To Lilka

[Guest guest]

Have you ever thought that maybe the " black hole " as you call it - is

actually something deeper then food/hunger related. This is all a

huge new experience for all of us, and everyone handles changes

differently. If you've spent your entire life a certain way, and now

that you are 8weeks out you are seeing all of these physical changes,

there are bound to be emotional and other changes we experience too.

Maybe were not about to put our finger on those as easily, because

they require more research and insight and soul serching with

ourselves. It's natural for you to miss the old you, and feel empty

inside. You were that old person for as long as you can remember. And

it was easy being that person. It's alot harder being someone new,

and getting to know and love and appreciate that new person.

I'm trying to stay grounded in whom I am. Not letting anything go to

my head - let's face it we've all heard praise and compliments now

that we've started loosing weight. But I'm still , I'm just the

new and improved model of the same old . I have to love me no

matter what happens physically. I am scared that I'll have to to look

at emotional issues that come up with each pound lost. But I'm not

getting ahead of myself. I'm taking it one day at a time. I'll deal

with them as they come, and I'll be sure not to let them overwhelm me

or stuck up so many of those issues, I can't climb out.

The new Lilka might wanna try new things, things never done before.

This is your time for you. Your husband is away, and do something for

you. Something you'll be proud to share with him when he returns

home. This is your time to shine, remeber you did this for you. You

did this so you would have a better life. Try not to focus on the

negative aspects that can come with any major changes in your life.

Don't let them consume you.

Your eating great, and your looking wonderful. And I know you feel

better then ever. Don't stop there - continue with the self-loving,

self-appreciation. Remeber just cause you want more food - it doesn't

love you back. Food is a means to an end. Food just fuels us, it's

doesn't fill that empty hole that's in your stomach. That empty hole

sounds like it's in your mind and heart and spirit. Don't let these

changes which are hard to handle break that spirit.. thats your life

force.

I hope that made you feel better or at least start to think a little

more about that " black hole " .

:-) LISA

> > >

> > > I don't think anyone answered 's questions and I would

like

> to

> > > know the answers too. (former Page). I also am bored with the

> food

> > and

> > > fearful when I feel hunger. I seem to want to eat a little more

> than

> > 2

> > > oz of protein. I long for crunch. I don't seem to have a

problem

> with

> > > fibers like cucumbers marinated but i am guilty that I am

> breaking

> > > rules. How does this transition go up to stage IV? Can anyone

> give

> > > suggestions to and me? I wish there were more info under

> stage

> > > III. ( For SSF stage IV is III part 2. ) Lilka

> > >

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