Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 I was going to email some of you privately to tell you what's been going on, but this is hard for me to even talk about so I figured I'd just get it done at all at once.. (p.s. jennifer salem, I apologize to you and my sponsor, I have just gotten back online to check emails and truthfully, the convention was so far from my mind. I didn't even think about it) I think you all know that my brother Joey was killed in a car accident in November. It's been very difficult on my family, as he was my parents " favorite " (I know how this sounds, but it's very very true, my parents and I don't really get along, and he still lived with them and everything, had a great relationship) my mother and father had both been talking about killing themselves to go and be with my brother. In fact, it got so bad that we picked up and moved back to Arizona. If you remember, my husband was looking for an airline job in AZ so that we could move back. But, when my mom started writing me suicide letters, my husband took a job as a flight mechanic so that I could move back here right away, even though it meant that we would only see eachother for 10 days a month. However, this was all for nothing, as my mother took her own life soon after we came back. I have been very busy trying to deal with the emotional ramifications of what she has done to myself, and my family, my children especially. I am now left with my father, who has been mentally ill for as long as I can remember, and I have been trying to put things back together as much as I can. On top of trying to take care of Xavier. It's not easy to pick up and move with a child with so many medical problems. My insurance has been less than helpful, refusing now to pay for his pump and G-tube supplies since we have reached the $5000.00 max. Social Security, while approving him for the presumptive disability, (which is supposed to start immediate benefits while you wait the six months for final approval) has taken six months in itself, and we are still waiting. In AZ, as soon as you are approved for SSI, you automatically have Medicaid. So we are waiting on that. He qualified for Long Term Care, which covers long term medical expenses, and is a wonderful program...but as with SSI, even though he is approved, it's taken them more than a month to get the paperwork through, and we are still waiting on that. So we have huge expenses on top of the funeral et. My father has just given up...I can't see how this has happened. I'm sure that I sound cold and clinical about all this, but there is just no other way for me to deal with anything right now, I feel like if one more thing is added to me I am just going to break. Anyway, I just wanted to let you all know that I have not disappeared, and that someday soon I will come back into the mix and hopefully get back to some normalcy. I'm so very sorry about not getting that information to you , as I said, it just completely slipped my mind. Thank you for listening, Hess Mom to Xavier Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 Hi , My prayers are with you and your family in this trying time. Leah, mom to and Olivia > I was going to email some of you privately to tell you what's been going on, > but this is hard for me to even talk about so I figured I'd just get it done > at all at once.. > (p.s. jennifer salem, I apologize to you and my sponsor, I have just gotten > back online to check emails and truthfully, the convention was so far from my > mind. I didn't even think about it) > I think you all know that my brother Joey was killed in a car accident in > November. It's been very difficult on my family, as he was my parents " favorite " > (I know how this sounds, but it's very very true, my parents and I don't > really get along, and he still lived with them and everything, had a great > relationship) my mother and father had both been talking about killing themselves to > go and be with my brother. In fact, it got so bad that we picked up and moved > back to Arizona. If you remember, my husband was looking for an airline job > in AZ so that we could move back. But, when my mom started writing me suicide > letters, my husband took a job as a flight mechanic so that I could move back > here right away, even though it meant that we would only see eachother for 10 > days a month. However, this was all for nothing, as my mother took her own > life soon after we came back. > I have been very busy trying to deal with the emotional ramifications of > what she has done to myself, and my family, my children especially. I am > now left with my father, who has been mentally ill for as long as I can > remember, and I have been trying to put things back together as much as I can. On top > of trying to take care of Xavier. It's not easy to pick up and move with a > child with so many medical problems. My insurance has been less than helpful, > refusing now to pay for his pump and G-tube supplies since we have reached the > $5000.00 max. Social Security, while approving him for the presumptive > disability, (which is supposed to start immediate benefits while you wait the six > months for final approval) has taken six months in itself, and we are still > waiting. In AZ, as soon as you are approved for SSI, you automatically have > Medicaid. So we are waiting on that. He qualified for Long Term Care, which > covers long term medical expenses, and is a wonderful program...but as with SSI, > even though he is approved, it's taken them more than a month to get the > paperwork through, and we are still waiting on that. So we have huge expenses on > top of the funeral