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Hi ,

Are you using www.fitday.com to make sure you are getting enough calories in everyday? I know you say you are eating 2 oz of food but you really need to beware of how many grams of protein are in those 2 oz and what your calorie intake is. We have found that it is the best free tool on the Internet to use. If you are not eating enough because you think that it will help you lose faster it will actually slow you down because your body will go into starvation mode. Also like everyone else has said don't worry it will happen and the weight lose will start up again

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How are your measurements doing? Remember, fat loss is what your after, even more than weight loss. If you're losing girth, you're doing good!

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I've read everyone's posts lately about not loosing weight the way they feel it should be happening and then having feelings of regret creep in the back of their mind - I to am no different.Last night I broke down and ust cried and cried, and saying to myself "did i do this all for nothing". It's hard in this situation for me not to compare myself to others. And I feel like I'm not doing enough. I'm working out 5-7 days a week, and I'm only eating 2 oz meals 3 times a day and drinking as much water as I can humanly drink. But I still feel like it's not enough. I'm 4 weeks out, and I've lost roughly 20lbs. I feel like my weightloss should be higher.I know my body is resting and probably holding on to itself becuase it's going through so much. But that doesn't comfort me. I'm not tempted to overeat, I'm just depressed and sad inside. I don't want to get this attitude of "I'm done". I don't want to give up this battle, and think that I dont' have to try anymore. I know I have to try just as hard as before surgery.I was so motivated and positive before, but now I'm in a "FUNK"! I'm tired all of a sudden lately. I wasn't right after surgery, but some said it will hit you, and I think it has. I just am soooo so emotional inside, I'm on the verge of tears just writing this post.I do to support and I talk on here, but something inside just doesn't feel right. I'm my only motivator, and I've got to do this for myself. I've got to get back that spark I had beore surgery. My financee say's I'm doing fine, and he know's this is hard for me. He is supportive no matter what, and sometimes I just need to be held. To be assured I did the right thing for me, I guess it's a little buyers remorse cause my results or expectations of myself are set soo high. But that's my personality, always has been. I put more pressure on by then anyone else does.If anyone has any advise, or self helps tapes or meditation.. I'm open to anything that will help me get my spark back.LISA :-)

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My surgery was December 7th. I too felt exactly the way you are

feeling. Believe it or not it is completely normal. I felt more

tired at 4 weeks out than I did a week or two out. Then amazingly

enough the weight starts coming off. I started off at 257 before

surgery lost 20 pounds before and surgery day I weighted in at 237.

I am now at 171 that is 66 pounds since surgery and a total of 86

pounds. I still have those times where you go down one pound and up

two or just get a stand still. So keep exercising and eating right

and it will pay off.

>

> I've read everyone's posts lately about not loosing weight the way

> they feel it should be happening and then having feelings of

regret

> creep in the back of their mind - I to am no different.

>

> Last night I broke down and ust cried and cried, and saying to

> myself " did i do this all for nothing " . It's hard in this

situation

> for me not to compare myself to others. And I feel like I'm not

doing

> enough. I'm working out 5-7 days a week, and I'm only eating 2 oz

> meals 3 times a day and drinking as much water as I can humanly

> drink. But I still feel like it's not enough. I'm 4 weeks out, and

> I've lost roughly 20lbs. I feel like my weightloss should be

higher.

>

> I know my body is resting and probably holding on to itself

becuase

> it's going through so much. But that doesn't comfort me. I'm not

> tempted to overeat, I'm just depressed and sad inside. I don't

want

> to get this attitude of " I'm done " . I don't want to give up this

> battle, and think that I dont' have to try anymore. I know I have

to

> try just as hard as before surgery.

>

> I was so motivated and positive before, but now I'm in a " FUNK " !

I'm

> tired all of a sudden lately. I wasn't right after surgery, but

some

> said it will hit you, and I think it has. I just am soooo so

> emotional inside, I'm on the verge of tears just writing this post.

>

> I do to support and I talk on here, but something inside just

doesn't

> feel right. I'm my only motivator, and I've got to do this for

> myself. I've got to get back that spark I had beore surgery.

>

> My financee say's I'm doing fine, and he know's this is hard for

me.

> He is supportive no matter what, and sometimes I just need to be

> held. To be assured I did the right thing for me, I guess it's a

> little buyers remorse cause my results or expectations of myself

are

> set soo high. But that's my personality, always has been. I put

more

> pressure on by then anyone else does.

>

> If anyone has any advise, or self helps tapes or meditation.. I'm

> open to anything that will help me get my spark back.

>

> LISA :-)

>

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Hey Sweetie, we have all been right were you are. I sent this reply

to Patti on just the same subject just yesterday....

