Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 > I have been mullling around the idea of another child- I ask an OB > doc what my odds were of having another child with a disabilitey were- > he gave me arather odd answer-he said abu0t50/50-he said I needed to > have a girl because they just were not affected by these disorders- > this is a gross misconception right? F If I don't remember wrong, Autism affects 4 times more boys than girls; but, it STILL DOES affects the girls as well! If Autism for you is not quite inherited-it is not " maybe " for us: I am not sure if a far member of my dh family has it-then chances are like trowing a piece of paper in a hat, and then pick up one, to see if you win a prize: I guess 50/50....??? I had the twins after I had -I didn't know that I was in for twins either )-and they are perfectly " normal " children, very bright and very funny; but so is my ASD son. To tell you the whole truth, if I had stopped to think when I got pregnant again, maybe I wouldn't have had these two wonderful now 22 month old rats, that remind me everyday, why I am figthing for and with , every minute of our lives...or maybe I would have? I'll never know. But I can't tell you what to do, because chances are that you could have another one, just like I could...I also, would like more children, but now I do stop and think; and anyway, my house is pretty full as is! LOL ) Take it easy! Hugs, Cristina-WA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 > I have been mullling around the idea of another child- I ask an OB > doc what my odds were of having another child with a disabilitey were- > he gave me arather odd answer-he said abu0t50/50-he said I needed to > have a girl because they just were not affected by these disorders- > this is a gross misconception right? F If I don't remember wrong, Autism affects 4 times more boys than girls; but, it STILL DOES affects the girls as well! If Autism for you is not quite inherited-it is not " maybe " for us: I am not sure if a far member of my dh family has it-then chances are like trowing a piece of paper in a hat, and then pick up one, to see if you win a prize: I guess 50/50....??? I had the twins after I had -I didn't know that I was in for twins either )-and they are perfectly " normal " children, very bright and very funny; but so is my ASD son. To tell you the whole truth, if I had stopped to think when I got pregnant again, maybe I wouldn't have had these two wonderful now 22 month old rats, that remind me everyday, why I am figthing for and with , every minute of our lives...or maybe I would have? I'll never know. But I can't tell you what to do, because chances are that you could have another one, just like I could...I also, would like more children, but now I do stop and think; and anyway, my house is pretty full as is! LOL ) Take it easy! Hugs, Cristina-WA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 Hi Cristina, It turns out we have something inherited that contributes to the condition if not outright causes it. I have it, my oldest son severly has it, and my younger son mildly has it. Many families KNOW that their child was injured from a vaccine. However, others have a run in the family that can't be overlooked either. Maybe you need to evaluate the possibilities. That said, now it is a family-bonding thing. We all like and react to the same things. I wouldn't NOT have another child if you want one. And knowing what you do, you can take measures to ensure a higher quality of health for a new child, however he/she is. Mine are close together so we had them before we knew the first one had such problems. They are each others best friend. But we are all recovered now, so with proper lifestyle management, it is fine. A girl can be just as afflicted or not as a boy. But they will always be your unique and loved child - not a statistic with a problem. I feel desparatly blessed to have my two unique PDD/SID boys and wouldn't trade them for anything. There are so many grand qualities that these kids bring. . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 > I have been mullling around the idea of another child- I ask an OB > doc what my odds were of having another child with a disabilitey were- > he gave me arather odd answer-he said abu0t50/50-he said I needed to > have a girl because they just were not affected by these disorders- > this is a gross misconception right? F Well certainly when it comes to autistic spectrum disorders, this is true. Boys are 4 times more likely to be affected than girls. I don't know about other disorders, but it does seem as though more boys are delayed than girls. a Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 On Fri, 29 Jun 2001 13:33:59 -0000 lisacna@... writes: > I have been mullling around the idea of another child- I ask an OB > doc what my odds were of having another child with a disabilitey > were- > he gave me arather odd answer-he said abu0t50/50-he said I needed to > > have a girl because they just were not affected by these disorders- > this is a gross misconception right? F All I know about this matter is that it is a definite statistic that autism effects boys much more so then girls. As far as having another child with a disability, I know families that it went both ways for them - some families with just the one autistic child - no one having any other autistic children. I also know several families now having to raise more then 1 autistic child in the the family. It is so hard to say, and best of luck to you in your decision. in New York * ________________________________________________________________ GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 > I agree and do feel bleesed to have both my unique boys, but to be honest > dont know if I have it in me to rise up to the cahlleng of another child > with special needs- I just wanted to know if girls were effected-I did think > I remembered others who had girls on the spectrum and found his statment > confusing. thnks to all who answered -I may still decide to have another-but > the clock is ticking and I have so many questions that just may have to go > unanswered. f ** Speaking of " ticking clock " ! Did you hear about that couple where the husband had some kind of genetic inherited cancer, so they went ahead and tried to inseminate (I don't know how many) her eggs, and do testing on them to see which one would come up w/o the desease. Then they went ahead and had that specific baby. I do not remember the details but was recently on the news. I find it kinda extreme!- Maybe for some people it is very important to have a " perfect " baby- (got to have that kind of money too!!!) But I thought I'd bring it up anyway HA-HA :oD Cristina-WA ** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 Check out the group (Autism_in_Girls). We deal with those things that don't happen every day. Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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