WARNING - FRANK DISCUSSION! Re: Another Dilemna

January 18, 2006

I've seen it go both ways. Part of the problem is that as we lose

weight, the estrogen and other hormones which were stored in all that

fat are released, and they can totally mess with EVERYTHING, including

libido. In my case, there are times when I want to jump anyone with the

right plumbing, and there are times when I couldn't care less! Of

course, in my case it doesn't help that I'm probably perimenopausal!

I have found that it can help if I prepare ahead of time to, er, heat up

my frisky. I'll take a bath and read some erotica while doing so. If I

don't feel like getting all wet (that way), I do also have some gel

that, when applied to the genitals, increases the blood flow, causing a

warming sensation. Hubby does seem to appreciate when I take the time to

warm up, since (being a man) he's generally ready to go at the drop of a

nighty, or even the wink of an eye, or just breathing!

Tina wrote:

> Okay, so I've heard about how your sex drive INCREASES after you

> start losing weight but I haven't heard anyone say that there sex

> drive has gone to non-existent. That's my problem. I have absolutely

> no interest in sex anymore. I'd just rather not (much to my husbands

> displeasure). It's not that I'm too tired (I have tons of energy).

>

> Thoughts?

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Eleanor Oster

eleanor@... (personal address)

San , CA

Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

~5'9 " tall

05/09/2003 319 Orientation

07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

Current 157±2 Goal until plastics?

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