" Hi Patti , me again. I went almost 3 1/2 weeks and my " evil " scale

didn't move. I have done EVERYTHING by the book. So after a few days

of real concern I call the nutitionalist in Fremont. She told me not

to worry that my body was just resting and trying to decide what it

should do now that I am not eating much. She said don't worry, I'm

right on track and darn......two days later I started to lose again

and it has been almost a pound a day for five days. I know how you

feel, I was really concerned and start to question what I had done.

But know have read enough of these posting to stay on track, drink my

water and excercise. Hang in there and things will start dropping off

again (the weight, your pants LOL). "

PEGGY

You aren't out there all by yourself. Keep doing what you know you

should be doing and you will see, all of a sudden it starts dropping

again.

P.S.- a good cry and hugs never hurt either!

PEGGY

>

> I've read everyone's posts lately about not loosing weight the way

> they feel it should be happening and then having feelings of regret

> creep in the back of their mind - I to am no different.

>

> Last night I broke down and ust cried and cried, and saying to

> myself " did i do this all for nothing " . It's hard in this situation

> for me not to compare myself to others. And I feel like I'm not

doing

> enough. I'm working out 5-7 days a week, and I'm only eating 2 oz

> meals 3 times a day and drinking as much water as I can humanly

> drink. But I still feel like it's not enough. I'm 4 weeks out, and

> I've lost roughly 20lbs. I feel like my weightloss should be higher.

>

> I know my body is resting and probably holding on to itself becuase

> it's going through so much. But that doesn't comfort me. I'm not

> tempted to overeat, I'm just depressed and sad inside. I don't want

> to get this attitude of " I'm done " . I don't want to give up this

> battle, and think that I dont' have to try anymore. I know I have

to

> try just as hard as before surgery.

>

> I was so motivated and positive before, but now I'm in a " FUNK " !

I'm

> tired all of a sudden lately. I wasn't right after surgery, but

some

> said it will hit you, and I think it has. I just am soooo so

> emotional inside, I'm on the verge of tears just writing this post.

>

> I do to support and I talk on here, but something inside just

doesn't

> feel right. I'm my only motivator, and I've got to do this for

> myself. I've got to get back that spark I had beore surgery.

>

> My financee say's I'm doing fine, and he know's this is hard for

me.

> He is supportive no matter what, and sometimes I just need to be

> held. To be assured I did the right thing for me, I guess it's a

> little buyers remorse cause my results or expectations of myself

are

> set soo high. But that's my personality, always has been. I put

more

> pressure on by then anyone else does.

>

> If anyone has any advise, or self helps tapes or meditation.. I'm

> open to anything that will help me get my spark back.

>

> LISA :-)

>

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Hey , sounds like Hibernation Syndrome to me,

even though not all surgeons believe in it. Go to

the files section of this group

(http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patients/fil\

es/),

download and READ the file called " Hibernation

Syndrome.txt " . Lots of good info there.

Hang in there. It's a bearcat, and can be

devastating, but it DOES end! I PROMISE!

Eleanor Oster

eleanor@... (personal address)

www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

San , CA

Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

~5'9 " tall

05/09/2003 319 Orientation

07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

Current 157±2 Goal until plastics?

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I saw it and read it. I just have to focus, because the main reason

why I did it, and probably why any of us did was to be healthier. And

I am already. So I've achieved that, and should be happy where I'm

at. Just hard at times, cause no one in my " outside " life understands

what I'm going through. And more often then not, I rather not share

what's on my mind. I hate group settings now, because I don't want

people watching what little I'm eating. And being back at work is a

whole new ball of wax. So I just gotta take it one day at a time, and

not let it overwhelm me. I've gotta do things for myself. To make me

happy and relaxed. I'm going to get a massage I think, and my feet

and names done. I've gotta get back to taking care of me, more now

then ever. But sometimes I get tired of being soo strong, and I want

to be taken care of. And in this battle, it's not going to happen. No

one can exercise for me, or not eat for me. I gotta get my butt in

gear... and really feel like I'm doing everything humanly possibly.

:-)LISA

> >

> > I've read everyone's posts lately about not loosing weight the

way

> > they feel it should be happening and then having feelings of

regret

> > creep in the back of their mind - I to am no different.

> >

> > Last night I broke down and ust cried and cried, and saying to

> > myself " did i do this all for nothing " . It's hard in this

situation

> > for me not to compare myself to others. And I feel like I'm not

> doing

> > enough. I'm working out 5-7 days a week, and I'm only eating 2 oz

> > meals 3 times a day and drinking as much water as I can humanly

> > drink. But I still feel like it's not enough. I'm 4 weeks out,

and

> > I've lost roughly 20lbs. I feel like my weightloss should be

higher.