et. My father has just given up...I can't see how this has > happened. I'm sure that I sound cold and clinical about all this, but there is > just no other way for me to deal with anything right now, I feel like if one > more thing is added to me I am just going to break. > Anyway, I just wanted to let you all know that I have not disappeared, and > that someday soon I will come back into the mix and hopefully get back to some > normalcy. I'm so very sorry about not getting that information to you > , as I said, it just completely slipped my mind. > Thank you for listening, > Hess > Mom to Xavier > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 , I can't believe all you have had to deal with! Hang in there, we are always here and we care! Beth > I was going to email some of you privately to tell you what's been going on, > but this is hard for me to even talk about so I figured I'd just get it done > at all at once.. > (p.s. jennifer salem, I apologize to you and my sponsor, I have just gotten > back online to check emails and truthfully, the convention was so far from my > mind. I didn't even think about it) > I think you all know that my brother Joey was killed in a car accident in > November. It's been very difficult on my family, as he was my parents " favorite " > (I know how this sounds, but it's very very true, my parents and I don't > really get along, and he still lived with them and everything, had a great > relationship) my mother and father had both been talking about killing themselves to > go and be with my brother. In fact, it got so bad that we picked up and moved > back to Arizona. If you remember, my husband was looking for an airline job > in AZ so that we could move back. But, when my mom started writing me suicide > letters, my husband took a job as a flight mechanic so that I could move back > here right away, even though it meant that we would only see eachother for 10 > days a month. However, this was all for nothing, as my mother took her own > life soon after we came back. > I have been very busy trying to deal with the emotional ramifications of > what she has done to myself, and my family, my children especially. I am > now left with my father, who has been mentally ill for as long as I can > remember, and I have been trying to put things back together as much as I can. On top > of trying to take care of Xavier. It's not easy to pick up and move with a > child with so many medical problems. My insurance has been less than helpful, > refusing now to pay for his pump and G-tube supplies since we have reached the > $5000.00 max. Social Security, while approving him for the presumptive > disability, (which is supposed to start immediate benefits while you wait the six > months for final approval) has taken six months in itself, and we are still > waiting. In AZ, as soon as you are approved for SSI, you automatically have > Medicaid. So we are waiting on that. He qualified for Long Term Care, which > covers long term medical expenses, and is a wonderful program...but as with SSI, > even though he is approved, it's taken them more than a month to get the > paperwork through, and we are still waiting on that. So we have huge expenses on > top of the funeral et. My father has just given up...I can't see how this has > happened. I'm sure that I sound cold and clinical about all this, but there is > just no other way for me to deal with anything right now, I feel like if one > more thing is added to me I am just going to break. > Anyway, I just wanted to let you all know that I have not disappeared, and > that someday soon I will come back into the mix and hopefully get back to some > normalcy. I'm so very sorry about not getting that information to you > , as I said, it just completely slipped my mind. > Thank you for listening, > Hess > Mom to Xavier > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 , I hope that you will continue to check in with us and keep us posted on what is going on with you. I know these are very trying times. Just know that we all care and you are in our prayers. Words just don't seem like enough right now. Jodi Z. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 , My heart is just breaking for you! I am so sorry about your losses! I know it may sound trite, but I will pray for you and your family! Try and take some time out for yourself! You need it! I hope you will find some comfort and peace! I wish I could just give you great big hugs right now and make it all better, but I know that is not possible! Take some breaks, find some joy! That is the only way we can make it in this difficult world! Blessing to you and your family, Carmen, Mom to Storm, RSS, 8y 10m, 51 pounds, 48 inches Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 Jen- my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time!! feel free to email me privatly or even call me any time (i am a great listener). ((hugs)) to you!! jodie > I was going to email some of you privately to tell you what's been going on, > but this is hard for me to even talk about so I figured I'd just get it done > at all at once.. > (p.s. jennifer salem, I apologize to you and my sponsor, I have just gotten > back online to check emails and truthfully, the convention was so far from my > mind. I didn't even think about it) > I think you all know that my brother Joey was killed in a car accident in > November. It's been very difficult on my family, as he was my parents " favorite " > (I know how this sounds, but it's very very true, my parents and I don't > really get along, and he still lived with them and everything, had a great > relationship) my mother and