Re: other people's suggestions and attitudes

[Guest guest]

My sister in law told me to give my non-speaking three year old to her for

a couple of weeks. She said she would have him talking. In her home he

would get nothing unless he asked for it with words! This has been several

years ago and I still can't get over that attitude.

Lolita

>I just have to jump in here and tell you my experience. I have

>several friends with children around the same age as my son with

>speech delays. My friends are constantly talking about how chatty

>their children are and wishing they would stop talking so much. One

>day I went to lunch with two of these friends and the conversation

>came up again. I have not revealed to anyone about the testing and

>dx because I did not want people to prejudge my child but I finally

>decided to tell them about the problems I was having and encouraged

>them to delight in their childrens excitment and their talking. One

>friend proceeded to tell me I was worrying too much and that my son

>will be ok and the other friend started offering suggestions like you

>need to 'read more' - I know they were trying to be helpful but I just

>wanted to scream. I'm so glad I found this group!!!

[Guest guest]

Evan's paternal grandfather made the same statement about Evan when he was

first dx'd. Needless to say, his offer was not accepted by my daughter.

The man has only seen Evan once since then. Since my ex-sil's new wife gave

them the granddaughter they wanted so badly they have not even acknowledge

his sons by his first wife. Apparently they need grandchildren who are

'perfect'.

Betty

Re: other people's suggestions and attitudes

> My sister in law told me to give my non-speaking three year old to her for

> a couple of weeks. She said she would have him talking. In her home he

> would get nothing unless he asked for it with words! This has been several

> years ago and I still can't get over that attitude.

>

> Lolita

[Guest guest]

>Apparently they need grandchildren who are

> 'perfect'.

>

> Betty

>

> > My sister in law told me to give my non-speaking three year old to her

for

> > a couple of weeks. She said she would have him talking. In her home he

> > would get nothing unless he asked for it with words!

I think that would have broken my heart. Can you imagine our sweet babies

who just don't understand trying to make their needs known in that

environment? Makes you grateful that God trusted our kids to us and not to

these people! Makes me want to go hold her tightly in my arms! I wish I

could always protect her from such unfeeling people!

Hugs, H, mommy to 3.5 ylrs, PDD; and 2 yrs, NT