Re: Other Parents!! and a different perspective

[Guest guest]

Pat,

I think you did a wonderful job of handling and the other

woman. I just hate it when strangers, or even friends, think they

have the right to butt in and interfere. It makes me so mad and as

I get older, I get less tolerant of it. But what I do, which is not

so good for me, is then become self-conscious and wonder if I

handled things properly. I get a bit depressed about it instead of

letting it go, as my husband always tells me to do. I'm learning,

though.

Now, from a different side, I have an almost opposite problem with

people who tell me that I don't let Max do enough for himself. They

look at him as a young teen (not many believe he is almost 16) and

that we " baby " him. Oh, if only they knew how far he has come and

how much we have let go. If only they knew that he gives himself a

shot every night, counts out his meds several times a day and

administers them to himself, bandages his own g-j button, manages

his own feeding pump when needed, and makes his own phonecalls to

the psychologist when he wants to talk to her. If only they knew

that if he wants to see a movie and does not have a friend to go

with him, he will go by himself without a care in the world. If

only they knew how a negative comment can send him into an anxiety

attack which can cause a week of vomiting, so we carefully step in

when we know he needs the support. And if my son wants to hold my

hand in a crowd or for a quick reassurance, then so be it. It's not

hurting anyone. Who cares?

Why can't people just mind their own business???!!!! We'd all be

better off.

Jodi Z.