father had both been talking about killing themselves to > go and be with my brother. In fact, it got so bad that we picked up and moved > back to Arizona. If you remember, my husband was looking for an airline job > in AZ so that we could move back. But, when my mom started writing me suicide > letters, my husband took a job as a flight mechanic so that I could move back > here right away, even though it meant that we would only see eachother for 10 > days a month. However, this was all for nothing, as my mother took her own > life soon after we came back. > I have been very busy trying to deal with the emotional ramifications of > what she has done to myself, and my family, my children especially. I am > now left with my father, who has been mentally ill for as long as I can > remember, and I have been trying to put things back together as much as I can. On top > of trying to take care of Xavier. It's not easy to pick up and move with a > child with so many medical problems. My insurance has been less than helpful, > refusing now to pay for his pump and G-tube supplies since we have reached the > $5000.00 max. Social Security, while approving him for the presumptive > disability, (which is supposed to start immediate benefits while you wait the six > months for final approval) has taken six months in itself, and we are still > waiting. In AZ, as soon as you are approved for SSI, you automatically have > Medicaid. So we are waiting on that. He qualified for Long Term Care, which > covers long term medical expenses, and is a wonderful program...but as with SSI, > even though he is approved, it's taken them more than a month to get the > paperwork through, and we are still waiting on that. So we have huge expenses on > top of the funeral et. My father has just given up...I can't see how this has > happened. I'm sure that I sound cold and clinical about all this, but there is > just no other way for me to deal with anything right now, I feel like if one > more thing is added to me I am just going to break. > Anyway, I just wanted to let you all know that I have not disappeared, and > that someday soon I will come back into the mix and hopefully get back to some > normalcy. I'm so very sorry about not getting that information to you > , as I said, it just completely slipped my mind. > Thank you for listening, > Hess > Mom to Xavier > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 Dear , I am sorry, so very sorry for your losses. Conny > I was going to email some of you privately to tell you what's been going on, > but this is hard for me to even talk about so I figured I'd just get it done > at all at once.. > (p.s. jennifer salem, I apologize to you and my sponsor, I have just gotten > back online to check emails and truthfully, the convention was so far from my > mind. I didn't even think about it) > I think you all know that my brother Joey was killed in a car accident in > November. It's been very difficult on my family, as he was my parents " favorite " > (I know how this sounds, but it's very very true, my parents and I don't > really get along, and he still lived with them and everything, had a great > relationship) my mother and father had both been talking about killing themselves to > go and be with my brother. In fact, it got so bad that we picked up and moved > back to Arizona. If you remember, my husband was looking for an airline job > in AZ so that we could move back. But, when my mom started writing me suicide > letters, my husband took a job as a flight mechanic so that I could move back > here right away, even though it meant that we would only see eachother for 10 > days a month. However, this was all for nothing, as my mother took her own > life soon after we came back. > I have been very busy trying to deal with the emotional ramifications of > what she has done to myself, and my family, my children especially. I am > now left with my father, who has been mentally ill for as long as I can > remember, and I have been trying to put things back together as much as I can. On top > of trying to take care of Xavier. It's not easy to pick up and move with a > child with so many medical problems. My insurance has been less than helpful, > refusing now to pay for his pump and G-tube supplies since we have reached the > $5000.00 max. Social Security, while approving him for the presumptive > disability, (which is supposed to start immediate benefits while you wait the six > months for final approval) has taken six months in itself, and we are still > waiting. In AZ, as soon as you are approved for SSI, you automatically have > Medicaid. So we are waiting on that. He qualified for Long Term Care, which > covers long term medical expenses, and is a wonderful program...but as with SSI, > even though he is approved, it's taken them more than a month to get the > paperwork through, and we are still waiting on that. So we have huge expenses on > top of the funeral et. My father has just given up...I can't see how this has > happened. I'm sure that I sound cold and clinical about all this, but there is > just no other way for me to deal with anything right now, I feel like if one > more thing is added to me I am just going to break. > Anyway, I just wanted to let you all know that I have not disappeared, and > that someday soon I will come back into the mix and hopefully get back to some > normalcy. I'm so very sorry about not getting that information to you > , as I said, it just completely slipped my mind. > Thank you for listening, > Hess > Mom to Xavier > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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