Re: O.T.

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Hi

Sorry I didn't see this earlier. We have just moved house and I have

been some casual work also. So time on the computer is very limited.

You have had some excellent suggestions so far. I just wish I could pop

over for a visit and give you a hand.

I understand that your finances don't allow too much scope - I'm doing

some casual work because of that. But is it possible to get a relative

or a local teenager to come and do housework - general cleaning,

washing, ironing etc for a reasonable amount. A couple of years ago I

had a retired aunt who came and cleaned the house for me fortnightly for

$60. It was a great help while I worked (it was when I first sick) and

it helped her too. Unfortunately she can't do it now.

If you get help doing the mundane everyday things you may find it easier.

The twins must be starting to get interested in solids by now. Dylan

started at 4 months and went off the breast by 9 months himself -

probably because I was pregnant and this changes the taste apparently.

started at 5 months and is now having 3 feeds per day (she is 9

months) which gives me a bit more freedom. It won't be long for your two

to be eating and drinking 'other stuff' happily and giving you a break.

See if Tom can change his working hours for just a few weeks - to help

you get over this bump.

Do you have local church or support group for mums that you could be

involved with? Does do weekend sport or after school activities

that another parent can take him too. I know you'd prefer to take him

but you need a break and help right now. When I was a single parent with

my eldest son I had to organise other parents to take him to soccer

training and sometimes to the games on the weekend while I worked. He

didn't mind because I was there sometimes and he got to go all the time.

I'm sure people would rally to help out if you asked. Most would feel as

I do - that you are amazing and wonderful and looking after twins would

be such a tiring task.

Terry and Pam have suggested relaxation via several methods. I would add

my support for that. You could also make a habit of going for a walk or

doing something active with the kids after their afternoon sleep -

before tea. I have found this helps my two and me in shaking out the cob

webs and stopping the whingy that tends to happen in the late

afternoons. While I'm getting tea I put on a video for them and their

happily sit and watch - even (mostly).

Lastly - I'm sending lots of hugs and best wishes.

Love

Caroline