Re: Re: Sad and DisCouraged

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My advice is going to sound strange. Stop working so hard. Really. But first things first. First of all, 20 lbs. is great, and I was a bit slow initially, too. (not that 20 lbs. in 4 weeks is really slow...get a little perspective. If you continue that rate, you will have lost 100 lbs. in 5 months.) You are in a diet mentality, and you are sure things are going to slow down to a crawl once the initial weightloss rush happens. My weight loss varied week to week...sometimes fast, sometimes slow. Pam Marsh wouldn't lose ANY weight for 3 weeks at a time, and then wind up dropping 8 to 10 at a time. Literally overnight. Looking at the obesityhelp.com before and after photos, I was always comparing myself. Lots of people seemed to lose weight faster than I did, in some ways. But, you know what? A mere 6 months out, and I had

lost 100 lbs. (all but 26 lost post surgery.) And I'm at a normal weight now, that was all I needed to lose. I'm trying to lose a few more, but heck, I'm a size 8. ANd my skin problems are pretty minimal, if at all. So, I don't know your age (a factor), where you carried most of your weight (a factor) or how much you needed to lose...but here is one thing I know for sure...if you drive yourself nuts, exercising like a fiend at a pace that you will never be able to keep up in the long run, drinking so much your kidneys are going to fall out of your body...well, you will be running to the scale every 10 minutes and you are going to feel like a failure. Take a breather. Enjoy yourself. Don't exercise like a fiend...just relax and stroll and enjoy your new lighter body. Eat properly, take your vitamins, drink your water, and exercise...but make it a lifestyle, not a frenetic

crazy woman thing. Relish the moments now. Let your body heal. Be proud of yourself and the changes that are happening. KNOW THIS: one year from now, you will be AT LEAST 100 lbs. lighter. And here's the thing...every single day you will be looking better, being healthier than the day before. So, don't dwell on the destination, enjoy the journey. Learn on it. Be happy on it. Relish every 1/4 lb lost. You will get there. Don't give yourself permission to be miserable because you don't think you are getting there fast enough. You were miserable enough when you were fat and you had no hope of any change in your life. It is your time to be happy, and to marvel at the fact that every single body out there is unique, and you will lose weight in accordance with your own body's schedule. That's just the way it is...and that's a good thing. Too fast will be too

stressful on your body. And too slow? Get real, baby. You are 20 freakin' lbs. lighter than you were a scant 4 weeks ago. That's huge. 5 lbs. a week is amazing. In four more months, you will be down a total of 100 at this pace. Even if you slow down to half that fast you will be 60 lbs. lighter. Let go, relax, and smile. You are on your way, at exactly the pace you need to be going. Robynn patti_errn wrote: -From what I am gathering we are doing fine. Last night, someone reminded me of something.... "it's better to lose the weight slowly then fast" It's healthier and it creates a lot less problems with skin. So, advice given to me, I will pass on.... take it easy, be kind to

yourself and trust the process!!! We have come to far kiddo!!While I'm not happy that we share the same fears, concerns and emotions, at least it normalizes things for me!Patti>> I've read everyone's posts lately about not loosing weight the way > they feel it should be happening and then having feelings of regret > creep in the back of their mind - I to am no different.> > Last night I broke down and ust cried and cried, and saying to > myself "did i do this all for nothing". It's hard in this situation > for me not to compare myself to others. And I feel like I'm not doing > enough. I'm working out 5-7 days a week, and I'm only eating 2 oz > meals 3 times a day and drinking as much water as I can humanly > drink. But I still feel like it's not enough. I'm 4

weeks out, and > I've lost roughly 20lbs. I feel like my weightloss should be higher.> > I know my body is resting and probably holding on to itself becuase > it's going through so much. But that doesn't comfort me. I'm not > tempted to overeat, I'm just depressed and sad inside. I don't want > to get this attitude of "I'm done". I don't want to give up this > battle, and think that I dont' have to try anymore. I know I have to > try just as hard as before surgery.> > I was so motivated and positive before, but now I'm in a "FUNK"! I'm > tired all of a sudden lately. I wasn't right after surgery, but some > said it will hit you, and I think it has. I just am soooo so > emotional inside, I'm on the verge of tears just writing this post.> > I do to support and I talk on here, but something inside just doesn't > feel right. I'm my only motivator,

and I've got to do this for > myself. I've got to get back that spark I had beore surgery. > > My financee say's I'm doing fine, and he know's this is hard for me. > He is supportive no matter what, and sometimes I just need to be > held. To be assured I did the right thing for me, I guess it's a > little buyers remorse cause my results or expectations of myself are > set soo high. But that's my personality, always has been. I put more > pressure on by then anyone else does.> > If anyone has any advise, or self helps tapes or meditation.. I'm > open to anything that will help me get my spark back.> > LISA :-)>