Re: Now I really feel like a failure

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, there is no question that your height is problematic. On the other hand, my sister, who is 5'10" barely eats a thing, and has to do that to keep her weight down. She has a sluggish thyroid. I agree with Dr. Fisher. I think he is telling you to REALLY go back to basics. If you eat two ounces of chicken for breakfast, eat it slowly slowly, chewing everything....and get back on schedule drinking your water an hour later, drinking only water....and do some dense protein for lunch and dinner...you will feel: 1. more satisfied, because alot of the foods you are eating are "soft" and aren't hard to digest, and they don't leave you satisfied for very long. 2. less interested in food, because you aren't tantalizing your palette with any sweet thing (whether it be fake sugar or real). 3. more appropriately focused on the tools that worked for you the

first go around when you actually lost your weight. Protein shakes and protein bars and stuff like that aren't real food. They can certainly act as a tool for some people. For some people they work like a charm. But, not you. Your body is different. Your triggers are different. It could be that you have some insulin issues. Eating tuna and chicken and other fish things is not going to trigger any insulin reactions that might cause you to gain/retain weight. Having pre--measured 2 oz. portions of food that you grill or cook and eat from a miniscule dish will help you, just as it did when you started. Remember how you would marvel at how LITTLE you could eat? It was kind of a cool feeling. You can get back there. Read the Rules of the Pouch thing again. Read about the water consumption and how you want to power down water, and when and how. And

then eat the dense proteins. You'll be bored, sure. You'll have to get your body recalibrated to accept that food is not going to be any form of comfort or entertainment. But, don't be depressed about it. Just do it. Try it. Try the REAL basics, not the modified-but-I-want-the-taste-of-something-sweet basics. If you need it, use sugar free popsicles (the 15 calorie kind) to supplement your liquid intake...but don't do too much of that. Keep it simple. Just try it. See what happens. You've tried everything else. You've been miserable. You've been working hard. Try the formula that works, and see how it goes. POwer through it for a couple of days, and see what happens. It may be that you are stuck not eating much for the rest of your life, given your petite stature and your age. On the other hand, you may need

to just get this weight off...and then you will be able to find some kind of middle ground that works (before your weight gets away from you). I know you are scared and you feel desperate and terrified. Honestly, I hope to God I never go through that...I am blessed with some height and quite a lot of muscle...so maybe I'll be lucky. On the other hand, maybe it's just too early for me to be dealing with this stuff yet. I may very well be where you are at some point. But let me tell you, if I start getting to that place, I will want you to say, "Do what works. What worked. What works in light of this surgery. Do what the doctor tells you to do, and don't ask any questions. Just try it without modification. Just do it, and see if it works again." You are putting the energy into this problem, . But put it in to the problem intelligently. YOu have a

medical condition. Follow the doctor's orders (to a T) and see what happens, ok? Do not feel ashamed. This could be any of us. Shame is useless. It adds no value to our lives. Own up. Do what is being asked of you...and see what happens. Robynn Diane Duenas wrote: Ok, I havent posted this to the group for a while because I feel like Im whining.But for two weeks I did basically a protein fast. I only drank protein shakes during the day and a very lite dinner. I gave up Starbucks(havent had one since Feb 28). Ive been working out on the treadmill. Ive been doing everything I feel like Im supposed to. But Im not losing. In fact Im up to 166 which is a 16 pound regain. I began trying to

eat regular food this week as people were telling me I was starving myself and thats why I couldnt lose. My diet consisted of: a protein bar for breakfast(130 cal), coffee with splenda and half & half, lunch was a cup of spinach with a hard boiled egg,carrot slices and snap peas with a nonfat 15 cal viniagrette dressing, dinner 2-3 oz protein and veggies. Mixed in with that was my water, vits and 2-3 protein shakes. For a total of 1000-1200 cals a day.So I emailed what Ive been doing to Dr Fisher, as I felt like I was working so hard and nothing was happening.He basically said everything I was doing is wrong. No cheese, No dairy not even yogurt or half & half, no splenda, no coffee. He also said not to count calories,that at my height I might not be able to eat even 800 cals and lose. He said at even 3 yrs out only 2 oz meals three times a day period. I don't know what to think. I mean I am barely eating

anything!!!!I feel like such a total failure. Im so depressed. I feel like not eating at all.