> >

> > I know my body is resting and probably holding on to itself

becuase

> > it's going through so much. But that doesn't comfort me. I'm not

> > tempted to overeat, I'm just depressed and sad inside. I don't

want

> > to get this attitude of " I'm done " . I don't want to give up this

> > battle, and think that I dont' have to try anymore. I know I have

> to

> > try just as hard as before surgery.

> >

> > I was so motivated and positive before, but now I'm in a " FUNK " !

> I'm

> > tired all of a sudden lately. I wasn't right after surgery, but

> some

> > said it will hit you, and I think it has. I just am soooo so

> > emotional inside, I'm on the verge of tears just writing this

post.

> >

> > I do to support and I talk on here, but something inside just

> doesn't

> > feel right. I'm my only motivator, and I've got to do this for

> > myself. I've got to get back that spark I had beore surgery.

> >

> > My financee say's I'm doing fine, and he know's this is hard for

> me.

> > He is supportive no matter what, and sometimes I just need to be

> > held. To be assured I did the right thing for me, I guess it's a

> > little buyers remorse cause my results or expectations of myself

> are

> > set soo high. But that's my personality, always has been. I put

> more

> > pressure on by then anyone else does.

> >

> > If anyone has any advise, or self helps tapes or meditation.. I'm

> > open to anything that will help me get my spark back.

> >

> > LISA :-)

> >

>

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From what I am gathering we are doing fine. Last night, someone

reminded me of something.... " it's better to lose the weight slowly

then fast " It's healthier and it creates a lot less problems with

skin. So, advice given to me, I will pass on.... take it easy, be

kind to yourself and trust the process!!! We have come to far kiddo!!

While I'm not happy that we share the same fears, concerns and

emotions, at least it normalizes things for me!

Patti

>

> I've read everyone's posts lately about not loosing weight the way

> they feel it should be happening and then having feelings of

regret

> creep in the back of their mind - I to am no different.

>

> Last night I broke down and ust cried and cried, and saying to

> myself " did i do this all for nothing " . It's hard in this

situation

> for me not to compare myself to others. And I feel like I'm not

doing

> enough. I'm working out 5-7 days a week, and I'm only eating 2 oz

> meals 3 times a day and drinking as much water as I can humanly

> drink. But I still feel like it's not enough. I'm 4 weeks out, and

> I've lost roughly 20lbs. I feel like my weightloss should be

higher.

>

> I know my body is resting and probably holding on to itself

becuase

> it's going through so much. But that doesn't comfort me. I'm not

> tempted to overeat, I'm just depressed and sad inside. I don't

want

> to get this attitude of " I'm done " . I don't want to give up this

> battle, and think that I dont' have to try anymore. I know I have

to

> try just as hard as before surgery.

>

> I was so motivated and positive before, but now I'm in a " FUNK " !

I'm

> tired all of a sudden lately. I wasn't right after surgery, but

some

> said it will hit you, and I think it has. I just am soooo so

> emotional inside, I'm on the verge of tears just writing this post.

>

> I do to support and I talk on here, but something inside just

doesn't

> feel right. I'm my only motivator, and I've got to do this for

> myself. I've got to get back that spark I had beore surgery.

>

> My financee say's I'm doing fine, and he know's this is hard for

me.

> He is supportive no matter what, and sometimes I just need to be

> held. To be assured I did the right thing for me, I guess it's a

> little buyers remorse cause my results or expectations of myself

are

> set soo high. But that's my personality, always has been. I put

more

> pressure on by then anyone else does.

>

> If anyone has any advise, or self helps tapes or meditation.. I'm

> open to anything that will help me get my spark back.

>

> LISA :-)

>

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I have used it in the past. but right now I eat cause I'm full. I'm

not over eating, and I'm not eating anything but proteins. My surgeon

said I shouldn't focus on calories or protein intake right now until

I do my first labs. then they can see where I am and how much I need.

I have no and have seen none and have been told by no surgeon I ask

what calories or protein amt to aim for right now..because your still

healing and you are just getting use to the new foods again. I've

only been on stage 3 for a 12days.

LISA

>

> Hi ,

> Are you using _www.fitday.com_ (http://www.fitday.com) to make

sure you are

> getting enough calories in everyday? I know you say you are eating

2 oz of

> food but you really need to beware of how many grams of protein

are in those 2

> oz and what your calorie intake is. We have found that it is the

best free

> tool on the Internet to use. If you are not eating enough because

you think

> that it will help you lose faster it will actually slow you down

because your

> body will go into starvation mode. Also like everyone else has said

don't

> worry it will happen and the weight lose will start up again

> Ramona

>

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