Re: O.T.~ pregnant and just diagnosed..

[Guest guest]

Hi Tori-

All of my children would have died if I wouldn't have had them at a

hospital. I agree with you though that how they come into the world does

make a difference.

When my eldest son was born, I had him with no pain meds and his dad was

very involved in the birth. Although there were problems, we had a birthing

room and it was a very positive experience for my husband and I although we

worried about our son until he was safely delivered and breathing on his

own.

With the twins, my husband was in S.F. and didn't make it in time for the

C-section. He got there right after the 2nd baby was pulled out. It took

dad almost 3 months to bond with these babies. I don't know how it would

have been if he would have been there at the outset.

I have to agree with Fay. " Once they're here, it doesn't matter how they've

arrived " . As a mother, you'll love the baby just as fiercely. But, you're

right too. The closeness that my husband and I shared for the 1st birth was

missing this time.

Take care,

dx & RAI 1987 (at age 24)

> In a message dated 5/16/2003 10:36:12 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

> cfyoung2@... writes:

>

> > Me too, though I've never done it. I did have some positive moments with

> > standard hospital births. Of course the main thing is (cliche alert,

> > though like most cliche true) it doesn't matter how they get into our

> > lives, but that they're there.

> >

> > take care, Fay

>

> The doctor hasn't gotten back to the midwives yet and the waiting is

killing

> me! I'm hoping to get an answer tomorrow. Otherwise, the anticipation

could

> make my blood pressure go up and I won't be able to birth out of hospital!

>

> While I agree with you that the main thing is having a safe, healthy baby,

I

> really do think that it matters how they get into our lives. I think

birth

> can be a profoundly empowering experience that brings couples closer and

> strengthens their confidence in their inherent ability to parent their

child.

> An unfullfilling birth experience can undermine that confidence. I

think

> women should be in control of the birth and not made to feel like helpless

> bystanders, whether they choose to birth in a hospital, birth center, or

at

> home.

>

> Peace,

> Tori