your life at the time that they do

> for a reason. It could be to hold your hand during

> a

> hard time or just to lend an ear as you are on your

> journey. Then you have those that stick around

> because they are truly suppose to be in your

> life...part of your life. I think that is one

> of

> those people that will be part of my life for some

> time but not necessarily in my life. I hope that

> makes since. She is part of my life because of what

> we went through together and what we are going

> through

> now together. She is not in my life because we lack

> that physical bond (going places together, doing

> things together and talking more than we do

> now-thats

> a physical thing and that at this moment is

> something

> we have not managed to get back on track) and right

> now her life is being

> transformed/reshaped/rediscovered, etc. but she is

> part of my life and will continue to be.

>

> Anyway, the chair thing. I to wish they could do

> something so that people are accommodated. I truly

> think that until they have to personally experience

> these types of things the change will come slower

> than

> we need it to. Be encouraged and know that life

> won't

> always be like this. You won't always have to worry

> about the chair, table, booth, stalls, rides, buses,

> etc. You will see but until the change comes, we

> must

> be vocal so that we won't go unheard. Be encouraged

> and know that we are here with you to support you.

>

> Pam Marsh

>

> --- Robynn VanPatten wrote:

>

> > What a great story, Colleen! I remember that

> night

> > well,, but hadn't thought about the " double

> > milestone " ! Ron, you will be sharing a loveseat

> > someday, too!!

> >

> > Robynn

> >

> > Colleen Garner wrote:

> > Ron-

> >

> > This reminds me of a

> > milestone....................I think last June or

> so

> > a bunch of us from this email group tried to meet

> at

> > the Richmond Support Group and I got a ride with a

> > woman named , She no longer posts in

> > here,,,,,,,,,,,,anyways she and our Pam

> > ( sweetnlow) sorry i am blanking on her last

> name,

> > maybe its marshall...........anyways she and

> > were sort of like surgery twins and Pam was

> feeling

> > low at the time she wasnt in contact with as

> > much, by email surprised me and said she was

> > going to go and i was on her way and she would

> give

> > me a ride but she wanted it to be a secret for

> Pam,

> > Our Robynn had just had surgery this very same

> > day,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, when and I got to the

> > room where the meeting was there were several

> > chairs, the woman that hosted the meeting said not

> > to sit in certain chairs, which were semi loveseat

> > type sized and she said she reserved those for

> > certain visitors that had special needs or

> something

> > to that effect. and I went to the back of

> the

> > room and found seating and it was fun to meet

> people

> > from the group, i think at that time i met Gordy,

> > , Timmy, Kerrie and , I later met

> Robynn

> > post op................and then Pam came a little

> > later...........she was so overjoyed

> > to see her surgery twin, i think she might of

> cried

> > ( she is so cute and sweet Pam) anyways the

> > milestone being, that right next to the seat

> > was sitting in was an unused larger style seat and

> > Pam sat there and patted the otherside and wanted

> > to come sit with her...................Pre

> op,

> > this probabally would of not worked and neither ot

> > the two I doubt would of even tried

> > that.................it was a moment of two people

> > in a milestone in their weightloss

> > journey,,,,,,,,,,, I too use to worry about some

> > chairs i was given to sit in..........sometimes if

> i

> > had the slightest idea that it might be

> questionable

> > for me i would pass on a chair or say my back was

> > bothering me and sitting aggrivated

> > it................... Even in my own office where

> i

> > work, our waiting room chairs , even though they

> > accomidated me in my heavist time,some of our

> > patients our larger and everynow and again, i have

> > only one chair i can put out in the waiting room

> to

> > help them out that has no

> > arms,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Its not

> > right....................

> >

> > BBQ Man wrote:

> > The part about the chairs has always

> been

> > one of my biggest pet peeves. I can not believe

> > that any organization would invite obese people to

> > any meeting/function/etc., and not supply adequate

> > seating. Whoever plans these things should think

> > about who they're having and get some chairs

> without

> > arms in there. Just don't get me started... lol

> >

> > Ron

> >

> > Re:

> > News

> > article about obese patients and hospitals

> >

> >

> >

> > Hey Francisco, I was just thinking you were being

> > too quiet! So tell us the latest on As

> > Francisco's World Turns (at least as much as

> > you're comfortable sharing)! Inquiring (nosy?)

> minds

> > want to know!

> >

> > I just saw a news item about how the ambulance

> > service in Las Vegas has just put into service a

> > special ambulance which is set up for morbidly

> obese

> > patients.

> >

> > I also remember how irked one gal was,

> > legitimately I might add, when she went to the

> > Richmond orientation, and there weren't any chairs

> > she could fit in!

> >

> > At 04:40 03/31/2006, you wrote:

>

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